men always believe that an existence without them would leave us unhappy and borderline helpless when in reality, itâs nothing but a projection of their own inadequacy
The biggest contribution to the whole narrative of "Your teenage years/young adulthood is THE BEST PART of your life" comes from a culture that insists on trapping at least half the population in unfulfilling marriages with kids they weren't ready for, or didn't really want, at a point in their life when they haven't even figured out who they are and what they want from life.
So of course the part of life they long for is the part of life where everything is in flux and you don't know what will come next, it leaves open the opportunity to choose a different path.
Older adults telling you that this is as good as it gets are not speaking from a place of experience, they're speaking from a place of regret.
If you can't criticize a particular woman without resorting to female specific slurs, I will never believe that you actually take issue with what she's doing; you just found a target for your misogyny
I don't know how to deal with the fact I'm the only woman in my family that isn't wearing a bra
and not in the way of "I'm the only feminist in my family "
but in the way of "my grandmothers are no longer able to recognize that they have to wash themselves, and clean themselves, because they wet themselve, but they still remember to put a bra on"
more about bras because, apparently, even though I stopped wearing them before I even hit 20, now 10 yrs later, I still have visible arthritis in my shoulders (came up as an observation for smth else, and it's not causing issues as of yet, but it really took me by surprise; now imagine what it looks like if these things are worn much longer; now imagine how it would look like if we didn't encourage wearing smth like this while the body is still in an extreme developmental stage)
when I was younger I used to wonder when and why exactly my familie had stopped the whole "no one will want to marry you" nonsense in response to misbehavior, or just plain "unladylike" behavior, because I can remember that being said to me early on and my grandma finally answered the question for me
apparently as soon as I was old enough to comprehend the idea of heterosexual marriage this threat had the exact opposite effect
if you do X you'll never marry -> cue my child self doing exactly that repeatedly and on purpose lol
now, this has extended to my nices, too, btw, because I see them every day and they love me and model my behavior, too, so no one is coming at them with this kind of crap either đ
not for nothing, but being know as the hard line feminist has some perks(in countries that have at least some protection enshrined into law and social consciousness established to some degree)
usually men expect you to back down once you've voiced your opinion, and if you do, it won't put a dent in their worldview
however, if you make an effort not to fall back onto your female socialization, they usually will back down(in public at least, everything spoken between men can't be known)
and the public thing is what will matter in the long run when it comes to jobs, payment etc(and it is likely to work out if you DON'T TAKE IT BACK the second a higher ranking person walks in)
so, as of now, there is a considerable number of my male colleagues that will point out the misogyny of a new guy and will cut him off before I have a chance to hear about his disgusting opinions in the first place(and I only know about it because other women tell me about it happening after the fact)
shame can work in our favor, so don't leave this tool in the hands of rapists
Hey. If people aren't aware, Microsoft admitted they know who you and where you are at all times and will give your info to the police.
They have a Global Device Identifier (GDID) Tracker that functions as a fingerprint for your PC that can surpass VPNs, proxy servers and countries. Although it can't survive a clean reinstall of Windows (it can survive updates), because Microsoft forces you to go to the internet and log in into a Microsoft account, they will be able to get to you.
Microsoft kept it secret and it was only found out when the FBI tracked a hacker thanks to the information Microsoft gave them.
You should be paying attention to this, and possibly consider moving away from Windows. If a government, especially the US government, doesn't like you for some reason, this could be seriously concerning.
This article specifically notes:
For journalism, activism, or domestic abuse situations, skip Windows and use Linux routed through Tor instead of a commercial VPN. A GDID doesnât care which VPN you use, only that itâs still the same Windows installation.
GDID is the persistent Windows ID that helped FBI trace a Scattered Spider hacker despite VPNs. Here's how it works and how to limit it.
Other important quotes:
What has researchers uneasy is everything else the case reveals. Costin Raiu, a well-known malware researcher, asked on the Three Buddy Problem podcast how much of this exists on other platforms, and whether it is linked more permanently to hardware. Matthew Hickey, another security researcher, called Windows âsurveillance softwareâ.
Two things back that up:
Thereâs no consent screen. A GDID gets assigned when you sign into a Microsoft Account. Appleâs advertising identifier needs an App Tracking Transparency prompt and a visible reset; Androidâs works the same way. GDID has neither, and a Windows reinstall only gets you a new number Microsoft can still get back to the same account.
Then thereâs activation. Massgrave, the group behind Microsoft Activation Scripts, notes that Windows setup sends hardware info to Microsoft and gets identifiers back, the same tokens later used for Store access and licensing: âItâs impossible to prevent Windows from getting a GDID without breaking activation and UWP app[s].â Anyone who lost a license after swapping a motherboard has already met a smaller version of this.
I keep seeing people saying they will "eventually switch to Linux if things get worse".
So? Why am I hearing crickets?
It seriously cannot get worse than this. Microsoft straight up openly admitted that Windows is spyware by definition. They know who you are, they know where you are, they know what you are doing on your computer at all times. VPNs don't help, they can still see and save everything. You cannot turn it off. It is full on surveillance and it has been going on for months without you knowing because there was no consent screen ever.
What ELSE are people waiting for? Even websites focused entirely on windows are telling you to use Linux, essentially accepting the fact that they will lose readers if people follow their advice, because they cannot in good conscience recommend using this OS anymore. This cannot realistically get any worse. I can already see myself eating my words bc Microsoft will find a way to make things even worse but you get what I mean.
This is horrible and needs to be fought with more than âjust switch to linuxâ. Genuinely what are people who have to use programs dependent on Microsoft software only supposed to do in this situation? I have used a LOT of OS and open sources options and there a lot of people who deserve privacy who neither have the technical know how or means due to certain professions (ex. I work in the world of academia and cannot afford a second machine just for work AND my work SHULD be aloud to be private. Iâd have to quiet my career at this moment to detangle from Microsoft). We need tech privacy advocacy and movement NOW for the people that goes beyond âlol this is bad and itâs a personal responsibility just figure it out yourself.â Tech illiterate and professionals deserve cyber secyrity and privacy.
Sometimes Iâm looking for something online - often âhow toâ articles - and I want to filter for - like - a website that was clearly built in 2010 at the latest, which may or may not have been updated since then, but contains a vast wealth of information on one topic, painstakingly organized by an unknown legend in the field with decadesâ worth of experience.
I donât want a listicle with a nice stolen picture in a slideshow format written by a content aggregator that God forgot. I want hand-drawn diagrams by some genius professor who doesnât understand SEO at all, but understands making stir-fries or raising stick insects better than anyone else on this earth. I donât know what search settings to put into Google to get this.
search.marginalia.nu is the search engine you want!
The search engine calculates a score that aggressively favors text-heavy websites, and punishes those that have too many modern web design features.
This is in a sense the opposite of what most major search engines do, they favor modern websites over old-looking ones. Most links you find here will be nearly impossible to find on a regular search engine, as they arenât sufficiently search engine optimized.
âIt is a search engine, designed to help you find what you didnât even know you were looking for. If you search for âPlatoâ, you might for example end up at the Canterbury Tales. Go looking for the Canterbury Tales, and you may stumble upon Neil Gaimanâs blog.
If you are looking for fact, this is almost certainly the wrong tool. If you are looking for serendipity, youâre on the right track. When was the last time you just stumbled onto something interesting, by the way?
I donât expect this will be the next âbigâ search engine. This is and will remain a niche tool for a niche audience.â
i clicked around for a few minutes searching various things and I now have two fourteenth century pie crust recipes and an apple filling recipe i want to try, so thanks!
it has been twenty minutes and I am deeply in love with this search engine.
INCREDIBLE. I *do* want to know how to test Windows 95 for Y2K Compliance and I am glad that someone is still hosting step by step instructions for that.
tl;dr: search.marginalia.nu for the old or old looking and just plain serendipitous stuff that google or Duck duck go are gonna not find/bury on the 20th page. For perfectly good reasons, but âŠ
My absolute favorite part of having made this post - other than causing people to be introduced to this site - are the people in the tags/comments talking about their interests and stuff they found about their hobbies.
Good luck out there surfing the cyberweb, you crazy cats. I love the shoelace website too - Ianâs Shoelace Site [link], unless thereâs another. My personal favorite old-school site is Alysionâs string figure collection [link].
The older i get the more i understand why some people become obsessed with privacy, not because theyâre hiding something, but because being constantly perceived starts to feel spiritually exhausting.
Did you know that soda machines at restaurants and movie theaters spy on you? That most common new cars now record your sexual preferences and send it to the manufacturer (and also data about anyone who also gets in your car, walks by your car, and maybe happens to be within visual range of your car)? That grocery stores are trying to force customers to download an app to scan barcodes on shelves instead of putting up prices, so the app can scan the phone, decide how much that customer should be squeezed for, and adjust the price? That more and more innocent people are being sent to jail for crimes committed hundreds of miles away because an AI facial recognition algorithm spit their faces out and the cops didn't bother to do the most basic of checks?
I am not uptight about privacy because I'm hiding something. I'm uptight about it because the people who dismiss my right to privacy are dangerous to you and me and our families, personally, all the time.
Punkto der Causa Leihmutterschaft und Jens Spahn: Es zeigt, dass ein bloĂes Verbot der Leihmutterschaft innerhalb eines Landes nicht reicht. Diese Dienstleistung, die das Produkt namens Kind hervorbringt, mĂŒsste als Menschenhandel eingestuft werden, wodurch sich dann die KĂ€ufer als wissentliche NutznieĂer von Menschenhandel ĂŒberall strafbar machen.
Now that everyone is discussing Nolan's Odyssey movie, I feel like it's a good time to let non-Italians know that the production dumped plastic props into the Italian sea. Weirdly enough I could not find any article in English about it but it's a fucking problem nonetheless.
I might translate this article later today. This one was the most complete one, even in Italian news it's not talked about that much.
Non Ăš la prima volta che la produzione solleva un vespaio in Sicilia. A Lipari una squadra di sub sarebbe perĂČ giĂ impegnata a bonificare i
They dumped plastic skeletons in environmentally protected areas, against the literal contracts they had to sign to get the permits to film in environmentally protected areas. Like they not only did a bad ecological thing that freaked out some divers, they literally broke environmental protection laws and their contract with the Italian government
