Lesson: Do Your Own Thing and Stop Listening to Strangers Online
All the girlies I used to listen to back in the day are taking major L’s.
Never in a million years did I expect to see TheWizardLiz become a single mom. I’m shocked. The fact that she got knocked up before marriage is shocking in itself. I suspect that she’s selling that engagement ring because she needs the money, not because she cares about single mom’s. Like girl please 🙄 it’s okay to acknowledge that she doesn’t have 100k in cash lying around. Most people don’t.
Many of the popular gurus turned out to be scammers and are now divorced.
Once my brain started to reach full development, I started to pull back from all the hypergamy, level up, how to mingle with high society, etc content. It started to become clear that many of these women were not living the lives they claimed to have or were not taking their own advice thus leading to their lives unraveling. Going out into the real world and interacting with people who actually live those lifestyles was enough to make me realize the gurus are frauds.
I’m on my own level up journey and do things the way I want to. Pretending to be someone you’re not never ends well. I’ve learned to develop into the person I want to be rather than watch a tutorial and wake up the next day pretending to be that person. I think real leveling up takes years and it’s not going to be pretty and pleasant during some parts of it.
I’ve said this before but Trisha Paytas is doing so well and it makes me smile every time I think of her. For me, she is a great example of leveling up. She did the work and went through the ugly parts publicly. Now her life is beautiful. They say the loudest ones are usually the most insecure or inauthentic. The gurus are showy and loud so I took that as a sign.
I never expected Trisha Paytas to be one of the online personalities that actually leveled up their life and went to greater heights. She was never in that sphere of content but is now truly walking the walk.
I haven’t watched TheWizardLiz in over a year because I quickly outgrew her content. It will be interesting to see how her content changes, if at all.
Besides discussing questionable psychology takes and bagging wealthy men, did she discuss practical issues? Finances? Does she have a good enough stream of income to be a single mom? How is she going to model? Who’s going to watch the baby? Pay for childcare? From what she’s said, it sounds like she isn’t in one place for very long. How is all that going to work?
Her situation really isn’t my concern but I’m trying to say that many of these gurus are vapid and don’t really offer valuable advice. There’s so much more to leveling up then becoming more attractive, marrying a well off man and being around certain people.
Once you get the man, can your household live comfortably during a recession? Will you have to cut back on the kids’ tuition? Stop getting the beauty maintenance? Do you have good people in your social network? Would they stop talking to you if you started driving an older vehicle? What is your man’s self esteem like? Does he care what people think? Will he live beyond his means in order to be in proximity to certain social groups?
These are just some of the things I think about when I make decisions in my life. To me, leveling up is about being the best version of yourself and being secure in that position.
