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[sl-walker]

Other Fandom Archives

At least, other ones running on the otw-archive software!

SquidgeWorld Archive

Open to all fandoms, SqWA is run under the nonprofit squidge.org! In addition to the archive there, Squidge also offers image hosting, podfic hosting and a bunch of other excellent services. Beyond that, it utilizes more extensive archive warnings than AO3 and also accommodates two additional relationship categories! SqWA has a no-AI policy that is both up front legally and implemented behind the scenes through various coding measures.

The TOS is here. The information about the additional warnings can be found here.

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Ad Astra :: Star Trek Fanfiction Archive

A single-fandom Star Trek fanfiction archive, this one's home for any and all Trek fandom! Using the same warnings as AO3, but a much stricter (and therefore searchable) tagging scheme, Ad Astra's also connected to one of the friendliest and most supportive Trek communities on the internet! We run weekly challenges, monthly review/comment hunts and like the other archives, we take a very hardline stance against AI both in actual terms and in firewalling the site. AI 'bots can't even reach the server before getting sucked into a black hole of 4XX errors and bannination jail!

There's an additional QPR (Queer-platonic relationships) tag accepted in the form of Character A ~ Character B, as well. Two invitations go out once a day, unless you want to contact me directly, then I can send one immediately.

Find the site FAQs here, please pay special attention to the posting rules!!

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superlove

Run off of a macbook by a very talented young person, superlove is for all fandoms and original fiction and pretty much whatever else melo wants to open the doors for! In addition to the same archive warnings and relationships available to people using AO3, superlove also has a few more warnings that users can use and both QPR and vs. tags for queer-platonic and adversarial relationships. Given this is largely a private project, please make sure you review the rules carefully.

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Comic Fanfiction Authors Archive

The CFAArchive is an archive built specifically for comic book and comic animation adjacent fandoms, rather than live-action properties! It uses the same archive warnings as AO3 and Ad Astra, but has the two additional tags QPR and vs. for queer-platonic and adversarial relationships! Much like Ad Astra, the tagging scheme on the CFAA is very strict to maximize searchability and minimize tag-spamming. There's also an attached Discord, where we run a bi-weekly writing challenge, the occasional comment/review hunt and a monthly focus feature where everyone reads a book, discusses it and creates based on it! If you love comic books and comic animation properties, this is the place for you!

Much like Ad Astra, the filtering out of AI 'bots is extremely strict; they get 4XX'd into oblivion and so far, none have gotten through since the new firewall rules were implemented, so you actually can leave works unlocked if you like with minimal (though never nonexistent) concern about them being scraped.

Two invitations go out once a day, unless you want to contact me directly, then I can send one immediately.

The TOS is here; please read the rules carefully! The tagging FAQ is here; don't be intimidated, it's not hard once you get into the swing!

[a-little-revolution]

A-Little-Revolution's Dwarfism FAQ

Hello there lovelies! I've finally written up and FAQ to make my blog more accessible! Feel free to send me asks related to these posts, but do take a look at my prior responses!

Dwarfism 101

Dwarfism 101: Some Misconceptions

Dwarfism 101: Common Misconceptions Pt 2!

Cass Huff's "The M Word is a Slur" (with video description and transcription)

Accessibility

Car adaptations and pedal extenders

Making public spaces accessible for LP

Advice for healthcare professionals

Medical

Dwarfism and it's causes: medical resources

A brief on my leg surgeries

Representation

Rating Little characters in animation

Rating Little characters in film

My stance on fantasy "dwarves"

My stance on Snow White and adaptations

Writing/Drawing Characters with Dwarfism

What to avoid when writing characters with Achondroplasia

Common stereotypes for LP

Including dwarfism in fantasy

Drawing little people

Ways I'd love to see LP portrayed in media

Dwarfism hand reference

Resources

Little People of Ontario

Little People of America

Mini Documentary: The Stigmatization of Dwarfism in Art by Perspective!

Documentary: Being a Little Person in America: We're Still Treated as Less Than Human by Cara Reedy

[battlecrazed-axe-mage]

The linked article

[massivetittiesandwarcrimes]

This article is genuinely insane. I learned to read at the same time and it was completely different. I was taught to sound out the words and if I came across a word I didn't know, they did suggest we use context clues to figure out the meaning, but it was also made clear that that was not a perfect solution and the best option is always to look it up. But seriously, just a memorizing? That is inside.

[auxryn]

I taught English as a second language for over ten years. In order to become a proficient reader in English, most kids will need to be explicitly taught phonics. To become proficient in Japanese, you need to learn radicals.

Three-cueing is essentially crutches that help you get by but let you down eventually. It's very common when learning a foreign language, I misread kanji sometimes because I pattern-recognize based on context instead of really looking. The solution is to do some proper studying, but I don't wanna.

It's also interesting that this sort of contexual confabulation and pattern-recognizing is how LLMs work. Not sure what to do with that.

[thechekhov]

Absolutely fantastic article, but I do want to say that this...?

... Is absolutely terrifying in the context of all other anti-intellectualism happening right now. This guy is STILL pushing his 'observations' while denying evidence that it doesn't work.

[quasi-normalcy]

#the part where he says it doesn’t matter if a child reads horse instead of pony bc the meaning is the same is.. particularly dire 💀#it’s immediately obvious that this doesn’t work as soon as books don’t have pictures in them ???

Good thing that there aren't any texts where subtle differences in meaning are important or anything like that.

[lastoneout]

Kinda horrifying that I've seen three cueing defended on the grounds it's the correct way to teach kids with dyslexia to read and it's incredible to find out the guy who invented it doesn't believe dyslexia is a real thing.

I have dyslexia and I learned to read with phonics and I genuinely cannot fathom how anyone with dyslexia would benefit from not being taught phonics. All of my dyslexia education was focused on finding ways that I could slow down and see words distinctly so I could sound them out. I'm a really strong reader despite having dyslexia and I credit that to phonics. If I couldn't isolate a word and slowly sound it out I'd never be able to read anything.

Like I am fully wondering if I'm really a gifted reader or if I just got lucky and got taught to read correctly???? What the fuck????

Edit: Apparently all of the research says that dyslexic kids benefit from learning phonics and the rules of english as much as kids without dyslexia, so yeah no this three cueing is absolutely NOT how you should teach kids with dyslexia to read.

[anautistic]

If you are curious about any of the PRC-Saltillo vocabularies but don't have an iPad, ran out of a trial, and don't have a way to get a loaner device, all of their vocabularies are available to view and edit via the program ChatEditor for free. It uses your PC's basic text-to-speech too so it could even be used as is for laptop and tablet PC users if one really needed, or as a backup option.

(It says TouchChat here but it has LAMP, Unity, WordPower, Gateway, and Dialog too!)

[cyberpunkpavlichenko]

What is the Great Replacement Conspiracy and why is it relevant to the United States ethnic cleansing of migrants?

“We must secure the existence of our people and a future for white children.” - The 14 Words, white nationalist slogan (The Order)

The Great Replacement is a white nationalist conspiracy theory originating with French fascist Renaud Camus, which states that immigration and declining birthrates are an intentional act of demographic replacement of whites (“white genocide,” a related conspiracy) by the international Jewish conspiracy to subvert western civilization and capitalism, a modernization of the Protocols of the Elders of Zion/Judeo-Bolshevik/Cultural Marxism conspiracies. It is rooted in older fears of “white extinction” that began becoming popular in the 19th century. It is related to “the Demographic Question.”

The Great Replacement has been promoted repeatedly by Elon Musk on Twitter as owner and by fascist propagandist Tucker Carlson, including on his Fox News’ show (the highest rated cable program in U.S. History in 2020 with a peak of 4.4 million nightly viewers).

This Conspiracy Has a Bodycount: ‘The Great Replacement’ as Inspiration for Fascist Murders. These acts were organized and praised on 4/8chan where the attacker’s racist manifestos would be shared shortly before or after their attacks:

2017 Charlottesville ‘Unite the Right’ rally killing of antifascist Heather Heyer with a car by a white supremacist, was preceded by torch-lit chants of “blood and soil” (Nazi Germany reference) and “Jews will not replace us” (Great Replacement reference) the night before, they also harassed a Black church and synagogue in the area - 1 dead;

2018 Pittsburgh Tree of Life Synagogue shooting was motivated by the conspiracy, with the shooter convinced the synagogue’s role in the Hebrew Immigrant Aid Society (20th century era organization that shifted focus from Jewish refugees to all refugees) was material evidence of the role of Jews in demographically replacing white people with migrants - 11 dead;

2019 Christchurch Mosque shootings targeting Muslims were motivated by the conspiracy, cited by name in the shooter’s manifesto - 51 dead;

2019 El Paso Walmart shooting targeting Latinos was motivated by the conspiracy, cited by name in the shooter’s manifesto - 23 dead;

2022 Buffalo supermarket shooting targeting the Black community was motivated by the conspiracy, cited by name in the shooter’s manifesto whose act was directly inspired by the Christchurch shootings - 10 dead.

Total deaths: 95 since 2017, 96 counting Heather Heyer.

How popular is this conspiracy? According to this 2022 poll by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a disturbing number of Americans across party lines agree with core fundamental aspects of the conspiracy.

But this is a conspiracy that is not merely referenced in white nationalist attacks on the public but has become an integral part of state recruitment propaganda for Department of Homeland Security and their ethnic cleansing efforts of migrants.

As you can see, DHS is directly appealing to the sensibilities and conspiratorial racism of open white nationalists in an explicit attempt to recruit them. Also notable is their "America after 100,000,000 deportations" post because there are only an estimated 12 million undocumented immigrants. This was never about civil violations of immigration law, but about ethnically cleansing the nation to transform it into a demographically homogenous white ethnostate.

The Great Replacement conspiracy inspires mass murders, is believed by a significant portion of Americans, and is referenced in recruitment campaigns to hire more goons for the ethnic cleansing of migrants.

This is not a fringe belief. It is a fundamental organizing principle and recruitment strategy of both the vigilante white nationalist street movement and the bourgeois state in crisis. Those 96 people were just the beginning.

[redstonedust]

pet peeve is when you look up fashion references from a specific era and you keep getting modern day '[era]-inspired' fashion like NO i want authenticity damn it. i can see your 2020 photo quality and your 2020 hair and your 2020 makeup. youre not fooling me.

[bincliff]

hello i'm a historical fashion researcher and i have a lot of experience looking up things! this is a very widely experienced irritation and you're definitely not alone in this, but i am here to share everything i know!

so, ways to get around this:

turn off AI results. they're literally nonsense to us

don't use pinterest because the sources/provenance is often hard to trace

a standard internet search can be okay, but museum collections are the top tier (list of collections below this list)

instead of broad terms like victorian, regency, tudor, renaissance etc. try using the decade you're looking for. if you're not sure of what decade it is but have a vague image in your head, look on the fashion history timeline and just jump around until you find it. but even changing to e.g. 19th century will give better results than victorian

including terms like womenswear/menswear, daywear, formal wear, evening wear, court dress should increase the value of your search too

including "fashion plates" in your search can give you a nice impression of the intended silhouettes of the era. some of these might be a little stylised but will show you what was considered in vogue

for pre-fashion plate eras or things like makeup and styling, you'll have to look at portraiture or manuscripts. these are harder to actually find what you're looking for, but searching museum collections and limiting results to specific date ranges will be your friend

when looking at art, do bear in mind sometimes artists would paint fabric extra flow-y to show off their skills. it might not have been exactly like that in terms of fabric weight or drape. so, a pinch of salt required!

if you find something on image search where the provenance is dubious, reverse image search and you might find a source! i've been able to trace random pinterest images to real sources, but this does take a lot of time and effort and is often not worth the headache

some online resources and museum collections:

fashion history timeline is an invaluable resource if you're trying to get a feel for everything and should be your first port of call. it'll also link to good examples

the met has a vast number of extant examples of clothing, as well as fashion plates

costume institute fashion plates is a subcollection of the met for fashion plates (1800s-1922)

v&a also has many extant garments, fashion plates, and incredible articles on clothing and aesthetics. read the details of the objects because they'll often reveal a lot about the piece

lacma is good for C19th-20th pieces

nypl digital collection for photographs

national portrait gallery or similar for portraiture, or literally any museum in your country that has historical art

national museums scotland can be useful situationally but might be oddly specific

stout style history is a great collection for finding image references for fat people wearing historical clothes. survival bias of a lot of museum pieces tends towards smaller clothing that couldn't be repurposed, but this aims to counter that. it's not sortable, but is still a really nice resource

wikimedia commons is surprisingly handy! and the images, if you should need to link/repost them, are public domain

auction websites sound like a funny one to recommend. some won't have mannequins and some will. just look up historical garment auctions and you'll find some!

anyway, i hope this has been a good place to start for anyone interested! there are probably some i've missed because there are so many museums across the world and i don't know about all of them or can't remember them. but these are the ones i've used the most! (my specialisation/jobs i've had to research for have only really been in western fashion, so my resources reflect that)

[haemey]

Wikipedia has a list of fashion museums. Unfortunately, the page itself is only available in German, but the introductory paragraph is very short and after that, it's organised by country, and then it's a simple list. If you click on a museum's article, the website is usually linked in the overview table.

[fuckyeahmarxismleninism]

150,000 march through London in world’s largest trans pride, organisers say

Protesters voiced anger at the new guidance on single sex-spaces and fears that trans people are being excluded from society.

"Every single person who marched today is proof that we are not going anywhere, that our joy is louder than their hate, and that London Trans+ Pride will keep fighting, keep loving and keep growing until every trans person is safe, seen, and free," they added.

Before the march, a mother of a trans woman who took her own life said "more children are going to die" unless Mr Burnham works to reverse the "anti-trans policies" that Sir Keir Starmer oversaw.

[depsidase]

[theaceofwords]

It's called the Global Justice Report, it is here. This is an actionable plan which can be sent to legislators and demanded of political parties. We could save the world within our lifetimes.

It has always been possible. It is still possible.

[h0lyshift]

The older i get the more i understand why some people become obsessed with privacy, not because they’re hiding something, but because being constantly perceived starts to feel spiritually exhausting.

[melyzard]

Did you know that soda machines at restaurants and movie theaters spy on you? That most common new cars now record your sexual preferences and send it to the manufacturer (and also data about anyone who also gets in your car, walks by your car, and maybe happens to be within visual range of your car)? That grocery stores are trying to force customers to download an app to scan barcodes on shelves instead of putting up prices, so the app can scan the phone, decide how much that customer should be squeezed for, and adjust the price? That more and more innocent people are being sent to jail for crimes committed hundreds of miles away because an AI facial recognition algorithm spit their faces out and the cops didn't bother to do the most basic of checks?

I am not uptight about privacy because I'm hiding something. I'm uptight about it because the people who dismiss my right to privacy are dangerous to you and me and our families, personally, all the time.

And often, they are assholes, too.

[possessionisamyth]

If you live in the USA and you're pleading for donations to pay your rent, bills, or get food then dial 211! Please dial 211 before the last minute!

It's a toll free service with people who will help you find programs in your community to pay those bills, find food, and find housing! They will give you numbers to call so you can get help.

It is not 100% foolproof. Their job is to direct you to a program they believe will help your current issue, but it's still a step up from praying random strangers online will give you enough cash before a deadline! The added benefit of these community programs, which get funded by the local government most of the time, is if there are more people using them then they can get more money to help more people.

You're not taking resources from other people if you use your community services. Your taxes pay for them. Use them.

Dial 211 first to see if they can help, and if for some reason they can't, then make your donation posts!

https://www.211.org/

[dcmcboxers]

Hi I work for my state's 211 service. It really breaks my heart how many people only know to call us at the last minute. 211's can provide a whole wealth of resources to use before things ever get to a cut off utility, eviction, or homelessness!

I can't speak for all 211's but most should also have a website detailing all the agencies in their database. if you don't like phone calls, this can be something to reference instead.

If you don't have health insurance but you need to see a doctor, reference 211! We list clinics that provide free or discounted general care, vision, and dental services to low income households and people without insurance! Many hospitals also have financial aid policies that can severely reduce your bill if you had an expensive procedure!

If you're stuck in a dead end job or need educational resources reference 211! There are a lot of programs focused on providing basic adult education as well as trade skills or other high demand fields! State governments are generally more interested in funneling people into work than providing benefits, but you can still use this to your advantage especially if you have some form of disability but are still able to work. That includes if you're neurodiverse or have mental health issues! Most of these programs are extremely underutilized.

If you believe you qualify for public benefits but the bureaucracy of the process is in your way, reference 211! There are agencies specifically geared towards helping people obtain the benefits they qualify for- for free!

If you need help with your taxes-

If you need help finding a pro bono lawyer-

If you need help finding affordable housing/section 8 housing-

If you need help finding food pantries-

If you need help paying for your prescriptions-

If you need help obtaining disability aids or assistive technology-

If you need help finding transportation options-

If you need help following a natural or personal disaster (like a home fire)-

If you need help repairing a home you or your family owns or it needs modifications to be accessible-

If you need Queer resources-

Reference your 211!!!!!

I had no idea what 211 was before working for it but I wish I had. I've learned so much about what resources are actually available to the community even in a ho hum area of the country like my state. I've saved my partner literally thousands of dollars just from the medical resources I've gathered.

Not enough young people know about or utilize these services but they are there for you!

P. S.

This isn't an intended use of 211, but I like to reference the agency listings when I look for jobs. Many of the agencies listed are non-profits which, while they certainly are not perfect, generally have lower barriers of entry to decent paying jobs with benefits. The work environments tend to be much kinder and at least pretend to be forward thinking. You're more likely to find jobs without as many people applying as well, especially if they're only advertising their positions through their own website.

[sameenbyhat]

Homepage

Get help paying bills, finding food, and locating other resources near you. Call 211 now for confidential help from a caring expert.

[brosser-les-dents]

Oh my goodness. Sharing this because maybe your state has something to help you see a dentist! If it's been a while, please see I'd you have any dental services in your area. It's really so important to see a dentist.

[rabidasexualopppsum]

While the queer characters in one piece definitely have room for improvement what I really love about them is there unapologetically queer. They’re not made to be more digestible for a straight audience. Even though Oda definitely missteps with them sometimes they feel very genuine. They are just unapologetically themselves and don’t care to be put in a single box or label. They’re weird little freaks that look extremely strange that we’re supposed to love. And I love that.

I saw this in a YouTube comment once and it really captures the vibe of one pieces queer characters: Oda thinks queer people are freaks but he likes freaks.

[funstyle]

having audio processing issues is so humiliating like yeah i heard you and yeah i was actively listening but the problem is i dont know what the fuck you sayed

[jacobtheloofah]

i was paying attention, i was listening, but you see the problem is....it didnt work

[luckyclaw]

Ayoo just to preempt the inevitable dumb takes we’re about to start seeing;

I am PRO-WOOL

I am PRO-LEATHER

I am PRO-BEES

Fuck the idea of replacing durable, sustainable animal products with cheap, flimsy plastic that doesn’t bio-degrade. Agave nectar and other artificial sweeteners are expensive, labor-intensive, and destroy the environment to be farmed.

Do not buy into pernicious marketing campaigns pushed by dickhead organizations trying to stay relevant, like PETA.

[marzipanandminutiae]

“but the industry-”

listen there is a huge difference between an industry with problems that can be made sustainable and more humane, and an industry that cannot, given current technology, continue to the present degree without destroying our planet

[oakenroots]

Wool - Contrary to what bullshit mongers like PETA would have you believe, wool is one of the most ethical materials humans have ever worked with. Happy sheep make better wool, experienced shearers seldom nick their sheep, and older sheep produce more wool, meaning its best to keep them alive and treat them well for many years.

Leather - one cow makes SO MUCH leather. One deer makes SO MUCH leather. Well-treated leather lasts almost FOREVER. Even animals with small skins like rabbits, a pair of well oiled rabbit leather gloves will last decades. Every animal usually made into leather is also a meat animal, so it’s more sustainable to get more than one product from a single ethically butchered animal (humane kills make less punctures in the hide!) Leather can be tanned with natural resources like brains and doesn’t require treatment with chemicals that seep into the groundwater!

Cotton: Cotton is a fucking plant, it burns. The growing and harvesting of cotton is rather water intensive but it IS possible to sustainably harvest and reuse the water spent in the cleaning process to reduce the ecological footprint of the crop. It burns clean, it cuts clean, it’s sturdy, and there are 1000 ways to weave it to change its properties.

Bees & Honey: yes yes, the european honey bee is an invasive species, we know that. But honey has been cultivated by humans for just about as long as there have been humans, and they 100% choose to be cultivated. Like bees can and will leave if they’re not treated and maintained well. They understand that humans protect and clean the hives, and often become familiar with their keepers, choosing to walk on and investigate them instead of acting defensive. If animal welfare and consent are your concerns, honeybees aren’t the animals to worry about. If you, like me, are worried about native bee species, instead of creating hives you can strip an area of grass and leave an open area of clay and sandy soil to attract mason and digger bees to nest in the spring. They will happily coexist with honey bees as long as you plant the native keystone species the native bees rely on (like indian blanket flower, partridge pea, native violets in my area) as well as the high nectar plants that honeybees prefer (like roses, sunflowers, bee balm and cone flowers). Nature is actually really adaptable and accommodating of the human urge to cultivate plants and animals, and the idea that nature is ‘dead’ rather than ‘neglected’ is something that corporations want you to believe so you don’t oppose them spraying pesticides every 15 feet.

[tucsonhorse]

The thing about cotton production is that if it is done somewhere other than A DESERT, it is far, far more sustainable and requires far less additional water. The reason cotton production in the US is such a water-suck is because they are taking this plant that likes lots and lots of water and they are growing it in the desert. Put it in an area closer to its natural habitat and it will be even more ecologically sustainable.

[artsekey]

Reading a book about the psychology of friendship (that, oh by the way, taps the ace and trans communities in its discussion not as clinical categories but by including anecdotes from people in those communities!!) and somehow it encouraged me to quadruple down on saying:

We literally do not have enough friendships. Our culture's obsession with romance over friendship is shockingly new (1850's on) and it is having a serious impact on our health across the board, specifically men. This problem has become sharply exacerbated in the last 20 years.

We need more friendships. We need more friendship in media. "But what if they kissed?" What if they didn't, and the love that was there mattered anyway??? Take my hand. Imagine this with me. A relationship unbound by law or expectation. People who choose one another again and again. To stay in each other's lives when there are no societal tethers holding them together.

Go read Platonic by Marisa G. Franco (PhD).

[ratbastarddotfuck]

tumblr keeps giving me these ads with straight up porn in them (like, nude dickriding) and while idgaf about seeing porn I really am like, exhausted by the double edged swords of "terms of service" and "advertising".

I can't post images that show too much of my stomach, because notable body fat trips whatever alarms are up in tumblr HQ. but advertisers can show me skinny white girls bouncing on it all day long bc like, they're advertisers.

we live in advertising world. companies have more rights to "expression" in public than individuals. once you notice it you won't stop seeing it. you have a moral duty to resist it.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

getting tired of these kinds of responses. "you're only seeing porn because you look at porn and the ads are connected to your data huehuehuehue" like it's some kind of gotcha.

I am a sex worker - a porn creator. Yes, I spend a lot of time on porn sites! sometimes for work, sometimes for pleasure. I'm not embarrassed to admit it. Do you think I should be? I'm on testosterone, sometimes I jerk off four times a day. Get over it.

When I said "idgaf about seeing porn" I meant it! What I DO care about is the fact that I as a user and a worker cannot post my creative labour on this website, but that advertisers can show me whatever they want, including AI generated Attractive People doing my job. The implication that they're doing this with the use of tracking cookies makes it worse, actually. I don't like living under surveillance. Do you think it's funny? Or do you think that was part of the problem I was trying to talk about from the start?

[katzirra]

I find that really fucking rich as a gotcha point, because I don't fucking look at jack shit on my phone of that nature, and tumblr is STILL flooding mine with that shit too. OP is right that it fucking sucks and they shouldn't have to have even made the second post. If you're trying to defend this shit to someone - maybe stop bootlicking and reread the first post lmao??

The fact big corpo can push NSFW shit in my face that I don't wanna god damn see, but the stuff I do wanna see and access by people who are properly tagging and currating etc being the problem? Yikes. It fucking feels gross. It feels kinda violating when you're not looking for it tbh. Also with all this sanitizing the internet nonsense FOR THE CHILDREN!!! I think constantly about the fact there are young teens on here, who are probably being exposed to these ads as well. If I'm getting them when I don't look at stuff on my phone, what are they catching on theirs?

And especially the ones - if the 'big data' is factored in- but the ones who are trying to covertly explore sexual curiosity, and getting that thrust in your face when you're not looking for it fucking SUCKS. Also like, seeing that shit when I'm in public and I have nsfw filters on and it still gets through?? WRETCHED BEHAVIOR.

Shit sucks. I hope everyone reports those ads every time they come up, because that SPECIFIC shit shouldn't fly.

[alexseanchai]

[image: Tumblr tags: #buddy...those ads are take from Your “big data stuff]

[maeril]

Hi everyone! This is an illustrated guide I made as part of my co-admining work at The Middle Eastern Feminist on Facebook! It will be published there shortly.  The technique that is displayed here is a genuine one used in psychology - I forgot the name and couldn’t find it again so if you know about it, feel free to tell me! Some could say: “Yes but you can use that technique for instances of harassment other than Islamophobic attacks!”, and my reply is: Sure! Please do so, it also works for other “types” of harassment of a lone person in a public space!! However I’m focusing on protecting Muslims here, as they have been very specific targets lately, and as a French Middle Eastern woman, I wanted to try and do something to raise awareness on how to help when such things happen before our eyes - that way one cannot say they “didn’t know what to do”!  I’d like to insist on two things: 1) Do not, in any way, interact with the attacker. You must absolutely ignore them and focus entirely on the person being attacked! 2) Please make sure to always respect the wishes of the person you’re helping: whether they want you to leave quickly afterwards, or not! If you’re in a hurry escort them to a place where someone else can take over - call one of their friends, or one of yours, of if they want to, the police. It all depends on how they feel! For my fellow French-speakers: I will translate it in French and post it on my page as soon as I can :) Please don’t hesitate to share this guide as it could push a lot of people to overcome bystander syndrome!! Lots of love and stay safe! PS: I you repost this cartoon of mine on twitter or instagram, please add me in the post so I can see it, with @itsmaeril :)

[cognitiveinequality]

An important reminder today, and every day.

[cucheallaigh]

This is based off of the Non-Complementary technique in psychology - also known as ‘flipping the script’.

It is a legitimate tactic for defusing a situation that could otherwise escalate to become quite nasty.

Kindness as self-defence – the power of ‘non-complementary behaviour’ | Aeon Videos

People instinctively reciprocate anger with anger and kindness with kindness, but what happens when someone breaks this ‘complementary be

[kuttithevangu]

Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs

[kuttithevangu]

People in my notes who think I’m repressed or dissociating: you will feel better when you learn emotions are not a binary of Not Feeling It vs Being Overwhelmed By It

[blorbospinninhouseplant]

Ok but How Do I Do That

[kuttithevangu]

Self-regulation for adults: Strategies for getting a handle on emotions and behavior - Harvard Health

Learn strategies for enhancing self-regulation skills, and discover the benefits of mastering this essential life skill to help emotional dy

There are many techniques (also, there are drugs)

[kuttithevangu]

Emotional Regulation: 5 Evidence-Based Regulation Techniques

Emotional regulation is about managing emotions to maintain balance.

A little meatier than the Harvard page but covering the same ground. These pages will give you additional phrases to google for advice