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This is an excellent book if you have been questioning yourself about whether or not you have ADHD. It has questions and exercises you can do to help you identify patterns and behaviors, even including questions that you can work on with your therapist or psychiatrist. The greatest thing is that acknowledges the gender gap from this condition. It's quite common that in all neurodivergent conditions females and males show their symptoms in different ways, which is why sometimes is more difficult for women to be diagnosed (because most studies were done on men, although things are changing).
It also includes strategies you can use in your daily life, to be able to improve it.
👀This website does absolutely not has the book for free if you are broke 👀
who wants to buy this book I will never get around to writing
Chapter 1: Haha Just Kidding, ADD Was Made Up By Pfizer. Anyway Unrelated I Am Uniquely Bad At Being Alive and No One Can Figure Out Why
Chapter 2: Where Did I Put That? Nope, It’s Gone
Chapter 3: Why Being Bored Is Literally The Same As Dying
Chapter 4: ADD And Your Love Life: Why Bother?
Chapter 5: A Short Story I Drew About A Little Rabbit Named Herbert Who Goes On Adventures
Chapter 6: I Don’t Have Time To Not Be Photoshopping
Chapter 7: You Interrupted Me in the Middle of Tetris And Other Reasons I’ll Be Making Your Life A Sulky Hell All Day
Chapter 8: Where Can A Grown-Up Go to Scream? (Nowhere.)
Chapter 9: You Just Told Me Huge News About Your Life, but I Don’t Know What It Was Because There’s a TV in the Corner of This Bar Chapter 10: I Would Love to Tell You Why I Am Crying, but I Already Forgot. It’s Just Happening Now Chapter 11: Bankruptcy
Chapter 12: I Have Walked into This Room Five Times and Neglected to Address The Reason I Originally Did So Each Time
Chapter 13: Public Embarrassment: Is it Real?
Chapter 14: All the Facts I Learned When I Read Wikipedia for Five Hours Yesterday
Chapter 15: You’re Right, This Is Exactly The Same As When You Feel Sort of Unfocused Half An Hour Before You Leave Work
Chapter 16: Will My Employer Believe Me When I Let Them Know I Have a Learning Disability and Mental Illness or Will They Keep Assuming That I Don’t Care Enough About My Job To Listen to Instructions the First Time
Chapter 17: Thank God You’re Here to Argue With Me that I Don’t Have This Diagnosis Invented to Explain Why Small Children are Fidgety. Oh Good, You Have Examples of Times I was Productive and Calm
Chapter 18: That Was Hilarious, Please Tell Me More Stories of Times I Couldn’t Figure Out Something That Was Common Sense
Chapter 19: Goodnight Sweet Book I’ll Never Finish
Chapter 20: I Couldn’t Do It Right The First Time I Tried, Burn the Evidence
Chapter 21: I Could Say Something, or I Could Say it in My Head Where No One Will Hear it if the Words or Syllables are in the Wrong Order, Assuming I’m Using The Correct Words At All Instead of Mismatching Them
Chapter 22: 5pm, Time For Breakfast
Chapter 23: Following Directions on a Piece of Paper. Just Kidding it’s Still Under The Pile on My Desk.
Chapter 24: “Just Do It” Well Fuck Why Didn’t I Think of That. Goddamn Genius Doctor Superman Over Here.
Chapter 25: People that Walk Around Without Gesturing to a Conversation Only They Are Having. How Do They Do It?
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Chapter 26: This Book Is Too Long, Do You Actually Expect Me To Read All Of This Chapter 27: Guess What I Did With My Free Day
Chapter 28: My Academic Career Is Falling Apart
Chapter 29: Why You Never Turn In Homework
Chapter 30: I Would Write Study Tips But I Literally Once Procrastinating Studying For Finals By Putting Sticky Tabs In My Math Book Instead Of Actually Studying
Chapter 31: Maintaining Relationships
Is Difficult
Chapter 32: Doesn’t Everybody Struggle With Basic Self Care?
Chapter 33: I feel thirsty; I think I’ll make a cup of tea.
Chapter 34: Why is there a cold cup of tea on the cupboard?
Every time…
Chapter 35: Let Me Tell You About the Wonders of Hyperfocus and How I Stayed Awake for Two Days Because I Didn’t Have Plans and Nobody Distracted Me From the Internet Until I Literally Passed Out. Twice.
Chapter 36: Did That Happen Yesterday or Three Years Ago?
Chapter 37: Did That Actually Happen or Was It A Dream?
Chapter 38: I Went Three Months in the Dark Because I Forgot the Lightbulb Was Broken Until I Needed It at Night.
Chapter 39: I Need a List to Tell Me What to Write a List For.
Chapter 40: What is a Normal Sleep Phase?
Appendix A, ADHD and Chronic Illness: I Can’t Sleep Unless I Wear Myself Out And That’s Pretty Awkward Because I Can’t Get Out Of Bed.
Appendix B, ADD In Older Adults: How Will I Know When The Altzheimer’s Starts?
Section 2: Navigating College With Way Too Many Bees In Your Head 24/7
Chapter 41: My Homework Feels Impossible So I’m Going To Research ADHD Study Tips
Chapter 42: I Learned Some Helpful Things And I’m Angry At The Educational System
Chapter 43: To Protest The Educational System, I Refuse To Do My Work
Chapter 44: How To Rant To Neurotypicals About How School IS Actually Designed To Kill Me
Chapter 45: How To Explain That ADHD Symptoms Are Not Just Excuses To Get Out of Doing Work Because They Sure Do Sound Like It When You List Them All Out
Chapter 46: What To Do If The Learning Disability That I Have Been Diagnosed With And Seeking Treatment For The Last 9 Years Is Fake
Chapter 47: I Am Actually Just A Neurotypical Who Is Lazy, Stupid, And Unable to Practice Basic Self Care
Chapter 48: I Am Stupid, But Not For Those Reasons! (Spoiler; the fact that I can easily focus on a random task for upwards of 15 hours to avoid one other 15 minute task is not Normal)
Chapter 50: So This IS Why I Can Do Advanced Calculus But Still Have To Count On My Fingers When I Add
Chapter 51: I Have Classwork For Class I Don’t Like, How To Spend Way Too Much Time On The Work For The Class I Have A Personal Interest In And Call It Productivity
Chapter 52: I Have Work For Class I Am Interested In But It Has A Deadline Soon; How To Spend Way Too Much Time On The Work For The Class I Don’t Like And Call It Good Time Management
Chapter 53: I Turned In Crappy Work For The Class I Am Interested in and I Just Know The Teacher Hates Me
Chapter 54: Double Trouble! I Now Have a Mental Block for ALL of My Classes Because I Got a Mediocre Grade on The Project for My Favorite Class
Chapter 55: I Cant Remember A Single Time I Have Ever Been Productive In My Life
Footnote: I just remembered the time I was most productive in my life and I will now use it to judge myself for the foreseeable future
Chapter 56: How To Rewatch Your Comfort TV Show And Other Ways to Avoid And Disassociate From Reality
Chapter 57: Why Do I Only Remember My Academic Stress When I Stop Consuming Media
Chapter 58: Why I Only Stop Consuming Media Right Before I Try To Go To Bed
Chapter. 59: My Brain Isn’t Working Anymore It Is Broken, The True Cause of Me Missing Assignments
Chapter 60 : How To Realize that the Effects of Stress Related Sleep Deprivation May Be The Real Cause of Brain Fog
Chapter 61: I Just Realized I Haven’t Eaten In 2 Days
Footnote: Time to forget you were writing in first person for the first half of this :)
Chapter 62: Dedicate Your Life To Self Care and Eat 7 Meals in a Single Day and Then Sleep For 12 Hours
Chapter 63 : How To Stop Hyperfocusing On Food
Chapter 64: Cured! How To Have Total Faith That You Are Capable of Turning Your Life Around Right Now
Footnote 1: Giving Up If You Have A Mild Inconvenience and Going Back At Chapter 55
Chapter 65: How To Research Habits of Productive Neurotypicals To Adjust To Your New Disability Free Lifestyle
Chapter 66: How To Plan Your New Future Goals Based on What Genius Neurotypicals Can Do
Chapter 67: Trying The “Just Focus and Get it Done Method”
Chapter 68: Baby Steps; How To Just Start a Task To Launch Your Bright New Future
Chapter 69: Baby Steps; How To Just Start a Task
Chapter 70: Baby Steps; How To Just Start
Chapter 71: Please Start I Am Begging You
Chapter 72 : Baby Steps; Where To Start
Chapter 73: How To Make A To Do List of A Semesters Worth of Overdue Work
Chapter 74: How To Reward Yourself For Taking The First Step Towards A New You By Scrolling On Social Media for 4 Hours
Chapter 75: How To Get Yourself To Look At Your To Do List
Chapter 76: How To Pick Something From Your To Do List
Chapter 77 : How To Estimate Time To Complete Each Item On Your To Do List
Chapter 78: Handy Chart of How Many Hours In A Day, Week, And Minimum Hours of Sleep Needed To Survive.
Chapter 79: How to Do Addition: When Things Aren’t Adding Up The Way You Thought They Would
Chapter 80 : Acknowledge Limitations
Chapter 81: Finally Ask For Help
Chapter 82: How To Describe Executive Dysfunction and RSD Without Sounding Lazy and Sensitive
Chapter 83 : Get The Small Amount of Help That Our Educational System Is Willing to Give
Chapter 84: I Got Accommodations For Extra Time On Assignments and Now I Have to Do All Of My Midterms and Finals in One Week
Chapter 85: I Got Them Done in a Total of 20 Hours But Have Not Slept In 3 Days
Chapter 86 : I Got Good Grades But All I Feel Is Dread and Imposter Syndrome
Chapter 87: Winter Break! How to Have Fun While You Feel A Constant Tension In Your Back That Feels Like Impending Doom
Chapter 88 : Visiting Home; How To Relax and Just Agree When Your Parents Tell You That You Could Do Anything If You Just Had Self Discipline And Applied Yourself
Chapter 89: Visiting Old Friends; How to Keep Friendships For Years Despite Never Remembering To Reach Out To Them
Chapter 90: Holidays! Enjoy a Early Midlife Crisis When Your Relatives Ask You What You Want To Do After College Because You Truly Forgot To Think About Your Life Goals For the Last 6 Months
Chapter 91: Going Back, How To Realize On The Way Back To College When You Don’t Have Wifi That You Don’t Have Your Classes Fully Figured Out For This Semester
Chapter 92 : How to Walk Through An Entryway and Forget Any Realizations You Just Made
Chapter 93: If You Can Believe It, You Can Do It! How to 100% Believe You Will Change All of Your ADHD Habits At The Start of Every Semester
Footnote 2: Time to write your quarterly lengthy tumblr post to procrastinate during midterms and finals during the 5 hrs that you have allotted for sleep
Footnote 3: What to do when you realize the post you made meets the wordcount of the essay you are avoiding
Footnote 4: When the days blend together at least you can watch the sunrise after you stayed up all night to do exactly 1 hr of actual work
Rejection sensitive dysphoria is wild. Someone will be like “hey just so you know the thing you did was a little bit loud/uncomfortable/insensitive but it’s ok I know you didn’t mean it” and my brain will instantly translate “you should be shot”
“why do you talk so loud? you’re always yelling”. i swear to god every time i hear that i want to just run off and hang myself. it is THE WORST
To the people in the notes saying “Don’t call it dysphoria, that’s just being insecure”
- “Dysphoria” is just the opposite of “euphoria”. It doesn’t have to mean gender dysphoria. Lots of things can cause different kinds of dysphoria - PMDD is Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (which is like PMS but much more severe, and causes intense depression and mood swings). Or, in this case, RSD - Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria
- When it’s mentioned at all, it’s almost always in relation to ADHD. (And it tends to be described as “this is exclusive to ADHD” but I don’t think that’s actually true.) It’s also a thing with C-PTSD and BPD. (And probably more. But a lot of this stuff co-occurs with ADHD so like … ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ )
- I suspect it’s actually more of a trauma thing that’s exacerbated by ADHD. (A lot of the way people respond to ADHD is inherently traumatic. Being told your whole life “Well you could do the thing if you really wanted to” when no, you actually CAN’T, etc, has the same effects as emotional abuse and gaslighting on your self-esteem. And well. Being shunned for your whole childhood for being too loud/too weird/etc tends to … yeah.)
- Just being insecure or even anxious isn’t the same as Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria. RSD - to me, at least - feels like being slapped or getting stabbed in the chest. It’s going from “Everything’s pretty much fine” to, upon a mild correction, being “I’m the worst. I should die. Nothing will ever ever get better.“ And even when I rationally know that’s not true, I’m having physiological responses that I can’t just turn off. (It’s a lot like an emotional flashback in that regard, honestly.) You’re responding to the thing as if it’s a threat.
- It doesn’t help, though, that ADHD brains are will focus exclusively on one thing to the exclusion of all else, at the least convenient time. So we hyperfocus on “that stupid thing I said” and the perceived rejection and and the pain, and it kind of becomes a feedback loop of suck.
I usually describe the feeling as being like… going from a normal, good, or even great day to suddenly feeling like the world is ending. And it seems to be worst when you were really excited about something and someone’s response- to the thing, or, more often, to your excitement for it- manages to hit that button that trips the world-ending feeling.
The slightest rejection can ruin my entire day but goddamn if someone is actually mean to me or straight up tells me I can’t do something that I’ve been struggling with, it actually counts as a powerup and I get a 10x motivation boost
ADHD culture is being so incredibly tired but refusing to sleep
Sleep is boring. Must CONSTANT STIMULATION
adhd is so funny it's like being possessed but with myself
me, desperately: can we please get something done?!
my inner demon, who is also me: IF YOU LIKE PIÑA COLADA
i’ll probably expand on this later, but the best ADHD Hack ™ I’ve found/sussed out is:
bundle habits together, but don’t bundle tasks together.
Explain …
So okay. When you have ADHD, one thing your brain is very very good at doing is making connections between things- ideas, concepts, people, states of mind, etc. This can be a superpower- if most people wouldn’t think to make a connection between doing a) and b), and you make that connection, sometimes you can outthink people who aren’t as good at snapping things together.
The problem comes in when you start connecting things that you don’t need to connect, like “mild displeasure” with “OH GOD EVERYONE HATES ME” or “I feel a little crummy” with “I AM THE WORST PERSON IN THE WORLD”.
So when we’re talking about Life Skills/ADLs, you gotta use that power to make your life easier, not harder. You gotta connect things when it makes your life better and NOT do it when it makes your life harder.
Here’s an example of the habits:
I had a stretch of time where I was too sick to do much of anything. I could barely get out of bed to get to the bathroom. I was walking with a stick and generally just… le dead. And one of the problems I had was that I could almost never remember to take my morning meds.
I decided that the first time I got up to use the bathroom every day, I’d take my meds. That way I was taking them no matter how crap I felt- I had to get up to pee, like it or not- and it was getting done pretty early in the morning.
Getting up to pee meant taking my meds; they were the same thing. I didn’t have to remember to take my meds separately, or set an alarm to remind myself, or anything like that. I just did it as part of something I had to do anyway.
As time went on and I started getting better, I realized I could do the same thing with other parts of my routine. If you connect something you need to do with something you have to do, the thing you need to do gets done.
So like… say I’m already in the habit of getting up to take a shower. I’ve lived in crappy apartments my entire life, so the water takes a minute to warm up. Since my countertop dishwasher is right outside my bathroom door, I’ll take a second to empty and load the dishwasher while the water’s still heating up. It just becomes part of the routine of taking a shower.
You don’t have to think about Doing The Extra Thing. Connecting it to something you’re already doing means that, after a certain point, it just… happens, automatically.
The problem comes in when you start trying to do this with tasks- things that you only have to get done once, that already have a fair few steps to them. Especially if that task is has a lot of steps, has a time limit, or is otherwise Hard for you.
Figuring out tasks with dependencies (I have to do this before I can do this!) is already hard for us ADHDers. Sometimes what happens is that you bundle two tasks together- you decide you can’t do something until you’ve done the other thing, even though these tasks are in no way connected.
Here’s an example:
I have three packages I need to mail. One of them is a gift for a friend in Australia, which costs a lot of money; one of them is a package for my Etsy store which is Not Finished Yet, and one is a very late Christmas package.
I might decide, “hey, I need to mail all three of these packages together! I can’t mail any of these packages until I bundle all of them!” But it’s probably smarter to mail them separately! I don’t want to make my friend with the late Christmas package wait any more, so I can mail that first, and then mail the Australia package when I have the money and the Etsy package when it’s finished.
But if I insist that I have to bundle these tasks… I won’t get any of them done. I’ll be too stressed out about the Etsy package not being done to mail the other two packages, and then I will run out of money for the Australia package, and the Christmas package will not get sent til Labour Day.
If you’re stressed out about a task with a lot of steps, sometimes it’s worth it to check and make sure you’re not bundling multiple tasks together. Can you do the thing without doing the thing that comes before? Do you have to do the other thing immediately after?
might fuck around and read a 500 page physical published book in one sitting like it’s 2006 and I’m being bullied in middle school so I take refuge in the library and inhale books at a frightening speed that I have not been able to replicate since
Damn op you didn’t need to just kill everyone who grew up with undiagnosed ADHD like that.
This explains so much!
Well, that’s just great!
my brain when somebody tells me to ‘try harder’
This is why creating an environment of acceptance for people with ADHD and other learning disabilities is paramount. It’s not only the basically humane thing to do, it also actively helps them achieve the goal you’ve set for them.
So my thought process is a non-newtonian fluid... cool.
this is why I can't with "just buckle down" and "you could accomplish so much if you just applied yourself"
Ppl without ADHD be like “oh if I get rid of all possible distractions then you’ll be forced to focus on the boring task!” Fool… You underestimate my Power
My partner: dear it’s time to get up
Me: but distractions
Partner: I have removed them
Me: sleeps
Person: we have removed all possible distractions
Me: but have you considered this?
Me: *zones out and daydreams*
Person: I have removed all distractions so you can do [insert task]
Me: *chuckles* Silly neurotypical. So naïve… Don’t you see? I AM the distraction.
The distraction is coming from inside the house
That’s cuz this is the exact opposite of what you wanna do with ADHD. If you take away all input your brain is going to shut down. It has nothing to do. You need to find the right passive secondary input that will allow your brain to function enough to start what you need to start. What counts is different for everyone. Snacking, White noise, music, stim toys, podcasts, wiggling. A thing that will give you stimulation but isn’t enough to totally satisfy it so your brain wants to do more. Then you push yourself to do the task because your brain finally has all the pieces it needs to function.
Don’t force yourself into focusing the same way a neurotypical does. It will only hurt you. Find new ways that work for your neurotype.
I struggle a lot with this. :/
Thank you!!! Holmesmutual, this is such good advice!
Is-is this why doing the dishes puts me in the mood to do stuff??????
No bc when I was a kid I literally loved timeouts bc I could either daydream or literally watch an episode of my favorite show in my head which I had memorized for that exact purpose…
Starting to realize why my going to the library and telling myself to just sit there until I do my hw hasn’t been working
Ppl without ADHD be like “oh if I get rid of all possible distractions then you’ll be forced to focus on the boring task!” Fool… You underestimate my Power
My partner: dear it’s time to get up
Me: but distractions
Partner: I have removed them
Me: sleeps
Person: we have removed all possible distractions
Me: but have you considered this?
Me: *zones out and daydreams*
Person: I have removed all distractions so you can do [insert task]
Me: *chuckles* Silly neurotypical. So naïve… Don’t you see? I AM the distraction.
The distraction is coming from inside the house
That’s cuz this is the exact opposite of what you wanna do with ADHD. If you take away all input your brain is going to shut down. It has nothing to do. You need to find the right passive secondary input that will allow your brain to function enough to start what you need to start. What counts is different for everyone. Snacking, White noise, music, stim toys, podcasts, wiggling. A thing that will give you stimulation but isn’t enough to totally satisfy it so your brain wants to do more. Then you push yourself to do the task because your brain finally has all the pieces it needs to function.
Don’t force yourself into focusing the same way a neurotypical does. It will only hurt you. Find new ways that work for your neurotype.
I struggle a lot with this. :/
Thank you!!! Holmesmutual, this is such good advice!
Is-is this why doing the dishes puts me in the mood to do stuff??????
ADHD be like: I need to do do this task before I go to bed. therefore I’ll stay up all night on my phone because I have no motivation to do the thing but I can’t go to bed unless I do it.
3 kinds of ADHD distractions:
sudden idea! i'll just take a quiiick little detour and be riiight back...(spoiler: you never return)
i know i am distracted. i wish i wasn't doing what i'm doing either, but i can't stop. i'm trapped and i can see the clock ticking down, but i just. can't. move.
where the fuck am i??? how did i get here?? what time is it????
july 5, 2020
it's officially summer break for me. yay! 🌻
so much happened these past months but i did it. only one thing is left and that is to write an email to professor about possible theme for my future bachelor thesis. yes, i am graduating next year! still can't believe it.
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