be my friend, maybe kiss me

Lor. Age unknown. Any pronouns. A collection of rats pretending to be human-ish. Likes pets, art, fanfic, pretty words, and moths . Almost always confused. Currently obsessed with Aaron Stampler. I wrote the Belin fic.

[teathattast]

[william-s-churros]

i think i saw a movie like this once

[maidslime]

Ok I needed to know the story and

Guy makes a really stupid decision and gets in a car accident -> no real damage from accident but insurance goes up -> starts beating himself up over his stupid decision -> gets depressed -> starts to realize he's single and had crash been worse he'd die alone -> realizes he's never had a relationship or even a crush and starts wondering what he'd want out of a relationship -> starts to realize he doesn't really like girls so he thinks he must be gay -> realizes he likes girls and boys about the same amount, so he must be bi -> later realizes that "same amount" is none at all -> he's ace

[aroace-ryland-grace]

the sewing machine is like if a horse and an inkjet printer had a child

[asteroidtroglodyte]

Nature Documentary: these deep sea creatures can withstand crushing pressures of thousands of pounds per square inch!

Me: they’re not withstanding a goddamn thing. The pressure is a part of them. Their interiors and exteriors are equalized. Just because your respiratory system is built around a pair of fragile poppable bubbles-

[tall]

[i-enact-postvore]

You ever think about many peices of media have zero women and thats just perfectly normal but if a peice of media has an all female cast people get... like that? Women should be allowed to kill over this btw

[loveshoplifter]

same but it's black people

[i-enact-postvore]

That's right

[homunculus-argument]

There has to be a way to dress gothy and masc in a way that's also comfy. Like "clothes that could also double as pyjamas" level of comfy wear.

[gromqueer]

sweatpants?

[homunculus-argument]

Do you have tips on how to style sweatpants in a dressy, goth way?

[vinylcatlocket]

pick a pair of pants at the thrift store that you think are nice looking and comfy. then pair it with a t-shirt from the menswear section. make sure it calls to you. personalise it if you feel like changing anything about it. you have to dress like who you are authentically.

if your most authentic self is goth, and the way you sourced the clothes is more faithful to goth values, then it's going to be a super comfy goth outfit.

remember, goth is not a look, so much as it is a lifestyle. you have to have the values and practices and the aesthetic will follow

[homunculus-argument]

The problem is the first sentence: there is no known overlap between "looks good" and "comfy".

[caffeinatedpunk]

I have a few ideas but depends on how much effort you want to put on it. Diy is not only a punk feature, goths have always diy'd their clothes. I am more punk than goth but the two are not that far! They are like alt cousins :)

Quickest and easiest way to make a pair of sweatpants look goth is to bleach them. You could either dilute it and spray it on the pants or put a bit of bleach in a container, take a brush and just splash it on the pants. Leave them outside in the sun for a bit and wash them (do not put them with other clothes just to be sure you are not ruining anything). I'll say one hour and you have your personal pair of goth sweatpants.

Another thing you could do is to put holes in them. Take a pair of scissor, cut a small hole and then bush a razor on it to give it a more ripped look.

If you have more time, a bit of money and you want to try something more complicated, you can sew patches, paint them, add some metal eyelets (idk if that's how they are called in english. The metal things in the shoe where you put your laces in), chains, etc.

As for the top, band shirts!! Black shirts!! Black tank tops!! Halloween themed stuff!! You can also find them already goth enough or add patches, pins, laces, etc etc. Same goes for sweatshirts! Be creative! And also accessories!! Spike bracelets, necklaces, etc can change the look and make it more goth even if you are just wearing a pajamas.

Definitely look at old goths looks. They can be the source of great inspiration for diys. You do not need any fancy or expensive equipment or that much experience to make cool things. And remember that all of these subcultures are about breaking societal norms and expectations. So honestly going around in your pjs sounds very goth!!!

[homunculus-argument]

I think people misunderstood what I meant with the sweatpants: I do not want to be seen in public in sweatpants. I would rather just go with no pants at all than have to wear those in public, but unfortunately that attracts unwanted attention.

When I said "I don't want to look like I'm wearing sweatpants", I did not mean "if only there was a way for me to wear sweatpants", I meant "I do not want to be a person who wears sweatpants in public".

If I said "I hate lemons so much that I'd rather eat human shit than touch a lemon", that does not mean that I am looking for suggestions on how to safely consume feces. This is not directed at you personally, I always get misunderstood in ways like this and I don't know how to make it stop happening every time I open my mouth.

[nurmilintunen]

You could try being more specific from the beginning. People are not gonna be able to guess that "clothes that could also double as pyjamas" and "gothy and masc" also mean that you absolutely do not want to be seen wearing sweatpants in public, since you also asked for further tips to make sweatpants look less casual. They will assume you want something comfortable and casual (because you said pyjamas) and since you were curious about how to style sweatpants in a goth, dressy way they're going to go down that road. You did say dressy, but that one word will not communicate that sweatpants are off the list.

You said there's no way to make something comfy and look good, but people don't innately know "what looking good" to you means, and it can't be sweatpants at all and you would not want to even be seen in public in them. If you want to find tips to feel comfortable in dressy clothing you have to say that from the beginning as well.

It's like you're setting invisible tripwires for people by assuming there's more meaning to your words than you're actually communicating with them. Of course people are gonna trip.

And showing more appreciation when people take their time to give you advice, even if they misunderstand would be good. Now you're just rewarding them with a slap on the face by always emphasizing how little they understood you - that can make people feel dumb and embarassed for trying to help at all.

[homunculus-argument]

I definitely fucked the dog with the way I put myself in words again. I regret doing that and will unfortunately do it again, because if I knew how to stop doing that, I would. I should have been more clear at the start about trying to find something that FEELS COMFORTABLE but simultaneously DOES NOT LOOK CASUAL. No streetwear, no sportswear, no underwear, no camping gear. I had not really clarified the requirements to myself before posting.

It's much less intentionally setting tripwires and more like forgetting to tell people that there's no floor in the kitchen. And neither side understands why we're not in the same room anymore.

[theonyxstate]

sounds like it might be an america-raised vs europe-raised thing? as an eastern european i instantly knew what op meant and maybe its just that "looking good" here is not something youd do by wearing sweatpants?

[homunculus-argument]

If you walk up to someone here who's wearing sweatpants and say "I like your outfit!" you're going to get a nose-breaking headbutt, because that can only be taken as sarcasm, and interpreted as you saying "I notice that you're in a bad place in your life right now, and I want you to know that it shows! :)"

[stagalactic]

Not sure if this still fits in the range of gothy, but would you consider things like these to be sweatpants? To me these look like normal pants but I don't know if a European would see this as too sweatpants-like.

The only other suggestion I would have would be like.. Tripp pants 🤷

[homunculus-argument]

Would I be able to sit like this in them?

[ally-to-person-pipeline]

Do you consider jeans as casual? If not, have you considered jeans with elastane added? There are some black models I’ve seen in stores that offer significant more flexibility than classic jeans. That might be a starting point for further modifications style wise, and if I am not mistaken you should be able to sit in the aforementioned positions. Growing cat fur might be an extra step needed for one of them, but the other seem plausible at least.

[homunculus-argument]

Unfortunately denim is so thick and stiff as a fabric that the bunched up folds hurt when you try to pretzel yourself.

[vinylcatlocket]

slacks. you want slacks.

get these (super super comfy and dressed up) and add whatever you feel like adding. world's your oyster.

[homunculus-argument]

I made the original post while suffering in my slacks. I have fat thighs.

[whotooklortan]

OP I know I reblogged earlier with a suggestion based on my own personal style and childhood experiences of living in multiple time periods, but I want to now apologize and wish you much luck because unfortunately i think tumblr is pissing on the poor again and you are the poor. I hope your inbox falls silent and you one day find the pants of your dreams, separated completely from all of us.

[my-dailydreams]

[unofficial-autism-post]

Unofficial Autism Post

[atombombtom]

[atombombtom]

[gatheringbones]

tbh a lot of my advice boils down to “hey you know that terrible horrible looming thing you’re doing your best to avoid and distract and escape as much as possible but no matter what you do it just keeps looming and looming and ruining your life”

“just, fuckign, run straight at it screaming.”

[quasarkisses]

i needed this as a background

[spectrexviiii]

[whotooklortan]

A critical flaw in YA is that love triangles are so prevalent as some sort of obstacle, when really they should be the solution. Get yourself a good boyfriend and an evil one, no choices necessary, problem solved.

[simplysnaps]

Hannah Montana is fucked up because its entire POINT as a show is that children should be protected from fame and exploitation, but it stars a REAL little girl that's being exploited. Nearly every episode carries the looming threat of Miley being outed as Hannah and losing her peaceful teenage life to the ravages of fame. Her father in the show (played by her own father in real life) wisely protected her from the trauma of fame by making her wear a disguise and live a rather quiet, interview-free life. Meanwhile the REAL Billy Ray Cyrus sold his daughter to Disney Channel when she was 11 and forced her to read dialogue about how terrible it would be to face the public eye. Like... Jesus, dude. The fictional Robby Ray is 10x the father, and it's not even close. (It's also IMMENSELY funny that her dad doesn't use his real name in the show, while she does. Almost like he wanted a bit of a disconnect between his identity and his character. Something Miley didn't get.)

[homunculus-argument]

There has to be a way to dress gothy and masc in a way that's also comfy. Like "clothes that could also double as pyjamas" level of comfy wear.

[gromqueer]

sweatpants?

[homunculus-argument]

Do you have tips on how to style sweatpants in a dressy, goth way?

[voidkittyloona]

you can get black sweat pants online from any store or goth specific stores if you want a definitive goth look with skulls and crosses or rips and shit, but to be really honest? As a goth myself, I just wear cheap thrifted shit thgat came black or I dyed black and an oversized hoodie with whatever band i like or skull pattern fits the vibe of the day. Oversized shirts and tank tops also work.

you're not gonna make them look fancy, im sorry. Casual is a genre and it clashes with dressy or fancy.

[homunculus-argument]

I don't want to look like I'm wearing sweatpants. I don't want my "it's illegal to be naked so I just threw some shit on" outfits to look like I just threw some shit on because it's illegal to be naked.

[whotooklortan]

You’ll have to acquire some form of pirate top made out of a comfortable fabric. Not super fitted, ideally with some bigass sleeves. The bigger the sleeves, the wealthier and more manly you are. Over that you will want a waistcoat, small enough to cinch in the shirt, but soft enough to still be comfortable. It will provide similar dramatic function as a corset, just softer form, and more traditionally masculine. Next acquire some loose linen pants. You can find them patterned, you can find them gathered at the ankles, you can find them cut below the knee, you can find them so loose they’re basically a skirt, you can have pockets, there’s tons of variety here and depending on your definition of masc I think they’ll be your greatest tool for styling here.

Onto accessories. If you accessorize, I would only wear simple things, since you don’t want to distract from your incredibly large and manly sleeves or the debonair drawstring detailing in your shirt. Maybe rings, if you have any especially goth ones. Not needing to accessorize much will increase the lazy outfit factor. Wear whatever black shoes you feel comfortable in. Bonus points if you do one of the easiest most lazy alternative hacks and just add some quick charms or beads to your laces. Boom, instant cool shoes. If you are going outside into a cold climate, I suggest a bigass wool coat in any color that matches the rest of the outfit. Good luck getting your sleeves in. If no wool coat is available, a jacket that just remotely matches the vibe will do. Again, sleeves, but I promise they are worth it. You can sometimes store small object in them. Maybe more rings. I also think a scarf could be nice, and reasonably easy to just throw on and off at will.

I should add a disclaimer that when you say goth, I am influenced by my own personal preferences, which are along the lines of visual kei and romance goth having a baby and then goth lolita delivering the baby. Also I grew up in a tent telling people it was still the 1860s so I have a natural affinity for linen, but I know not everyone will find it comfortable. Still though, if you want comfort and ease of movement but still want to look like a portent of doom or perhaps like you have just been informed that your loved ones have taken ill by cholera, some flowy black linen is your best friend.

[javert]

i think we should stop having "kink at pride" discourse and START having "kink at the 4th of july" discourse. for no reason other than that it would be very funny

[demilypyro]

vampires are so full of shit. "oh the human race is beneath us, you're just livestock to us" I don't think you know what livestock is. do you feed us? care for us? protect us from predators? no. you just slink around dark alleys and ambush people. that's not what a higher being does. that's a bottom feeder. a parasite. karate punches your head off

[septembersung]

[janusfnc14]

She Would Say That. She would DO that.

[funpression]

sometimes you dont eat fruit for awhile and then you eat some fruit and you're like oh fuck its fruit

[dragon-in-a-fez]

y'all know that whole left-brained/right-brained thing is fake right? and the "brain fully develops at age 25" thing? and the "we only use 10% of our brains" thing? yeah they're all complete horseshit please yell at anyone who says them

[dragon-in-a-fez]

okay people are doing nuance in the notes about the kernels of truth in neuroscience myths but I really really need you to understand that that is not important here. people don't believe there are "right-brained" and "left-brained" people because they've misunderstood lateralisation of the central nervous system, they believe it because that binary framework was deliberately pushed by people who wanted to define who was logical enough to lead, and surprise surprise, white adult heterosexual men are left-brained. people don't believe the brain "finishes developing at 25" because they've misunderstood life stage differences in neuroplasticity, they believe it because the idea that children, teens, and young adults have inferior brains is a convenient rationalisation for a society that marginalises them. people don't believe you "only use 10% of your brain" because they misread an fMRI study, they believe it because it's useful bullshit for everyone from hyperindividualist historical revisionists pushing the great genius concept of scientific progress to hucksters recruiting for cults that will teach you to unlock your latent telekinesis for just $5000 a month. that's why it's fucking important to know that many popular science ideas are false and to push back on them loudly and frequently, because they're not just mildly incorrect, they are often active components of systems of violence.