Anonymous

Asks are open, DMs are not Diagnosed with depression, PTSD, and anxiety Respect my boundaries

[anonymous-depressed-figure]

Babygirl I understand social cues that you’ve never even heard of (I was raised in a house with no communication skills)

[traumasurvivors]

It’s okay to fall apart after you thought you’d moved on. It’s okay to hit a bad patch after doing so well for awhile. Healing isn’t linear and these things don’t erase your progress or accomplishments you’ve made on your journey.

[anonymous-depressed-figure]

I just want to be a Christmas girly but The Horrors™️ always get in the way :(

[recoverr-deactivated20250621]

i hope it hurts a little less. day by day. week by week. i hope the ache in your chest eases. maybe it won't entirely, maybe it will. may the thought of feeling joy again alone be enough to keep you going, even if for a while.

[furiousgoldfish]

not to advertise that i've been neglected but if anyone pays attention to me I am going to be freaking out about it for the rest of the week, then come up with various daydreams about getting more which I will then abandon in shame because I will go back to believing I don't deserve attention

[recomvery]

You don't have to be "good enough" for the right people. They will accept you as you are. You don't have to endlessly improve until you're perfect. If people criticize you 24/7 they are not your people.

[horreurscopes]

one of the most important things i’ve learned in therapy is that when you’ve experienced prolonged trauma in your childhood, pleasure feels uncomfortable. like, not that you don’t feel it, but that when you do feel it there’s an impulse to make it stop, because it’s extremely unfamiliar. and pleasure can mean many things, as simple as feeling cozy, and as complex as feeling loved. the neural pathways for feeling good have not had a chance to develop, and the neural pathways for feeling bad are quite practiced. feeling good, too, takes conscious practice.

[stuckinapril]

do u ever walk from a social interaction like damn. this is why i keep my mouth shut most of the time

[furiousgoldfish]

People who are starved out of conversation will approach it as if it was sacred, people who are starved out of touch experience any touch given to them as the highest form of intimacy, people starved out of gentleness will react to it as if it’s an invasion, an attempt to break them down, and people starved out of a community will approach it as if it was a minefield.

[standingoutthere]

hearing gentle parenting kids talk about their healthy childhood and current present urges me to run and slam into a wall few hundred times

[system-of-a-feather]

One of the things I feel a lot of people without C-PTSD don't assume is that yes, people doing things that remind you of your trauma is triggering, but so is seeing someone - especially a lot of people - loudly being the OPPOSITE. People being caring, appropriate, considerate, stating and telling someone who did a "microtrigger" that you didnt notice to cut it out cause its not right

People being good people about something bad that happened to me sometimes stings and triggers me more because when someone does something similar to the trauma, yes its triggering but its expected and normalized. When someone loudly and unpromptedly states and acts in a way that reminds me that what happened to me was awful and unjust, that is unexpected, that is new and it breaksdown some of the normalization that has served a protective role as much as a perpetuating role.

[fowllanguagecomics]

[deactivated-blog]

executive dysfunction in a nutshell

[champagnepuppies]

hey if you’re in the U.S. and use food stamps or know somebody who does i found this online cookbook that has recipes for eating well on approximately $4/day :o) 

[kimreesesdaughter]

I don’t have food stamps but I need to know how to eat well for $4/day. Thank you for this.

[spiritscraft-deactivated2025031]

I love this cookbook!

[basedcomradefox-deactivated2017]

Tips and tricks on how to survive being working class.

[a-spoon-is-born]

I’ve seen this kind of thing before and a lot of them are full of random weird shit you’d never make…because of time constraints or like, it just sounds super gross.

But this one had a whole section that’s just “Things on Toast”. Another that was all about putting crap in your oatmeal to make it better. Those are fairly pedestrian and don’t take forever.

I haven’t looked through the whole thing yet but so far it’s actually pretty practical. Also if you’re broke like me and don’t know how to make Dal, you should get on that. 

I also liked that there’s this at the beginning:

This book isn’t challenging you to live on so little; it’s a resource in case that’s your reality. In May 2014, there were 46 million Americans on food stamps. Untold millions more—in particular, retirees and students—live under similar constraints.

[dduane]

Been there. Done that. Advice on this art is always welcome.

[sonatagreen]

The link above seems to be broken; here’s one that still works.

[ilsa-fireswan]

The Good And Cheap cookbook is 100% free as a PDF download from the author’s website and is available in English and Spanish. It is practical, tasty, easy, and kind. Physical copies are one of my top “so you have your own place now” gifts. Highly recommend.

(note that the PDF is oriented the same as the physical book - two square pages - so it’s more landscape format and might be difficult to read on a phone)

[goingknowherewastaken]

Another suggestion to look at is Julia Pacheco on YouTube!

I found her channel recently and she has various videos on how to make meals that taste good for only $5 or $10 ect.. And I don’t mean she buys everything and after mathing it’s $5 per portion but a total of $30 spent. I mean she goes into a store and buys everything for the meal and it’s $5 for the meal.

I’ve tried a few of her recipes and they were both delicious and easy to make! But when she does her cheap meals she is buying the cheapest ingredients she can find so depending on dietary needs you may need to make adjustments. Same goes for adjusting portions if you’re trying to make dinner for a lot of people cause some of the meal ideas yield portions between 1-3 servings.

[rabbittongues]

[furiousgoldfish]

me, trying hard to not be like my parents: I am going to be patient, kind, and gentle. I will never yell at others or accuse them of something they might not be able to control. I will bring understanding and affection in other people’s lives and not trauma like it was done to me.

me, consequently: Why.. is nobody taking my boundaries seriously? Is my existence to be taken as a joke? Why is kindness returned with exploitaton? I am still a person. Now I have to deal with confrontation and I was not gonna go there. I have to struggle between being cold and unnaprochable, and soft and giving. I wanted to relax for a bit and not expect pain at every corner. You all suck. Can’t a person be nice in peace.

[thenightsystem]

Something happened yesterday that made me want to make this post. I’m not going to go into specifics, but I’m sure you can guess what happened.

It’s okay if whatever you went through, your trauma has triggers that could just be played off as childish fears. It isn’t a childish fear. When someone goes through trauma there’s going to be triggers, and if it’s the same as a common childhood fear that doesn’t make you childish, it makes you traumatized.

you dont need to rationalize your triggers, because they are triggers it doesnt make you childish. You dont have to be ashamed of them, because its perfectly okay.

you are traumatized, and trying your best, and im proud of you.

-host

also please dont share your triggers on the internet, people can be malicious

[mossy-petrichor]

Offering a big hug to the emotionally neglected people who have no idea how to cope

The ones that can't grasp the concept of coping. The ones that don't even know how to start identifying their emotions. The ones that don't understand coping mechanisms. The ones who only have maladaptive coping mechanisms. The ones who only know how to repress. The ones that feel ashamed for not knowing how to cope. The ones that feel angry for not having anyone teach them. The ones that feel hopeless about healing. The ones that feel like it's impossible for them to cope

I'm sorry you have to build up from scratch something that other people should've taught you. I see how hard you're trying, I see how exhausting and difficult it is. I wish I could give you so many affirmations, but I'm in the same place you are. Ily