Kestrel Ashen

25 / TMA / MDNI / Kink aficionado / Professional Failure/ Slime princette!!

[waypup]

Awawawawawawawawawawwa finally posted first chapter of my new work!!!

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

[amaranthine-paws]

everyone loves puppybutt !

[venusmage]

looking at custom license plates for shits and giggles and the California DMV terms and conditions have a very strong start

[hauntedfragmentgeode]

Some of the double standards I've noticed among trans people:

When a transfem makes posts about how you can "you should start estrogen", it's treated like detransition rhetoric, and she's demanded to put lengthy disclaimers to prevent her from upsetting AFAB readers

When a transmasc talks about the "miracle of testosterone" or recommending you start it, it's fine.

When a trans social group has mostly trans women, it's a bad sign, and they need to represent transmascs more ASAP

When a trans advocate group is led by mostly trans men, it's just an unfortunate result of random chance

Calling a transmasc whiny is hard misgendering, as only women can be whiny. Calling a trans woman a bro or dude is fine, though. As is directly stating her feminist leanings are due to a mental illness

When a transmasc runs into a transfem kink post by accident, it's the transfems fault and she's treated as on par with sexual predators

When a transmasc directly tells a transfem that she should kiss or even have sex with him instead of arguing, it's funny

Pointing out the objective fact transmasc spaces have a misogyny problem is bioessentialism.

Saying that T makes you a strong man and E will dissolve your muscles is not.

When a transfem distrusts men due to a lifetime of abuse, it's considered a symptom of a disease at best, and can only be stopped through forcing interactions with men.

When a transmasc directly says "I can't relate to women because I'm transmasc and have dysphoria" it's just how people work and you can't force him to do anything.

Telling a transmasc he benefits from male privileged at all is considered a grievous insult, and a denial of every problem he has

Transfems must be reminded of every bit of privilege they get at every possible moment, including lack of periods or pregnancy.

This is not even close to the full list of double standards. People often mockingly ask how male privilege is supposed to help trans people. It's hard to answer, not because they epic owned me, but because expecting a single solid ubiquitous answer ignores that privilege is not that easy to point at. It's a lot of small things, each one appearing minor but building up to something that can't possible be denied... except by those that benefit from it.

[transsexual-feminism]

This is transfeminism!

[lasagnasdfk]

you know you don't even have to make a field if you populate it exclusively by strawmen right?

[doggirl-witha-bloggirl]

I've either personally experienced or witnessed each and every one of these interactions. So have several people I know IRL. It's really wierd you decided to outright dismiss these experiences and then outright claim OP is being purposefully misleading.

[lasagnasdfk]

hmm yes. I suffered at the hands of a loud minority. must be reflective of the fact that these whiny transandrocunts have it too easy while we ontologically pure trans women are as always bearing all the suffering of the world. wait what was that with testosterone being a class iii controlled substance?

[doggirl-witha-bloggirl]

Now who's strawmanning 😭😭😭

[hauntedfragmentgeode]

Some of the double standards I've noticed among trans people:

When a transfem makes posts about how you can "you should start estrogen", it's treated like detransition rhetoric, and she's demanded to put lengthy disclaimers to prevent her from upsetting AFAB readers

When a transmasc talks about the "miracle of testosterone" or recommending you start it, it's fine.

When a trans social group has mostly trans women, it's a bad sign, and they need to represent transmascs more ASAP

When a trans advocate group is led by mostly trans men, it's just an unfortunate result of random chance

Calling a transmasc whiny is hard misgendering, as only women can be whiny. Calling a trans woman a bro or dude is fine, though. As is directly stating her feminist leanings are due to a mental illness

When a transmasc runs into a transfem kink post by accident, it's the transfems fault and she's treated as on par with sexual predators

When a transmasc directly tells a transfem that she should kiss or even have sex with him instead of arguing, it's funny

Pointing out the objective fact transmasc spaces have a misogyny problem is bioessentialism.

Saying that T makes you a strong man and E will dissolve your muscles is not.

When a transfem distrusts men due to a lifetime of abuse, it's considered a symptom of a disease at best, and can only be stopped through forcing interactions with men.

When a transmasc directly says "I can't relate to women because I'm transmasc and have dysphoria" it's just how people work and you can't force him to do anything.

Telling a transmasc he benefits from male privileged at all is considered a grievous insult, and a denial of every problem he has

Transfems must be reminded of every bit of privilege they get at every possible moment, including lack of periods or pregnancy.

This is not even close to the full list of double standards. People often mockingly ask how male privilege is supposed to help trans people. It's hard to answer, not because they epic owned me, but because expecting a single solid ubiquitous answer ignores that privilege is not that easy to point at. It's a lot of small things, each one appearing minor but building up to something that can't possible be denied... except by those that benefit from it.

[filmphotofranz]

[mikus-sleepiest]

[shencomix]

YIPPEE!!!

[vampirekoolaid]

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[dear-girl-something]

kids will be like "appy juice is my favorite" and when you ask why theyll say its because of dialectical materialism

[gothgirllipstick]

Being forced to maintain eye contact while they pump their load deep inside me and tell me they just needed to use me like this

[gondorrevealparty]

my wizardgirl keeps mage regressing during the big boss fight, throwing out level 1 Ice Bolt and giggling like we're supposed to find it cute. I know this bitch can do a level 12 modified Frosthammer Vortex. It's not even hard for her. But the Wyvern Queen, who we're supposed to be killing, keeps going "Wow, that was a really big spell for you! good job giving me -1 speed! You're soooo powerful!" and my fuckass mage is beaming at her with those big wet eyes. I don't care if you get "level dysphoria" from your gigantic big-girl mana pool I'm about to die out here

[emilycomics]

[cutegirlinnocedotnt]

[storyweavingspider]

“Threatening me on my birthday when I’ve explicitly said I would not spend my birthday dealing with you and would talk with you later in the week, after I’ve tolerated you threatening to HAL me again using your platform repeatedly” is a wild way to try and show me that you can exist healthily in a community.

Literally all I fucking wanted was to not leave behind another disabled Black trans woman even if she was fucking her shit up by her own actions and instead I get to deal with this “abuse 102” fuckin shit and her dragging others into it. Someone not directly tied into and harmed all this shit can help you, I’m done. I understand you experienced a mental break and are desperately trying to reclaim a modicum of power and control that you never had over me, but fuck off with this shit.

Leave me alone and this is the end of it. If you do, nothing else you’ve said or done comes out. If you can’t take an L and decide to make it my problem further because you have no restraint, then I guess we’ll play that game and you’ll be forced to take an L because you only have the same old shit about me whereas I got pipin hot never before seen shit about you. Regardless, I will not be responding to you privately again unless someone else vouches they helped you recover.

[sapphicsounds1312]

As someone who discovered she was disabled as an adult, and suddenly understood why so many things that come naturally to her peers she could barely manage at all (and at personal cost usually), who haa seen herself and been seen by others as abled, all while struggling with disabilies she didn't even know she had, who has historically been a bit more willful than friends who she often needed to stick up for, who has struggled with allowing herself to be vulnerable, and frequently finds herself shouldering other's burdens, I find the idea of affini florets very compelling and comforting.

Nobody slips through the cracks, everybody gets the love and care they need, even when at first glance they seem to be very capable and held together. And there's no shame in it, just an understanding that the burdens you were expected to bear are too much for you.

There's also something very compelling about people who are meant to be your peers seeing that, despite how things seem at first glance, you actually aren't like them, you can't keep up with them, and they see past the facade of "I can do anything you can" and recognize that you can't, actually. That the things which come so naturally to them are hurting you, and even though it looks like you're keeping up, one peak behind the curtan reveals just how much you're struggling, and that's okay. You don't have to be this way if it's hurting you.

I find immense comfort in the idea of being told "hey it's okay, you don't have to be like us, you don't have to struggle to keep up just because it seems like you should be able to. You don't have to be one of, and we won't jusge you for it."

When I create HDG I am writing a world where just like some humans aren't cut out to be human, some adults aren't cut out to be adults, some people aren't cut out to be people, so too are some affini not cut out to be affini. And they are worthy of all the love in the universe, just as every other floret is.

[greatwyrmgold]

Maybe this is an unpopular hot take, but I think a good monster girl design should struggle with day-to-day life in a human world. If your monster girl can live a normal human life where her greatest inconvenience is wet dog smell or people assuming her tail is fake, you need to mix more monster in your girl.

Harpies who can't write or type or open most containers with their wings. Werewolves who worry about hurting someone if they get overstimulated at the wrong time. Minotaurs with digestive systems and metabolisms which require grazing throughout the day, not the three big meals humans are used to.

Lamias who have to stay home in the evenings and during cold months to stay warm, otherwise their muscles stop working right and they get stranded. And they're sick of their human friends suggesting they get some kind of tail sweater. It wouldn't help, the problem is that their body doesn't produce enough heat to begin with, and anyways a tail garment would get in the way of their rectilinear locomotion, and there's no way a sweater would survive being walked on in the first place. It feels like they don't actually care about you being stuck at home whenever they go out, they just want to feel like it's not their fault they never see you.

If your monster girl can't be read as some kind of disability allegory, you're doing something wrong.

[waypup]

Mechsplo is kiki

HDG is bouba

i will not elaborate