#tw deadname

[wormchamp72]

Do people actually call you wormchamp irl like a nickname or did your parents hate you

Do my parents hate me? Heh...sure seems like it sometimes. If they loved me, they'd have named me Wormchamp. But instead I have 2 deal with my Baka "Real" Name. They say it's "impractical" 2 legally change my name 2 Wormchamp and that I'll "regret it later."

But it's not a phase.

It's who I am.

Day in and day out, people refuse 2 address me by my proper title. My teachers tell me I have 2 write my "real name" on my homework instead of Wormchamp or The Worm. Some nerve they have...

My old friend, Maximus P, used 2 call me Wormchamp on occasion...I told him since I respected his new name, it was only fair he respected mine...but even he thought it silly 2 address me in real life by my "internet username."

Even Claire wavered in her dedication 2 calling me by my true name. When things got serious, she resorted 2 sternly saying my Baka Name. It's fine, then, 2 disrespect someone's identity the moment they mess up? Hmph...your true colors were showing, Claire.

But no. I walk the world being called my Baka Name, degraded and demeaned every time someone rebukes and guffaws at the notion that I am indeed The Worm. It seems the only one who truly respects me is Hunter...

[cassyapper]

hello. i was reading back on your blog a little bit and i have transman joot and noritaro thoughts and shit. so heres a dump

-joot is completely in the dark about relationships. noriaki is his first real relationship and he has no idea what hes doing

-noriaki however has dated a small amount, and has a small amount of knowledge

-what little binding jotaro does, its very unhealthy. he probably goes for days without taking off his binder

-when he finds out, noriaki immediately starts enforcing a proper schedule for his saftey

-nori has horrible circulation and will use his cold ass hands on jotaro at random points to piss him off

-they are t4t4t4t (tism 4 tism 4 trans 4 trans [noriaki being amab/nb is one of my favorite hcs ever])

-not really trans joot related, but he has to mouth words when he reads

-joot's deadname is erina!!

-noriaki has braces. jotaro Will complain about them when they kiss

thats all <3 hope this makes you happy :DDD

UGH NO THESE R SO CUTE thank u sm for sharing. there's not much for me to add rlly jsut wahh THANK U. i hadnt ever thought about jotaro's deadname before but it being erina is really interesting... also 100 percent agree with kakyoin braces and jotaro complaining about them, noritaro being t4t4t4t, kakyoin's shit circulation and his evil tendency to put his cold hands on jotaro, and jotaro mouthing words when he reads like that's so real

[punk-sharkz-zero]

need to make a patch that says 'deadnames stay dead' in the shape of a grave immediately

[apollohour]

Trans people with a deadname, what is your relationship with it?

I heavily dislike it, and don't like hearing any mention of it

I don't like it, and prefer to avoid it

I dislike it but don't go to efforts to avoid it

I am ambivalent

I like my deadname, but only when applied to other people

I like my deadname, and don't mind/like it when applied to me

I am trans but do not have a deadname

Nuance

Results

Voting ended onJan 29, 2025

[ask-elliotgang]

Joule looked back towards the kitchen where Onyx was currently filling his mug full of coffee, so she stood up and bowed.

JOULE: "それは...うーん...はじめまして！" ( It's... Um... Nice to meet you sir! )

It was slightly butchered due to not fully knowing how to speak Hoennian correctly yet, but its the sentiment that counts!

Onyx takes a sip of coffee before responding.

Joule tries to cover her belly with her arms to hide it and she looks down at the floor before walking back over to the couch and taking a seat.

Elliot stands up and claps his hands once before starting,

The trans boy walks through the kitchen towards the bathroom door and has one more quip set to him before he enters.

[sweetheart-dot-jpeg]

i have so many names, but (dead name) aint one of em.

[8teddy-bear8]

There is something so heart ending about being in a fandom where one of your blorbo’s have your deadname.

On one hand, you see them and go,

“It’s ******!!!!”

And then you go,

“Mm, ****** (derogatory).”

[icannotgetoverbirds]

An update

Good news: As time passes, I become more and more sure that I am a trans man. All the evidence that matters and that I can gather (and even some of it that doesn't) is telling me that this is me. I am a man. I am a son and a brother and a nephew. So much of my discontentment with my body and existence just fell off when I cast aside the idea that I needed to be a woman.

Bad news: Realizing this means that I can now be truly misidentified in such a way that causes major dysphoria, as opposed to being "misidentified" in such a way that fills me with joy.

More bad news: My mother, while not transphobic, per se, is, as usual, taking on too much for herself, leaving her with no mental space to discuss my transition; as such, I have yet to be able to explain to her that I am in pain every time she deadnames me.

This is further complicated by the fact that she's religious and has that "I support you but I don't agree with your existence" idea; she's open to learning and I do have hope that she'll understand enough for me someday (maybe even someday soon), but until then I'll have to put up with this at home.

Good news: I have snapped.

This is not usually a good thing for most people.

Thankfully, for me, it is a good thing.

It means that I no longer give a flying fuck what she thinks of my transition.

I have finally realized who I am and I'm going to order a goddamn binder from GC2b as soon as I can, and I'm going to talk to all of my doctors about transitioning, and I'll fucking pay for HRT myself if I have to.

I have spent my whole life looking inwards and outwards, comparing experiences, and evaluating who I am and what my place in this world is.

I found myself.

I looked in the mirror and said my new name and felt a kind of love I've never felt before.

I finally saw myself.

I'm not about to give up my identity because my mom is cautious. I'm not about to wait on being myself because she's not ready for me to change my life.

I know she loves me, and I love her. I know she's scared for what the world will say and do to a trans man, and I know that it's going to be hard and painful.

I also know that I can't live as someone I've not.

I am a man. I know who I am. I know myself better than anyone else ever could. I cannot and will not pretend otherwise.