#hypergamy advice

[keptandkind]

Reality-based motivation

If you want a life people envy, you have to do things they’re not willing to do.

Growth requires temporary discomfort. Comfort requires permanent stagnation.

If you know better and don’t do better, you’re choosing the consequences. You’re not stuck, you’re just avoiding the changes that would make you uncomfortable in the interim.

If you want better outcomes, fix the habits that keep sabotaging them.

Nothing changes until your standards do.

Your excuses might be valid, but they’re still the reason nothing is changing.

[rihnely]

[the-pretty-narcissist]

I Cannot Believe People Actually Live Like This

I don’t care about the cars, shoes, bags, or trips. Baby I want LAND. Not just an overpriced ‘luxury’ house, in a new build neighborhood, that has cardboard walls and styrofoam insulation. I want land with some mf value on it. Ok.

Once again the agricultural and industrial girlies are the ones who have it made.

Met a lady who’s been widowed for several decades, her husband left her with a cute little house on several acres of land. Developers have come in and have been hounding her for years because the land valuation is stupid high--one of the few women who can say she literally has men tripping over themselves and breaking down her door to get to her and it not be an exaggeration 😂😫

Instead of out right selling it, she allows them to use it for whatever purposes and collects royalties on every single thing they sell.

THIS IS WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT

Imagine being able to clear no less than half a million dollars a year for decades because your husband left you a pile of dirt.

I’m gonna be sick.

Keep talking shit about rural America if you want to. A lot of them are the true definition of ‘quiet wealth’. Literally the exact opposite of the gaudy, flashy, designer everything stereotype.

[preeesblog]

[hypergamygossip]

Why are so many of the girlies here neurodivergent?

This space disproportionately attracts girls who were either painfully brilliant or painfully awkward growing up—often both. Girls who used books to understand people. Girls who took beauty as a project because they didn’t know how else to be liked.

The hypergamy fantasy is one of structure. Of rules, roles, rituals. It promises clarity where life has been chaos, and hierarchy where there’s been none. If you’ve spent your whole life feeling like you missed the memo on how to be normal, there’s something deeply seductive about a system that tells you exactly what to do to win.

Learn the codes. Polish the speech. Wear the uniform. Stand beside the right man, and suddenly the world is legible.

They thought this was a ladder you could climb with logic. Tragedy is, they haven’t yet realized the game is rigged by instinct.

[withloveheart]

One of the best things I learned was that it was never too late to start over.

I've heard this being said before but it never really clicked until I met someone who embodied it fully and unapologetically. My Palestinian neighbors had a relative who I had always looked up to when I was in high school. She was smart, funny, loving, and most importantly knew her worth. Her worth wasn't spoken about. Never had I heard her utter things like "I'm confident" or "I know my worth" or anything else along those lines. However, she did embody it.

When I was in high school she was being courted by a man who seemed to adore her and shower her with love. From the outside looking in, he seemed enamored with her. At some point, she accepts to being his wife. They have a lovely engagement party. The wedding was going to be even better. So, imagine my surprise, and many others, when on the day of the wedding, as people are getting ready and making their way to the venue, the entire thing is called off. Money was already put in. Money they couldn't get back. The reason for calling off the wedding? This man began to insult her and make some interesting remarks and as a result she decided she wasn't going through the wedding. I don't know what was said but I do know her family made it clear that she should've worked it out rather than just leave especially on the actual wedding day. After all, what would people think? For those who don't know, plenty of Middle Eastern and North African cultures would view this as an issue. And I personally know many women who have had deep regrets over their marriage but were too worried about the stigma of canceling the wedding when it was so close and the potential of being seen as difficult or spoiled. Of course, this wasn't everyone but a good majority.

Seeing this very statement of "never too late to start over" be embodied by someone wholeheartedly really altered my perspective when I was younger. I also got to see first hand the strength it requires to start over while everyone around you is judging your very decision. Thanks to her I grew up with a solid example to follow and have tried my best to have this attitude with everything in my life. Personally, it has paid off well.

[luxurybrownbarbie]

Beauty is a currency for women, but you need to be spending it in the right places. It also can’t be the only thing you leverage. It needs to come with charm, wit, intelligence, poise, and allure. And this isn’t just about romance, it’s about every facet of life; careers, networking, friendships, eventual connections. Things don’t just “happen” to beautiful women. Most beautiful women cultivate other areas which draw others in. There are plenty of beautiful women who lean solely on being pretty, and others tire of them quickly.

[jademichelle]

Hey, I'm starting the whole SGF life ( I'm meeting potentials) any quick tips and tricks for the beginning part of dating.

Thank you.

Hi friend! Sorry for getting back to you so late :(

I will share what has worked for me and has kept men interested despite social distancing requirements and my super busy schedule. I am assuming that you already look the part or getting close to it!

1. You have to treat this man like he is your actual boyfriend. This is the only way you will get him to trust you and get more from him. Being a SGF takes time and you will often find yourself sacrificing a lot of your time and energy in the beginning. That is why it is important to screen these men and make sure you know your time won't be wasted. A quick tip is to avoid men who say how much they have spoiled women in their past in your first conversation. This is a red flag. They are just trying to lower your guard and not give you anything.

2. Figure out what he is missing from his life EARLY. Obviously, these men are looking for companionship and intimacy but can you figure out what he really desires? Is he looking for arm candy? A constant ego boost? Someone to listen to his problems? A younger version of his ex-wife? Figuring this out and attending to those needs will help you become what he's been looking for all his life and will make him want to give you the world. For example, many men in the past have told me they love my ability to have thought-provoking conversations with them as well my beauty (particularly my figure, my smile, and my eyes). So this tells me they are looking for a good listener, someone to talk with, and arm candy. As a result, I stay up to date with current events, read up on different people and topics, listen to interviews and podcasts, and invest (with their money) in my looks. It is important to note that I already love doing these things so it does not seem like extra work.

3. Boost his ego and be his cheerleader. Men rarely get complimented so doing so will be advantageous. However, do not act too impressed.

4. Just because he's your boyfriend doesn't mean you have to give him all of your time. Don't text him forever. Or all the time. For example, I don't text after 10 pm and when my friends or family are visiting, I let my main guy and POTs know and they wait for me to get back to them. It is important to make him miss you. If you are always at his beck and call he will get bored. However, do not blatantly ignore him. Always be excited to talk to him again and have something fun and interesting you want to do with him.

5. To have a successful SGF relationship, you will have to be a great conversationalist. When he brings you around his friends, you should be able to contribute to the conversation. Being more than a pretty face will boost his ego and make him want to give you more because you're clearly a gem.

6 Laugh at all of his jokes even if they're not funny. My main guy loves doing voice impressions and he's not bad, but they definitely are corny as hell. I still laugh my ass off and tell him how funny he is. He has done stand-up comedy in the past so the validation I give him brings him joy.

7. You need to be fun and interesting! Always suggest something he has never done or tried before! A lot of these men miss their youthful days (and are still boys inside) so being playful and spontaneous is important.

8. Always try to be warm and inviting. On dates, greet each POT with a hug and a smile. My grandmother is French so it has been ingrained in me to greet almost everyone with cheek kissing. Also, don't be afraid to touch him lightly during dates. It is important to show him that you are interested in him. However, don't forget to balance it with being occasionally cold.

9. I expect you to be dining at expensive and classy restaurants so you must know dining etiquette!

10. Pay attention to fine details and make eye contact. For example, make sure your nails are done, your breath doesn't smell, and that your make-up matches your neck. As a SGF, it is a cornerstone to look put together.

11. Do not share your problems or grievances with him in the beginning. He is a man and most men do not know how to attend to a women's emotional needs. He will not be interested in pursuing something with you if you are sad all the time.

If you have any other questions feel free to ask (:

Good luck!

💖 Jade