I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want to say for Intersex Awareness Week, and I want to challenge a few myths.
Myth 1: “Intersex people are super rare.”
They’re not. Even the often-cited 1.7% estimate is outdated, it came from limited data in the 90s. Historically, before intersex genital mutilation (IGM) became common, the number of intersex people was closer to 6%.
So why the drop? Because intersex people have been erased, literally and systemically.
• Many of us are sterilized as children without consent.
• Parents are pressured to agree to “normalizing” surgeries on infants, and can even face CPS reports if they don’t.
• Intersex fetuses are often aborted, and infanticide of intersex babies still happens.
That’s not nature making us rare, that’s eugenics.
Myth 2: “There are only a handful of people with each intersex variation.”
Take mine, for example: CAH due to 3β-HSD deficiency. Online sources say it’s so rare only ~60 people have it. That’s not true. I see people diagnosed with this every week in intersex and CAH support groups. The data just hasn’t been updated in decades.
Myth 3: “Everyone is biologically male or female.”
I don’t buy that. The idea of “biological sex” as two neat categories is a social construct, and honestly, it functions like an insurance scam.
My assigned sex at birth wasn’t male or female, it was indeterminate. But insurance and medicine demand boxes, so they make one up.
Doctors don’t even treat “sex” as meaningful when it matters, I’m constantly forced to take pregnancy tests even though it’s biologically impossible for me to get pregnant, all because my legal sex is female. Also, assigned sex at birth, legal sex, and gender identity are three separate things and not everyone has them line up.
What does “biological sex” even mean when:
• Some people have both XX and XY chromosomes,
• Some have ovotestes and produce both sperm and eggs,
• Some women with XY chromosomes can carry pregnancies,
• And some people are born with both a penis and vagina?
Nature is messy, and that’s normal. Being intersex isn’t tragic or broken. I’m proud to be intersex. I’m glad I’m intersex. I’m glad I’m alive.
I want a world where being intersex isn’t medicalized or erased: where sex diversity is celebrated as a natural part of being human.