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you will struggle to say the unsayable thing for five years straight. and then it will suddenly become easy on a Wednesday morning

str-ngeloop

scroll the notes of this post for a truly beautiful slice of the human experience.

#every once in a while I stop believing that it will feel easier again and then it does #it always comes back around

black-quadrant

ADHD affects how I experience time, not how I experience attachment. I love you. I miss you. I just don't realize how long it’s been since I last said that, let alone messaged.

I understand that most normal functioning brains need regular engagement to maintain a bond. Absence doesn’t diminish my affection. My silence isn’t neglect or disinterest. It’s time blindness and object impermanence. The contact gap is purely neurological, not emotional. Thank you for being patient with my inconsistency and holding a seat in your heart for me.

fluffysheeps

Silly salmonids 🌈🐟

#art

howmanyholesinswisscheese

Biggest fuck-up ever is that people have to pay to become doctors

howmanyholesinswisscheese

Like unironically we should be subsidising at least 50% of their educations. What do you mean we have a shortage of doctors we should have surplus. What do you mean they’re being overworked they should be treated like royalty, they can fix human bodies

howmanyholesinswisscheese

I don’t care if some of them are only doing it for the money. I don’t care if all of them are only doing it for the money. Intentions don’t matter to the stitches in my nana’s leg or the ten billion other lifesaving treatments we all get at a detriment to their finances and mental wellbeing. Entire cities are kept alive by just a couple thousand of them what are we DOINGGGGG

spiribia

I genuinely love when a story makes up its own fable and then has current events within the story explicitly parallel the in-universe fable. The story I made up is just like the story I made up 🤯

#writing #hfhrjfhf

ferricsailor

i wonder if shes thinking of a particular emo nerd

#art

dailymanners

If you have any guests at all inside your home, even for a short duration of time, always offer them a beverage such as water, tea, or coffee. If they're going to be inside your home for more than a few minutes, always offer for them to sit down. And, if they're going to be inside your home for more than an hour or two, offer them snacks or a bite to eat.

Basic rules of hospitality are that you should always offer a drink, such as water, tea, or coffee to guests in your home even if they won't be there for long. It's one of the quickest, easiest, and simplest ways to make someone feel welcome and at ease.

It can also be important to offer for someone to sit, especially if this is one of the first times this person is visiting your home. Many people can feel awkward or uncertain about sitting down and making themselves at ease in someone else's home, especially if they haven't been there many times before. Being offered to sit down by the host may be the only way for them to feel at ease enough to sit down and make themselves comfortable.

Of course some exceptions apply, such as if this is an unwanted guest who is making you uncomfortable. But otherwise, if this is someone whose company you enjoy in your home, or even if you just feel neutral about, your duty as host is to make them comfortable and at ease, such as by offering them a beverage and a seat.

Being a good host is how we can establish stronger ties to other people, and how you can create more of a sense of community with the people around you who visit your home.

catloverkid00

Do you have any advice for when a worker enters your home? For example, a plumber or repair person.

I never know if I shoould offer drinks/snacks or if it's better to stay out of their way and let them do their job.

dailymanners

It's definitely polite to offer workers like plumbers and electricians beverages and snacks. You're definitely not getting in their way at all by offering them water or a snack. I've heard too many horror stories from plumbers that people will yell at them or scold them for wanting a glass of water or just refilling their own water bottle at someone's house. If they're going around from house to house all day how else are they supposed to stay hydrated? You're definitely doing the polite thing by making it clear to them that they're allowed to have water at your house.

Also with any sort of outdoor workers too, like roofers or landscapers, definitely at least ask if they want some water.

geardrops

also offer them the bathroom

sophibug

a non-weird way to offer them the bathroom is to tell them where it is.

When it was particularly hot, my mom would put chilled water bottles in a box on top of the trash cans with a big shiny sign on them saying "NOT TRASH -- WATER BOTTLES FOR SANITATION WORKERS". This doesn't work as well for people living in apartments, of course.

spinningyarns

If someone is doing work inside my house, I put a clean cup for each person on the counter (it’s the only cup(s) out, so they don’t have to guess which is for them) and tell them it’s theirs to use and they’re welcome to ice and water from the dispenser on the fridge. Then I tell them the bathroom is next to the kitchen.

I didn’t used to do this because I assumed they would just use the bathroom if they needed, but then I learned that some people think workers should go elsewhere for the bathroom?? And once I started saying it, I’ve had people say things like, “If you’re sure- we can go down the street” But of course I’m sure! As long as they’re only doing bathroom stuff in there, why in earth shouldn’t they use the bathroom at my place?

The water hadn’t occurred to me before I read the suggestion somewhere, but it’s top notch.

boldfenianwoman

We had a problem with this when we had electricians working at our house for a few weeks one time. I showed them all the bathrooms in the house and assumed we were okay... until 2 days later I saw one of them leaving the port-a-potty at the construction site next door. It turns out even though I'd shown them the bathroom, they weren't sure if I was actually okay with them using it because apparently some people are REAL unkind about stuff like that. I had to flat-out say "Please use the bathroom in the house, it's literally why we have them" and even then it was into the second week before one guy stopped popping his head into wherever I was working to ask if I was sure.

The bit I struggled with for a long time was not trying to over-host work crews. I didn't know how to balance making them feel comfortable and hovering. I had the most luck offering them a water after introductions, giving them a house tour on our way to whatever needs fixing and then clearly identifying where I plan to sit while we're touring. Now I end by saying "Please feel free to use the bathroom and if you change your mind on the water or need a snack or anything, come find me, I don't mind." Then I go sit on my hands until they need me - that way they can do their job without trying to entertain me. The trick with the cups on the counter is a brilliant one, I'll have to bank that one!

fuckyoubaker

girlbossfranziskavonkarma

rise and shine to lesbians and bi women😍😍😍 stay hydrated and stay sexy 🥰 🥰 🥰 🥰 everyone else….😒 good morning i guess…. 😐

theowlburrow

Video games 🎮

theowlburrow

This is a remaster of an old Vap Comic! Now in AMAZING TECHNICOLOR 🖌️🎨

#art #pkmn

video-game-jams

Visit Original Link

Animal Crossing: New Leaf - 12:00 PM - Clear

#ac

godlessondheimite

In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.

nobodys-odyssey

Taylor Swift does this

godlessondheimite

no she doesn’t

nobodys-odyssey

You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.

dancinbutterfly

#I'm fucking crying#this is an instant classic#this is the next meme#i can't believe I'm here to see a baby copypasta nary two hours old#I can't#lol#i laughed way too hard#iconic

angelsaxis

i went to queer history and signaling and i didnt see taylor swift

marzipanandminutiae

(That commenter's blog header is calling anyone who doesn't agree with their conspiracy theory stringboard about Taylor Swift being secretly gay "heteronormative" and claiming that they don't know queer history and culture. So. That's what we're working with here)

#checked that persons blog and like regardless of what you think she is #it's weird to dedicate so much energy to proving a celebrities sexuality and being this pressed about it lmao #jesus christ