first post on here. Hi, I’m a french fat admirer looking for people within the community near me!
i think fat folks are the most stunning people on earth and deserve to be worshipped, celebrated and fought for.
I am gray-ace and non binary. I use he/him pronouns but my gender expression varies everywhere on the spectrum.
i am into praise, indulgence, soft fat and femininity in people of all genders.
i am NOT into death, romanticizing health issues, or saying fat people have “ruined” their bodies.
My goal is being able to lift enough weight in the gym so I can pick up a fat cutie 💜
Feel free to message me ✨
I love talking about kink, but please tell me what tone you want the conversation to be in. Otherwise I’ll just be sweet and friendly, I won’t ever assume you want h*rny talk and/or anything but praise.
launching feedism.neocities.org - an indie web project documenting, archiving, and sharing everything about (and adjacent to) feedism!
hello fellow feedists! so uh… my girlfriend (@doughyfatfox 💕) and I have done A Thing - a fun (and most importantly, ethical kink + fat lib-informed) website that collects and archives everything about feedism! from a community-centred wiki about the kink and the history of feedism + fat admiration, to practical resources for feedists and even cheeky memes, we’re hoping for this to be both a personal + community-driven space to celebrate this wonderful kink of ours 💕.
so what inspired this?
well apart from life being a lil overwhelming, another reason why I’ve been a little inactive on here is because I’ve been inching away from traditional social media and revisiting my love for the old/indie web, a lil passion that me and my girlfriend both share 🥹💕.
another thing the both of us share is that… obviously… we’re feedists. Finding community was what brought us together in the first place, and talking at length about how we’ve discovered and explored this kink throughout our lives has brought us even closer. what the both us (and many others in the community I have spoken to) have come to realise is that - finding community and resources surrounding feedism is hard.
from examining what this kink really is and what it means for us, working through shame and internalised fatphobia, navigating what it means to practice feedism ethically and in alignment with fat liberation, and of course, the fun stuff of actually practicing it, of building our own relationship with pleasure and hedonism. to answer these questions often requires many great resources that are scattered all over the place. every time I encounter a Cool Feedist Thing I’ve always thought - damn I wish I had a place to store, categorise and even talk about it in a way that doesn’t get lost in my blog (shh, I know tagging is a thing, it’s not organised enough for me!!!) amidst tighter cens*rship.
so here we are! after about a week of combining our coding, art (especially @doughyfatfox’s, look at our cute background!! 🤩) and writing skills, our site is live!
NOTE: It is still a huge work in progress, and I think it always will be. we want the site to continuously grow 👀 as our community grows, as our collective history gets richer.
what do we have right now?
an entire about page on feedism! (still a wip)
essential feedism resources (e.g., kink jars, RACK worksheet), mostly stuff me and @doughyfatfox used/are using as we explore this kink together
feedist and feedism-adjacent memes, credits to @doughyfatfox’s elite collection
a page about fat liberation (also a wip)
what are we working on?
the whole website essentially 😅. It’s still quite a big wip, but I think we do already have quite a cool selection of stuff on there, enough that we hope it’ll be a fun browse!
happy browsing! 🍩 and stay tuned for @doughyfatfox’s reblog for more info, especially if you’d like to contribute to the site!
i'm aware i run a kink blog i just hope it's clear i also enjoy fat stuff for body positive, non-fetish reasons right? i'm paranoid but i hope that's like, clear
big fan of getting to read feedees posts that they wrote in a bout of horniness after stuffing themselves so full they can barely think and how hot they feel
this is perhaps a signal to send me anon asks telling me how full youve gotten and what you ate and how good and heavy it feels
I noticed that the handful of lists on letterboxd for fat positive films only had Hairspray, Isn’t It Romantic, and I Feel Pretty (🤢) with the caption “I wish this list was longer!”
So I have taken it upon myself to compile a real list of real fat liberationist films: films that either confront the issue of fatphobia or portray fat bodies in a liberating way. I will not be including films where fat characters exist neutrally, only films with a message about fatness that does not promote weight loss.
I haven’t seen a majority of these films yet, so if you see one that you believe is not worthy of being on this list, please let me know! additionally, if you have ideas on more films that should be added, please share!
Films (left to right)
1. How to Carry Water (2023) dir. Sasha Wortzel
2. Piggy (2022) dir. Carlotta Pereda
3. Your Fat Friend (2023) dir. Jeanie Finlay
4. Dumplin’ (2018) dir. Anne Fletcher
5. Empire Waist (2024) dir. Claire Ayoub
6. PattiCake$ (2017) dir. Geremy Jasper
7. Läski (2019) dir. Kirsikka Saari
8. Aquaporko! (2013) dir. Kelli Jean Drinkwater, Anna Helme
9. Fat Hiking Club (2018) dir. Layla Cameron
10. Fat Front (2019) dir. Louise Kjeldsen, Louise Detlefsen
11. Disfigured (2008) dir. Glenn Gers
12. Riot Not Diet (2018) dir. Julia Fuhr Mann, Kristina Kilian
13. Straight/Curve: Redefining Body Image (2017) dir. Jenny McQuaile
14. In Our Skin (2017) dir. Rosa Beiroa
15. The Fat Feeling (2019) dir. Talia A. Darling
16. Dangerous Curves (2016) dir. Merete Mueller
17. Well Rounded (2020) dir. Shana Myara
18. Fat Chance (1994) dir. Jeffery McKay
19. Tales of Ordinary Fatphobia (2020) dir. Josiane Blanc
20. Fattitude (2017) dir. Viridiana Lieberman
21. (Not pictured) The Fat Body (In)Visible (2011) dir. Margitte Kristjansson
literally every anti-feedism take reads like "fat fetishists are bad, we're protecting fat people from them, everyone knows once you get that big it's gross for someone to be attracted to you, plus it's disgusting to want to get fatter because fat is bad/unhealthy/ugly"
Not to continually harp on this point but the feedist community was the place I was introduced to fat lib, years before “body positivity” would even enter the mainstream. This community has been talking about the autonomy of fat people literally forever, because it’s a community of fat people. It’s so bizarre to act like feedists are universally a group of thin oppressors “fetishizing” the fat against their will.
It's literally so punk, so counterculture, to be fat and anti diet. People hate it. They hate it so much that you eat food for pleasure instead of weight loss. It's freeing
i hate the way fat antagonists have their weight moralized and used as a metaphor for greed and corruption and i hate the way it's overcorrected into fat people being "soft squishy friend-shaped cupcakes who look like they give incredible hugs" and i long for the day we have nuanced, interesting, and complicated fat characters and most of all i long for the day people are normal about fatness
