#extraverts

[infj-hearts-entp]

The absolute unhinged chaos of going grocery shopping with my mom and aunt the day before Thanksgiving

To be clear, the chaos was not that the stores were crowded. No. The chaos was entirely unleashed by two extremely extraverted women in their mid-seventies who have not seen each other in 10 months being the most intense dump truck of chaotic opinions/demands/instructions/random question-and-answer conversation I have ever experienced in my entire life.

In Whole Foods alone they covered:

-How to find the best Costco in the area (An "I shop based on parking lots" comment from my mom got an emphatic "Amen! I know that's right!" from my aunt)

-The benefit of wearing compression socks during long car trips

-Which mirrors in their respective houses are the best for plucking chin hairs

-What type of green beans to buy, fresh or canned

-How three years ago my aunt tripped on a sidewalk and chipped a tooth (I've heard this story at least 5 times, yet my mother insists on telling my aunt to tell me "about that time when..." whenever there is half a second of silence)

-Decided on canned green beans--debated how much to buy and decided to go with two cans

-That time eight years ago when some lady clipped the side mirror on my mom's car in a Target parking lot

-How my cousin does NOT like Hawaiian rolls but he DOES like pepper jack cheese

-How we definitely need three cans of green beans and not two

-Whose names they think are in the Epstein files

-Revisiting the fresh versus canned green beans debate again

-How to make overnight oats

-"What on earth is 'catfishing'??"

-At the cash register I am instructed to put BACK the third can of green beans, because two should be plenty, but oh wait they have really fresh collard greens here so maybe we should...

At this point I nearly blacked out.

Don't get me wrong. They are sweet. And they are having the time of their lives.

I am just so. flipping. TIRED.

[mr-entj]

The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply. So stay true to your own nature. If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don't let others make you feel as if you have to race. If you enjoy depth, don't force yourself to seek breadth. If you prefer single-tasking to multi-tasking, stick to your guns. Being relatively unmoved by rewards gives you the incalculable power to go your own way.

Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

[neurosciencenews]

Link Between Word Choices and Extraverts

Extraverts tend to use more "positive emotional" and "social process" words when communicating, researchers report.

[joannastawowy]

MBTI Petri dishes c.d., 10.2020

[atomicfilm]

What I love about ENTPs:

- They have so much energy once you get them going

- They can talk about almost anything, from the personal to the political 

- They’re often as awkward as me but we laugh about it rather than focus on it

- They really do tend to be gay 

- They like to talk about taboo subjects you can almost never talk to other people about

- The ones I know are depressed but we’re so comfortable openly talking about mental health and supporting each other

- They have a similar personality to me but typically are the ones to initiate the adventures that I need but can’t find with anyone else

- We both have so many random facts between us (perhaps even the entire knowledge of mankind)

- They’re unexpected nerds (you don’t see it coming, but it’s definitely there)

- They bring out the loud in me which almost no one can do aside from ENFPs 

- I can go without talking to them for two years and pick up exactly where we left off (same inside jokes and everything)

- WHEN THEY’RE MUSICAL THEATER GEEKS? That’s the best flavor 

- They’re so gosh-darn lovable and I wish every single one of them knew how much I care for them 

[mbti-convos]

MBTI as T-KO shirts my friends and I have made (part 2. Extroverts.)

ENFP

ENFJ

ENTP

ENTJ

ESFP

ESFJ

ESTP

ESTJ

[mbti-notes]

Thank you for your wonderful blog, I appreciate it a lot. As a kid I loved reading and writing fiction because it personally brought me a lot of joy and I always had the dream to become a writer. However, it was also escapist because I grew up very sheltered and always had the feeling of being an outsider when growing up. I caught up on a lot of experiences as an adult and lost my passion for writing along the way. Nowadays whenever I try to write again and get into an retrospective mood...(1/2)

[con’t: I start to feel dejected instead. As soon as I consciously try to engage Ni to think of a story, of the kind of world the characters are living in etc, my thoughts will take a dark turn and my mind will only conjure dark images. This only happens when I’m on my own, though. I have no trouble coming up with ideas in a group setting and I’m usually very enthusiastic and hopeful afterwards. Is this underdeveloped Ni? How can I ‘yield’ it better without falling into the Ti abyss? Enfj]

It’s relatively normal for extraverts to feel wary or dread when doing reflective or introspective activities. It usually means that you’ve neglected introverted development for too long. When your psychological needs go unmet for a long period of time, they are still present and active beyond your awareness, and it’s in the unconscious mind that they start to take a darker turn as inferior threats mount gradually over time. 

I like to distinguish between “surrendering” and “succumbing”. To succumb is to believe/buy into the dark visions of your fears wholeheartedly such that they take over your entire mindset. The more that you fear succumbing, the higher the likelihood that you will, because you’re pushing away important issues only to have them get louder and louder and eventually bowl you over. The more you don’t want to accept your darkness, the more it demands to be seen and heard and acknowledged, much like someone knocking on your door more and more loudly as you refuse/fail to answer.

By contrast, to surrender is making a conscious choice to confront and embrace what you are afraid of. It is an act of bravery. It’s scary to face up to the aspects of your mind that you’d rather leave hidden. But until you recognize that all of those hidden parts are legitimate aspects of who you are - that those negative aspects deserve to be in the light just as much as your positive aspects - your identity always remains painfully fragmented. In enfjs, this often manifests as compartmentalization, placing a hardened mental and emotional barrier that keeps your (negative) private self locked away in favor of nurturing your (positive) public persona. 

In other words, to surrender is to answer the knocking door, even when you’re scared of what it will reveal. It’s the only way to stop the knocking noise and discover the truth of what’s calling on the other side. This is the beginning of the creative process. Dwelling in the known-and-comfortable won’t get you anywhere if what you want is to develop Ni and come up with new ideas and new ways of seeing things. 

[marvels-overheard-convos]

MBTI AS QUOTES AND CONVOS THAT I’VE OVERHEARD

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ISTJ: *trying to describe venn-diagrams*

ISTJ: “it’s like two circles kissing, but going too far.”

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INFP: “i heard that pain.”

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ISFP: “hey teach, can i do a retake, i was too high.”

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ISFJ: "leave me to die alone"

XXXX: "i won't. we will die together."

ISFJ: "no, you can't! you're too young!"

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INFJ: *talking to a yellow lab*

INFJ: “i don’t know why you’re white! your mother is a black lab!”

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ISTP: "ENTP, there is drama happening."

ENTP: "WHERe?!"

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ENFP: “sounds like something i would do.”

INTP: “you did do it.”

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ENFJ: “i eat fires! you are what you eat.”

ENFJ: “that’s why i’m so fire–“

INTJ: “proof? resistant?”

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siri: “knowing is half the battle.”

ENTJ: “it is the battle, siri.”

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ESFJ&[friend]: *yawn*

ESFJ: “don’t be yawning while i yawn.”

ESFJ: “they’ll think we’re synchronized, or something.”

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ESFP: "i love you with all of my butt because my heart is full"

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ESTP: "okay Disney is messed up because they make you think that if you sing animals will come clean your room!"

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ESTJ: “i do like food. everything i like to eat is food-related.”