it's kind of insane how disasterous of an effect it can have on your psyche and development as an adult if people thought you were annoying when you were 8
I have a confession to make... I thought the idea of wireless headphones like air pods were so so stupid when they first came out. But having owned wireless headphone pods with a case I have to admit that I do enjoy them quite a lot. But we should still eat the spleen of every person who lobbied to phase out the headphone jack in electronics
Hanahaki disease is a psychosomatic illness. It's a thing that your body does in response to stress over constantly repressing/concealing your feelings in settings with high background magic. It's like you've been ignoring pain for a long time and suddenly your vision starts going dark, because your affected body is just YANKING on random alerts trying to get you to PAY ATTENTION there is a PROBLEM. Yes the flowers do really exist. So do non-magical psychosomatic symptoms. The flowers aren't special.
This does of course open up the trope to options for non-romantic concealed feelings. Which I think is great. There is something viscerally satisfying about the person who seems so outwardly chipper coughing and hacking and spitting up Depression Flowers so now everyone has to know they're hurting. Isn't there?
Hanahaki but it’s your body desperately needing you to love and care for it while your mind is trapped in the body that doesn’t fit, that’s wrong as it destroys you from the inside out the longer you aren’t able to get help to make your body feel like you
Apparently some people still need to hear this so: using an 'ai checker' is still using ai. If you are feeding someone's fic to one of these checkers, you will still not be sure their fic is ai because they are not 100% accurate, but you can be 100% sure that you are using ai. For fic. Furthermore you are doing the work of an ai scraper for them. You are, personally, feeding the machine. There is no actual excuse for using an ai checker on fanfic as a hobby. YOU are the problem.
If you think a fic is ai, mute it and move on. That's it. That's all you do.
Being asexual and racist is embarassing as fuck. Being racist at all is obviously embarassing as fuck but the amount of racism and especially antiblackness i have been seeing from asexuals recently is obscene.
One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.
And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.
Edit: why are you all too scared to repost this. Cmon. Be vocal about being against racism
med people are so annoying "This family's 8 year old child who was about to go through a major surgery and kept crying that she was hungry so they pitied her and gave her food, she then had a heart attack in the surgery. They're so stupid 😒" girl they didn't know that could happen or why it happens. it takes so little time to explain to them that will happen instead of telling them "no food" with no explanation 10 times
"Before surgery, your body’s reflexes that protect your airway are relaxed by anesthesia. If there’s food or liquid in your stomach, it will near certainly come back up and go into your lungs, which can cause choking, a severe lung / heart infection or even a heart attack. That’s called aspiration, and it is life-threatening. It's hard, but it's only a single day to prevent near certain death. Not eating or drinking beforehand massively lowers the risk and helps prevent these life threatening situations under anesthesia." <- TIP: patients have brains which allows them to receive information just like you
I have four kids. I’ve had one or another of them need some kind of surgical procedure that requires anesthesia four or five times over the past 15 years.
This Tumblr post is the first time someone has explained to me *why* I couldn’t feed them before those instances.
I’m not stupid. I understood that just fine. Hell, my kids would have understood that just fine. But no one bothered to tell us.
i did know this before having kids (i have six). we have a kid that's needed multiple procedures requiring anesthesia. and every single time, i am asked multiple times if i'm sure he was not given any food or water after a certain point.
every single time i have had to say, "i understand that if he had food or water, he could aspirate it into his lungs under anesthesia. i am not lying to you." THEN someone would make a little note and i would stop being repeatedly asked.
not a single time was that risk explained to me. the only reason it came up was because i already knew. i still don't understand why it isn't standard pre-op counseling or pre-op check information, when me as a parent acknowledging the actual risk also put THE MEDICAL STAFF at ease because i conveyed that i had informed understanding as reason to not lie about giving my kid food.
"maybe some people will get nervous and refuse surgery" okay so they need more counseling about risks and anxiety, not less information in a way that actually does endanger their child or themselves!
Tbh one of the number one things I notice when reading Batman is how Bruce uses knowledge of women's identities to control them in a really distinct way
And how he raises his boys to do the same...
Like obviously when we see the retcons in Batgirl year one, this occurs. With Steph as well... And then in another way with Cass, where she doesn't get a civilian identity? Or when we see him bully Helena out of the mask in no man's land??? And almost every time he has one of his boys at his side assisting him
Like obviously a man so concerned with his own secret identity is going to view identity and knowledge about it as having power & he just does not hesitate to wield it against women in particular as a means of coercion
coming back with examples to illustrate my point & i am being so strong and refraining from going into a lengthy digression about how batgirl year one's commitment to a more "grounded" start for babs diminishes and mocks her over and over again...
In Batgirl Year One #4, we see Bruce dictating what Dick is allowed to call Babs. You could argue this is control over his "brand," but it's part of a larger pattern of control over Babs throughout this run:
And it's immediately followed by drugging & abducting her to the Batcave, where he interrogates her to try and find out her identity...
Followed by drugging her again and making it clear that she does not get to decide what is done with her identity or her body
They maneuver her unconscious body multiple times in this issue and forcibly unmask her. Alfred and Dick are Bruce's accomplices in this. Dick occasionally challenges Bruce, but never with any real seriousness. There is no reciprocity in Barbara and Bruce's relationship here--she is entirely at his mercy at all times, and he wants her to be aware of this & works to crush her down whenever she defies him.
Bruce controls Steph also from as soon as he knows who she is: we see him do this in Detective Comics #649... her third appearance
Her identity is a bludgeon he can deploy against her-- and he's eager to do it immediately. He always goes for this blow (and yes, I'm aware he uses Tim's secret identity against him later + sabotages his relationship with Steph... but he only does it to Tim after he's been really upset with him. With women, he will deploy it right away)
In this case, Tim is apparently the first one to discover Steph's identity, but immediately gives it to Bruce, who then uses it against her. (I am admittedly so very tired so my chain of events could be off here as I am kind of throwing this post together).
He ambushes Helena with Dick to scold her for not being good enough while calling her by the hero identity she's currently not using, revealing that he's "known from the start" who she is.
Batman: Legends of the Dark Knight #120
He browbeats her into giving up the cowl and Dick cooperates with him, calling Helena by the same name:
Then he takes the costume and basically kingmakes Cass into the new Batgirl... then prefers that she never step out of the role. The one girl he chooses and she can have no other identity. The moment she "gives up" the secret, he supports her & builds up a way to avoid getting it back.
Batgirl (2000) #14
And, you'll notice, Oracle's identity is a weapon that he can use to keep Cass in line here. She can't stay with Babs any more, because that would compromise the secret... the one that Bruce knows and has known since nearly Barbara's debut & claims ownership over once again.
Stephanie Brown (DC Comics) vs. Barbara Gordon (DC Comics)
Stephanie Brown
Barbara Gordon
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Stephanie Brown
She is disregarded and forgotten despite her role as Robin. She is rarely the focus of any fics or art
Steph has faced misogyny from both writers and fans for years. She was the 4th Robin, but DC only let her have the role for 3 months before killing her off in a brutal sexualized torture sequence, saying they wanted to give her "a moment of happiness before squashing her like a bug". She has since resurrected, but modern fandom now infantilizes her, treating her like a young teen when she should be fully an adult at this point and rather than emphasizing her skills proclaim that she is a novice and instead emphasize her "glittery chaos" and push an obsession with waffles onto her that is greatly exaggerated to make her seem naive and childish. Many refuse to acknowledge her time as Robin and often only portray her in fandom materials to push the development of men.
Steph is a self made vigilante who rose from troubled beginnings with a shitty home life into being one of the heroes of Gotham, often being emblematic of the city's hope and perseverance. She started as the vigilante Spoiler, spoiling her abusive father's criminal efforts while taking care of her mom who often suffered from an addiction to pills and alcohol. She soon met Batman and Robin and though they attempted to dissuade her from being a hero, she persevered again and again no matter how many times they pushed her away. She has been in and out of the Bat's inner circle several times, repeatedly given some measure of trust but then told shes not good enough for no reason. Eventually, when Tim Drake (3rd Robin and her boyfriend at the time) was forced to step down from Robin, Steph briefly took the role before Batman shut her out once again. In her attempts to prove herself she tried one of Batman's plans to stop organized crime, but accidentally started a city-wide gang conflict that ended with her capture, torture, and death. After awhile she returned to Gotham, a doctor having faked her death, and after Batman's apparent "death" she rose to the role of the 3rd Batgirl while Cassandra Cain, the 2nd Batgirl, went overseas. Steph's arc is a story of hope, redemption, grit, perseverance, and optimism in the face of terrifying odds (everyone should read Batgirl (2009)). She went away for awhile during various reboots but has returned to the continuity first as Spoiler and now Batgirl once again alongside Cassandra, and an alternate reality version of her is Batwoman, one of the only heroes of Earth 3. She is currently joining the New Titans as their leader alongside Yara Flor (Wonder Girl), Jon Kent (Superman), Red Devil, Tara Markov, Dick Grayson, and Vic Stone. She is an incredible character and I love her endlessly.
Not only was she subjected to Writer Misogyny, her character consistently gets flattened and sidelined in service to male characters in fanfiction and fanon
so back in 2010 DC did a big full company reboot of their universe that basically reset their entire comic universe. (they also used this massive ending of a bunch of titles and starting of new ones to reduce the number of women writing for them to 1% of their writers. comics companies often suck in this way). while a bunch of characters more or less just got a fresh new start, some were completely absent from this new universe at the beginning, like steph and cass. but steph and cass were a special case because they were being blacklisted by dc editorial, with dan didio labelling them as "toxic to the brand" and refusing to allow writers to use them, forcing writers to invent new characters with similar qualities just because they couldnt have the ones they wanted. this even extended to being wiped from art in certain issues. there was a cute comic being put out called Lil Gotham that wanted to have a blonde girl wear steph's batgirl 2009 costume as a halloween costume, but were forced to change the costume and hair color so that steph was not even alluded to. it took 6 years for them to finally reintroduce steph, and even longer to reintroduce cass
also unrelated to the new 52 stuff but despite her death in pre reboot canon steph was never given a memorial case in the batcave, even though jason todd and barbara gordon both got memorial cases featuring their costumes following their tragedies. dc editorial taunted fans about this, putting out a "christmas wish list" at the end of one comic with a line asking for a memorial for steph, which then had a line put through it and was labeled as "can't do".
fan outcry at conventions lead one writer to say they wanted to "shoot the girls who kept asking for it"
so yeah dc writers were awful to steph and cass on the misogyny front, this did bleed over into the fans as well. so many people still refuse to acknowledge steph as robin
stephanie i will fight everyone for you. why have i seen her as a haha cute waffles and glitter girl who’s attached to cass at the hip everywhere. it’s genuinely like! these people are so unwilling to give her any interiority at all?? and her important relationships in canon are just sanitized and sanded down!! orr she’s written as an abuser (usually tim’s) although ive seen that much less often lately, admittedly. and for the first example her history and backstory and Actual Traits are just fucking thrown out i goes in favor of making her the Girl!!!!
Moderator's note: there's also propaganda featuring a lot of cool art of Stephanie Brown. You can see the ask here.
Barbara Gordon
Fandom loves to just paint her as Batman's tech support or Dick Grayson's understanding, girlbestfriend ex :/
She's a literal genius, hacker extraordinaire, capable of rivaling Batman in her stubborness and need for control. There's so much wrong with this woman; I love her. She's insane and deserves to lez out with Black Canary <3
Comic book woman. But being serious the killing joke and her being one of the most popular examples of fridging, her sexualization, Tom Taylor’s Nightwing run with her in it, her very very often being reduced to a side piece to a male character, etc, etc.
My beautiful disabled wife who is invading everyone’s privacy <333
barbara is usually just associated with dick. oh and she’s oracle and she knows everything haha. we’re not going to think about why she is such a controlling person with her finger on the pulse of everyone in the hero/villain/sometimes high up ppl in power though because she’s just there to be a bamf girlboss and/or for exposition. and of course! in the comics she’s not always oracle or even always in a wheelchair because she’s a Cool Woman and therefore can’t be permanently disabled and in a wheelchair because dc loves ableism!! DIE BY MY BLADE JFCCC
Now I hate to bring up shipping and ship wars, but if you for whatever reason wish to see misogyny directed at Barbara Gordon, then you need to look no further than the anti dickbabs tag. Have a scroll through yourself, the way some of these people talk about her is vile.
Calling her ugly and/or comparing her in looks to dick grayson's other love interests, stuff like "why would he choose the bland boring librarian over a literal gorgeous warrior princess" (< not a direct quote but I've seen its like). As if calling a woman ugly or not as pretty is a valid criticism of a woman, or anyone for that matter.
90% of the ships criticism is directed solely at Barbara. If it's Dick getting criticised, then it's usually either a footnote in a paragraph ripping apart Barbara or it's "I don't like the way Dick is characterised in this pairing" but phrased in a way that implies that they blame Barbara and not the writers for dropping the characterisation ball.
There are some valid criticisms about how her character has, in runs like Tom Taylor's nightwing, been scrubbed of her interesting flaws (the same flaws that they call her toxic for), but the language they use is so gross. Specifically I'm thinking of the way she is compared and likened to a pet dog always following Dick around and calling her pathetic for it. Like yes, I do dislike the way she is written almost entirely in the supportive girlfriend role during that run, but think for one moment about the kind of language you are using.
Also additional propaganda for Stephanie Brown and Cassandra Cain too, there was a tumblr poll I think months ago asking which Batfamily character has been sexualised most by Comics. Babs Steph and Cass were all options in that poll. Dick Grayson won. They make a few jokes about a male characters butt and everyone loses their minds meanwhile the sexualisation of women in comics (any media really) is so prevalent that people don't even notice it.
The thing about comic book characters (like Barbara Gordon and Stephanie Brown) is that fandom misogyny bleeds into canon in a way that it pretty much never does anywhere else, because fans become writers.
They got rid of Barbara's disability because the Batgirl "fans" in charge were nostalgic for a version of the character they had crushes on when they were kids, they make choices for Steph based on their personal feelings about her romantic relationship with a male character whose 90s comics they loved, etc and so forth. Even without the people in charge being fans themselves, Steph was buried for so long because she was declared "toxic" as a character (ie they thought fans would have issues with her if she appeared).
It's really the most painful part of being a fan of female characters in this sort of long running multi-author canon. At least when I watch my usual female favs get torn apart by the fandom, I know that the guy I just blocked for misogyny will never get to write like five different cartoons where she hooks up with her boyfriend's dad.
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