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21 - my gender is roger from american dad I am whatever is most convenient for the bit 👽 I like men (not t4t)

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Why is anime fan service always like some sexualized 10-year-old little girl or boy like why cant it be Knuckleduster flying butt booty naked across my screen cheeks clapping in the wind with the turbulence force of an F-15 Eagle fighter jet

#at least we have JJBA for that shit

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Growing up as a kid and being "too boyish" for a girl but "too girly" for a boy ---> genderfluid pipeline

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I am begging every ADHD/Autistic person who's been "armchair" labeled with an "avoidant attachment style" to reevaluate themselves and consider the possibility of PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) because those two things can co-exist and have symptom overlap, but are tiggered by very different things.

Avoidant Attachment is usually the result of emotional neglect or having to prioritize the emotions of others in adolescence that develops into a discomfort or fear around emotional vulnerability or intimacy that is exclusive to relationships such as romance, friendship, or familial bonds. What triggers the avoidancy is people usually being too clingy, emotionally needy—high-maintenance partners who require higher validation and support needs that can make the individual feel as though they are being depended on—where their own emotional needs are yet again being neglected or put second in comparison to the partner—the emotional stability of the partner being reliant on the individual, causing the discomfort and avoidancy.

PDA is a neurobiological response that is triggered by any kind of demand or expectation for control for the sake of protecting autonomy on the basis of extreme anxiety, a genuine nervous system response, where even tasks you WANT to complete feel impossible/unable to complete if they are demanded, typically co-existing with executive dysfunction and effect your day to day life, not just exclusive to relationships. It is a feeling of being genuinely paralyzed by demands and expectations that result in avoidance or flat out refusal.

Avoidance: "Depending on me makes me uncomfortable and pull away. I am uncomfortable with emotional vulnerability, intimacy, and people depending on me as a result of how I was treated as a child."

PDA: "Demands and expectations make me shut down and mentally paralyzed, so I avoid them or refuse them. Don't pressure me, or I will pull away from you as well, as you are a trigger. I enjoy things like intimacy, and I am okay with emotional vulnerability, but when it is demanded of me or turns into an expectation, that is when I avoid. It has to be my decision with no pressure or expectation."

I can't count the number of other autistic people I have come across with PDA issues that have been demonized and labeled as "avoidants" or even narcissists due to attachment style discourse when most of the time it is directly tied to Autistic/ADHD neurodiversity and not childhood trauma.

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Avoidancy isn't enough, I need to simply dissappear from this society

On another note, Tomodachi has been great

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I hate people who are like "Omg, every Asian language sounds so complicated to learn, all the words sound the same" IT'S ABOUT CONTEXT. ENGLISH AND EVERY OTHER LANGUAGE IS THE EXACT SAME.

There's a guy on YouTube that asks his friend, "what is ___ in japanese" for a few different words, and the other guy gives words that all sound or are written the same way, and all of the comments are like "This sounds so complicated, how are you able to tell which word is the right one to use and when?" CONTEXT. DEFINITIONS.

What do you call a piece of something? A part.

What is it called when you separate two things? Also part.

What is the past tense of wind? Wound.

What is another word for ending up somewhere? You WOUND up there.

A single word for they are? They're.

A possessive, genderless term? Their.

A word to describe a destination? There.

A word to describe someone who lives in poverty? Poor.

An act of distrubuting one liquid into another location? Pour.

A word to describe someone who may be off or different? Odd.

A synonym for the word chance? Odd.

We have so many words that are spelled the exact same but have different meanings. We have so many words that sound the exact same but have different meanings. IT ALL COMES DOWN TO CONTEXT. AND THAT GOES FOR EVERY LANGUAGE.

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Ouuuuhh I just really need to be between Endeavor's boobs rn chat you don't understand

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Ouyghbh up late thinking about the Hero Commission corruption plotline this shit got me feeling

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"The only good POTC movies were the first 3" well I liked all of them because I'm not here for the dumbass romance plotlines I'm here to watch sweaty old pirate men do sweaty old pirate man things

Salazar, Davey, Jack, Jack's father, Blackbeard, Barbossa, they can ALLLLL get it

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She jack on my sparrow until I captain

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Aaaauuuaaghhhh licks his balls

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"Am I avoidant, narcissistic, or just aromantic. Or maybe all three." I ask myself for the 100th time this week.

It all boils down to: "Yeah that sounds fine but why would I ever do that instead of what I want to do."

But this only applies to romance as well. I'm the complete opposite when it comes to platonic connections.

Sort of

I keep in touch

Sometimes

I love my friends but I also just love being alone

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I hate the infighting within the trans community that's always centered around "w-well if they want to pass...they should wear passing clothes!" When gender euphoria/alleviating dysphoria has never been conventional.

Every trans person has that one unconventional gender affirming thing they do/experience that has nothing to do with social perception or passing culture.

There is no "golden rule" on what is supposed to be gender affirming and what isn't, and while you might feel more gender affirmation through clothes and passing culture, not every trans person operates that way.

Personally, to me, there is no feeling of masculinity that comes with wearing masculine clothing. You know what does feel masculine? Taking a shit sunburnt and naked. Sit with that and think on it.

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Fandom girlies and gays, I feel like you guys need to increase your standards for partners. Yall are so down bad for your fictional crushes, but end up with a guy that makes you feel meh.

If you are looking at your fictional crush and thinking "I would lick the sweat off that man's balls," you need to find someone in real life that makes you feel the same way. They're out there. Stop settling for less 😭🙏🏻

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The gala episode is so fucking dumb

Applejack: "Drumming up business at the gala could help me afford my grandmother's much needed hip replacement. The roof of MY HOME is also falling apart, and we have a broken plow. That money would definitely be put to good use."

Rainbowdash: "I want to go to show off for the glorified air force, and once they see how awesome I am, of course they'll immediately pick me."

Pinkiepie: "The gala is a giant party, and even though I have parties, like, every day, this party is bigger than the average party, so I should be the one to go."

Rarity: "I want to go to find a man. Everyone will love me. Even Celestia will love me, and Celestia will introduce me to a prince where we'll have a royal wedding."

Fluttershy: "I don't really wanna go inside, I just wanna stay in the garden with the animals and flowers. Yes my house is already surrounded with flowers and my house is already filled with animals, but this is technically different."

Twilight: "Oh goodness! Everyone seems to have perfectly equal valid reasons to go!"

Like Twilight are you fucking serious. Are we fucking fr. Rarity and Rainbowdash wanted attention, Fluttershy and Pinkiepie wanted MORE of what they already HAVE. APPLEJACK WANTED TO PAY FOR SURGERY FOR HER GRANDMOTHER AND DO HOUSE REPAIRS. HOW IS THIS EVEN A FUCKING DEBATE.

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Looking back after re-watching Steven Universe as an adult is realizing that Pearl was absolutely fucked up out of her god damn mind with trying to teach Connie "Do it for Her."

Gems can withstand significantly more damage than humans can, and Pearl was out here telling this 13 year old human girl to be prepared to basically sacrifice her life if it meant protecting Steven, and back then, Steven wasn't even fully "Steven" in Pearl's eyes. She was still seeing Steven as Rose. Pearl was deadass telling 13 year old Connie to go kill herself to save what remains of her own weak ass thousand-year lesbian situationship.

Like are you fucking serious Pearl.

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Hi this bugs me

Something that I don't think a lot of people understand is that kids in the "gifted" class were primarily neurodivergent kids. I still remember the test they gave us in kindergarten, where they had us describe pictures. Most kids would give simple words for what was in the picture. Gifted kids would come up with more adjectives or creative phrases, thinking outside the box.

Some kids passed because they were genuinely smarter than the average kid, and some kids passed because they had a different way of thinking and processing information.

Gifted class for neurotypical children was just a fun break from regular classes. Solving puzzles, riddles, and doing arts and crafts.

Gifted class for neurodivergent children was training us to learn different methods of education (hands on learning, deductive/inductive reasoning, memory based learning, thinking outside the box) in order to prepare us for higher grade levels where we'd inevitably need a 504 plan for a learning disability, to where we'd already developed what education method helps us learn better due to the jumpstart gifted class gave us.

I promise you. The only people who think that being a "gifted kid" is a flex are those who didn't need gifted class.

"Gifted kid burnout" are neurodivergent kids who were praised for being "creative" and "outside the box thinkers" in childhood, only to find out that being "creative" and an "outside the box thinker" doesn't get you fucking anywhere in high school and adulthood where everyone is expected to adapt and conform to a singular way of learning and absorbing information to the point where you feel like a fucking failure because you've been placed on such a high pedestal.

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Why is there like NO nsfw of Jabber anywhere on the internet. Artists, DRAW THAT LIGHTSKIN NAKED !!! 😡😡😡