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☆〜 my sideblogs:
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Do you guys remember how kidnap fantasies were popular on wattpad because young girls and queer teens were both made to feel shame at the thought of their own sexualities, so the fantasy of being kidnapped totally against their will was a way for them to engage with a romantic or sexual fantasy without feeling morally in the wrong for doing so? Added bonus that the fantasy involved being whisked away from repressive environments like home or school, right?
Finding out that Bram Stoker was in a sexless marriage and that scholars believe that he very likely was closeted gay puts the entire book into perspective as to WHY it reads EXACTLY like a self insert wattpad Dracula kidnap fic:
“I TOTALLY love my wife and would never do anything that an upstanding Good Straight Working Man wouldn’t do but oh nooo, big strong man with broad back and strong enough arms to carry me back to bed like a princess trapped me and claimed me as his, completely against my will 👉👈 But he protects me against the bad evil sexual women (who I assure you, I am TOTALLY sexually attracted to, as any straight man with a choice would be) but trust me, I do NOT want ANY of this. What’s that? The Count is not capable of feeling love? Would be a shame if I had the special ability to change tha-”
This is also the fantasy behind all those old bodice-ripper romances that people today like to mock or call problematic, by the way.
“Oh, my next forty years are going to consist of nothing but washing dishes and keeping house and bearing children for the disdainful man I married right out of high school because my parents said college was for men and I had no other obvious life path open to me? What if a pirate captain thought I was worth stealing away from it all? [what if I ran away but no-one could blame me for leaving]?”
#I read an article a long time ago about a woman who was raised in an incredibly repressive conservative christian community#where all that mattered was purity and virginity etc #She talked about how for a long time rape fantasies were the only way she could derive any pleasure from sex #because she couldn’t feel safe exploring the idea of wanting sex #it wasn’t really ABOUT rape or eroticizing assault or whatever #it was about creating a scenario where she was free from the shame associated with wanting #i think this is true of a lot of icky-seeming stuff in romance and erotica #it’s an imaginary scenario where nothing you don’t really want actually happens #but you can’t be blamed or feel guilty for it #you didn’t do anything wrong#anyway that article changed my perspective a lot #i think there’s also something to be said for people who have felt ugly and undesirable their whole lives #enjoying fictional scenarios where a hot alpha werewolf or whatever is so attracted to them he ‘cant help himself’ or whatever #because it can also be really shameful to want to be desired #when you feel like youre ugly and gross ( @headspace-hotel )
sorry for romanticizing sexualizing and normalizing unhealthy relationships. it will happen again
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Hi Charity! This question — https://funkymbtifiction.tumblr.com/post/686946898563727360/sometimes-i-get-this-perfectly-clear-idea-either — led me to wonder what is the difference between how an INFP collects ideas through NE/SI and how an ISFP collects ideas through SE/NI? Isn't it normal for those with NE to take ideas from the outside world (music, art, books, movie, dreams etc…) and then modify, combine and transform them?
Yup, that's what they do. I'm gonnna take these 5 different things and do something new with it. Ne is outward inspired, and Ni is inward reflective/inspired. What I described in that post is taking sensory reality and stripping it down into a personal symbol, which is SeNi.
You also said that sensors tend to notice when they are using intuition because it doesn't happen often, but it can happen that an intuitive can understand when they are using NE or NI because they know mbti and have started analyzing everything they do and think during the day?
Intuitives generally are not aware of how much they rely on assumptions all the time and operate as if their fantasies (insights) are proven realities. Once they know personality typing, they become more aware of using their intuition, yes. NPs in particular get all excited about re-imagining themselves as a different type and looking for (weak) evidence to fit, since one type seems too limiting and they are all about outward expansion and seeing themselves in different ways.
I go more in depth about how each type is creative in my book. :)
Saying “this niche, properly tagged, warned, and rated piece of fiction could theoretically hurt someone” is not a good argument. This properly labeled cookie with the allergen information at the bottom that contains gluten could theoretically harm me very badly, but only if I consume it. Tags are like nutrition labels, and warnings are like allergy information. If you know you have an allergy to something, the logic is to stay away from it. It is the same with fiction. I’m not running through stores yelling at people to take all the products with gluten off the shelves just because it could hurt me. Instead I ignore it and go to the gluten free section and find cookies that are right for me. And if running through a grocery store yelling sounds ridiculous, that’s because it is. Stop doing the same with fiction.
this is the best way i’ve seen this put!!
And just like with food, what might be harmful for one person to consume could be quite *beneficial* for others. One man’s trigger is another man’s catharsis.
AND if you lack the maturity/self control/awareness to stop yourself from eating things that could potentially harm you, you either 1) are too young to be making your own food choices and should be supervised by a parent/other adult who is supposed to be responsible for you (and the store clerk who put the food on the shelf is NOT) or 2) need to take accountability for your own actions, because if you deliberately consumed something you knew could hurt you as a fully autonomous adult, then you really have no one to blame but yourself.
hi charity, how are you? can i ask you a specific question about INFP and the enneagram 9? i’m still questioning my enneagram and i want to know what is the difference between an INFP 9w1 in te-grip and a healthy INFP 9w8 and their relationship with anger and confrontation with other people. for example being passive-aggressive after an argument (like: “i stop talking to you and start making some sarcastic comments against you when we are with other people until the anger passes and you apologize to me) is more of a 9w1 or 9w8 thing? and other things like that. i already read the type 9 and its wings in your blog and i see myself a lot in both so i would like to know if maybe being in te-grip could make a 9w1 look like a 9w8
Luckily, I know one of each and we've had lengthy discussions about INFP 9 from the "inside." Maybe some of this will be helpful. :)
The INFP 9w1 has a strong tendency toward super-ego 1-based thinking; she says that she often feels critical of herself and others, she struggles with perfectionism, she has a rigidity in terms of right/wrong, and if she loses her temper and lets someone have it, she feels guilt because doing that is bad behavior (her 1 is telling her that "good people don't get angry/show their anger" and as a 9w1, that means "suppressing my feelings for the good of everyone involved"). She is also more amenable to outside opinions; she says unless she goes away to be alone and self-consult, and puts some distance between other people and her responses, she's afraid that their opinion will over-influence hers, because 9w1 is more malleable than 9w8. She is very aware of being angry a lot, but feels like it's something she needs to overcome and 'grow out of' (again, 1 self-criticism -- anger is bad/undesirable, get rid of it!).
The INFP 9w8 is angry almost all the time, but has no super-ego telling her that anger is bad or inappropriate; it's how she feels, and she can sit with it. She honestly doesn't care what other people do with their lives, and has no 1ish tendency to criticize or judge them -- her attitude is 'what others do is none of my business, unless it impacts me, and then I am angry about that." IF/when she suppresses her anger, it's to avoid conflict and not because she sees anger as bad. To her, it's power, a way to assert herself and establish boundaries, and keep others from upsetting her. She has an instant, automatic tendency to shut down things she doesn't like, by saying the conversation is over, and clamming up. Nor does she feel as open to "maybe" as the 9w1 -- the 9w1 can see both sides, and will agree with things even if she isn't sure, the 9w8 won't see both sides (Fi/8 has a black and white "right or wrong according to me, no exceptions" mentality that shadows the 9) or agree if she disagrees.
Your stacking is also important -- if you are an social dom 9, you should see social 1 or social 8 behaviors in you as well, etc.
Regarding Te grips... an INFP in Te can be blunt, confrontational, authoritative, and angry about other people's incompetence, but a plain old 9w8 INFP is still making decisions with FiNeSiTe. All the functions are in play most of the time. In a grip, you've lost yourself.
I found an interesting thread on twitter about how fandom puts the well- being of fictional characters above that of actual abuse victims and I wanted to share it cause some of y'all really need to read
The iOS Toggle is Here!
Per the Jan 11th announcement, you can now see posts tagged with banned** tags and view flagged blogs on the iOS app.
To do this, open tumblr in a browser (this setting is not accessible on the iOS app itself) and go to your account settings. Then, click the “Hide Sensitive Content” toggle in the “Filtering” section. This setting is automatically turned on for everyone by default. Here’s what the toggle looks like when it has been turned OFF (it will be highlighted blue when on):
But wait, you’re not done! For this setting to take effect, you must also make sure you’ve updated the tumblr app to version 22.5.2 (or higher). To update the app, go to the app store, click your profile icon in the top right corner, and scroll down until you reach the updates section. If tumblr displays an “Update” button, click it. You can check the version number by clicking “more” in the update description.
If you’ve already updated to version 22.5.2, make sure to restart the app after toggling the sensitive content setting.
That’s it, you’re done!
**This has no effect on anyone using tumblr via any other browser or app. All toggling this setting does is remove the recent iOS-only hardbanned tags and give iOS app users the same tumblr experience as everyone else. The soft ban on certain “NSFW” tags that’s been in effect since the Great Purge of 2018 is still in effect, at least as of right now. To understand the difference between softbanned and hardbanned tags check out my post about it HERE.
Also, a quick note to content creators: Even with this toggle, I would avoid using any of the banned tags whenever possible because posts with those tags will still be completely hidden (in searches and on dashboards) on the iOS app for anyone who doesn’t know about this workaround. Fortunately, it seems tumblr is currently reviewing the list and walking back some of the tags that were originally banned, seemingly for no reason as they had nothing to do with sensitive content. Most have not been reversed yet. Keep an eye on the banned tags list and continue to check tags yourself since @bannedtags doesn’t have all of them.
This solution is better than nothing, but we’re not out of the woods yet.
can an INFP become stubborn, arrogant, hateful and confrontational in front of people they can't stand or who have a different view of the world from theirs?
Yes.
INFPs are no more immune to being a jerk than any other type. They can get into the habit of defying everyone and everything, seeing the world as a battle zone in which they have to defend themselves, and only thinking of their own feelings (not how their behavior impacts anyone else), and use Te defensively to tear people down. Usually this indicates a need for them to learn to set better boundaries and to deal with their unresolved feelings of resentment for other people. You should figure out what is triggering this behavior, and determine if you can diffuse it enough to return you to a more neutral state of being. (Is someone provoking this? is stress bringing it out? are you too self-absorbed and need to think about others' feelings? is there someone in your environment who makes you feel defensive all the time? is your anger justified? or are you overreacting? etc)
It sounds like you have unresolved anger issues that are coming out as Te-grip behaviors (that's what it sounds like is happening -- you are no longer pleasant and forgiving and tolerant, but angry, confrontational, and combative) -- you should find a way to work through them (through doing something or writing down your feelings and tearing them up) and also consider whether anxiety or something else is fueling this behavior. Is it becoming a bad habit that you can correct? If this is a Te grip, get back into Fi-dom by thinking about your feelings and your relationships and how you are damaging them through this behavior. Get back into Ne by learning something new and dreaming, fantasizing, writing, researching, and into Si through physical activities and doing things you love.
I'm wondering if you're a 9w8, which makes you lash out at people and then feel guilt because you aren't being "nice" all the time. If this is the case, you should also recognize that you may be being harder on yourself than need be, that maybe you are not as awful as you think you are (because 9s always assume their 'explosions' are bigger than they are to other people), and that you are being harshly critical for using inferior Te in aggressive ways.
Maybe look into it, and see if this is what is happening?
i’m so tired of the bakudeku shippers who are also antis. we already receive enough hate from those who think our ship is invalid or from homophobic dudebros, don't start throwing more hate into our fandom because you want antis to think that you are a “good” bakudeku shipper.
you started shipping bakudeku only after bakugou’s development because now they have a healthy relationship and they are friends? and you like only the dynamic that they have now and/or the one that they will have in the future because you like ships that are soft and have no problems or misunderstandings? good!
you started shipping bakudeku since the beginning because you like unhealthy relationships with power imbalance? and you like bakudeku only if they have that dynamic because you like to explore dark topics in fiction? also good!
you ship bakudeku for both reasons and you like both their healthy and unhealthy dynamic? also good! and honestly, i do too!
you ship bakudeku for different reasons? maybe because they are childhood friends or because they are rivals or because they kinda have a enemies to lovers dynamic? again: good!
bakudeku is a wonderful ship and whatever are your reasons for shipping them are totally valid!
for those who don't know what i’m talking about and why i’m saying all of this: i’m referring to this tweet:
I hate how people like the idea of Deku beating Bakugo up as revenge for the junior high bullying. Like, where did you get the idea that Deku hated Kacchan? Why would you want to backtrack on their development? Besides, I find the concept of revenge extremely out of character for Deku, especially with these scenes:
Like the way the panel of the 'just say you'll never forgive him if you hate him' showed Bakugo? Feels like he's speaking from personal experience with him. Plus, Deku does acknowledge that what Dabi says is true. The past really never dies, but it's up to person if they want to acknowledge the present and the future, or if they would wallow in the past. I'm pretty sure Deku does forgive Bakugo, but not because he's a pushover, or can't hold grudges, or because he's turning a blind eye to their past.
Deku fully acknowledges Kacchan's bad side, calling him a jerk in several occasions, and those panels Kacchan vs Deku 2. He can still see the good side to him despite all the bad. Deku probably wouldn't forget their past, but he doesn't hate Bakugo because he still admires him, and appreciates how Kacchan and their relationship have grown in the present.
Yeah, this is so true. This fanon concept of Deku seeking revenge and the popularity of it always puzzled me.
Especially because the narrative makes it clear that Deku really appreciates his improving relationship with Kacchan and is looking into the future feeling blessed.
He chose to forgive and move on for himself - because it makes him happy where they are now. (And I’m sure there are some lingering hurts, but they are buried deep in Deku’s mind)
And the one who is stuck in the past, trying to figure out a way how to set things right is Bakugou.
And I think he knows that Deku would forgive him if he asked, that he’s probably forgiven him without even asking, but that’s not what he seeks. He wants to make amends because he understood the wrongness of his own actions and it’s something he’s compelled to do from his own heart.
And I love these parallel journeys. Deku’s forgiveness and Kacchan’s atonement both exists because of who they have grown into (separately and together) and an acknowledgement of wanting to mend their friendship that’s important to both of them. The fact that is comes from inside them rather than forced upon them from the outside makes it so much more powerful.
Do you think that kr///bk has a chance of becoming canon or being hinted at the end? Because they are my notp and if there is a chance then I will drop the manga. If you will respond to me then thank you! (This is not to send hate to the ship or the shippers, everyone can ship whatever they like, I’m just uncomfortable with the ship so I want to be sure)
The way things have been going, no I don’t see that happening.
I think IzuOcha, KamiJirou, TodoMomo and KiriMina all have chances of becoming canon / hinted canon. At least it seems to me that Horikoshi kind of remembered them and now that the manga is slowly progressing towards the end, he’s putting some time into building them.
I’d be very surprised if Bakugou had an endgame romance with anyone.
maybe i’m paranoid or i see too much into things, but in my opinion horikoshi has not assigned a love interest to bakugou because he will not survive in the end (maybe because the theory of him going back to the past is true, or because he’ll sacrifices himself to save the world from afo). i don’t want this to be true because i really want deku and bakugou to be heroes together (maybe a hero duo, or even a hero trio with todoroki) but i feel like bakugou will have a bittersweet endgame like:
“i'm dying but i saved deku and everyone else” “maybe i will never be back to the present but at least my help will be essential and i can be the number one hero in the past and live in deku’s head”.
maybe i’m wrong and maybe horikoshi will say “fuck it” and leave bakugou and the others without canon ships at the end... but these are just my speculations so
I definitely think it’s a worrying flag, but I feel like it could be also precisely to drive the tension up. With Deku being an MC who narrates the story and whose endgame was defined in the first chapter, the narrative tension is how he got there, not really whether he makes it.
With Bakugou though, everything is on the cards, and there is a lot of foreshadowing to a sacrifice play. So I think if / when something happens in endgame to him, the cliffhangers will hurt like hell. But in the end, I think he will pull through, because it is a much more satisfying ending.
