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This is where I post things that tickle my fancy and blog about the books I'm reading. Some of the books I read contain adult content which may be included in a post and some reposts may include mature content, proceed with care. Book posts may include spoilers with little to no warning, you have been warned!

[medievaljournalist]

check this shit out

[darlingofdots]

been stewing on an analytical approach to fiction which I call "is this book afraid of me?" and in order to answer this question you determine how hard the book is trying to make sure you don't come after the writer on twitter

[darlingofdots]

the fucked-up part is that I specifically notice this in like, BIPOC or queer romances because their authors a) are more likely to be harassed online b) tend to care about writing inclusive and intersectional books more, both of which are totally valid reasons, but unfortunately a book that is scared to be misunderstood is also scared to challenge the reader or allow for too much nuance or grey areas or character flaws and I am sorry to say that it often makes for less compelling stories because it means shying away from ambiguities and complexities in an effort to reassure me, the reader, that everyone here is a Good Person engaging in Healthy Behaviours and Relationships

[prof-grace-aspen]

There’s some movie coming out where the plot is you can only have sex one night of the year if you’re single, and all the characters are running around trying to find someone to fuck, and it once again reminds me that I…

I am aroace.

[weathernerdmando]

I’m arospec ace but the key part being ace and…huh, that IS what that trailer was about. Thats….what even? How is that a decent plot for a movie?

I am Confused.

[prof-grace-aspen]

Allos gotta fuck. A world where they can’t/don’t fuck regularly is compelling and exotic to them.

And like. The trailer I saw was framed as though they’re also not DATING anyone on the other days of the year either, so in this single 24 hour period they have to find someone they want to fuck from scratch? Like, they didn’t plan it out ahead of time? They’re all just running around in their hottest clothes hoping someone will fuck them?

Quote from the trailer:

“Finding love is hard enough. Try doing it on the one night of the year single people are allowed to have sex.”

What? Dating isn’t illegal, just sex!! Why can you not find love the other 364 days of the year????

[souplover2000]

Okay I googled. Apparently its the one night of the year where premarital sex is legal. According to wikipedia at least.

[prof-grace-aspen]

Yup. The movie is using “single” to mean “unmarried”.

[souplover2000]

Why? That sounds like a horrifying awful government control/oversite. Also should be nigh impossible to actually control. This sounds like a horror concept more than the premise of a romcom but okay...

[prof-grace-aspen]

Well we've only seen one trailer, so maybe it gets into the horror aspects but it doesn't seem like it does. It seems like a bit more of a standard romance, maybe a romcom?

And like I do get that if it's meant to be a romance or romcom that the writers might choose to say "it's a movie, it's not that deep" and ignore the more horrifying implications of a world like that lol.

I don't necessarily fault them for that, AND I also think it'll be a fascinating topic to delve into and discuss the horror implications of once we know more!

[tucsonhorse]

I'm allo and this sounds like bullshit to me. Even if we assume it's the only night a year people can masturbate (how they gonna stop that?), if what you're looking for is the pleasure of it then you're better off on your own. And if what you want is the connection, then you're better off dating the rest of the year without the sex. This sounds like some sort of weird Christian propaganda crap 😆.

[caseyscraftycorner]

watching my husband get diagnosed with and treated for sleep apnea over the last year was not the thing that radicalized me re: weight and healthcare but my goodness it has solidified my stances.

sleep apnea is more common in people who are fat.

society decided for some reason that this meant that being fat causes sleep apnea. its often difficult to get referrals for sleep apnea treatment if you are fat, because some PCPs will tell you try losing weight first.

turns out!! having untreated sleep apnea causes weight gain in a not-insignificant number of people. it also makes it fucking impossible for many people to lose weight.

my husband worked out the same amount before he got a cpap as he does now. there have been no major diet changes either. yet he has been losing weight -- and gaining muscle tone -- consistently since he started using a cpap in january.

also, his blood pressure -- which was high, which docs blamed on his weight/diet -- went down significantly within one month of starting cpap treatment, before his weight changed significantly.

ANYWAYS. this is getting long. two final thoughts.

- I Want To Strangle Medical Fatphobia With My Bare Fucking Hands

- if you are exhausted constantly for "no reason", and especially if you snore, you should probably ask your doctor about getting tested for sleep apnea. it is extremely common -- estimates are around 1 in 10 people -- and is also wildly under-diagnosed. like, some estimates suggest that 80% of people with moderate-severe sleep apnea are undiagnosed.

[sluglover666]

Hot take, but even if you ARE punching up (instead of punching sideways at a group that is in the same boat as you), there's a limit to what you can say without sounding like a violent facist but woke this time.

Making fun of a group of people that are privileged over you is one thing, but wishing non-cartoonish violence and death on them ("they should fall off a cliff" vs. "they should be wiped out"), wishing sexual violence on them, dehumanising them, claiming that they're less capable of creating art or living meaningful lives, saying that their relationships are inherently shallow and fake - these things are fucked up. I understand venting and saying extreme things when in pain, but when you find yourself regularly posting about wanting certain people tortured and killed, you need to examine that.

When the only thing stopping you from completely dehumanising someone is your own judgement regarding their privilege level relative to yours, you are not a safe person to be around.

[darkladynyara]

[emfrots]

"convince your followers that their Oppressor Class (whether real or imagined) is less deserving of human rights" is the oldest and most reliable trick in the book to incite mass violence, and you're not immune to it because you're a Good Person with Correct Opinions. you will continue to be a potential breeding ground for fascist thought until you stop dehumanizing people in any context, regardless of whether they deserve it or not, or how serious you are. there can be no acceptable targets.

[standwithdaanes]

Rwandan genocide - Wikipedia

The Rwandan Genocide: From Colonial Roots to a Contested Future - Explaining History Podcast

In the spring of 1994, the small African nation of Rwanda was engulfed in a maelstrom of violence that saw at least 800,000 Tutsi and modera

I always think of the Rwandan Genocide when it comes to this. Thank you for bringing it up.

In particular, from that second link:

As we have already seen in this series of articles, Rwanda’s ethnic division between Hutu (around 85 %) and Tutsi (around 14 %) had deep roots in colonial rule. Under Belgian administration, identity cards fixed ethnicity as a rigid category, and the Tutsi minority was favoured for education and government work. After independence in 1962, this hierarchy inverted, and Hutu elites consolidated control. [...] When RTLM launched in July 1993, it combined pop-culture style with extremist ideology. This hybrid made hatred sound normal, even entertaining. Music, jokes, gossip, and death threats co-existed in the same broadcast. [...] RTLM’s language fused entertainment with ideology. It mocked Tutsis as arrogant “cockroaches” (inyenzi), accused them of conspiring to enslave Hutus, and encouraged listeners to “work” to eliminate them—a euphemism for killing. Humour, music, and familiarity disguised the lethal message.

[brainscrems]

“Anything goes as long as it’s punching up” is also the central tenet of antisemitism. Leftists think Jews are the ultrawhite ruling class, worst of the worst of whiteness, and conservatives think we’re a race secretly controlling the world and pretending to be white as a plot to bring down the white race. People who believe the latter are in charge of the US government rn. The nature of antisemitism is that we serve as a misdirect for the people with real power. Whatever issues you care about, people in power will find a way to blame the Jews. I cannot remember the exact quote or who it’s from, but I will paraphrase it anyways. Depending on who you ask we’re communists, capitalists, nationalists, rootless cosmopolitans, white, least white, liberals, conservatives, fascists, anarchists, or whatever other “existential and powerful” threat one may believe exists. But what we never are to these people is human. We’re the monsters who hurt them and so it’s okay to hurt us. The truth doesn’t matter, of course, because they aren’t actually afraid of us. We’re just a safer and easier target, and the lie that hurting us is dangerous and makes a change is easier than the hard truths and dangers one must face to fight real power. As Jean-Paul Sartre said, “If the Jew did not exist, the antisemite would invent him.” Because it is not about the truth, but having a comforting lie that you can make positive change through abusing the vulnerable.

[phoukanamedpookie]

Remember Audre Lorde, "The master's tools will never dismantle the master's house."

Are you dismantling the system or just taking it over?

[i-give-you-a-fish]

I request MANY fish. So many fish. I require many fish for...tumblr reasons

You get several Yellowtail Scad

Trachurus novaezelandiae

[molabuddy]

recently when im tempted to say 'i'm gonna kill myself' i try to correct it into saying "im gonna walk into the river and become a trout" or some other form of that. this is my new thing

[molabuddy]

btw this has graduated into me just saying "the trout population will be affected" and then not elaborating

[totally-cis-offical]

@satan-offical

[evilpineapple-offical]

@satan-offical

[bitten-and-girl-smitten]

@satan-offical

[duckydoesstuff]

@satan-offical

[satan-offical]

I've been ignoring these tags

[daysleftofsecondterm]

failing to ignore these tags on 907 days left

[sufjansjoy]

well i'll just go ahead and get it out of the way : good morning. i know that's what you sick tuesday freaks want to hear..........

[1percentcharge]

i have a random issue with a handful of pre-srar fall out boy songs where I LOVE the the start of the song or just generally everything but the chorus, but the chorus itself i find kind of underwhelming (eg: ilalwtwiattgyo, ttotbo, igatrimeanomf, cfmrfrpfmsr, gblogbd(dyptstsasgts)

[geeko-sapiens]

poor thing...walked straight into the electric fence

[lizbukchoy]

me and a friend had a running joke about editing the gif of kermit and christian bale nodding at each other for a number of years, and i found the folder of edits and feel like this is maybe a place for them.

[maddiesharafian]

The Need to Stay

(Thought I’d upload my recent comics to Tumblr! I totally forgot it only lets you upload 10 pics at a time, and this is 11, but fingers crossed it works!)

[thepromiscuousfinger]

[gwydionmisha]

House Republicans pass hard-right defense bill, handing wins to Trump

The GOP-led bill authorizes over $1 trillion for the military and would codify President Donald Trump's rebranding of the Pentagon as the De

It endorses the US military murdering random Latin American fishermen, the Iran War, and lets ICE do what it wants with no limits or guard rails, and allows the legal violent occupation of American Cities by the National Guard on the president's whim.

This also includes the SAVE Act which aims to make it illegal for most married women and many trans people to vote as part of a scheme to fix elections.

Please contact your senators and ask them to vote NO.

If you can’t safely contact them in person, here are some other options for contacting your Senators:

Five Calls to your critters: https://5calls.org/

Here is one that will send your reps a fax: https://resist.bot/

And another: https://faxzero.com/fax_senate.php

“Congress. gov:” https://www.congress.gov/

These are the Democratic Quislings who sided with fascism over Freedom in the House:

Henry Cuellar of Texas, Don Davis of North Carolina, Jared Golden of Maine, Vicente Gonzalez of Texas, Adam Gray of California, Marie Gluesenkamp Perez of Washington.

If one of these is your representative, please tell them how you feel.

[gwydionmisha]

Senate Poised to Once Again Collapse Into Chaos Over SAVE Act 

President Donald Trump on Monday morning called on Senate Majority Leader John...

[melonfacade]

[datsderbunnyblog]

This comment was left on a post about making the most of the Libby app. "Excessive use of generous lending policies" is the most absurd phrase I've ever seen anyone use to discuss libraries.

[official-library-posts]

official library post

[tucsonhorse]

This should never be reblogged without information about how libraries PAY for ebooks.

When a library purchases a copy of a physical book it is theirs until it is lost/stolen, wears out, or they decide to remove it from the shelf. Sometimes that means it's just there for a year or two, other times it may be there for a handful of years or even decades. It could see hundreds of uses, although in my experience most books wear out around 100 uses if not before. If the book is still popular, the library may purchase a replacement copy of that book. Libraries are the primary purchasers of "back catalog" (aka not brand new) titles. Libraries are generally able to purchase physical books at a lower price than consumers.

When a library purchases a digital copy of a book from Libby the publisher has determined how long and how many uses the library "owns" that single copy for. A common length of time is 6 months, and the number of uses varies anywhere between like 5-30. Once the first of those qualifiers occurs, the library now has to purchase that title again in order to continue to offer it to users. Publishers also use this "multi-use license" as an excuse to charge libraries more for ebooks, often more than they charge for the physical books. This means that publishers (and potentially authors) make a good amount of money from people borrowing ebooks from the library.

In other words, if you consider the impact that generous lending policies have on the creators of those works, you should borrow more books through Libby!

[a-fucking-velociraptor]

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[dajo42]

this is the happiest day of my life

[laloon]

[keranos-god-of-storm-crows]

Too soon

[saheeli-rais-wife]

65 million years…

[randomslasher]

Don’t worry, guys. Carl is clearly a brachiosaurus, which lived during the Jurassic period. (And before anyone says our lil’ boy Steve is a velociraptor and therefore puts our comic in the late cretaceous, aka the time of the comet–that lil guy could easily be a compsognathus or a caudipteryx, both Jurassic-era species of small theropod dinosaurs. So the light getting bigger every night is going to pass by harmlessly, and Steve and Carl can go on enjoying the stars together until they die of old age, since Carl has very few natural predators at his size and I bet he’ll protect Steve, if he needs it (though small, fast and carnivorous as Steve is, he probably won’t). 

So it’s all good!! 

[gardenofroseandthorn]

That entire response explaining how these two characters didn’t die a fiery death but instead lived long and happy lives literally made my day.

[amurderofkittens]

I was ready to be heartbroken again. Thank you for making it happy after all.

[kestrel-tree]

Ridiculous yet effective ways to deal with Executive Dysfunction

Dealing with executive dysfunction and ADHD becomes so much easier when you stop trying to do things the way you feel like you should be able to do them (like everyone else) and start finding ways that actually work for you, no matter how “silly” or “unnecessary” they seem.

For years my floor was constantly covered in laundry. Clean laundry got mixed in with dirty and I had to wash things twice, just making more work for myself. Now I just have 3 laundry bins: dirty (wash it later), clean (put it away later), and mystery (figure it out later). Sure, theoretically I could sort my clothes into dirty or clean as soon as I take them off and put them away straight out of the dryer, but realistically that’s never going to be a sustainable strategy for me.

How many garbage bins do you need in a bedroom? One? WRONG! The correct answer is one within arms reach at all times. Which for me is three. Because am I really going to get up to blow my nose when I’m hyperfocusing? NO. In allergy season I even have an empty kleenex box for “used tissues I can use again.” Kinda gross? Yeah. But less gross than a snowy winter landscape of dusty germs on my desk.

I used to be late all the time because I couldn’t find my house key. But it costs $2.50 and 3 minutes to copy a key, so now there’s one in my backpack, my purse, my gym bag, my wallet, my desk, and hanging on my door. Problem solved.

I’m like a ninja for getting pout the door past reminder notes without noticing. If I really don’t want to forget something, I make a physical barrier in front of my door. A sticky note is a lot easier to walk past than a two foot high cardboard box with my wallet on top of it.

Executive dysfunction is always going to cause challenges, but often half the struggle is trying to cope by pretending not to have executive dysfunction, instead of finding actual solutions.