The (Wo)man in the Chair

Hi, I'm Soumya - 22, Lesbian, Indian. This blog is loads of fandoms, and punny stuff built on a solid foundation of feminism and racial equality!

[giveemhales]

“Shane is Ilya’s nagging wife” this, “no, Shane is Ilya’s enabler” that. Actually you’re all wrong. He is both.

He loves when Ilya is a menace. “Asshole” is his favorite pet name for him and “fuck off” is basically dirty talk. Ilya wants to party with Centaurs after a game? “Go have fun babe.” Ilya is relentlessly chirping another player? “Well he didn’t say anything that wasn’t true.” Ilya wants to blow Shane while he’s on a phone call? We canonically know how that goes.

But he does not fuck around with his man’s health and safety. Ilya can get into any mischief he wants until there’s a chance it could actually endanger him and that’s when Strict Shane has arrived. No, ilya cannot smoke cigarettes, Shane is not losing his man to lung cancer. Yes, Shane will lather Ilya up in sunscreen every summer and make him wear a daily SPF 50 moisturizer, Shane is not losing his man to skin cancer. He’s limiting his McDonald’s intake bc his man is not going to get heart disease. He’s making him get safer cars bc if Ilya dies from driving recklessly, Shane will bring him back to life just to kill him again. He wasted almost a decade not getting to be with Ilya the way he wanted and he’ll be damned if he lets anything (including Ilya) shorten their time together.

So now there’s this perception that Shane has Ilya on a tight leash. That he won’t let Ilya ever have fun and that Shane has domesticated him and Ilya is stuck under Shane’s thumb. Meanwhile Shane is actively egging Ilya on when he’s being a little shit. Shane is even bitchier and freakier than Ilya and it is so funny to Ilya that the world is so wrong about him.

It is not so funny to Ilya when someone tries to tell Shane to be less strict with Ilya. That is unacceptable. Ilya loves when his husband is citing statistics about lung cancer to him and making him his gross (healthy) smoothies and making sure he does the appropriate stretches before a workout and making him drink a glass of water in between drinks so he doesn’t get too hungover. Ilya has never had anyone who cared enough to “nag” him every day about his health (the closest was his mother but even then he often ended being the one who had to focus on her health). Shane being strict makes him feel so loved. He’s genuinely upset if Shane tries to “loosen his leash” bc Shane’s lectures are how he knows Shane cares. It’s proof that Shane wants forever with Ilya just as much as Ilya does.

Shane is both an enabler and a nagging husband. His only priority is a happy and healthy Ilya. And Ilya is exactly where he wants to be.

[winchestergifs]

STACKEDNATURAL ⇉ 252.5/327 (part 2)

8.19 Taxi Driver Written by Eugenie Ross-Leming & Brad Buckner Directed by Guy Bee Original Air Date: April 3, 2013

[utopians]

Passed the White Pharaoh on the freeway

[laikathestar]

[sonicxshadowgenerations]

[ratbastarddotfuck]

you have to forgive the printer because it's one of the most machine-ass machines we interact with on a day to day basis. that thing says kerchunk. hardly anything says kerchunk these days. you can't get mad at her when she kerchunks up a little.

[digitalsymbiote]

Crazy that tech has gotten so bad that we're doing printer forgiveness now

[barbia1]

I’m so tired of this fandom constantly dog-piling Hudson Williams. He has openly admitted that when he was younger, he was trying to fit in, made mistakes, and surrounded himself with the wrong people. He’s acknowledged it, taken accountability, and has said he’s ashamed of some of the things he did.

Yet people have been relentlessly attacking him since December, as if they expect him to be punished forever for mistakes he has already owned up to. Do any of you ever stop to think about what this kind of constant harassment does to someone’s mental health?

What’s even more disturbing is seeing people say they won’t stop until he kills himself. That is beyond criticism that is bullying. No one deserves that.

You don’t have to like him, support him, or forgive him, but encouraging or celebrating the destruction of someone’s mental health is genuinely messed up. Do better.

[cocklessboy]

The other day I told a friend of mine that I never forget to take my ADHD meds because I fucking love my ADHD meds. I'm in my late 30s, I didn't finally get a diagnosis and meds until less than two years ago, and they have changed my entire life.

And he raised his eyebrow at me. We'd been discussing addictive medications a few minutes before, like the Tramadol I finally got from the pain specialist to take once a week or so to give me a break from my chronic pain, so I reassured him that methylpenidate (Ritalin/Concerta) is not addictive (at least not in people with ADHD).

His response? To raise his eyebrow even harder and say "Well it sure SOUNDS like it's addictive!"

And I had to explain to this man - who works in a healthcare related job by the way - that just because medication makes you feel good and helps you, just because you look forward to taking it, that doesn't make it addictive or dangerous. And he wasn't convinced.

The simple fact that I was excited to take a daily pill that has literally changed my life, after decades of fighting to get that medication, made him think I shouldn't be taking it so often. That it must inherently be dangerous.

I'm not even in America, but I'm pretty sure this attitude began there and then spread over here to Europe. This Puritan idea of "if something feels good, you must beware of it. Pleasure is dangerous, it is sinful, it is addiction, it is evil."

I know too many people who subconsciously believe that pleasure = addictive = dangerous = bad. Joy is a slippery slope to hell.

So here is your reminder for today that you don't need to be afraid of feeling good. If something improves your life, use it. Even if it is addictive - learn what that addiction means, whether the addiction is inherently dangerous or not, and whether the benefits outweigh the drawbacks and risks.

My ADHD meds are, in fact, not addictive. But I will take them every day because they make my life orders of magnitude easier. I will enjoy them every time I take them.

My tramadol is addictive. I will still take it. I will keep it on a schedule to avoid becoming addicted, primarily because addiction in this case would mean reduced effectiveness. But I am not afraid of my painkillers. They are life changing.

Take your meds, everyone. Don't let anyone scare you away from doing something that improves your life.

[inbabylontheywept]

There is something so sinister about the idea that a medication made to improve your life cannot be trusted if it improves your life so much that you like taking it. Bleh.

[inbabylontheywept]

It puts this weird moral obligation on suffering. Like if you’re actually comfortable with yourself and your treatment you’re somehow failing. That you need to be ashamed somehow that the medication helps you and need to be looking for alternatives.

But you don’t. You found a solution that worked great and then you moved on to something else.

[shanesloverboy]

The amount of people who don't understand that Hudson Williams was the victim of a hate crime is insane

[bluegrasshole]

we all live such different lives

[kaijuerotica]

[parcai]

i really do need snipers to come out on behalf of every actor of color. it happens every fucking time. god forbid everyone actually love and appreciate and see the brilliance in a man of color—intelligent, charismatic, magnetic, attractive (and the sex appeal is acknowledged by white people), more talent in his fingernail than most people have in their whole body—and the world still can’t just let that exist without immediately picking it apart or trying to diminish it

[catchymemes]

[shanesloverboy]

Unfortunately Hudson Williams committed several grave sins to the internet:

Masculanized an Asian character

Became a heartthrob as a POC

Gave an award-winning performance for a neurodivergent character

Is dating a woman after playing a gay man

Gets just as much praise as his white costar

Doesn't censor himself to fit in

IS AN ASIAN MAN WHO HAS PEOPLE ALL OVER THE WORLD SO DIABOLICALLY DOWN BAD FOR HIM

[penandinkprincess]

Something that hasn’t been discussed amongst all the allergy talk: what if Shane is allergic to Anya!! What then!!

I'VE THOUGHT ABOUT IT BUT IT MAKES ME SO SAD

I DON'T WANT TO DO THAT TO THEM 😭😭😭😭

[ticklefighthockey]

the only piece of book canon I’ll accept is that ilya wore the hawaiian shirt as a bit and then got there and wanted to die of embarrassment because omfggggg why was he wearing a stupid fucking hawaiian shirt in front of his ex

[penandinkprincess]

not to get disability rights about shallergies but now i’m thinking about ilyas trauma response influencing his hyper vigilance around shane’s allergies and the dignity of risk.

Dignity of risk is the idea that self-determination and the right to take reasonable risks are essential for dignity and self esteem and so should not be impeded by excessively-cautious caregivers, concerned about their duty of care. - from the wikipedia page

let shane have his mango!!! he knows the consequences and is equipped and able to deal with them!!

imagining ilya having to talk to galina about it and how he knows he’s starting to do better about his mom when he stops having panic attacks at the thought of shane having his inadvisable mango

absolutely an important topic 🫡

and circling back to fun: shane's absolute delight at ilya's therapy homework involving shane getting to eat mangoes

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

Okay but imagine being the team of Eridian scientists tasked with keeping Erid's Only Human alive for as long as possible while the whole planet's environment is literally trying to kill him. And then Rocky shows up and is like:

“Grace says he would like half of dome to be water.”

“Oh, is necessary for humans to have large amounts of water question?”

Small Eridian equivalent of a sigh. “No. Not needed for life. In fact Grace will die if he falls in water and does not get out.”

“Tell him we give him water in containers that won't kill him. Lots lots lots of water on Erid for Grace to drink.”

“No. Grace say he want water on ground. Also want it with excess sodium chloride compound so it will be unhealthy for drink.”

“WHY QUESTION???”

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

To celebrate Erid getting their sun back on track, Grace asks for some alcohol. There's a small amount left from the Hail Mary and Rocky offers to take it to the science Eridians to see if they can synthesise more.

“Grace want this liquid for celebration.”

“Of course.” They scan it. “You have wrong liquid. This contain compounds which are poisonous for humans.”

“Yes yes yes. Grace say humans like feeling of being slightly poisoned.”

“WHY QUESTION?????”

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

Grace is like one of those extremely finicky tropical fish who instantly die if not kept in extremely specific conditions.

Only here the fish can talk and keeps asking you to make it vodka.

[jjhollanov]

Just so we’re clear clear, we love Hudson Williams here and won’t fall for the obvious smear campaign.

If you’re first reaction to someone drawing a hate symbol on a POC’s forehead without him knowing is to blame the said POC, you’re the problem and should take a good look at yourself ! Doing that to a POC is a hate crime !

We love you Huddy 💜

[lavenderprose]

Yes we all know that Ilya trained and molded Shane into his own personally-designed husband but the only reason he’s able to do that is because Ilya was chemically designed in a lab to be Shane’s. God saw Shane Hollander be born, said, “Oh. Yikes. Okay. Okay.” And then created Ilya Rozanov a month later. Like, “Here buddy, you’re gonna need this.”