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Sometimes I think that Iâm moderately intelligent and then I realize how frequently Iâm deceived by things meant to fool wild animals
why leave half of the post in the tags this is amazing
being mildly nearsighted keeps me humble
Is it just me, or are there less comments being written on fics nowadays? I get to a fic on AO3 that was posted weeks ago, and it has like 30 kudos but no comments yet. It happens more and more now. Why is that?
I don't like it.
I don't know how to comment without giving feedback and apparently loads of people don't want that. Yes, I know, I could just say sth like "loved it" (and I know first hand the warm and fuzzy feeling that gives the receiver). But that doesn't express what I'm thinking because what I'm thinking is "I thought this bit was very good because reason, I thought this other bit was maybe too long, this third bit confused me, and that twist was really well prepared". And it seems that many people don't want to hear that which is very VERY confusing to me. So the only thing to do is leave kudos.
i want all the feedback. give me it.
Actually I think that is a good place to start, when writing a comment, maybe just skip the not-so-positive stuff? So "this bit was good because reason" and "this twist was really well prepared" are good things to put in a comment. Just skip the things you DIDN'T like so much - keep them to yourself. And then you have a good comment.
When it comes to comments, always concentrate on the positive (unless someone has outright stated that they're looking for constructive feedback).
Agreed. In my early fandom days people would outright state "concrit welcome," which I would say is the only time it's appropriate to offer criticism on the technical aspects of the story. Rarely do I see authors looking for that kind of thing currently.
Fandom is not a creative writing class. This is not a workshop. Fics can be posted in varying degrees of polished/finished draft, from "no beta we die like x" to fics that have been painstakingly edited before posting. Some fics are written to completion before posting, some are posted bit by bit as the author figures the story out.
The role of commenter is far more fan and cheerleader than critic. Positive comments on the technical aspects of a story are always welcome, obviously, but once a fic is posted, it's generally more discouraging and even hurtful to have someone point out what didn't work for them. If what doesn't work grated enough that you feel the urge to comment on it, better to just stop reading.
One exception I can think of is if there's an easily fixed factual error or glaring typo? And even then, I usually state clearly in the notes that I'm open to corrections on that kind of thing (ex: I got the name of the frontman wrong when writing about characters attending a concert, and I was SUPER grateful to have that pointed out).
In general, unless the author has made it clear that they want constructive criticism or corrections, stick to the positive. Asking about an author's thought process behind certain choices is fine, so long as it comes from a place of curiosity rather than complaint.
I'm sure there are authors out there who don't mind critical comments, but in my experience, they're in the minority. If you are one of those authors, make that clear in the notes or tags of your story. Otherwise, readers should assume the default preference is positive/encouraging comments.
Something about family loss is that you're going to have so much stuff left. A suffocating amount of things without purpose. Chairs no one will ever sit on again, phones no one will take calls on, sets of spoons and forks and plates no one will eat off again. Touched and untouched objects that witnessed life that is no longer. There's some deathly weight within those things, a kind of burden that can't really be shaken off. There's always empty room where loss has been, and a lot of objects without destination.
it would be cool if fat dudes without big beards were considered hot sometimes too.
I realized today that the main reason for the âhot fat dude must also include beardâ thing is part of the whole âfat people are required to perform a higher and more perfect expression of genderâ.
like usually this sort of thing is more easily identifiable in fat women, who have to be hyper feminine to be considered âattractiveâ by the mainstream.  but I sort of blinked today and realized, oh.  fat men must have beards to be attractive for the same reason fat men must wear suits and look dapper to be attractive, just like fat women have to have perfect eyeliner and wear cute pinup clothing.  higher, more intense expression of gender, executed perfectly and without flaw is required for fat people to be seen as attractive.
i think itâs important to mention a major thing a beard does, other than potentially act as part of a performance of masculinity, is cover double chins. i legitimately feel leaving that out is a major oversight. double chins are societally reviled and rarely ever depicted in supposedly fat positive art.
iâve known fat women to literally tape the skin of their neck up under their hair to try to get rid of themâ not to mention trying to contour them away with makeup. (iâve personally done both. letâs talk about the utter misery of trying to exist in public with your skin taped and painted in place, terrified if any of it fails you will be treated as disgusting.) and fat men must grow a beard, and just the right kind of hyper-groomed beard, lest they be labeled disgusting neckbeards. fat people of all genders are compelled to âlearn their anglesâ for photos, so they can create the illusion of not having double chins if only in still images. do you know how many photos with loved ones your fat friends duck out of because they canât know how it will turn out, and donât want to be mocked?
accept double chins as normal. accept that you can be attracted to people with double chins. stop requiring heightened gender performance and discomfort from fat people. stop forcing tape and makeup and beards and tactical angles on fat people.
i find it really funny how many insane asylum horror movies donât have a great grasp on what element is actually scary about âasylumsâ. like they mostly focus on the scary mentally ill people who might make you uncomfortable and completely miss how terrifying it is to be one of those people. generally we view people as subjects - rational agents to be engaged with - rather than as objects - things to be controlled and manipulated but with which u canât reason. most of society to some extent tho treat people in mental health institutions as people without the full faculties of their reason. i.e. as objects. everything u say is dismissed and sometimes u canât even leave until a doctor decides u can and so u can get stuck trying to act the way they want u to act just to escape but not actually getting any better. even ur most normal reactions can be treated as hysteria and genuine mistakes can be treated as intentional and punished accordingly. authority figures can abuse you and you can be written off, and people who might genuinely want to do good in their job can be inclined to distrust u because of ur perceived irrationality. and none of that is to say that inpatient programs or mental health institutions should be scary or arenât helpful because a lot of them are and getting treatment can really improve your life. but itâs just. why do so many movies not get that whatâs scary is not being around the patients. the patients are generally some of the nicest and accepting people u can meet. whatâs scary is being the patient and losing agency especially if u have no one to advocate for u
the writers are like âhas someone ever acted outside of normal social conventions around you? oohhhh. spookyâ but. bro. have you ever been in a socially acceptable prison with literally no recourse? maybe we have different definitions of horror because the former is not scary in the least
also i think itâs easy to objectify people who are struggling with a mental health condition because so many people subscribe to this idea that mentally ill people are Other. like of course you would have to escape the mental hospital because You donât belong there. not like They do. when in reality weâre all a few bad turns in life away from needing mental health support and being viewed as Other all of a sudden by the people surrounding us
For @marcepanna
I don't mean this in a dismissive "haha you've got daddy issues" way but I really am coming to suspect that most if not all people who view the opposite sex as like, fundamentally alien on a mental or emotional level really just do not have healthy family relationships. You see it with the weird Trad and Alpha Male guys who can't seem to conceive of women as fully-aware human beings instead of some sort of symbiotes who need men to guide them, you see it with the weird radfems who like to go on about men being incable of feeling real emotion and just being driven by instinct and needing to be ruled over like dogs. I just find it really difficult to imagine arriving at those worldviews if you ever had a mutually caring and respectful relationship with an opposite-sex parent or sibling.
iâve had radfems go off on me for talking about my relationship with my dad. things are more complicated now after i came out, but when i was a baby he stayed home with me and worked part time so my mom could work full time, he was never weird about my periods and didnât use weird euphemisms (he would just say âare you cramping? do you need tylenol? need me to buy you some tampons?â), taught me the basics of sex ed since my conservative school wasnât going to do that, was very understanding and supportive for the most part when i would talk to him about personal problems (when i left a shitty relationship at the end of high school he was the first person i told and i cried on his shoulder for like half an hour), when his best friend/my godfather died he didnât hide his tears.
there were many things i wish heâd done differently, but there were many things he did right, and so many people get legitimately angry when i try to talk about it. people have even accused me of âtrying to make excuses for shitty menâ for just talking about the fact that not all fathers are emotionless assholes who never see their families. it really solidified in my mind that some people donât want things to change. they just want to stay angry with the way they are currently because anger is cathartic and much less effort than actual systemic change.
I have a couple popular posts on tumblr that are funny or heartwarming stories about my dad, and all of them get regular comments that boil down to, "men suck and he's probably really shitty behind the scenes."
And it's like. He's a human person, of course he's not perfect. But if your response to seeing someone tell a nice story about their dad is to immediately dissect all the ways the dad in question must secretly be awful, that's...that's a problem. That's not an appropriate reaction to someone telling a happy story about a parent.
true crime is becoming to girls what ww2 is to boys
#thereâs definitely some amount of difference#because a lot of women get into true crime#because theyâre overly aware that the majority of the murder victims are women#and itâs kind of a response to knowing how dangerous it is to exist in this world as a woman- like âthis could be meâ#or âthis is how i would protect myself if i were in this situationâ#or even trying to make true crime seem more like a show because it makes the possibility that theyâll be harmed seem less likely#but also thereâs serial killer fangirls so like#you really canât defend that
The majority of murder victims are, in fact, men.
Specifically, 79%.
The most murdered group, specifically, are black men.
The LEAST murdered demographic are middle class white women, who oddly make up a majority of the murder victims shown in true crime programs and news reports, and also the ones who make up the majority of true crime fans.
Itâs called Missing White Woman Syndrome, and itâs based in racist disregard for non-white lives and patriarchal protectiveness of (white) women and it leads white middle class women to have a vastly overblown idea of their own vulnerability to random serial killers.
Note, âoverblown.â These women are feeling fear for a vanishingly unlikely occurrence, akin to preppers who spend their lives preparing for Russian invasions. Itâs not a healthy or rational fear, and it shouldnât be encouraged.
The analogy is also apt, even if watching out of own personal fears. In the end youâre still watching police propaganda, to justify the use of the prison systems (or capital punishment), and itâs purposely playing on your fascination and disgust to do this. The same bigoted system most privileged will buy their way out off anyway. Its reactionary as shit lol.
some nurses I work with and get patients from give me the impression that they think a patient is opioid addicted and they need to be weaned off, and like even if that is the case 1) I'm not a addiction specialist, I'm their night nurse and their doctors have prescribed pain medication to be available to them, 2) day nurses I think can be more flippant about pain at times because during the day you have things that can distract you while at night, all you get to do is lie in bed and think about how much pain you're in, 3) I don't think a hospital stay for like heart failure is the best time to detox someone, 4) pain is incredibly subjective and I trust patients who've been living in their body for their whole lives more than I trust myself who has been talking to them about their body for five minutes, and 5) some nurses will be like "I don't offer pain medication unless the patient asks for it" and then the patient will ask for it and then it's all "this patient requested pain meds..... drug seeking behavior" like okay wtf are they supposed to do then? Stoically cry one tear down their cheek when I come to check on them so I can benevolently grant them 5 mg of oxy? 6) enduring pain doesn't make people better people, it actually makes people angry and tired and sad, so good luck building your therapeutic rapport while you make them beg for pain medication, maybe all your patients wouldn't be so mean to you if they weren't all suffering the entire time you're responsible for them, 7) if you aren't gonna give opioids and you're also not gonna page the doc for other meds and you're not gonna get ice packs and you're not gonna reposition your patient and you're not gonna ambulate them when they say that helps their hips and you're not gonna talk to them for a while to distract them and you're not gonna get them a jello cup to eat if they want, then literally how are you better than a little roomba with a med cup full of Lipitor scooting into their room?
I'm aware of the risks of opioids, I don't give them when it isn't safe or indicated, and I'm also aware that opioids aren't even good for all types of pain, but they can be an absolute gift to patients who need them. They aren't inherently evil. We don't have to make people suffer to improve their character. Even if suffering did that (it doesn't), improving character is outside my scope of practice. Here's some morphine.
Looted Gilgamesh tablet returns to Iraq in formal ceremony
A small clay tablet dating back 3,500 years and bearing a portion of the Epic of Gilgamesh that was looted from an Iraqi museum 30 years ago and recently recovered from the United States formally returned to Iraq on Tuesday.
The $1.7 million cuneiform tablet, known as the Gilgamesh Dream Tablet, is one of the worldâs oldest surviving works of literature and one of the oldest religious texts. It was found in 1853 as part of a 12-tablet collection in the rubble of the library of Assyrian King Assur Banipal.
The tablet was looted from an Iraqi museum during the 1991 Gulf War. Officials believe it was illegally imported into the United States in 2003, then sold to Hobby Lobby and eventually put on display in its Museum of the Bible in Washington. Read more.
Me, reading this: Huh⌠I wonder if it wasâ yep, Lobby.
the only reason I like going to Hobby Lobby is because it is morally correct to shoplift from there
love to purchase items but at what cost
and hilariously that is not why it is called that.
It is the circle of the bears cause of ursa major and ursa minor, and the circle without bears cause ya'know opposite part of the sky.
We lucked right into that one....
#so what youâre saying is#the stars dictate whether bears do or do not exist in places
Astrology is real but only for predicting where bears will be
Bears do not travel to places they cannot see their gods
I'm villaincoded because I'm genuinely very self centered and will just monologue at you for a while if you don't stop me
And youâre gay
And I'm gay
Not to be a drooling socialist cuck, but if a full day's labour can't purchase three square meals, 24 hour's worth of rent and utilities, a fraction of a month's clothing budget, and a reasonable portion to be saved for when you can no longer comfortably work, what the fuck are we doing shit for
Don't forget that best case scenario the government takes roughly 20% in taxes :)
20% OVER a certain amount. Literally a fraction of a fraction of my earnings, to clean parks and fix potholes and operate public education, and if this system we're better enforced, it would be mostly paid for by rich blockheads.
To be clear: This is in full support of socialism. I am mocking business majors
Ireland adopted the Nordic model in 2017, making the purchase of sex illegal and criminalizing âbrothelsâ (defined to include two or more sex workers sharing an apartment). Sex Workers Alliance Ireland conducted a survey in 2020 to monitor the effects of the law on sex workers. The findings were, unsurprisingly, that it made sex work more dangerous, screening clients more difficult, and so on.
In response to one question, âWhat have been the major impacts of the change in the law on your work?â, the answers:
83.33% said âI cannot live/work with another sex worker for fear of arrest for brothel keepingâ 75% said âI worry that the police will arrest my clientsâ 70.83% said âI worry that the police might arrest meâ 62.50% said âI am now more worried about violence and abuseâ 54.17% said âIt is now more difficult to screen clientsâ 33.33% said âIt is now too difficult to keep regular clients that I trustâ 29.17% said âI feel pressured into performing unsafe sexual practicesâ 20.83% said âI have had to drop my prices to get clientsâ 12.50% said âI donât have time to negotiate with clientsâ
Only 8.33% (2 respondents) said âI am more likely to go to the GardaĂ [police] if a crime has been committed against meâ, and 0% selected the (humorously sarcastic) options âI now have too many clients to deal withâ or âI feel more empowered.â
To explain why the law makes screening more difficult, SWAI write that it âmay be because it is now the client who is breaking the law, not the worker, so clients are more reluctant to submit to screening processes as they are the ones taking criminal risks.â
In response to the question âDo you think sex work is now more dangerous or less dangerous since the law was introduced?â, 70.83% of responders gave the maximum option, âIt is a lot more dangerous now.â On pg. 19-20 they review crimes against sex workers and find that all categories of crime have increased since the law was introduced, some quite drastically.
