âJust you wait!â
When I was pregnant an unbelievable amount of people couldnât wait to tell me, âJust wait until he is here. All that stuff you think youâll do will go out the window.â They would laugh and mock me for stating the ways in which I wanted to parent.
âYouâll change your tune about cloth diapers real quick once you have to deal with poop.â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. We love cloth diapering. We love how economically and environmentally friendly they are and we love knowing our son isnât sitting in chemicals 24 hours a day.
Do you love the convenience of disposable diapers? Cool! Iâm sincerely glad you found something that works for you. Absolutely no judgement.
âWooden toys? đ Youâll have a million brand new plastic toys just like the rest of us, you just wait.â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. My son has a hand full of plastic toys, almost all were purchased second hand... but the vast majority of his toys, and the ones that he prefers, are wooden. We really enjoy the durability and heirloom quality of wooden toys and find their simplicity and open ended concept to work best with our philosophy as parents.
Does your child own mostly plastic toys? Totally fine! I bet they have a blast playing with them. Absolutely no judgement.
âWhen you realize how hard breast feeding is youâll be excited to last 6 weeks. That formula starts looking reaaallll good.â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. My son and I have absolutely loved our breastfeeding journey and hope to continue for as long as he desires and my body will allow. Heâs never had a drop of formula and I hope he never has to.
Do you formula feed your baby? What a great mom you are, making sure your child is fed and comfortable. Absolutely no judgement.
âLimited screen time- HA!â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. My son is still so young this isnât really relevant yet but even so, Iâm very mindful of making sure he sees me reading, being creative, cooking, and doing practical life chores. Iâm living by example that there is much more to life than staring at a screen and certainly much more valuable uses of our time.
Do you allow your child unlimited screen time? I bet they get a lot of enjoyment out of that freedom and no one can blame you for enjoying a bit of peace and quiet. Absolutely no judgement.
âYouâll see you donât have time for homemade baby food once you actually have a baby to chase around. Youâll be buying stock in Gerber like the rest of us.â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. Iâve so enjoyed trying to make creatively flavored âpouchesâ for my son as well as watching him explore with baby led weaning. Iâm not above the very rare occasional convenience of organic food marketed toward babies, but Iâve really loved preparing his food from scratch and donât fathom a future where his diet will come from jars.
Do you feed your baby conventional jars of baby food? My mom fed me that too, she said the fruit was pretty good! Absolutely no judgement.
âWe all *want* to read to our kids but if you think thatâs something youâll actually have the energy for every day, youâre in for a rude awakening...â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. My son has been read at least one story before bed since he was born. Itâs such a fun and relaxing way to settle down and bond before bed. I hope to always make this a priority so long as he enjoys it.
Do you struggle to find the time to read to your kids? I know itâs hard being a busy parent, I realize how lucky I am to have that opportunity each evening. Absolutely no judgement.
âYou want to roomshare for a year or more? Hahaha, by four months youâll be kicking that baby to the other end of the house and begging for normalcy so you donât have to tip toe around.â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. My son has never slept a night in another room, often times he ends up bed sharing at some point during the night... and I have loved the comfort and security it brings knowing he is close.
Did you need to put your child in a separate room so you could get good quality sleep? I totally get that. Youâre a much better mother when youâre well rested. Absolutely no judgement.
âAgainst the cry it out method? I assure you itâs the only way youâll ever sleep again, trust me... youâll cave.â
Itâs been nearly 7 months. We do our best not to allow our son to ever cry any longer than we have to. Itâs biologically normal behavior to desire closeness to your mother at this critical stage in development to feel secure. We will continue to follow his lead with gentle sleep encouragement- providing a full belly, cozy clothes, and a consistent bedtime routine.
Did you sleep train your child? So many people do, youâre certainly not alone. All parents need to act in a way that they believe is best for their children. Absolutely no judgement.
This is only a small example of actual things that were said to me either before I had a child or while I was pregnant. Guess what? Iâm exactly the kind of mother I thought I would be, and I am so very proud of that.
Iâm fully aware that as my son gets older he will start leading and I will become his avid follower. I may discourage certain behaviors, the consumption of meat, for example, but Iâm well aware that he is his own being and will make these decisions for himself. Our guidance must be laced with compassion, understanding, and most importantly, flexibly. With this awareness, I will be exactly the mother I thought I would be.
Itâs not kind to discourage people in regards parenthood. These remarks drip of arrogance and insecurity. If youâre someone that finds yourself inclined to offer a âyou just waitâ statement, I would encourage you to take a step back and look inward and reflect on where that desire to voice belittlement is stemming from.
Perhaps instead, when someone talks about their dreams and desires around parenthood, you could be a force of encouragement. New mothers and fathers do not need critics and coaches... they need cheerleaders. They need gentleness, compassion, faith and mercy.
Parenthood is an evolution. I will morph and change as my son teaches me how to be his mother... but the essence of my parenting will remain unwavering and I will continue to be exactly the kind of mother I said I would be.









