Everything from Shelbyās vod
It took Shelby 10 months after the relationship to heal
Wilbur cared more about how it looked
It was subtle in the way Wilbur abused
It didnāt start out with Wilbur hurting Shelby out right
Wilbur wanted to make sure that Shelby was ok with the biting so that she couldnāt come back later and say he abused her
As time went on, Wilbur kept biting too hard more and more frequently
Wilbur decided that he didnāt want to keep āaccidentallyā hurting Shelby so they came up with a safe word
Wilbur made it seem normal and told his friends and made it seem like a bit to take Shelbyās arm and bite it in front of everyone until she has to shot in pain. And she just has to laugh it off
Shelby kept telling Wilbur after these bits happen that she didnāt like it and that he needed to stop biting so hard
Wilbur replied that this is who he is and he wasnāt going to change.
Wilbur would constantly contradict himself and then try and gaslight Shelby, that he didnāt say these things and how do you know that itās not your memory being false
Eventually, Wilbur weaponized the safe word and used it insure that Shelby was hurt and on a constant basis
Wilbur wasnāt sorry anymore. He had stopped apologizing so long ago that Shelby doesnāt remember the last time he had apologized
Now, sometimes Wilbur would bite Shelby so hard, she would yell out the safe word because it hurt so bad.
Instead of letting go, Wilbur clamped down even harder or he would grind his teeth down.
He would sometimes smile after.
At one point Wilbur had pinned Shelby down and asked her to try her absolute hardest to get him off of her and she couldnāt do it
He said something to make the point that he was so much stronger than her. That she wouldnāt be able to fight back.
Wilbur said he didnāt have time and energy to do the stuff that Shelby was asking for and then would constantly make any sorta time and energy for anything but her
Shelby was constantly anxious, nauseous all the time, gagging daily, occasionally throwing up because of the bit in her stomach
Shelby would tell Wilbur that she felt unwanted and ignored and he would reassure her that he loved her and that he loved her more than she loved him
Wilbur would INSIST that he loved her more.
Wilbur was love bombing Shelby at the beginning of their relationship.
One month into their relationship, Wilbur was talking about them being soulmates, about forever, about how he wanted to be a dad
On the decline of the relationship, Wilbur doesnāt want kids at all and he has NEVER wanted kids
So Shelby brought up marriage and Wilbur said that he still wanted to marry her
Now, he instead says, āIām not the commitment guy. You know that.ā
Shelby did not know that.
By the end, before Wilbur went on tour, he was basically flaunting that he would never prioritize Shelby over anything
Wilbur was never gonna prioritize Shelby over anything that would give him more fame or money.
He said that himself, directly to Shelby.
Wilbur said he wanted to see how much fame and money he could get.
Wilbur admitted that he had grown to resent Shelby
This was the final push to get Shelby out of that relationship
After the relationship ended, Wilbur was ākindā enough to ship Shelby back her clothes
Wilbur trashed everything else.
Wilbur would spill things and never clean them up
Wilbur got an ant infestation once and was never gonna do anything about because he said bugs are normal in British houses
Wilbur wouldnāt clean his bathroom for months and months and months but would constantly complain about how bad it smelled
Shelby then told him that it was mold.
But Wilbur would insist that it wasnāt mold even though he hadnāt cleaned in months
When they met, Wilbur was washing his clothes without detergent and then hanging it on his filthy kitchen cabinets
Shelby found out after they broke up that Wilbur didnāt clean at all when she wasnāt there because he just waited for her to get there to do it
Shelby was paying for all the cleaning supplies like soap and paper towels
Shelby was paying for food more than half the time because Wilbur would push her to order for them even if she had paid for the previous meals
Shelby was also paying for every plane ticket and every cat-sitter and Wilbur never offered to help her pay
Shelby told Wilbur that she couldnāt afford doing this all the time so he offered to pay for the cat-sitter from now on
Shelby has said all this because Wilbur is dangerous.
He was willing to do harm to the someone he claimed to love more than anyone he had ever loved.
Wilburās actions escalated slowly over time and Shelby wont be the last person that he hurts.
Please note that this is everything Iāve gather from watching the vod. If I missed something, just add it on in a reblog. If you still support this disgusting excuse of a human being after knowing that he did this, you are a bad person.
Always listen to the victim