Some day I want to see a show that does the “no filler episodes” thing from the opposite direction. Just a whole season worth of low-stakes character pieces that seem to move the overall story absolutely nowhere, then episode 26 pulls all the triggers at once and this massive Rube Goldberg machine of a plot the show’s been quietly setting up in the background the whole time hits you like a truck.
I think it's actually essential to children's moral development to be exposed to short stories moderately beyond their reading level where a bunch of fucked up shit happens and then instead of offering a moral lesson or any sort of emotional or narrative resolution it just ends.
Whenever I post this I get “BUT WHY BURY IT?” From people
Heres why…
Zero odor, which mean no pests going through it. I can even compost “some” bread products because no ones going to be going through it for it.
It never drys out, ever. This helps speed up the break down of everything inside.
Its in the middle of my garden and leaches out into the soil around it bettering my garden. I now have a few of these in my yard, because I love them so much.
Worms. They move in immediately again helping the break down and giving me amazing soil.
cotton and Silk thread; https://redrockthreads.com/
Linen thread and wool fabric; https://burnleyandtrowbridge.com/ (they’ve got wool stuffs and worsted wool fabric for $15 a yard! I just got three yards of navy worsted wool I’m making a constellation winter skirt from)
More linen thread and wool; https://wmboothdraper.com/ (just ordered wool broadcloth to make a coat)
Silk fabric (THE best place to get silk lining fabrics and raw silk fabric):https://www.dharmatrading.com/
A varying assortment of wool and silk and cotton and even some leather, use coupon code spring2020 for 50% off your full order, worked yesterday when I bought some stuff there; https://metrotextilesnyc.com/
Wool. You want wool coating for under $20 a yard? Sure you do. It’s here. Not a huge variety of colors, most are black or brown, but hey https://www.fashionfabricsclub.com/Catalog?refinementIds=4096748&Keyword=wool&pageSize=16
I don’t know a lot about sewing, but I want to make or have my mom make some linen pants & shirts for when I’m watering, because it gets to 105 here and we have mosquitos so I need to be covered. What type of linen do I buy? Also, linen pajama shorts, yes/no?
(I’ve been wearing my renfaire pants which are a linen mix, I think. But the frikking mosquitos that hide in the tomatoes get my arms)
For wools, I cannot recommend Woolsome enough! They’re a bit more expensive then the above links, but they have a spectacular range of colours and weights, as well as diamond pattern and herringbone weaves. They also have a range of linens, though not as extensive.
Also? If it is a contracted position, write down that you are not quitting but are concerned at the change in contract terms. If they wish to renegotiate your contract, you would be delighted to do so.
I think one of the funniest abortion stances I've heard was from my parents neighbor. He's a like, hard-core libertarian viking larper guy who is very tall and very fat and very bald.
He believes a fetus is human with a soul, but also its "basically attacking the woman's body" so if she wants to get rid of it, that's "basically self-defense". He compared it to shooting a home invader. So he supports abortion not as healthcare, but as killing a baby in self-defense
Y'know I'm so glad someone reminded me of this. Because this was also discussed.
My stepmother did NOT like the way her Libertarian Viking Neighbor framed pregnancy as the fetus "attacking the woman". She incredulously told him this was extremely disrespectful to expectant mothers to portray pregnancy as so violent and negative.
Libertarian Viking Neighbor's response was that people consensually hurt each other all the time, and "there's like a whole community about that, with the acronym the one that starts with a B" And his reasoning was that if the mother was consenting to bring attacked by the baby, it in fact wasn't violent and negative because there was consent.
He brought up people consensually hurting each other, didn't go for one of the obvious answers like boxing or body mods or something, no he went STRAIGHT TO BDSM and he DIDN'T EVEN REMEMBER THE ACRONYM
Welcome to another round of W2 Tells You What You Should See, where W2 (me) tries to sell you (you) on something you should be watching. Today's choice: 三人夫婦 / Two Husbands One Wife.
Two Husbands One Wife is a bitty little 2025 Japanese series about an anxious man, a high-strung woman, and a carefree prettyboy who together decide that the only way any of them will ever make a marriage work is if they're all in it together.
I'm saying this up top: If you liked What Did You Eat Yesterday?, you should absolutely put this on your list. Two Husbands One Wife doesn't have the food focus, but it does have the same funny, gentle, optimistic, and weirdly PG-13 picture of the world. There are of course misunderstandings and drama, but at the end of the day, it's all about finding happiness in unconventional places.
This show consists of eleven twenty-minute episodes, which means it's probably going to take me longer to write this rec post than it took me to watch the show. For your sake and mine, I'll try to keep this brief as I give you the five reasons I think you should watch it.
1. FUCK YOU, CISHETERONORMATIVITY 🖕🖕🖕
Sometimes I start writing these recs when I'm partway through a show, because I know that no matter where it's going, it's going to be good. This one, I didn't even open a new post until it was all over, because I was so afraid it was going to punk out. I just knew it was going to find some reason to split up the threesome, get everybody settled down in nice straight couples, and conclude that while ideas like a throuple marriage are fun for a while, it's better at the end of the day for everyone to just be normal.
Absolutely not. I will not spoil for you how it ends, but I will -- so you don't have the same anxious viewing experience I did -- let you know that it never once loses the courage of its convictions. This show absolutely believes that this three-spouse relationship is not only a valid choice, but a positive one for these three characters in particular.
Now, this does not mean it is dishonest or naive about how difficult a three-person marriage is. Part of the reason I recommend this for What Did You Eat Yesterday? fans is that Two Husbands One Wife is equally honest about how Japanese society is emphatically not set up for anything outside very strictly bounded ideas about relationships and families. Even the more socially acceptable alternative forms of marriage that it presents are only acceptable because they mimic either extremely traditional marriage setups or two-entity business contracts.
The show is clear: There is no reason for it to be this way! Everyone in Japan would be so much better off if they could, without harassment, enter or not enter into any kind of relationship they want! If their families didn't freak out or disown them because they might be seen as slightly abnormal! If people didn't have to construct arcane legal contracts to mimic extant protections for spouses and parents! If your damn job didn't get up in your business about your private life!
As with Kenji and Shiro's relationship, everything is difficult for these three because they are three difficult people and because the cultural deck is stacked so hard against them. Backing down and being normal would be the easier choice. So kudos to both shows for never, not for a second, believing that it would be the right choice. Miserable normies or happy freaks? You know which side we're on here.
2. Pakkun!!!
The first episode starts off a little strangely, because you're being introduced to all three of the characters, but in the voice of an omniscient child narrator, which seems a very weird choice in general, and a super-weird choice for a story about three adults who, we are told, will eventually be entering into a bisexual plural marriage.
It's not weird. It's wonderful. Pakkun is my hero. It's the sweetest possible conceit for a narrator, and I love it so much. I literally clutched my heart when I realized what was happening. Thank you, Pakkun, for making all of this possible.
3. They deserve one another (derogatory)
All three of the people in this marriage are absolutely exhausting. Fortunately -- and hilariously -- they are now each other's problems.
Mia is a neurotic wreck. She's a prime example of those unmarried women who hit thirty and kind of go insane about it. She wants to be married mostly because everyone around her is getting married and that's what you're supposed to do. She tries to provoke her partners into jealousy because it makes her feel desirable. And she's going to have to learn to get over a bunch of deep insecurities if she's ever going to have a functioning relationship with another human being.
Takuzo is a neurotic wreck, but along a completely different series of neuroses. He is extremely fastidious about his space and everything in it, which predictably does not go well when he has to share it with two human tornadoes. He cannot tell the difference between caring and smothering. His spine is so soft that you can basically steamroll him into anything. He not only has to learn how to stand up for what he wants, he has to learn to want things in the first place.
Shinpei is God's perfect idiot. Having been babied all his life by everyone in his life, he is an extremely useless hot boy who dreams of being a famous street dancer. The show makes him take his shirt off about as often as it thinks it can get away with it, and for good reason. He is one of those well-meaning types who is so sure that his good intentions make his decisions correct that he doesn't bother to double-check with the other people those decisions will affect. Everything will probably work out just fine! Won't it?
They bully one another in a way that might be mean or upsetting if they weren't all giving exactly as good as they get. Tazuko nags his messy partners, Mia browbeats her wishy-washy boys, and Shinpei just plows adorably full speed ahead at all times, unable to hear it when someone he loves tells him 'no'. I would not for a million dollars want to be in a relationship with any of these losers. However, since their flaws are not being inflicted upon me but upon each other, I'm here for it.
4. Tenma-san
Oh, I was so cautious about her when she showed up, because she looked at first like the show's heterosexual escape hatch. But nope! It's way more complicated than that!
Tenma Sayo is Takuzo's best friend and coworker, his Lego-building buddy who is equally ill-fit for polite society. The two of them are equally fastidious and intense. You can see why they're buddies, and you can also see that there's a weird potential for them to be more than buddies. Two people with slightly better interpersonal skills might be able to negotiate this without a problem. This ain't them.
Tiny spoiler for her character in these next couple paragraphs, so skip down past the next picture if you don't want it:
I absolutely love her as a contrasting kind of misfit to the main trio. She presents herself as a cool weird girl who doesn't believe in conventional relationship models, when in fact she does clearly want love and companionship, but preemptively rejects those things because she feels she is incapable of them. It's a bit of a sour-grapes approach to romance, and I love that so much, because it's a very real thing! I've known so many people who have concluded, like her, that society can't reject them if they reject society first.
This isn't to say that she's secretly longing to be an obedient housewife in a cookie-cutter nuclear family! That's not it either. Conforming to social norms wouldn't make her happy, but completely rejecting them isn't making her happy either. At the end of the day, she's going to have to learn how to find the secret third thing that works for her.
So yeah, I started off being real skeptical of what the show was keeping her around for, and I wound up being a fan. We're here for the weird girls who aren't effortlessly cool and perfect, who don't slip breezily into the prefabricated happy ending, who still have some growing up left to do even as the credits roll. She's not like other girls. She's worse.
5. An equilateral triangle
Real OT3s are hard to come by! Of course you can always make them yourself (see: the Guest), but when it comes to actual, textual romantic throuples, way more often than not they either turn into love triangles (see: a lot of things I haven't written rec posts for because I hate it when things do that) or pair/kill off one of the partners until you're left with normal couples again (see: 3 Will Be Free).
Cross my heart, those terrible betrayals will not happen to you here. Strap in for a three-way love story that means all three ways.
From the title, I was inclined to believe that this would be a show about a hinge: a woman who has two husbands, both of whom are married to her but not romantically or sexually connected to one another. And that's what it starts out being! At the start of the show, Mia and Shinpei are dating, and Takuzo and Mia are exes, so she is absolutely the common link. Shinpei even frames it like this when he suggests it to her in the first place: I need someone else in this marriage because I don't think I'm capable of being everything you need me to me.
This does mean that the relationship leg that has to be built is Shinpei and Takuzo's, and I think the show pulls it off well. It also zips right past any internalized homophobia or great sexuality revelations. You get the sense that Shinpei knew (or at least suspected) he was bisexual already, but Takuzo had no clue. Never of them ever has an am I gay??? moment of worry, though. They're not into men; they're into one another. And they're already married, so that's fine!
The dramatic wrinkle here, of course, is that Mia had no clue either. The idea that her two men might also be interested in one another never once crossed her mind. She flips out a little about it when she finds out, but of course she does, she's Mia, she flips out about everything. It's all fine once she settles back down.
And once she settles back down, there's never any sense that any leg of the triangle is stronger than any other. Every member of the trio loves each of their spouses differently, but not more or less. The relationship may be unconventional and at times challenging, but it's honestly pretty healthy for everyone involved.
Now of course when I say "healthy" I don't mean "frictionless". This is a comedy! You know people are going to be doing some dumb things! So yeah, sometimes there are misunderstandings, and sometimes there are outright refusals to communicate, and sometimes one of them will try to politely excuse themselves because they believe the other two love one another more. But those are just your insecurities talking, babies, and your spouses both want you to come home.
And it's very clear: They all fuck. You don't get to see it -- you barely even get to see any smooching -- but the fact that all three of them have sex, in pairs and all together, is textual. How does this sex work? We don't know! We're not privy to any but the most basic of the negotiations. We don't get to know who's doing what to whom and with what objects, in part because they're still figuring it out themselves.
That's okay. They have time. They'll get there.
Want to get in on this marriage?
Netflix is where I found it, so baby, it's there or the high seas.
It totally took me longer to write this post than it did to watch the show. I'm not even sorry. I'm happy if this gets more people watching it. It's a sweet little series with some colorful characters that has a really good message about how maybe we all should just chill out and let people lead the lives that are best for them -- and while we're at it, maybe we should also question why all the systems are stacked against "deviants" like them in the first place. (The answer is biopower, the reading is Michel Foucault's History of Sexuality vol. 1: The Will to Knowledge, and I'll see you all in Intro to Queer Theory in the Fall.)
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