Dabaddest Mchawi

That clearly translates to Dabaddest Witch 23| Lesbian| Aquarius| Baby Witch

[dizzymoods]

Kara Keeling’s reading of Eve’s Bayou is intimately tied to her conception of the Black Femme (the invisible but ever-present figure of a black woman lesbian that problematizes film and media studies, critical theory, African-American studies, gender & sexuality studies, queer theory, etc.)that she develops throughout The Witch’s Flight.

In order to theorize Eve’s Bayou, Keeling coins the black femme function which ‘refers to the affectivity that disentangles itself from the project of reproducing capitalist relations (but does not [yet] break from that project) in order to participate in an enterprise that is more consistent with sustaining the conditions such affectivity perceives to be necessary to its own survival.” She draws comparison of this to Angela Davis’ conception of the African Slave Women (in “Reflections on the Black Woman’s Role in the Community of Slaves”) in that the African Slave Woman, by doing work outside the  purview of the slave master, namely sustaining a slave community,  “ensured the survival of black people in the Americas” and “created and sustained forms of community wherein resistance to the oppressive power of the slave system could be nurtured” while at the same time continuing to produce black people to be exploited by the slave system.

Eve’s Bayou engages in the Black Femme Function, according to Keeling, by marketing itself as an “art film” with universal appeal (as opposed to a “black film”, which has black-specific themes like gang crime or ghetto living) which follows common sense film convention (Keeling compares the budget, marketing, and aesthetic of Eve’s Bayou to the much more formally daring, but smaller Daughters of the Dust) in order to promulgate images that run counter to bourgeois white sensibility: The Batiste women, free of Louis, his scientific medicine, his “official” account, can live with their visions and voodoo “that challenge official and hegemonic common sense.”

[balanced-on-a-razors-edge]

“Memory is a selection of images. Some elusive, others printed indelibly on the brain. Each image is like a thread. Each thread woven together to make a tapestry of intricate texture and the tapestry tells a story and the story is our past.”

— Eve’s Bayou

[syriofwolves-deactivated2013042]

Spell to not give a shit:

Light a candle, whisper your problem to it, then say: 

“I do not give a shit. 

You can’t make me give a shit.

My last fuck has flown.”

And blow out the candle, symbolizing you blowing out the shit you were supposed to give.

[foreignforgis]

I love This spell with all my heart.

[gahdamnpunk]

Brenda had TIME today

[overtherainbow-underthesea]

Go off

[okayysophia]

[itzyaboy-dame]

[wyntercraft-deactivated20190812]

Apple: spirit work, offerings, love, healing, beauty, wisdom, harvest

Apricot: love, self love

Avocado: beauty, love, lust, fertility, spell work

Banana: wealth, luck, spirituality, religion, masculinity

Blueberry: protection, banishment, curses

Blackberry: protection, fertility, femininity, funerals, afterlife, moving on

Cantaloupe: spell work, protection, grounding, energy work

Cherry: lust, love, fertility

Clementine: childhood, dreams

Coconut: protection, cleansing, femininity

Cranberry: holidays, blood magic, spirit work

Date: fertility, luck, money

Dragon fruit: lust, passion, spell work

Durian: curses, cleansing, protection

Fig: happiness, divination, love

Grapefruit: cleansing

Grape: money, spell work, fertility, offerings

Guava: love, self love, lust

Honeydew: cleansing, energy, love

Jackfruit: divination, spell work, happiness

Kiwifruit: health, love, lust, happiness

Kumquat: luck, health, money

Lemon: cleansing, purification, protection, curse breaking

Lime: cleansing, protection, love

Lychee: love, self love, femininity, beauty

Mango: love, lust, fertility

Nectarine: love, self love, spell work

Orange: cleansing, protection, divination

Papaya: curse breaking, banishing, spirit work, love

Passion fruit: lust, love, passion

Peach: fertility, love, happiness, spirit work

Pear: offerings, happiness, luck, money, confidence

Persimmon: healing, love, luck, protection

Pineapple: protection, health, offerings, money, luck

Plantain: fertility, masculinity, lust, passion

Plum: love, healing, offerings

Pomegranate: offerings, blood magic, fertility, divination, spell work

Prune: cleansing, protection

Raspberry: love, dreams, health

Strawberry: love, wishes, dreams, happiness

Starfruit: lunar/solar magic, spell work, cleansing

Tangerine: solar magic, strength, energy work

Tomato: protection, cleansing, love, passion

Watermelon: healing, femininity, lust, love, spirit work, cleansing

[knifenymph]

My Path Spread- a simple spread to help you along your way

[reoccupiedcoven]

Word of Caution: Past life readings can be rather difficult, emotionally to read. When I did mine, I almost started to cry. 

Who was I in my past life? 

Was I married? 

Was I happy in my past life?

What kind of work did I do in my past life?

Was I an honorable person?

What types of problems or challenges did I deal with?

Was I a famous person?

Was I in good health during my past life?

How did I die?

Did I have a soul mate?

Is my present love, someone I knew from my past life?

Am I linked to my parents of today from a past life?

Are any other family members from a past life of mine?

What do I need to learn during this life time?

Will I reincarnate after this present life?

[theuppitiestofnegroes]

Black brothers and sisters...

The law of attraction is real. Speak your most fulfilling desires into existence.

I am healthy. I am wealthy. I am successful. And I am happy.

[jerrielzapata]

I am strong I am beautiful I am talented I am exactly who I think I am

[sirewordplayj-deactivated202408]

I will grow more into myself. I will become well again. I will get past my struggles. I will shine gloriously. I will achieve my goals/dreams

[britneynova-deactivated20240331]

I am divine. I am beauty. I am irrestible. I am love. I am me.

[domesthiccviolins]

I am happy

I am greatness

I am healthy

I am wealthy

I am love

[wronglynamedbonnie]

I am happy

I am beautiful

I deserve love

I deserve financial security

I will be a successful artist, per my own and God’s will

[wendidarling]

I speak to God in public. 

I live in my purpose by helping others do the same.

I am well in all areas and spread that wellness to others. 

I have and spread joy. 

I am loved and loving. 

I am free.

My overflow waters those around me. 

[quasmellito]

I am happy.

I am good enough.

I am going to be successful.

I am going to conquer all that I fear, and prosper.

I am going to live without any regret or fear.

[alexundefined]

I am healed.

I am healthy.

I am fearless.

I am strong.

I am successful.

I am worth it.

[moodyspacebabe-deactivated20180]

I am going to heal from this.

I am going to become stronger mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I will succeed in fulfilling whatever vision I have.

I will be able to forgive.

I will continue to love.

I will grow to help others.

[tanyewest7]

I will be very successful.

I will be wealthy in multiple facets of my life.

I will help others with my gift.

I will live a healthy, long life.

I will be intentional with my choices.

I will be happy and humble throughout my life.

I will be my ancestors’ wildest dream.

[theonlycedrica]

😍💙🖤

[beeftea78-deactivated20200113]

why DO teenage girls go through a witch/occult phase? I had tarot cards and a spellbook and I knew a group of girls who messed with ouija boards and another who had ghost hunting equipment. “oh yeah Cindy’s just going through that girly phase where she tries to raise the dead.”

[charlesoberonn]

When a girl gets to a point in her life when the Christian/Christian-influenced culture tells her that her natural body and mind are sinful and evil, she might choose to embrace it and look for alternatives to Christianity.

[thewieneryears-deactivated20130]

Moss Graffiti: A How To Guide

[missythemermaid]

are you fucking for real

[revesducirque]

Imagine being the criminal who returns weekly to make sure his fucking plant art is doing alright

[arthyradio]

Later

[atombombbunny]

I found it! I fucking found it! In my fucking dash! Nothing can stop me now! *EVIL GIGGLES*

[male-witch]

OMG SAME RIGHT I SAW IT A YEAR AGO AND WAS UPSET I COULDNT FIND IT AGAIN

[jehovahhthickness]

If u don't want kids u can,sell ur eggs for up to 25k per egg

Cool.

I wanna know how much they pay black women

[afronerdism]

Less.

Asian women get paid the most and if you’re a college grad, young, and skinny that plays a factor as well.

Not to mention it’s a very painful exhausting process. Not worth the 5k they’ll give you (if you’re a black Woman , Asian women can make up to 25,000)

[jehovahhthickness]

That’s crazy. Considering how much nonblack women fetishize mixed kids.

But I’m not surprised

[trapbinch]

It’s literally only worth it for Asian and Jewish women. Like they said after taxes you are left with 5k and no post-op treatment. A lot of women end up spending that money on repairing the nerve damage, ovarian inflammation, phallobian tube cancer, ect. It’s actually pretty fucked up, it’s like playing Russian roulette with your reproductive health for a few thousand.

[imabrickshithouse]

I didn’t even realize till just now that there are post-op problems

[brad-pitt]

Can you believe that? A kid from Oakland walking around believing in fairytales.

Black Panther (2018) dir. Ryan Coogler

[yiff-demon-deactivated20160126]

quick reminders about Greek mythology:

Persephone is black/has dark skin

Haphaestus is disabled and has some mental illness(es)

Gaia is black/has dark skin

Hades is disabled

Zeus is a rapist [ on multiple occasions ]

Eros is pansexual

Athena is most likely asexual

Dionysus is bisexual

all of the nymphs are nonbinary

Persephone is the goddess of spring growth

Thanatos is the god of death, not Hades

[hellfirekhaleesi-deactivated201]

A few more:

Artemis is most likely asexual and aromantic (some interpretations lend themselves to demisexual)

Poseidon is also a serial rapist

In fact, the only one of the Big Three who isn’t is Hades

Hades is not a terrible person (certainly not when compared to his family)

Persephone is scarier/more widely feared than Hades ever was

Apollo is not straight

Zeus is not straight

Heracles is not straight

Eros has a twin brother named Anteros, and he is the god of requited love

Since Persephone is woc it follows that at least one of her parents (Zeus and/or Demeter) is also poc

Hera is not a “nagging wife” she is one of many of Zeus’ victims, and she takes her (justified) anger out on the wrong person

Thanatos is the god of peaceful death

Hestia exists. And is important.

[queerbling]

Persephone was so widely feared that people wouldn’t write her name. They referred to her as Kore (shitty English typing sorry) which translates to queen. She struck more fear into people’s hearts than any other goddess. And she is the reason we have mint. She discovered that Hades had a lover before her and turned her into a leafy plant.

[mossytreeelf-blog]

African Deities

For all the African witchies here.

Abassi - Creator and Lord of the Sky (Nigerian)

Abuk - Goddess of women and gardens (Sudan)

Achimi - Buffalo Goddess (Algeria)

Adro - God of Destruction (Uganda)

Adroa - God of Creation (Uganda)

Ahia-Njoku - Goddess of Agriculture and Farming (Nigeria)

Aje-Shaluga - God of Riches (Nigeria)

Ajok - Rain God (Sudan)

Akongo - Creator God (Congo)

Ala - Fertility Goddess of the Earth (Nigeria)

Alouroua - Creator God (Ghana)

Amma - Creator of the Universe and Sky (Mali)

Anansi - Trickster God (West Africa)

Andriamahilala - Goddess of the Moon (Madagascar)

Asa - God of Protection (Kenya)

Atai - Creator Goddess (Nigeria)

Babalu-Aye - God of Healing (Nigeria)

Banga - God of Water (Congo and Central Africa)

Bomazi - God of Ancestors (Congo)

Buk - Goddess of Rivers and Streams (Sudan)

Buku - God of the Skies (West Africa)

Bumba - God of Creation (Congo)

Cagn - God of Transformation (Kalahari)

Candit - River Goddess (Sudan)

Chedi-Bumba - God of Birds (Congo)

Chiuta - Rain God (Malawi)

Chonganda - God of Vegetation (Congo)

Chuku - God of Creation (Nigeria)

Dada - God of Abundance (Nigeria)

Deng - Creator God (Sudan)

Ditaolane - Hero God (Lesotho)

Domfe - God of the Wind (Kurumba)

Dongo - God of Thunder (Songhai)

Dziva - Creator Goddess (Zimbabwe)

Ebore - Sky God (Nigeria)

Edinkira - Goddess of the Trees (Africa)

Egungun-Oya - Goddess of Divination (Nigeria)

Evus - God of Mayem (Gabon)

Elegua - God of Mischief (Nigeria)

Elusu - Goddess of Water (Africa)

Engai - God of the Skies (Kenya)

Enekpe - Goddess of Fate (Africa)

Eseasar - Goddess of the Earth (Nigeria)

Eshu - Trickster God (Nigeria)

Fa - God of Fate (Nigeria)

Faro - God of Creation (Mali)

Gamab - God of Death (Namibia)

Gaunab - God of Evil (South Africa)

Ghekre - God of Judgement (Ivory Coast)

Gu - Blacksmith God (Benin)

Heitsi-Eibib - God of Nature (South Africa)

Haiuri - God of the Underworld (South Africa)

Hare - Trickster God (Nigeria)

Huveane - God of Creation (Lesotho)

Hyel - Supreme God (Nigeria)

Imana - Creator God (Rwanda)

Itherther - Buffalo God (Algeria)

Jakuta - God of Lightening (Nigeria)

Jok - Rain God (Uganda)

Juok - Creator God (Sudan)

Kaang - God of Creation (Botswana)

Kabundungulu - Heroic God (Angola)

Kaka-Guie - Death God (Ivory Coast)

Kalumba - God of Creation (Congo)

Kanu - God of Creation (Guinea)

Katonda - Creator God (Uganda)

Khonvoum - Creator God (East Africa)

Khuzwane - God of Populating (South Africa)

Kwoth - God of the Mysterious (Sudan)

Le-Eyo - God of Death (East Africa)

Legba - God of Mayhem (Benin)

Leza - Rain God (South Africa)

Libanza - God of Creation (Congo)

Maori - God of Creation (Zimbabwe)

Massim-Biambe - God of Reincarnation (Congo)

Mawu-Lisa - Unisex Double Gods of Creation (Benin)

Mbaba-Mwanna-Waresa - Goddess of Beer (South Africa)

Mbere - God of Creation (Congo)

Mbokomu - Goddess of Ancestry (Congo)

Mboya - Goddess of Motherhood and Fertility (Congo)

Mebeghe - God of Creation (Gabon)

Minga-Bengale - God of the Hunt (Africa)

Minona - Goddess of Prophecy and Divination (Benin)

Modimo - God of Creation (South Africa)

Morimi - Goddess of Fire (Nigerians)

Muluku - Creator God (Zambesi)

Mulungu - God of Creation (Tanzania)

Musso-Koroni - Goddess of Discord (Mali)

Mwambwa - Goddess of Lust and Desire (Namibia)

Mwari - Unisex Creator Gods (Zimbabwe)

Nasilele - Goddess of Creation (Zambesi)

Nzame - God of Creation (Congo)

Njambi - God of Creation (Namibia)

Ndriananahary - God of Creation (Madagascar and Nigeria)

Ngai - Creator God (Kenya)

Ngewo-Wa - God of Creation (Sierra Leone)

Nyalitch - Supreme God (Sudan)

Nimba - Fertility Goddess (Guinea)

Ninepone - Fertility Goddess (Gabon)

Nommo - Unisex Gods of All (Mali)

None - God of Populating (Gabon)

Nyaliep - Goddess of the River (Sudan)

Nyambe - God of Creation (Zambesi)

Nyame - Supreme God (Ghana)

Nyaminyami - God of Streams and Rivers (Zambesi)

Nyankopon - Supreme God (Ghana)

Nyiko - Hero God (Cameroon)

Nyokonan - God of Spiders (Cameroon)

Nyonye-Ngana - God of Ants (Congo)

Obassi-Osaw - God of Creation (Nigeria)

Obatala - God of Purity (Nigeria)

Ochosi - God of the Hunt (Nigeria)

Odomankomo - Creator God (Ghana)

Odudua - Goddess of the Earth (Nigeria)

Ogo - God of Mischief (Mali)

Ogun - God of Weaponry (Nigeria)

Oko - God of Farming and Agriculture (Nigeria)

Olorun - Supreme God (Nigeria)

Olokun - God of the Seas (Nigeria)

Onile - Goddess of Blacksmithing (Nigeria)

Orunmila - God of Wisdom (Nigeria)

Osanyin - God of Vegetation (Nigeria)

Oshe - God of Storms (Nigeria)

Oshun - Goddess of Love (Nigeria)

Oya - Goddess of Destruction (Nigeria)

Qamata - God of Creation (South Africa)

Rugaba - Creator God (Uganda)

Ruhanga - God of Creation (Uganda)

Ruwa - God of Creation (Kilimanjaro)

Sagbata - God of the Earth (Benin)

Sakarabru - God of Justice (Guinea)

Shadipinyi - Drunken God (Namibia)

Shakpana - God of Disease (Namibia)

She - God of Thunder (Nigeria)

Soko - Supreme God (Nigeria)

Somtup - God of Masculinity (Guinea)

Sopona - God of Disease (Nigeria)

Sudika-Mbambi - God of Thunder (Angola)

Thixo - Sun God (South Africa)

Tilo - Creator God (Zambia and Malawi)

Tore - God of the Hunt (Zaire)

Tsetse-Bumba - Goddess of Lightning (Congo)

Uhlanga - Swamp Goddess (South Africa)

Umvelinqangi - Creator God (South Africa)

Unkulunkulu - Creator God (South Africa)

Waaqa - Supreme God (Ethiopia)

Woyengi - Goddess of Population (Nigeria)

Wulbari - Ruling God (West Africa)

Wuni - Creator God (Ghana)

Yansan - Goddess of the Wind (Nigeria)

Yasigi - Goddess of the Festival (Mali)

Yeban - God of the Underworld (Mali)

Yurugu - God of Chaos (Mali)

Zanahary - Unisex Creator Goddess (Madagascar)

[afrowitchcraft-deactivated20180]

Okay so I need to clarify some of these deities because many of them are waaaay to generalized. Especially in Nigeria. There are over 210 ethnic groups within Nigeria and many of these Nigerian deities don’t belong to the same groups. Many of them are not called gods, they are called Òrìṣà (Orisha) and they belong to the religious practices of my ancestors, the Yoruba. They are:

• Aje: female Òrìṣà of wealth and prsoeperity

• Babaluaye (traditional name O̩balúayé): male Òrìṣà of pestilence and disease, as well as healing

• Egungun (sometimes just called Egun): embodiment of our ancestors spririts and guidance (Ọya is a sesperate Òrìṣà who guards and nurtures Egungun; see Ọya)

•Èṣù-Elegba: You have this Òrìṣà listed as two separate deities, Eshu and Elegua, when in reality, they are two aspect of the same Òrìṣà. Elegua is the name for this deity only in Santeria. His traditional Yoruba name is Elegba, Èṣu (Eshu), or Èṣù-Elegba. He is the Òrìṣà of the crossroads, keeper of às̩e̩, and the trickster.

• Obatala: Male Òrìṣà of purity, of justice, and of the white clothe. The creator of humans.

• Ọ̀ṣọ́ọ̀sì (Ochosi): Male Òrìṣà of the hunt and of the wilds

• Oduduwa: NOT a goddess, a male Òrìṣà. He is the creator of land and the earth. The first to come from heaven to the earth. Personified in our ancestor, Oduduwa, who was an actual living being.

• Ògún: Male Òrìṣà of war, of technology, and of iron.

• Oko: the Òrìṣà of agriculture and the harvest.

• Olorun: The supreme Creator of the universe; father of all Òrìṣà. Also called the sky father.

• Olokun: androgynous Òrìṣà of the deep ocean, secrets, and prosperity

• Orunmila: Òrìṣà of wisdom, divination, and foresight; manifested in Orunmila, an actual living prophet of the Yoruba

• Ọ̀sanyìn: male Òrìṣà of the forest and of herbs

• Ọṣun: Morher Òrìṣà of freshwater rivers, love, beauty, and fertility.

• Ọya: To say that Ọya is simply the goddess of destruction is an egregious oversimplification. Ọya is the Òrìṣà of violent storms, winds, and transformation, not destruction. What is destroyed clears the way for new and better growth. She is a warrior Òrìṣà who protects the resting place of our ancestors. You’ve also separated Ọya from her other name, Yansan. Yansan is simply the name given to Ọya in the African diaspora. They are the same deity.

• Shakpana: Male Òrìṣà of Small Pox

Excluded from your list but very prominent Òrìṣà in the Yoruba tradition are:

•Aganjú: Òrìṣà is desserts and volcanic activity; father/brother to Ṣàngó)

• Erinle: male Òrìṣà of physical fitness, health, and medince

• Ibeji: The sacred twins

• Ọbá: female Òrìṣà of marriage and domesticity

• Òṣùmàrè (Oshumare): The androgynous Òrìṣà of direct action and movement; the Òrìṣà of the “Kundalini”; guardian of children and controller of the umbilical cord

• Orí: literally means head; the metaphysical manifestation of ones destiny and spiritual intuition.

• Ṣàngó (Shango): The male Òrìṣà of fire and thunder (you have oshe listed as a god in your list, whereas Oshe is the name given to the double sided axe that Ṣàngó carries); manifest in a once living Yoruba king, Ṣàngó.

• Yemọja: the mother of all Òrìṣà, the Òrìṣà of salt water lakes, the ocean, motherhood, and the womb.

Most of the Òrìṣà in your list are oversimplified and misgendered, and simply putting (Nigeria) next to them doesn’t denote the cultural practice they belong to, the Yoruba. Not all Nigerians revere the Òrìṣà, as not all Nigerians are Yoruba.

I’d like to remind anyone reading this list that the Òrìṣà are the deities of a CLOSED religion of the Yoruba people and other Yoruba-based traditions (i.e. Santeria). If you wish to invoke their names and aspects you must be initiated. At the very least, research them so that you don’t oversimplify or generalize them. To do otherwise is to appropriate my culture.

-Às̩e̩

[babygrandgal]

I was gonna do this after reading this post but you took care of it, thank you. Asé

[rosepetalswitch]

[thisisthinprivilege]

I work at a daycare with infants.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.

[thecrazygeek-rant]

This reminds me of a cousin of mine who ended up with her kids being taken away from her by social services for a number of reasons but mostly for nearly killing her baby daughter. How?

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

(Note. She still, to this day, maintains the view that she was right and the doctors were wrong. “They just want fat kids so they can keep employed treating them for all those diseases that being fat causes.” = her actual words.)

[sinthiasweet]

My mom had me dieting with her when I was eleven. She had me eating less than 600 calories a day because she was worried I was going to “get huge.” She even grounded me once because she found out my friends were bringing me lunches! I ended up passing out, going to the ER, and getting two IVs at once BC I was so goddamn dehydrated. Soooooo surprised they didn’t call child services… And looking back, this was the root of my anorexia. I’m nearly 22 and still fighting it. Please don’t starve your fucking children.

[viergacht]

For fucks sake babies are SUPPOSED to be fat, what is wrong with people? It’s just stored energy, and growing children need stored energy - an 11 year old is just about to hit some major growing years. Damn. 

[fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20]

Fatphobia

Is

Real

and it kills

[mexicanxthighs-deactivated20190]

This is no joke. people will literally starve their own babies cause they don’t want them getting fat. A parent brought in their six month old baby who was having breathing issues and kept getting sick. the parent was asked if the baby was eating regularly and the parent straight up told the doctor that they only feed the baby once a day. ONCE A DAY. A FUCKING BABY. they even had the nerve to say because they didn’t want the baby to get fat. people like this are real. they would rather have a dead baby than a fat one.

[bigfatscience]

My youngest son is a very big boy and has been since he was born. When he was 10 months old I took him for his well-baby check and vaccinations. The nurse noted his weight and said, quite casually, “He is in the 99th percentile for weight so he is at risk for obesity. You may want to keep an eye on that.” I said, “He is exclusively breastfed. He refuses to eat any solids yet.” What did she expect me to do? What would it mean to “keep an eye on” an exclusively breastfed baby’s weight? 

She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.” 

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

We need to completely eliminate weight talk from medicine, especially when it comes to children. Even the smallest exposure can have terrible consequences.

[loverofbrownsugar]

Wtf…

[mainstreamqueen-deactivated2020]

A friend from college had been going to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing. She was told to lose weight. Over the course of several years, she went back to the doctors time and time again, telling them that she’d been sticking to the diet but because of her breathing problems she had been unable to even walk for more than 20 minutes at a time. The doctor got her into an exercise programme and told her that she just needed to really try to lose weight because that was clearly the reason for her breathing problems. By the time they found the tumour on her lungs, it was inoperable. She only lived three months after diagnosis. She was 25. She’d had the tumour for over five years. The doctor was so focused on the fact that my friend was “fat”, that they refused to look for any underlying cause. They killed her.

[thisisthinprivilege]

Weight-first treatment KILLS. Fatphobia KILLS.

[lady-yomi-deactivated20171102]

I have 2 scary stories to share about fatphobic doctors & parents harming their childs/patients’ health:

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:

SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.

She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

It’s a real shame that we all have so much stories to share about this issue. A REAL SHAME.

[agreekdoctor]

Future doctors, interns, and residents following me:

FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!

Don’t let bias against your fat patients kill them!

[clatterbane]

(#and this is just when we actually go to the doctor and tell them we have problems #how many of us just give up #or won’t mention anything that seems like too much of a ‘fat’ problem)

[thelittlestastronaut]

i’d really like my thin followers to reblog this if you can. fat people are already here for each other, we need you guys to help us out too. this is something i never see anyone actually talking about in-depth, and it’s disappointing. be there for your fat siblings, too.

[dizzy-euphoria]

Please please please anyone here who wants kids one day please be in a healthy, recovered mindset by then and make sure you dont force this on your child and hurt them

[champagnemoon]

Dirty Computer is literally the most beautiful thing I’ve ever watched

[earthshaker1217]

And it like matches the song perfectly. The song is just made for an intimate moment by some body water.

It’s purifying.