Ari the Fennec

Autistic, demi-verbal ~ 28yo ~ Nonbinary/Genderqueer/Queer ~ it/its, they/them~ Polyamorous Demiromantic Pansexual ~ Pagan Witch ~ Vegetarian ~ Stim Loving ~ ADHD ~ Almost everything hurts constantly

[witchy-fennec]

So, I don’t really fit the term semiverbal, but I definitely don’t fit as a fully verbal autistic either. Because of this, I’ve been thinking of what a good term would be for sorta verbal (aka can reliably talk a decent amount of the time, but also has plenty of verbal shutdowns, and a little trouble speaking in a way that’s usually not all that hindering when able to speak) autistic. I decided on demi-verbal and think this sums up my experiences pretty well. I’ve never seen demi-verbal anywhere and searching for it brought up nothing.

Demi-verbal:

Can reliably speak most of the day for most days of the week

Verbal shutdowns happen anywhere from a few times a week to a few times a month, possibly for no apparent reason

May experience some level of difficulty with mouth words, anywhere between slight difficulty only a little of the time to half the time

Please respect nonverbal/non-speaking and semiverbal/semi-speaking autistics and listen when they tell you not to use (and thus misuse) a word/words that was coined specifically for nonverbal/non-speaking and/or semiverbal/semi-speaking autistics. Those words/terms were coined for a reason.

[disabled-dippy]

My Disability Studies professor said something that I think was very good and explains a lot about professional attitudes toward people with disabilities. This is what she said:

“We [people with disabilities] are the last thing on the HR discrimination list. Companies always list things like, ‘we eliminate discrimination on the basis of gender, race, religion, nationality, identity… oh, and disability.’ It’s just tacked on at the end. The others are mostly about being nice, respectful, and treating people equally. Not discriminating against people with disabilities is more complicated. You need to change your environment, code, the way you design things. You actually need to make changes, and most companies do not want to do that.”

I thought this was a really good insight. We’re often thought about last, if we’re thought about at all. Accommodating us takes effort and a lot of people just don’t want to make the effort.

[hexpositive]

Hex Positive, Ep. 048 - Land Healing with Dana O'Driscoll

Now available on the Nerd & Tie Podcast Network and your favorite podcatcher!

Multi-talented author, artist, permaculturist, and head of the AODA Dana O’Driscoll drops by the virtual studio to discuss her newest book, “Land Healing: Physical, Metaphysical, and Ritual Practices for Healing the Earth.” Among the topics discussed are processes and procedures for connecting with the land spirits where you live, what’s in a crane bag, and how we can practice good stewardship and become responsible ancestors.

Check out her other works – 

Sacred Actions: Living the Wheel of the Year Through Earth-Centered Sustainable Practices The Plant Spirit Oracle The Druids Garden blog The Druids Garden etsy shop

Visit the Willow Wings Witch Shop on Shopify and check out this month’s featured items. Make sure you also visit the Redbubble page for even more cool merch!

Check my ⁠⁠Wordpress⁠⁠ for full show notes, as well as show notes for past episodes and information on upcoming events. You can find me as @BreeNicGarran on TikTok, Instagram, and WordPress, or as @breelandwalker on tumblr. For more information on how to support the show and get access to early releases and extra content, visit my ⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠.

Proud member of the ⁠⁠Nerd and Tie Podcast Network⁠⁠.

See you in October!

Upcoming Events:

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Cottage Witch Market Sunday, July 28 2024, 12pm-6pm Diversity Richmond 1407 Sherwood Ave, Richmond VA Hosted by River City Witch Markets

Free Spirit Gathering August 6-11, 2024 Camp Ramblewood, Darlington MD Free Spirit Gathering Website⁠ ⁠Use my referral link to sign up!⁠ ⁠Free Spirit Gathering Policies⁠  (PLEASE READ IF PLANNING TO ATTEND)

Norse Witch Market Sunday, August 18 2024, 12pm-5pm Diversity Richmond 1407 Sherwood Ave, Richmond VA Hosted by River City Witch Markets

Pumpkin Witch Market Sunday, Sept 22 2024, 12pm-5pm Diversity Richmond 1407 Sherwood Ave, Richmond VA Hosted by River City Witch Markets

CritWitchCon 2024 September 27-29, 2024 Online Gathering via Zoom “Perception / Perspective Check” Hosted by Critical Thinking Witch Collective

MUSIC CREDITS

Intro & Outro – “Spellbound” & “Miri’s Magic Dance” Host-Read Ads – “Danse Macabre – Violin Hook” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

[actuallyitsstar]

hey so let’s rant for a second, it being aromantic awareness week and all

the social hierarchy of relationships according to the world is actually garbage

as an aromantic person, i do not experience romantic attraction. i do not happen to want a romantic relationship. some aros might, and that’s great. but lots don’t. i’m one of them that does not.

i’m ? just so over the way people ? treat platonic love ?

friendships are lesser. friends are “JUST friends” and romance is “MORE than friends”. you consult your romantic partner when you make a decision but if you consult your friends, people say ‘they’re just your friends, what they think doesn’t matter’.

what’s the difference? you’re telling me that a friend you kiss is inherently more valuable than one you don’t? you’re telling me that people can only be intimate and rely on each other if they’re ‘dating’?

you see friends that are very close and you say “they must be dating in secret, no friends are that close to each other.”

i say my dream relationship is just to have a very close best friend and you say that’s not a very big goal? do you know how hard it is to really find someone like that for you without the promise of dating or sex attached?

this aromantic spectrum awareness week, please remember that platonic love is important. please stop saying “just friends” or “more than friends”. no type of love or relationship is inherently more or less important than any other. let people prioritize and define their own relationships. _________________________________________________________

↪ AROMANTIC SPECTRUM AWARENESS WEEK; DAY 4/7 | PLATONIC LOVE MATTERS  If you like this, please  ❤  or reblog. Help us spread that aromantic awareness!

[wrunic]

My best friend, very excitedly: I’M A NON-STICK PAN. TELL THE TUMBLRS AROMANTIC PANSEXUALS ARE NON-STICK PANS

[shencomix]

[pusheen]

[celluloidbroomcloset]

I do really enjoy that OFMD tries to represent a lot of different flavors of queerness and heterosexuality. You’ve got Stede and Ed, who are intensely into each other, and their relationship starts out as friendship and becomes both romantic and sexual (with Stede himself only reaching the sexual part once he understands the romantic part). It’s a first for them both and it’s also obviously a forever.

You’ve got Lucius and Pete, who start out with casual sex that eventually becomes a committed relationship and marriage. You’ve got Jim and Olu, who start as friends and develop romantic and sexual feelings, then also develop romantic feelings for other people, and are all OK and happy with that. You’ve got Buttons, who is in love with the sea! You’ve got Annie and Mary, who are also in a committed relationship but struggle a great deal with what they want. And other crew members—Roach, Frenchie, Wee John—who don’t pair off at all, don’t even seem interested in it.

You’ve got Mary and Doug, who are a happy heterosexual couple, not compelled to be heterosexual. Compulsory heterosexuality is bad, not heterosexuality. And compelling any of the queer people to be a particular way in order to be “correctly” queer would also be bad (we’ve talked before about how Izzy and Jack don’t treat queerness as bad, but are offended by a certain KIND of queerness). Overall, it’s lovely, positive representation across the board.

[creative-anchorage]

Tag by @kityana: #and jackie and her husbands!!

[fullmetalfisting]

My mom periodically drives by my house and sends me messages about how she thinks my lawn looks and I’ve stopped being normal in my replies

[fittingoutjane]

Pro tip: If you don't water the lawn, it needs far less mowing.

In a moderately damp temperate climate, an unwatered lawn just gets a bit yellow in the dry summer, and then greens up again when it rains. If you live in a climate so dry that failing to water actually kills it, great news! Now your non-native grass is dead and you can replace it with something lower maintenance.

Source: I own a house with a lawn and I am lazy. That's what I'm a pro at.

[taoistyuri]

this is among one of the funniest ask i have ever seen someone get sorry

[kuromi-hoemie]

[spank-the-villain]

On a serious note, this is why I hate vague or unexplained medical advice. "Take this before bed" Is it because you think I go to sleep at night? Does the medication causes sun sensitivity? Is it because you think it will make me sleepy and you don't want me driving on it? Is it because I'm supposed to not eat anything for several hours after taking it? Let me know. My lifestyle may not be what you think it is. "Take this with food" Is it because it's slightly better absorbed that way? If I don't, will it give me mild nausea or put a hole in my stomach lining? Be clear. "Take this the same time every day" Very strictly or is it okay in the 20-26 hour range? Trust me, this matters.

[yorksnapshots]

Waves and Time.

An artwork by Chris Drury inspired by the ice and water that shaped the landscape, incorporates a dewpond. Yorkshire Wolds, England. 

[uncanny-tranny]

As a trans man who has had to put painstaking work into body positivity, body neutrality, and my own sense of manhood, I can't help but feel so bad for men who have, seemingly, never felt permission to have any positive feelings about their body and their manhood.

Yes, body positivity and body neutrality are for you, men. You owe nobody washboard abs, or beautiful facial hair, or clear skin, or unblemished skin, or "masculine" features. Genuinely, you are under no obligation to perform any of it. The weight of those expectations is genuinely suffocating. Let yourself remove that yoke from your shoulders and actually live.

[zerozerozio]

bring back tumblr ask culture let me. bother you with questions and statements

[boimann]

reblog to let people know it's ok to bother you with questions and statements

[bacony-cakes]

please bother me with questions and statements

[inkinary]

YES

PLEASE DO. I LOVE ENGAGEMENT IN MY ENCLOSURE

[hyeoni-comb]

Autistic misunderstandings are caused less by how we communicate, and more by a mismatch between us and other neurotypes. Every time I was misunderstanding someone, they were also misunderstanding me.

— from What I Mean When I Say I'm Autistic by Annie Kotowicz

[hyeoni-comb]

No one told me that it's fine to keep things just because they feel nice. No one told me that it's perfectly acceptable, even as an adult, to line up a row of soft blocks and push down on each one, feeling it flatten and watching it rise again, as a calming break from a chaotic world. No one told me, because I never asked. I just assumed it wasn't okay, because it wasn't what other people did. I've grown better at accepting what I enjoy. First, though, I had to get better at noticing what I enjoy, and why.

— from What I Mean When I Say I'm Autistic by Annie Kotowicz

[revelingrexan]

Villainous videos in English

The things new Villainous fans have to do to watch all the content is weirdly nonintuitive, especially if they don’t know Spanish. So! Here I’ve collected what we’ve got into one post! Thanks especially to @nightfurmoon​ for translating so much!

Bit of a long post, so more images and links under the cut! Most of the linked videos have English subtitles and Spanish audio, unless noted otherwise.

Teaser trailer (English)

“The Dreadful Dawn” (pilot episode, English audio)

Pilot episode: English subtitles and Spanish audio

Keep reading

[anxietyproblem]