And on the topic of a friend’s ugly boyfriend, I want to say that a lot of what I think makes these people hideous isn’t inborn characteristics they cannot change. Ugly has a more nebulous definition in the south. A friend’s ugly boyfriend shows up to meet his girlfriend’s friends for the first time with a terrible haircut and unwashed hair, wearing an unwashed Marvel shirt and cargo shorts not because he had no access to a shower or a laundromat but because he felt no need to put any effort into his appearance and try to make a good impression on her friends because he truly does not care. People who care about a new partner try to impress them, they try to groom and style themselves to be more attractive, they do the bare minimum and take a shower before going to a convention. Cishet men in straight relationships tend to be more likely to severely drop the ball on grooming and styling habits when it would be common decency to make an attempt to look good. It is sad when a woman spends hours getting ready and doing her hair and makeup for a date and picks an outfit she thinks is cute because she wants to look good and she wants him to like her and the guy is a total slob who wasn’t trying to be appealing and wasn’t willing to inconvenience himself enough to put on a clean shirt. Jesus fucking Christ, take a shower, put on a little cologne, style your hair and wear a nice shirt or something. Your dad was doing it in the 80s. There are YouTube tutorials if you don’t know what to do.

















