You’re one of my go-to queer lds blogs and I was wondering if you knew some clear indications I can give to other queer members about being queer. I don’t want to be too obvious to non-supporters tho. Any thoughts?
off the top of my head:
most cishet people don't know individual orientations' pride flags, only that the rainbow is the general LGBTQ symbol. cishet allies, if they know anything beyond the rainbow, usually only know a few other flags - the bisexual and transgender flags, usually. other queer people will recognize accessories or clothes with specific flag flag color palettes like nonbinary/lesbian/aro/etc. and most likely will not tip off any homophobes.
you can find a lot of queer fashion and accessories that incorporate pride flag color schemes in subtle ways so that it doesn't look like a flag. look up "subtle [identity] pride design" to find stuff like this. other queer people will see it while cishet people usually will not.
breaking dress conventions is a subtle way to signal queerness. if you're afab, wearing pants/suits to church will tick people's gaydar; if you're amab, wearing something colorful instead of the standard white/gray/black/brown/blue stuff will do it.
links to more info
The Queer Code: Secret Languages of LGBTQ+ Art
Colour Codes: Flagging in the Queer Community
The history of the carabiner
5 Ways to Queer Any Outfit (Without Rainbows)
Queer Symbols
The Old, Secret Style Language Of The LGTBQ+ Community
