My gender is like a phoenix

On this blog: Sex positivity (+ pro kink, sex work), inclusivity, self-curation, IRL harm committed is more important than fictional shit, against death or violence threats/bait and harassment 18+ content space (not always nsfw but often enough), minors trying to interact with nsfw topics will be blocked Umbral. Unpalatable Adult Queer Guy (25+) he/him or phoe/phoen/pheir. | Fandom, OCs & gettin' down

[twinkuraba]

I don’t care what someone’s fandoms are, what content they make, what they ship, anything like that, if there is evidence of IRL actions causing harm against actual people that you could be putting the focus on instead.

[twinkuraba]

Very painful to be very aware of a game's unrealised potential but unlike fanfic you are not a gamedev so cannot just do a fanfic equivalent to writing a fic about the potential.

[greedydemands]

it’s so disturbing how many ppl think sexual positions are something to be deserved or bartered for. ‘he deserves to bottom’ why? why can’t he deserve the sexual position he only wants to do? why does an exclusive bottom deserve to top? why does he need to top to take care of his partner, why does the exclusive top need to bottom to be cared for? what is open minded and whimsical about asserting that a man w a penis is obligated to use it for penetration, as i saw someone aptly put it once? what makes it less misogynistic to say that the presence of a hole means it must inevitably be fucked? how do you delude yourself that this is the anti-heteronormative stance when it’s so obviously homophobic? I’ll never understand it. and it’s the exact same script for every ship that has strict canon dynamics and these ppl do it across any fandom they’re in, so I almost wonder how they think this is actually care for the character, but it’s frankly just homophobic and there’s no rational self awareness needed for that

[sephirothstrogen]

unfortunately i think that in order to have female characters and characters of color be popular, we need to stop treating them as walking vessels of "good rep", and treat them like any other character

[sephirothstrogen]

"why don't the fujoshis like characters darker than a sheet of paper" because if they write about them the same way they write about white men they get harassed into oblivion.

[sephirothstrogen]

you have to let the tumblr girls draw maid dress blorboslop and the ao3 girls write rape torture fics of your precious character or they will never get popular, and that's just a fact.

[orbitingrook]

[yehuditexcalibur]

I wish all the “religion is inherently bad” people who go on to describe issues exclusive to Christianity would understand that their idea of Christianity being analogous to all religion is a very glaring sign that they are still steeped in the Christian hegemony they seem to reject so vehemently

[thebibliosphere]

I have food poisoning, I’m on my period, I have a migraine, my POTS is out of control, and I’m meant to get on a flight tomorrow to hopefully make it to my father’s death bed in time.

Emailing me a “review” of my book calling it cringe cannot hurt me. And if you claim you hoped to achieve anything else you’re either a liar or in denial about your own motives. You should reflect on that.

[thebibliosphere]

I made this non-rebloggable earlier because I didn’t want it to leave containment, but after discussing this with some other friends who primarily sell their work via booktok and Insta, this is apparently a thing right now where readers are going out of their way to message authors “honest and valuable feedback” because they believe authors need to be told how to improve.

Except they’re not giving actual valuable feedback, because being critical of something does not actually mean having constructive critical feedback.

Being able to offer constructive feedback is a skill. It doesn’t mean “having a negative opinion.”

You don’t need to be a professional writer or editor, but you do preferably need to have a basic understanding of technical writing skill, an understanding of the genre you are critiquing and a very basic grasp that just because you do not like something, does not make something objectively bad.

Messaging me to tell me you find something “cringe” isn’t valuable feedback. That’s you going out of your way to make sure a stranger knows you don’t like them.

Doubling down and emailing me back to tell me you “just wanted to help,” like help where? Where was the feedback?

What am I supposed to do with that except feel bad and stop writing?

You knew what you were doing and I will hold that mirror up. If the reflection you see makes you uncomfortable, that’s on you.

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Also, as a wider note: don’t do this in general, don’t tag or email authors in negative reviews.

Reviews are for other readers. They belong in reader spaces. If an author invades reader spaces and gets mad about what they see, that’s on them. But don’t go up to the author’s online door and demand they acknowledge your personal dislike. That’s weird. Why are you doing that? Rate the book one star for your own records and move on to the next one.

[jomareecoronel]

Low poly model based on @ajtuana‘s Coffee for Dreamers piece ✨

[todayintokyo]

Tokyo trains by esuhara.log

[meancatboy]

Penetration is a gender-neutral act. Topping is gender-neutral. Bottoming is gender-neutral. You are not more or less of a man or a woman depending on how you fuck. You are not “fake trans” for having sex a certain way. You are not any less masculine for bottoming or any less feminine for topping.

[playfully--sadistic]

Additionally, acting like being penetrated is an act of submission is deeply rooted in misogynistic, cisheteronormative ideas of sexual intercourse, as in "penetration is something that is done to women for the sexual gratification of the man, nothing more, therefore it is inherently degrading and feminine".

A cishet man getting pegged by his cishet girlfriend is not gay, he's not less of a man or submissive by default. A cishet man getting pegged by his cishet girlfriend can be sexually dominant and simply likes to be fucked in his ass - these two can co-exist. Yet, in the eyes of cishet society, a man that likes to have his ass played with, must enjoy it because it's "degrading" , not because it simply feels good.

That's why I so heavily preach about the difference between sub/dom/switch and bottom/top/vers. Penetration can be used to increase the feeling and severity of a power dynamic, but it doesn't create one. These two things are entirely separate from eachother, unless connected willingly.

[questions-about-blorbos]

when you reach enough amount of followers, you will encounter entitled people who think they can tell you what you can and can’t post on your own blog. always ignore those cunts

[maxxie-or-smth]

there are 7 trillion nerves in the body and you somehow manage to get on every single one of them except the ones in my clit

[paradigm-adrift]

I accidentally did a Wikipedia binge about 1st wave feminism and fashion and stumbled upon the 1890s bicycle suit. Do people know about this? Why didn't anyone tell me about this? This is dope as hell.

It's old-fashioned. It's modern. It's butch. It's femme. It's snazzy. It's practical.

Wikipedia talks about the bloomers and the leg-o-mutton sleeves, but I'm also noticing a lot of these outfits have absolute supervillain lapels, which I also like a lot.

[squeeful]

please credit angela clayton for her photo/outfit

the suits have giant lapels because that was the fashion of the time, even outside of the bicycling suit. they go with the giant sleeves and full skirt/pants to make the waist look tiny. you see them on women's jackets of the time worn with skirts. there was a general menswear inspired look that had been trending since the 1880s. there were two major subgroups of western women's fashion going concurrently: menswear inspired tailormades, and really INTENSELY feminine dresses; so you'll also see fluffy ruffled explosions of chiffon and bows in fashion plates.

[afterhourstrackthirteen-deactiv]

' Galerie des Nez ' by Eliot Leblanc

[daddario]

it took the internet exactly 2.3 seconds to fully erase the Jew and Romani hatred from modern day Nazi ideology and make it about hating liberals and queer people and honestly anyone who is engaging in that kind of revisionist bullshit can fuck right off and unfollow me.

The Nazis told people that disability and homosexuality were products of Jewish people existing and part of our plan to undermine their little Aryan nation and once they got rid of all the Jews, gays and disabled people would be no more. LGBTQ people were never the primary target, and Jews were blamed for all of it regardless. You cannot separate Nazism from Jew hatred and pretending otherwise is disgusting.

[harpyharpyharpy]

Begging my goy followers to rb this

[memedream-jokingmachine]

Also communists, they also said that communism was a Jewish plot to destroy Germany and the Aryan race. And if you got rid of the Jews, you would get rid of communism and the rising power of the Soviet union.

[katalean]

fun comic time!!

[dogboysora]

The Tattoo Post™️ is so revealing of the current state of trans discourse online. Really it’s quite a fascinating case study. Right from the jump we have the weirdly paternalistic framing that trans men should run tattoo ideas by their friends, insinuating that trans men innately have poor judgment. By singling out trans men as a demographic rather than just advising people get feedback on their tattoo ideas or stating that they think the tattoo in question is bad, OP implies that it is trans men specifically and no other demographic that deserve to be held to this level of scrutiny. And even if you stripped the weird gender wars bullshit away from the whole thing, there remains the fact that putting a stranger on blast over an innocuous tattoo is deeply weird and uhhh bullying? Just straight up middle school bully behavior? What the hell is wrong with you?

Anyway here are my favorite notes

Exhibit A: The very feminist take that people socially/medically/legally classed as female aren’t oppressed on the basis of being socially/medically/legally classed as female.

Exhibit B: Seeing a non-sexual image of a trans man and immediately thinking about him bottoming. Because sexually objectifying random people for no reason is, again, very feminist. 🙄

Exhibi— okay I don’t have anything to say, I’m just enamored by this one. What does it even mean. What if a cis guy was a trans guy. What if the world was made of pudding. What if words meant nothing.

[genderrat]

needed this out of the comments

[genderkoolaid]

also here's op of that post defending their buddies normalizing racism and antisemitism through absurdist jokes