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johan. they/them. 30s. (if you know my birthname, that's fine to use too) profile pic from this picrew: https://picrew.me/image_maker/4395

[non-sims]

[orpheusilver]

just blocked someone for an anti-tofu url. never let your guard down

[orpheusilver]

a number of people seem to be interpreting this post as being about blocking people for silly petty reasons That is not my intention. This is a specifically pro-tofu post And it is serious to me. fuck you if you hate tofu

[thesixthstar]

[duckbunny]

your twenties are not "late" to start hrt. that is a normal time to start hrt. your thirties are also a normal time to start hrt. your seventies are pretty late to start hrt, but not too late. like, statistically, that's at the end of the curve. but if you are not dead, it is not too late for hrt.

[sabertoothwalrus]

much appreciation for people who create ocs that are clearly derivative of The Character because even if the inspiration is clear, they had the self awareness that their headcanons had snowballed so far past character analysis into pure self indulgence that there was very little of source material left. and that’s beautiful. sometimes when you’re preoccupied playing touys it’s hard to take a step back and realize you’ve actually created something wonderful and new

[requiem-on-water]

Momoire

[autistic-twilight]

I think people have forgotten what high support needs means. It makes me frustrated. You are not high support needs if you can live on your own and hold a full time job. I am not sorry to say this.

[northstareclipse]

The thing I keep getting stuck on with “addiction” discourse is that people will point to criteria like “using more than you want to / wanting to stop or cut back and being unable to” as if that settles the matter.

In the abstract? Sure. If someone is unhappy with their own habits and wants support changing them, they should be able to get that support.

But that’s often not how this plays out socially.

Often, nobody actually asks, “Are you okay with how much you’re using this?” It becomes “I don’t like how much you’re using this, so it’s a Problem, and if you say you’re okay with it, that just means you’re in Denial.”

At that point, the person’s own distress and agency have disappeared from the conversation. The observer’s discomfort has been laundered into a diagnosis.

That’s the part I object to. Not the idea that people can use or do things more than they want to. Obviously they can. I object to the bait-and-switch where language that’s supposedly about someone’s own sense of loss of control gets turned into a tool for other people to override their self-knowledge.

[prettycolors]

[blanketforcas]

you must remember that you're gonna continue to find things (art, nature, people, etc) that amaze you and ground you and you're gonna be glad to be alive to experience it

[fairycosmos]

why is it so hard for people to grasp that disabilities disable and chronic illnesses are chronic. yes even when it inconveniences you. yes even when your patience runs out

[monkeyislandtwo]

this callout couldve been a block button

[monkeyislandtwo]

this callout couldve been a private conversation

[voidsteeth]

[sykesarchive2]

from the bottom of my fucking heart. how are we supposed to live under these conditions.

[bluebelly-sun-serpentine]

You come from a long line of people who have survived, in many cases survived real horrors, and found that survival worthwhile. Find something to be moved by. Find something or someone to move.

[autistichalsin]

The test for allyship isn't how you treat an oppressed person who is your friend, family, spouse. It's how you treat an oppressed person you absolutely can't stand who is vile and loathsome in every way.

Do you gender trans people correctly even when they're being absolutely terrible people? Do you refuse to use the r-slur against someone who suicide baited you but is neurodivergent? Do you refuse to snark at a mentally ill person who is being genuinely unpleasant, "go take your meds!"

Do you allow members of marginalized groups to be terrible people without judging their entire demographic for it? One of the most invisible yet vital forms of privilege is the right to be terrible people as an individual rather than as a group. Do you acknowledge that there are bad people in every group, that it doesn't make their group less worth fighting for? Or do you shake your head if you happen to get mistreated by some who belong to a group and insist the entire group is awful and not worth your allyship?

Oppressed people can see how you treat those of us you like, but do you still treat the worst of us with the basic dignity you treat the worst of other groups with?

[baradragon]

speaking from a place of privilege (good url)

[baradragon]

some of you should not be reblogging this

[assdad]

[ofbeinghonests]

if you have one, tag with the "6 degrees of separation" you have with a celebrity

[dykemessiah-deactivated20230125]

condola rashad as joan of arc i am free on sunday at 5 im just letting you know that i would be available on sunday at 5 if someone asked me to dinner on sunday at 5

[phantomrose96]

You know I gotta learn shitpost brevity. Most of my successful posts are like 3 paragraph essays, minimum. Fucking dissertations. Terrible note-to-word ratio. Inefficient. In this economy? In this economy? Unsustainable. Everyone else posting "blowing my balls up at the bomb factory" and getting 50,000 notes. Amazing ROI. They're the future and I'm on dial-up. The market's gonna out-compete me.

[lemonlegs4]