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[anomalys-bane]

Women lowkey live in a mass fawn response and while most understand that male aggression like rape, coercion and abuse is obviously patriarchal and harmful, we've still internalized that male aggression is natural and proof that a 'worthy' man truly, undeniably desires a woman. And that's often why ultra masculine or morally corrupt coercive male characters/dynamics/kinks end up so popular. It's a way to experience being desired by scary powerful men but not the true consequence of that violent coercive desire.

It's like wanting to have our cake and eat it too, which is somewhat possible when it comes to fiction, but systems of oppression like patriarchy don't care why you like male violence, or in what form you accept it, as long as you like and accept male violence. As long as women continue to feel desirable using patriarchal dynamics, in any and every form, the system lives on.

One of the best ways to immortalize a system is to incorporate it into sex culture, so now every criticism becomes very easy to dismiss on the basis of personal freedom, pleasure and popularity 💔

[pspsappho]

& honestly there's no debate to be had the zendaya earrings are orders of magnitude worse than kim kardashian wearing that marilyn dress. yes that piece was a one of a kind unique textile made so specifically for marilyn monroe she had to be sewn into it. at the end of the day it was a ~70 year old usamerican cultural artefact being repurposed by an american for an american cultural event and everyone involved knows exactly where the dress came from + what happened to it + where it went afterwards. zendaya is wearing the looted (or forged) cultural heritage of a people her government is currently bombing & whose lives they have been deliberately making unliveable for decades to a movie premiere that has fuck all to do with iran. we don't know where those discs came from where they were found or by whom & we never will. AND the jeweller appears to have altered them substantially from their original condition. destroying a people's cultural heritage at the same time you destroy their country + their lives so you can look good on a red carpet One Time i want to fucking hurl

[uhhhhmanda]

Zendaya’s The Odyssey premiere earrings spark ethics row

The earrings, worn by Zendaya at The Odyssey press tour, are believed to be 2,000-3,000 years old and come at a time when the US is bombing

An archaeologist quoted in the article says "the point of these earrings is not to showcase legitimate ancient artistry, it is to fetishize the past, to be a commodity, stolen from the elite, circulated illegally, and immorally…this is about class signalling."

[2well2water]

i am so sickkkkkkkk of people seeing misogyny perpetuated by a man and automatically going "well SOMEONE'S closeted" omfg you know that men hate women even when theyre attracted to them right??? why are you more interested in making fun of gay people than hating misogynists. you fucking freak

[meanevilandcruel]

If this is “girlhood” then we need to pick up the fkn pace and try to find smth more meaningful to do. We are under spellllssss peopleeee

[feferi]

i think a lot of liberal or left leaning adults who were extremely online as children view efforts to curb the amount of noxious shit kids are exposed to online as “puritan pearl clutching” because “they turned out okay” after being mostly unsupervised as kids, but then a lot of them are miserably depressed and suffering long term emotional and psychological damage from the fucking avalanche of bigotry they were exposed to on 4chan or reddit or kiwifarms or encyclopediadramatica or somethingawful or whatever. like putting aside that the online ecoystem is TOTALLY different now and it is a lot easier for kids to just suddenly end up on nazi youtube than it was for you as a kid to navigate the labyrinth of late 90s/early 2000s internet, a lot of you VERY CLEARLY did not turn out okay, and that’s not even getting into the fact that other adults like you who were extremely online like you are the ones who are radicalizing teenagers now! where do you think they absorbed all of that propaganda, actually? do you think analog modes of communication is how we got to gamergate? figure it the fuck out

[endophagia-moved]

the erasure of the rape element in mythological retellings is so heinous it borders on misogyny

[avicecaro]

it’s the idea that because rape as an act is misogyny, that talking about rape or including it in stories is also misogyny. as if acknowledging that women were denied agency and dignity somehow further denies us agency and dignity. when really, acknowledging the ways women were/are denied agency and dignity affirms that we are entitled to these things. a feminist story isn’t just a story in which no bad things happen to women. bad things do happen to women. pretending they don’t, and especially trying to superimpose that conviction onto the past, just because it isn’t as fun to dwell on, is not a feminist position.

[poetreeanon]

Literally every modern retelling that ignores Persephone was kidnapped and raped (and forced to marry her rapist). I can't recall even ONE story based on this myth that at least vaguely implies the actual rape element

[anomalys-bane]

[mareshida]

Reducing women to objects in pornography is a precondition to make the violence they endure look acceptable. When women stop being people, acts of violence against them stop being harmful, as objects cannot be harmed. The legitimation of VAW in pornography is also supported by two latent assumptions. First is the idea that pornography is a “distortion, reflection, projection, expression, fantasy, representation or symbol” (MacKinnon, 1984, p. 326) of reality and, therefore, not real. Yet, “fantasy expresses ideology” (MacKinnon, 1984, p. 327); it expresses the reality of the subordination of women entrenched in the way we understand sex, in and out of pornography. In fact, the second assumption that legitimizes VAW in pornography– that is, that “women enjoy sexual mistreatment” (Dines, 2010, p. 64), consent to their own humiliation, and never say “no” to degrading acts– shows how eroticization and women’s subordination are strictly connected, with the latter becoming “socially real” through its enactment in pornography (MacKinnon, 1984, p. 327). The illusion of consent covers the sexist nature of these acts and allows the refusal of sex not only to become indistinguishable from the desire of sex, but also normalized and eroticized. In pornography, even women’s “no” is part of the fantasy, and force is no longer seen as force “because it is inflicted on women and called sex” (MacKinnon, 1984, pp. 340–343). Under this pretense, almost everything becomes justifiable, including degrading and violent acts such as shoving a woman’s head down the toilet, gagging her, or making her ingest her own vomit. While women become powerless in pornography—as willing actors who ask to be acted upon—men become powerful and always obtain as much sex as they want, how they want it. For a short time, men “get to see what life would look like if only women unquestionably consented to men’s sexual demands” (Dines, 2010, p. 63).

— “I Don’t Hate All Women, Just Those Stuck-Up Bitches”: How Incels and Mainstream Pornography Speak the Same Extreme Language of Misogyny (Alessia Tranchese and Lisa Sugiura)

[anomalys-bane]

Okay I need to say it. I think the popularity of romance books/smut/romance tropes like physically + sexually abusive and controlling abusive male leads is partly hindering the progress of women's rights with it's use of Soft Power narratives, or power through desirableness. Yes it's all fiction, yes women should read what they want, yes it's part of a greater culture of female socialization, yes its good that women are staying away from irl men, but i think we need to talk about it more. For one thing, i wont say it started the recent boom of violent sex culture but it definitely promotes it as many girls' first exposure to sexual media is through romances and smut, and not to mention how pornified its become along with everything else. And it's not just fiction because people are doing this in real life, with real people. 'Id never want this in real life but I'd definitely roleplay it' I see that one a LOT.

With the popularity of booktok and smut there's been men who are absolutely disgusted yes, but only because they think women shouldn't have drives at all, or they're mad as shit about the fact that only good looking sexy men get Abusing Women Privileges. And they're disgruntled about the popularity of the bad boy trope. Like look at this random reddit example which echoes male sentiments I've been seeing absolutely everywhere

A significant other portion of men support this, because if you're a pos misogynist all you have to do is say you support women's choices to like what they want and you'll have both the opportunity to abuse them without consequence and get praised for it. If there is actually somehow a man uncomfortable with it he's gonna get reassured by thousands of feminists on how some women love getting abused!! Consent!! Feminism choice empowerment!! It's crazy out here.

There are a lot of women gloating over how mad men are over romance/smut while not realizing how we're reinventing misogyny in new desirable ways every day. And just how many men are going to take advantage of this recent boom. Misogyny is misogyny is misogyny. At the end of the day It doesn't matter that we can separate reality from fiction and that women can like certain things or that it's more nuanced than we think. The damage is done, for women as a group, it keeps us right in our patriarchal chains.

Liberal feminism is an actual plague. Literally how are we going to condemn horrible acts of oppression then turn around and say it's okay as long as you get off to it. Can you imagine doing this with any other movement?? Imagine if a major talking point in anti racism was that poc deserve rights and respect, but if they consumed extremely racist media willingly and/or they choose to degrade themselves for a white person it's just a fantasy? and just fiction? and actually really empowering? and actually is anti racism and reclamation? and how absolutely dare you tell poc what to like?? YOU are the actual racist here.. Seriously.

[anomalys-bane]

Why does nobody say this about men when it comes to these discussions? And policing? A Tumblr post in a small non mainstream community, that criticizes broad patterns is not policing. I'm not personally walking up to women and telling them to stop and feminists dont have the power to police womens sexuality the way its policed by patriarchy. And genuinely, very very few people, even feminists, are encouraging women to have 'feminist fantasies'. Even on here the only thing a lot of people bring up is the concern that this is just a another way to police women. But I'm afraid the fantasies many women have now are the accepted and patriatchally correct and expected ones.

And u did acknowledge that its popular because of internalized oppression and internalized misogyny. Should we or should we not do something like encourage better models and narratives for attraction? And encourage questioning and reconditioning? This will involve discomfort because if theres one thing absolutely everyone is resistant to questioning to its sex and fantasy related things. If it was only fantasy, it wouldnt be cause for concern, but because it mirrors oppressive structures so perfectly, and its become more and more encouraged to embrace that, it is something concerning. And yes, sex and related things form a fundamental tenet of womens oppression. If we dont encourage questioning and making healthier baseline sexuality for ourselves, how do we expect to make progress in this regard at all?

'Satanic panic levels of patronizing women' Again we don't say this about men when it comes to discussing misogynistic harmful stuff they've internalized even it is mere fantasy. We understand it goes deeper than that. We know that saying men are socialized into desiring certain things and that we should talk about it isn't patronizing to men, is it? Why can't it be the same for women? Only when discussing female socialization do we get the response of 'oh you think women are stupid and you want to control what they like because they can't think for themselves'.

[clytemnestraaa]

the idea that kink is somehow safe from critique and prejudice or harm is so fucking funny. ah yes bodies, desire, and power, three things that have famously never been utilized in harmful ways. great news everyone yes we are all existing in complex systems of oppression and violence BUT!!!!!! it’s on pause when we are horny

[radfemarchive-deactivated202304]

Interesting how the average person needs to be shown countless studies, surveys and statistics to (maybe) start considering porn as an evil woman-hating industry, like “teen whore gets what she deserves”, “forced oral” or “latina abuse” doesn’t ring any bells

[radfemarchive-deactivated202304]

*tittle and imagery invoking female degratation* *Woman clearly uncomfortable/unaroused/drugged* *Solely women categorized by race, age, profession, etc*

“HoW is it BAD for WoMen I don’T SeE it It is All aBout CoNsEnT”

[capybarad]

What I cannot understand is these SAME people will call for a show to get cancelled for the slightest misuse of woke language/clumsy attempt at inclusion/a problematic tweet from someone adjacent to the show from 5 years ago, but continue to defend porn.

[radfemarchive-deactivated202304]

The P*rn industry is the most racist, misogynistic and everything -phobic thing there is on this world but hey, it helps ppl jerk off, it can’t be more harmful than that tweet that celebrity made 10 years ago.

[enchantingcheesecakepersona]

Men prioritise their orgasm and lie that there is such a thing as ethical porn.

[enba-and-luka]

[logophilestudies]

he should be in prison for life wtaf

[pusheen-the-radical]

this man is unspeakably vile, but I feel like what is being slept on is the other men who showed up to a stranger’s house ready to (supposedly fake) fucking rape her without ever having interacted in any real or meaningful capacity. like i find cnc disgusting and amoral but fundamentally there are couples in the world who do it and there isn’t really much i can do about that, but these are people who have met and interacted in real life and agreed to do this. these men showed up to that woman’s HOUSE never having seen her or heard her voice, going off of fucking tinder messages, which any child can tell you can be easily faked. like they knew that there was a significant chance this was dodgy, they just didn’t care, they wanted plausible deniability to do what they wanted to do anyway.

[radragefem]

The guys who do CNC are the same ones capable of this kind of atrocity. There's no world where you're aroused by rape and raping the person you supposedly love while being a respectable person whose suicide wouldn't benefit society. Stop kidding yourselves with this "consent" nonsense who excuses everything; your suffering gives him an erection.

[hugewoman]

[anomalys-bane]

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[pseudonaivete]

While straight men’s desire for women’s bodies is often portrayed as an incredibly powerful force, many men’s notorious confusion about what produces female orgasm, their disinterest in providing oral sex to women, and their dramatically narrow ideas about what constitutes a female body worth desiring (waxed, shaved, scented, dieted, young, etc.) suggests that heteromasculinity is characterized by a much weaker and far more conditional desire for women’s bodies than is often claimed.

Jane Ward, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality

[gravitren]

We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.

[pokemonprofessor]

For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.

There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.

Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.

[frustratedwaffle]

I’ve never even heard of this??

[meetingthestoryteller]

There are an abundance of female sex disorders that no one talks about. The only reason I know them is because of my abnormal psychology class. But yeah, everyone knows what erectile dysfunction is.

[witchyouandditchyou]

Also vulvodynia!! If you experience chronic irritation, itching, pain, burning, etc on your vulva, and don’t know what it is or have been told by your doctors that nothing is wrong with you, YOU HAVE A REAL CONDITION AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Check out these resources:

https://www.nva.org/what-is-vulvodynia/

https://m.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Vulvodynia?IsMobileSet=true

Anyone is more than welcome to DM me if they have questions or need support for this.

[g1rluninterruptedd]

some of you, and i cannot stress this enough, are so incredibly fucking stupid that it’s sad. i love women, i want us to be free, and some of you truly never will be if you purposefully misinterpret valid critiques just because you want to. an album cover like this and referring to herself as a “man’s best friend” is a weird move, why? well gee i dunno let’s look at the world for five seconds, shall we? on top of that, yall think that just because she says “haha im a man hater” suddenly dismisses how much she absolutely adores males and appealing to them in both her music and her behavior.

a lot of you women will continue to live in la la land running from your liberation because you’re too stubborn (or maybe too stupid in some of your cases) to think and i feel very sorry for you.

[anomalys-bane]

does he respect and love women or does he just find femininity endearing. does he admire the strength of women when its unrelated to childbirth and motherhood. does he get along with women or does he just find them easier to be around than men. does he respect and appreciate unconventionally attractive women. how does he treat abrasive, autonomous women.

so many 'respectful' men run around having a noble savage view of women and we're expected to gush over him and treat him like some rare god. and unfortunately women are so starved of anything close to respect that they eat it up every time.

[antisextrade]

Debunking Myths About Prostitution

Myth 1: Regulation/Legalization makes prostitution safe

If that would be the case it would be safe or safer in countries where it is already legalized but it isn't. Murder rates are higher in countries that have legalized prostitution than in those following the Nordic Model. For most women, proving rape is already difficult; for prostituted women, it is even harder. Since sex is considered their service, Johns face little risk of consequences, allowing violence against them to persist as they know they have nothing to worry about.

Read more in these articles:

MYTH: Regulation makes prostitution safe

MYTH: Legalisation makes prostitution safe

FACT: Prostitution is inherently violent

Myth 2: Johns respect the women they buy sex from

In a society where women are still judged for their sexual behavior and words like 'slut' and 'whore' are widely used as slurs against them, expecting Johns to respect prostituted women is highly naive. Most prostituted women have experienced violence while in prostitution, and numerous studies confirm this.

Check out John forums yourself to see what they really think about prostituted women—it will open your eyes. They don’t speak kindly about them, they don’t respect them, and they dehumanize them.

Read more in these articles:

MYTH: Punters respect the women they buy

The Case for Using John Forums as Evidence Against the Sex Trade

Check put this website for citations of German, Austrian and Swiss sex buyers from the years of legalized sex buying – almost exclusively concerning legal prostitution establishments: https://dieunsichtbarenmaenner.wordpress.com/menu/

Studies:

Violence by clients towards female prostitutes in different work settings: questionnaire survey

Prostitute homicides: a descriptive study

Prostitution in Five Countries: Violence and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Prostitution and Trafficking in Nine Countries

Prostitution in Vancouver: violence and the colonization of First Nations women

Posttraumatic stress disorders in prostitutes: Results of a study in Hamburg in the context of an international project

Men who pay for sex in Germany and what they teach us about the failure of legal prostitution: a 6-country report on the sex trade from the perspective of the socially invisible 'freiers'

Posttraumatic stress disorder among female street-based sex workers in the greater Sydney area, Australia

Cumulative Violence and PTSD Symptom Severity Among Urban Street-Based Female Sex Workers

Myth 3: The Nordic Model is more dangerous for prostituted women than decriminalization

Murders of prostituted women are lower in countries that have adopted the Nordic Model. Furthermore, in these countries, prostituted women are not punished and can call the police on Johns, who are always held accountable. As a result, Johns are more likely to behave better to avoid being reported.

Read more in these articles:

MYTH: The Nordic Model is more dangerous for sex workers than decriminalisation

FACT: Decriminalising prostitution increases human trafficking

FACT: Buying sex makes men more prone to violence against women

Myths and misinformation about the Nordic Model (Booklet - PDF)

Myth 4: Legalizing Prostitution Reduces the Stigma

If that were the case, it would have happened in countries where prostitution is legalized, but that has never occurred. I live in Germany, where it has been allowed since 1927 and widely recognized and regulated legally since 2002, yet the stigma remains almost as high as it was decades ago.

Read more in this article:

MYTH: Legalising Prostitution Reduces the Stigma

Myth 5: Prostitution is the oldest profession

Evidence shows that hunting, farming, and toolmaking date back to around 10,000-12,000 years ago, long before prostitution, which became documented in ancient civilizations like Mesopotamia (around 2,000 BCE). Therefore, basic survival activities came first.

Read more in this article:

MYTH: Prostitution is the oldest profession

Myth 6:  If you make prostitution or buying sex illegal Prostitution will go underground.

The argument that criminalizing the purchase of sex will drive it “underground” is not based on any evidence. On the contrary, in Sweden and Norway—where the purchase of sex has been criminalized—the number of men buying sex has declined. Therefore, prostitution on the whole has declined.

Germany where Prostitution is legalized has a legal market and an illegal market, and both have grown. According to the Federal Statistical Office, there were about 32,300 registered prostitutes in Germany at the end of 2024. However researchers assume that the number of unregistered prostitutes ranges from 200,000 to 400,000 at the low end to up to 1 million.

“Underground” is another word for “indoor,” “out of sight,” or “below the law.” Because the very nature of prostitution requires that it be visible to the clients who are seeking women for purchase, it is not possible for it to go so far underground that it can no longer be detected. If the men who purchase sex are able to find the prostituted women, then trained police can surely locate the activity and arrest the johns.