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[the-dog-empress]

Stolen from @tinysweetvoid but i wanted to make it a bit more descriptive

[artificer4396]

art for @goldenstranger

Silvie - 34y, any/all

made starting with a default Daz3D Gen 3 rig, then modified in Blender along with making the outfit

[bevsi]

something I’ve noticed in fandoms lately is a lack of… object permanence? perspective? Just reacting to each episode/chapter of something as if it’s final & whatever plot line they dislike is the status quo forever? like…… have a tiny bit of patience

I kinda understand because a lot of franchises lately have ended in shoddy and poorly thought out ways, but tbh either have some faith in your fav show or just write fanfic

[bevsi]

I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with relating to characters, “they’re literally me” etc but if that’s the only way you engage with stories you’re kinda missing the whole point of Characters being vehicles through which we can see perspectives outside of our own. and also you’re going to get upset when the Character acts in a way that is not Personally Relatable to You

[bevsi]

doubly for shipping. at risk if biting the hand that feeds me, a well written fictional relationship should ideally be more than a didactic template for how to have a nice relationship

[transfemme-shelterdog]

"According to this study, trans men make $0.10/hr more than trans women. This proves they're privileged"

The nefarious confounding, lurking and latent variables:

[the-importantstufd]

Unrelated to this specific topic, people heard the sentence use sources and studies for your claims and then went to dig up every misleading / low quality study to support their arguments.

Just because a study came to a result doesn’t mean it holds any truth, its important to take the size of it into account, who made it and if its unbiased, the age as well as location, how the data was collected and most importantly you need to cross reference other studies to see what conclusions they came to.

If theres only one study to support your point its in most cases not viable proof, if a lot of high quality studies came to different conclusions it shows that this topic needs further studying. Linking a study does not make your argument automatically valid

[ravioliet]

"why can't they just be friends?" not in the homophobic sense, but in the "in your need to center romance in everything you are missing the whole point of the media in question" sense

[thequeenoftheentiregoddamnworld]

Hey, hey, look me in the eyes when I tell you this okay? The whole "do trans women or trans men have it worse?" debate going on right now is the most obvious CIA bullshit on earth cause honestly we've both got it pretty shitty and fighting each other isn't helping anyone

[cat-found-in-an-allie]

"Do I, the person thrown into the right end of the volcano, have it worse than them, the person thrown into the left end of the volcano?"

[homunculus-argument]

You ever think about how old people have no idea what “survivor bias” is, and take full credit for being excellent out of things where they lucked out?

“Back in my day we didn’t have any of these childhood protective things, we were smart enough not to do stupid shit on our own!” Except your little neighbour, who got the funniest idea at the age of seven, and got his skull pierced when he slipped?

“Back in my day nobody got divorced, we stuck together and fixed our problems!” What about your cousin, who was slowly killed by her husband because she had nowhere to escape him?

“Back in my day nobody had ‘mental problems’, we didn’t whine, we just toughed it out and endured life!” Hey remember that guy you used to work with, who seemed really friendly and normal, and then suddenly hanged himself ‘for no reason’?

“Back in my day we didn’t have any of this ‘gay’ or ‘transgender’ thing.” You did, but your family cut all ties with her before you were born.

 You kinda start seeing it in everything they think, if you start looking for it.

[thegrimzuera]

“When we were kids nobody whined about car seats or bike helmets. We didn’t use them, and we all survived!”

Yeah, except for the ones who didn’t.

[transmasc-theory]

The thing that has me scratching my head in confusion about the recent wave of "trans men are invading women's spaces" rhetoric from TRFs is that I thought we were in agreement that the very concept of "men's spaces" and "women's spaces" was a load of crap. I thought we were in agreement that bathrooms should be marked "bathroom with a urinal" and "bathroom without a urinal" instead of "men's" and "women's." I thought we agreed that healthcare should never be gender segregated regardless. I thought we were in agreement that everything called a "woman's space" was just blatantly being exaggerated as a tool of exclusion.

Further, why are you using these arguments that were invented by TERFS when you know these will inevitably be weaponized against you too? Do you really think you can rehabilitate concepts made to hurt YOU and turn them into a weapon against just the people you hate? Like even if you can't be a decent enough human being to care about transmascs, you could at least have an ounce of self-preservation and realize this is helping TERFs to hurt YOU, not just the trans men you want dead!

[bingutop]

You are trapped in an elevator with the person on your lockscreen. Who is it?

Reblog with who you get stuck with~

[algae122]

my fuckin cat

[drudg30n]

THE SUN

[artificer4396]

[bebsi-cola]

health isn't a virtue.

[bebsi-cola]

people still go around acting like they've done something good in order to be able bodied and healthy. that they worked for it, that it's due to their moral fibre or good upbringing or self control. they genuinely, on some level, believe that they are a good person solely based on the strength of their physical abilities. they will resist the fact that it is largely down to chance that they were able to maintain such health. whatever they think they've built from scratch, the building blocks were already handed to them. not because they're more worthy of it, just by luck. and they really think they're worth more based on that sheer luck. i've met disabled people worth a hundred of the healthiest ableds alive.

[this-is-multigenderphobia]

Bioessentialism will have people saying stuff like "all amabs are dangerous and violent, and all afabs are incapable of harm and pure" and gender essentialism will have people saying "all trans feminine people and trans women are incapable of harm and pure, and all trans masculine people and trans men are dangerous and violent"

And I keep seeing them used as reactions to each other. You get away from one and fall into the other.

"hey, before you interact, tell me what category of humans you think are inherently evil and disgusting and that we should exterminate to live all peacefully and safely? :)" <- this is how it sounds.

I am not joking when I say the death of nuance is the death of us.

[god-of-switches]

And from my experience, most of the people who do this who put themselves in the "not fundamentally problematic" category.

There's real danger there. An uncomfortable truth that everyone will have to come to deal with at some point in their lives, is that everyone is capable of being cruel and discriminatory. And not "everyone by me". You too, whoever you are reading this, will have that capacity for cruelty. It is part of having personality. I won't even decry it as fundamentally problematic, because sometimes you have to do unpleasant things to survive. Denying that the capacity is there though, that's dangerous.

It's very easy, dare I say innate to humanity, to fall into tribalism, to create an out-group that is acceptable to demonize. And it can feel good on a surface level having someone that it is acceptable to hate. It's an outlet for emotion. It simplifies things rather than forcing you to confront the honestly baffling complexity that's out there. But it's not healthy.

Take whatever category that you want, and in modern neurobiology you will find that human brains between any two categories are more similar than they are different. You are always more similar to a group that you may hate than you are different from them. It would serve us all well to remember that when interacting with people.

So try to have that uncomfortable conversation with yourself. "Am I acting in a certain way to someone for genuine reasons, or are they just in a group that I've been told I'm allowed to hate". Because if it is, then I have a definition for you.

And that is not to say that you're evil, its only human. Most of us have at some time caught ourselves behaving in such a way. But be aware of it. Monitor yourself honestly, and judge people based on who they are not what they are. Because as much as I have mentioned how humans have a capacity for cruelty, another thing that's innate to intelligent life is a capacity for kindness. Look in the animal world, and any species that you can find with a modicum of advanced cognition will also have examples of altruistic behaviour. And that goes for humans too.

You can choose kindness. Give it a try.

[this-is-multigenderphobia]

Bioessentialism will have people saying stuff like "all amabs are dangerous and violent, and all afabs are incapable of harm and pure" and gender essentialism will have people saying "all trans feminine people and trans women are incapable of harm and pure, and all trans masculine people and trans men are dangerous and violent"

And I keep seeing them used as reactions to each other. You get away from one and fall into the other.

"hey, before you interact, tell me what category of humans you think are inherently evil and disgusting and that we should exterminate to live all peacefully and safely? :)" <- this is how it sounds.

I am not joking when I say the death of nuance is the death of us.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

The reason why so many of y'all's feminism sucks is because you still believe deep down in your hearts that there are only two kinds of people in the world: precious, ethereal, fragile dollthings called "women", and violent, lustful, rage-fueled apes called "men". Until you throw that idea away, 3rd-grade-tier "girls rule boys drool, girls are princesses and boys are stinky :(" is as feminist as we'll ever get-- and I hope it's obvious that that's lightyears away from the bare minimum of where we need to be.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

I don't know how I'm supposed to explain to ostensibly trans-friendly feminists that "women are beautiful soft things made of glass, men are obsessed with violence and sex" is exactly what the patriarchy wants you to believe. Patriarchy wants you to believe that being a woman and/or having a vagina (patriarchy generally believes those two things are synonymous) makes one shatter on impact with reality. It makes you easier to control if you are scared shitless of the other half of the population, and it makes you more compliant with your lot in life if you believe it is in the nature of the other half of the population to rape and kill rather than realise those were choices those individual rapists and murderers made. There is no way to make gender essentialism progressive and feminist, because it is one of patriarchy's tools of subjugation. Stop trying to make it progressive.

And I can scream all of that from the rooftops over and over again, and what I hear in reply is "Trans men really are men because no woman would ever decide to become an inherently evil repugnant rapist ape", and "You're so right. Trans women are women because they too are pretty delicate little objects I can fuck", and "You're non-binary? So are you fucktoy non-binary or sexpest non-binary?", and my patience runs ever thinner.

[artificer4396]

Since it seems this needs to be spelled out for some folks:

“The patriarchy encourages and often rewards toxic behaviors from men while treating femininity, non-toxic masculinity, or other non-conforming presentation and behavior as inferior” - not gender essentialist

“Masculinity is ontologically evil and femininity is good and pure” - extremely gender essentialist

[busket]

choosing to play oppression olympics isnt just mean and inconsiderate. like I feel when you call ppl out for it theyre like "does it hurt your feelings that I said your privileged?" like no you are actually doing some serious damage to your own cause

like the recent estrogen legislation. estrogen should never be made a controlled substance. everyone should have easy access to gender affirming care, including DIY. but when people try to spread awareness for this serious issue by acting like trans men arent as affected by institutional transphobia, it just becomes an argument about disinformation, because testosterone is ALREADY a controlled substance. I want estrogen to remain an uncontrolled substance because I want to save trans women from the bullshit than trans men have been having to deal with for over 30 years. and then you have a bunch of people arguing about this bullshit with each other while the law just plods on thru the government and everyone loses.

recently I saw a person talking about the recent, tragic murder of Juniper Blessing. but instead of honoring her memory, this person said that trans men dont experience the same danger. and of course that caused people to bring up the also very recent murder of Luca Redbeard. Both these violent hate crimes and murders happened THIS MONTH and it makes me sick that the trans community cant even honor their memories properly because theyre too up their own asses arguing about who has privilege and social power over the other, instead of seeing that we are all living the same fucking nightmare

[raingardening]

i think there is a phenomenon where sometimes a trans person will go “hmm. i am treated as a man when it is convenient for others, and a woman when it is convenient for others, and often as a freakish third thing excluded from the advantages of both. surely, because of the gender binary, the Other Type of trans person experiences the opposite: they reap the benefits of maleness and femaleness at once.” like babes no they can do it twice