What’s with the cane?
Hi! Yes I know I’m hot *and* a model and it weirds you out because I’m a cripple, so you’re hoping it’s a “statement piece” or something so you don’t have to reckon with being attracted to a cripple. I’ve had to deal with this question and it’s variants so many times lmfao
I’ve used a cane almost daily over the course of the past 7 years because of my several flavors of spinal damage, joint issues (not EDS), severe chronic pain, and an autonomic system disorder that makes me pass out/almost pass out basically whenever my body feels like it when I’m unmedicated (and sometimes when medicated too lmfao)
I’ve had a lot of other disabled folks, especially other disabled Black and disabled Trans folks, tell me how much it matters to them to see someone like me, like them, being openly disabled and not being ashamed of it. How it made them less scared to be *themselves* to see me existing and doing my thing, even/especially in terms of interacting with their sexuality while disabled thanks to me being visibly disabled and having done SW/lingerie modeling.
So that’s whats with the cane. Being visibly disabled doesn’t make us less attractive and doesn’t make us lesser, and you shouldn’t feel comfortable questioning why someone is using a mobility aid.
