Blue Is Agender

Pronouns: They/Them It/It's

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

why autistic/adhd people may not ask for help

i’m not sure where to start and i don’t even know what questions to ask that would help me understand any of this

i want to ask you but i’m deathly afraid that you will hate my guts and resent me forever

i feel stupid and embarrassed for not knowing/understanding this

i wasn’t paying attention/i zoned out/you were talking too fast while going over this

“oh my god are serious? it’s obvious, weren’t you paying any attention?” thanks for confirming i’m as stupid as i feel, appreciate it

i forgot about this deadline and i should’ve done it sooner but now it’s too late and awkward to say anything

your criticism will cast me into despair

i have no idea how to articulate my concerns so i will sit here silently until i can

i feel horrible about not doing it and not asking you initially and so i’m avoiding talking about it in the hopes that i will miraculously and suddenly understand it instead of doing the walk of shame to your office and risking the chance that i’ll piss you off and ruin your night

i’m working up the confidence to ask you

i’m formulating in my head a way to ask that doesn’t make me sound like i didn’t care enough to do it sooner, and that i actually have the willingness to do it, and that doesn’t place any blame on anyone except maybe me

autistic/adhd people feel free to add on! obviously this will vary from person to person, but this is my personal experience as an autistic and adhd person. if you’re neurotypical, please don’t try to offer tips for how to get around this because i can almost guarantee it will not be helpful :)

[transmasc-wizard]

i didn't know i was getting it wrong, because you didn't explain like half the instructions since "it's obvious anyway"

[blueberry-basics]

I wasn’t there when you gave the instructions to do the thing and i am too scared to ask you to go over it again plus your acting like i should just know it anyhow.

The way you explained it didnt make sense but i don’t want to tell you that because your going to judge me for not understanding the way you taught It because everyone else gets it.

[blueberry-basics]

Gender is a scam

[maa-iingan]

Go fuck yourself.

Do your research before talking out of your neck and hindering NEEDED HELP .. without even looking?? The cops you speak of? Already informed and did nothing, like they always do, especially with BIPOC!! THEY DONT CARE. this tells me you’re white or do not understand privilege..

If you would have taken ONE minute, and looked you would have read that and more.

I’m so tired and already triggered enough. People are out here being boldly cruel and disgusting, thinking they’re truly right, not helping anyone (bc that’s your goal right???)

and in fact hindering needed help for a BIPOC CHILD & FAMILY…

SO GUESS WHAT YALL !? IM BEING EXPOSED FOR LOVING MY LITTLE BROTHER AND DOING THE POLICES JOB FOR THEM - W MY OWN TIME, little ENERGY, $$$ , AND BC I DONT WANT TO FIND MY VULNERABLE BROTHER DEAD.., I’m so abusive. Thank you for the clarification! I REALLY NEEDED THAN RN ✨Miigwetch mookamon, please do find that post 🖤

** also remember that I’m HUMAN. I’m going on no sleep for a week - doing as much as I can, at my absolute limit, triggered, and going through every families worst nightmare. I am chronically ill, disabled & have severe ptsd rn & doing more than the cops all on MY OWN! I am my families main support system- and we’re all in hell rn… So maybe have some fucking empathy for me. Miigwetch.

[maa-iingan]

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‼️‼️PLEASE HELP ME FIND MY LITTLE BROTHER!! THIS IS AN EMERGENCY‼️‼️

He’s a missing native child and at EXTREME RISK! The cops aren’t doing SHIT!

BOOST, DONATE, & SHARE

[blueberry-basics]

Please help this person find their little brother!!! I can’t do a whole lot of things to help the family because I am a minor, but I can spread this info around to help the kid to be found.

[carnelianfoxx]

[blueberry-basics]

Gaesexual

Gaesexual is a sexual orientation where an agender individual is exclusively attracted to other Agender individuals.

[blueberry-basics]

I wanna look like crap but in a very cute and aesthetically looking way.

[blueberry-basics]

I will say that the quintgender flag is spectacular.

Quintgender is where someone experiences five gender identities.

Honestly, i gotta say I like the bright colors of the flag ngl.

[genderqueer-dream]

Black nonbinary folks deserve more recognition in our community!

Here's a short list of some black nonbinary celebs! Feel free to add on!

Janelle Monae! (Any pronouns)

Amandla Stenberg! (She/they)

Bob the Drag Queen! (he/him and she/her)

Andre J! (They/them)

To any black nonbinary person reading this:

I see you, and I love you. You’re not alone. You’re valid. You’re important. You’re cool as hell.

[blueberry-basics]

your gender isn’t fake, unless you don’t have a gender like me.

[the-mad-owl]

Fovea

[from Latin: Fovea - pit, hole in the ground]

Definition: A gender identity associated with a bottomless hole or pit tethered to the material world. There may be vague feelings or associations to other gender identities around it, like stones piled up around a well or mosses growing on the inside. However, the defining feature is always not knowing what lies at the bottom, or if there even is an end. The hole can never be filled.

When questioning one's gender, it may feel like throwing a rock into a well to see when it hits the water's surface, or into a pit to check for its ground level, but it keeps falling endlessly and no noise echoes back. It may also feel like standing at the edge of a dark hole, not being able to see anything past a few metres in.

Fovea can fall under agender and is always under the trans umbrella. It is kenochoric in nature.

Flag:

[Image Description: Five striped flag with a big black circle in the middle. The stripes, from top to bottom, are black, light green, medium green, dark blue-green and black again.]

The black stripes stand for being tethered into a material world as "borders" (different from, for example, black holes or floating in a void).

The green stripes stand for the feeling of descending into a pit, having less and less visibility the farther down one goes.

The black circle stands for the hole or pit itself.

Similar terms:

Cavgender: Gender that feels like deep, digged hole in the ground. May or may not be connected to dirtworms and grass/plants.

Gendervoid: Gendervoid refers to a gender that is an absence, a blank space, or a void, where a gender might otherwise be.

[natewrightt]

rb to give the person you reblogged it from a nice hug

[blueberry-basics]

Ever just get emotionally numb as a coping mechanism? cuz i do.

[leofrith]

some of y'all really need to re-examine what the word racist means because it's not always just "loud and proud white supremacist intentionally causing harm". sometimes it's "otherwise 'nice' person acting on internalized racial biases that they refuse to examine".

like my god the second "racist" gets dropped in a conversation some of you completely shut down under the weight of all your white fragility and refuse to listen to or act upon any criticism of your harmful actions, however intentional or unconscious they may be, and it's honestly pathetic. grow the hell up. learn to be uncomfortable in discussions about racism or you're never going to become better.

[blueberry-basics]

Where’s my gender?

Well, I had to give it to my younger sister when she was born because my parents couldn‘t afford a new one.

So yeah, that’s why I don’t have a gender.

[witch-without-gender]

Hey! Trans and nonbinary people! I wanna spread some positivity in our community!

What’s some of you favorite gender euphoria moments or a time where you felt loved and valid in your identity or just something you love about being trans/nonbinary? I’ll start.

There’s one teacher I work with who absolutely makes my day every time I talk with her because after I told her my preferred name, pronouns, and prefix she has not once misgendered me. I love my job already but she and many of the other accepting teachers make it an even more fulfilling and wonderful job for me 😊

[blueberry-basics]

Ine if my favorite gender euphoria moments is when my my art teacher used they/them pronouns on some sheet she needed to fill out for my 504. Also, every other teacher, except one, uses he/him pronouns which also made me happy.

Only one teacher used she/her pronouns, which I dislike a lot, but i had one of the school counselors email her on the pronouns I use.

Another ge Moment is when my teachers (art and bio teacher) and a few student correct ppl who use the wrong pronouns before i can say anything!!

[blueberry-basics]

Pretty much every law uses he, she, and sometimes they pronouns. For a person who uses it/it’s pronouns, i do not exist to the government and this I cannot be arrested, seen, nor be accounted for any illegal activity in your area.