[sluttyquarantinetheory]

The concept that married people live longer is interesting. I'm sure there is some merit to the idea that if you're married there is someone there to nag you about going to the doctor, but I think much larger factors are having the finances of dual incomes and access to an immediate support person.

Surgeries require having a designated person to look after you. Many injuries require driving to somewhere like an emergency room which can be hard to do if you are the one injured. If you're home with the flu, it's hard to tell when it's bad enough to go to the hospital without another person checking on you. And if you pass out it requires another person to find you like that to get medical aid.

You can prop it up as the benefits of marriage, but I think there's a much deeper discussion to be had about how we've built society around marriage as an inevitable conclusion and neglected to build support systems that function outside of romantic pairings.

[mysweetoddbird]

listen to me. if youre aro you have to be louder about it. i dont care how loud about it you are already you have to be louder. if we have to be surrounded knee deep by amatonormativity all the time every day its good for the soul to be loud and annoying about your aromanticism

[guardianspirits13]

aro(sp)ace

[anxeious]

bathe in your own sunlight !!!!!!

[aromantic-jellyfish]

@this-is-aromantic-joy

[this-is-aromantic-joy]

this is aromantic joy! thank you for the mention

[bloggingboutburgers]

Did a genuine double-take at a "used to like me" recently, so you know the drill

[catgirltoofies]

they should legalize polyamory. everywhere. and im not kidding at all. if someone wants to marry multiple people they should be allowed to. for any reason.

[transfutch]

before anybody tries to say some bullshit about this, extending the definition of marriage to include multiple people would give members of religions forced into abusive polygamy the same rights any divorcing spouse would have without putting them at risk for being charged with bigamy. this would make it easier for people to leave abusive plural marriages.

[flipocrite]

Once again, the best way to protect the exploited is through regulation, which cannot be done without legalization.

[giga-queen]

ship wars are dumb. Polyamory and aromanticism are easy, simple, and effective solutions

[nerdragons-hoard]

I don't see how polyamory or aromanticism could patch up the holes in my hull but if you say so

[candyskiez]

The fact that people don't think friendship is enough to justify characters doing insane acts of love for each other baffles me. Like have you never loved your friend so so much you want to live in their ribcage. Have you never been really weird about a friend. Have you never wanted to bite your friends parents or shove them down a staircase. Have you never wanted to be buried in the same grave as a friend. Have u never. How do u people live like this.

[wiisagi-maiingan]

It is actually scary seeing people who just fully aren't aware that marriage is about way more than a paper or about "getting the government involved" with your relationship. Marriage provides a lot of legal and financial benefits that I don't think people are fully aware of, like:

having joint health insurance plans or being under your spouse's insurance

social security and life insurance payouts

more tax things than I can honestly think of

combined credit scores for the purpose of applying for a loan or mortgage

hospital visitation rights

the right to make medical decisions for your spouse when they're unable to; if there isn't an established medical directive AND a durable power of attorney of healthcare for your partner, these rights go to the next of kin even if they're abusive or you're estranged

the ability to sue on your behalf if you die

the right to make decisions regarding your last rites and your funeral

inheritance!!!

CHILD CUSTODY!!! if you have a child anf they are not biologically your non-married partner's or legally adopted by them, there is absolutely no guarantee that your partner would get custody if anything happened to you; even if it's in your will, wills are just suggestions in terms of child custody, and the court will hear out any adults who have a claim and will often side with biological family (your siblings, your parents, or the child's other bio family) over the parent's unmarried partner, even if you've been living together for years and the child knows them as another parent. this has been used by abusive and bigoted family to steal grieving children from their other parent

Do I think all of these things should be exclusive to marriage? No. Do I know another solution? Also no. Is this the realoty we live in regardless? Yes! There is a reason why marriage has been something people have fought for for so long and so hard, whether it's interracial marriage or gay marriage or whatever else, these are all rights exclsuive to married couples and something that you absolutely need to consider when starting a life with someone, especially if you have children or plan to have them in the future.

[valtsv]

lowkey i want more "problematic" aromantic and/or asexual representation. i want aro/aces who are unhappily married or in romantic relationships that they abandon for entirely selfish and not necessarily sympathetic reasons. i want aro/aces who are bitterly jealous of their friends' romantic partners for making them happy in ways they never could. i want aro/aces who are corrupted by power because they can't find satisfaction in other people. and i want romantic relationships that are ruined by friendships or even the allure of isolation. i want love to lose.

[valtsv]

i want a character in a romantic relationship to sincerely feel like they're cheating on their partner with their friend(s) or their work/quest/whatever. and i want them to break up about it with the same degree of drama and grief that would have happened if they'd actually been having an affair.

[infizero]

as ive said many times i love the dynamic of "character A is in love with character B who is aromantic, and they're both aware of this and function fine with character A just enjoying being close to B even if it means not being able to actually be in a relationship with them". and because i hate allos i dont have to care if thats "unrealistic" or "puts too much stress on character A". WHO GAF!!!!!!!!!!! SECRET THIRD THING DYNAMICS FOREVER!!!!!!!!

[asexual-fandom-queen]

i don’t want a ROMANTIC PARTNER. i want a DEAR FRIEND i can use as a HUMAN WEIGHTED BLANKET

[ebulatheduck]

ik i already reblogged something very similar to this quite recently but

this is a need

[fintan-pyren]

[excited about an aro friend getting a boyfriend] congratulations! [remembers that presenting romantic relationships as a universal goal to be achieved perpetuates amatonormativity] I don't care about your relationship at all [trying to reaffirm that I am supportive of aromanticism] and I hope you break up

[saveyourhelplessspite]

[aromantic voice] look just because they have sex and live together that doesnt mean theyre like, romantically involved, dont be stupid

[foenixed]

"Why would this character be jealous of their friend's romantic relationships? Clearly they're in love with them" I don't know if you guys have ever Had Friends but it's actually pretty common for people to feel jealous if their best friend suddenly has less time for them and is prioritising someone they just met over them. That's not inherently romantic, that's the general human desire to be valued by the people you value.

[flyingkats49]

“There’s no platonic explanation for this”

Well first of all through the power of aromanticism all things are possible so jot that down

[going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi]

yes conservatism is on the rise yes tradwife content is as popular as ever yes pink jobs and blue jobs are fucking stupid BUT there is still such a big change in how straight women are talking about relationships online.

they're talking about how they're no longer interested in dating because their female friends treat them better than boyfriends do. they're realizing that being single is always better than being in a bad relationship. it's becoming a lot more normal and fun and hot for women to be single at any age. the women who have settled down with truly good men in truly happy relationships are encouraging other women to not take any shit because the right man won't need to be "trained". they're talking about how their mothers and grandmothers warned them to get a job and not get married, and they followed the advice.

tradwife content is performance. it's propaganda. there are so few women actually living that life. but we know for a fact that more women than ever are educated, working, and single. and all I see (admittedly in my woke ass algorithm) is women talking about how they're done settling for mediocre relationships. and I love it.