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Ursula K LeGuin was onto something when she talked about the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain cause when I get woken up by my stomach deciding it’s pain-o-clock again my thoughts aren’t some deep contemplation of the human condition, they’re “ow ow ow ow ow ow ow where’s my meds ow ow ow ow get me crackers ow ow”.
Gah, me too
Separately because the specific example isn’t really the point: everybody I think at this point understands that when the explanation for women’s absence from a job/field/role is “women are stupid” or “women are weak”, that’s sexism and gender essentialism.
I really wish it was as well understood that, in fiction and real life, when the explanation is “women are too smart to bother” or “women would be Too Good at this if they did it and then where would we be” or “women are too busy doing other more important things* to bother” that’s sexism and gender essentialism as well. Especially - extremely especially - if the thing they are allegedly too smart or potentially good at or busy to do is one that gives access to wealth, influence, and/or power.
See also: “oh the administrators/secretaries/low level staff (mostly women) actually run this place”. Okay but do they control the budgets though? Are they able to make important decisions without anybody else’s sign-off though? Are they paid commensurate to this alleged power though? Well, are they?
*double if the “more important things” are domestic labour or care work but I assume we all know that.
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fucking double decker couch
weird as fuck living in a culture where it's considered more impolite to speak up and defend yourself against someone treating you unfairly than it is for someone to be rude to you in the first place
older family members, coworkers, customers, and strangers in general can say the most batshit insane things to your face and somehow you're considered to be the "rude" one if you say "hey that wasn't cool of you to say"
Hey so as the economy continues to get worse in the next few years, gambling companies are going to go extra hardcore predatory as people become more desperate. Yes, even more than they already are. You have to promise me right now you're not going to fall for it. No gambling, okay?
This is going to be especially bad with prediction markets and sports gambling, and it's already really fucking bad. But it also goes for loot boxes, blind box collectables, trading card games, and ESPECIALLY gacha games.
Another thing that gets rly bad when the economy is bad is predatory lending, including payday lending and advance tax refunds, and there are also now apps doing predatory lending. And of course, credit cards.
These things are a trap to get people hooked.
The APR's are crazy high, way higher than you'd ever pay on a legitimate loan like a mortgage or car loan or student loan. Don't fall for it. Never take out a loan with a double digit interest rate, ever. If you have a credit card, only buy what you have money in the bank to pay for and pay it off in full every month.
i would be interested to see what kind of advice anyone has for those of us who don't have money in the bank to do that with. the people who don't have that kind of resource are the most vulnerable targets for predatory lending and it's not that we don't know it's a bad deal, it's that we don't have other options. Then what?
Sometimes it's truly unavoidable. I 100% get that. I got into some debt because of life circumstances where it was a choice between that and not eating or having a roof over my head. I was immensely lucky still - this was before shit like klarna was available / widespread, and I had £1000 interest free overdraft thanks to a student bank account, plus two awful interest rate credit cards totalling around £1500. It still took me like 5 years to get rid of all the debt.
The economy is worse now, the predatory interest loans, lending apps, cash advances, and payday loans are all much worse and more available than ever.
I am not blaming people who get trapped by this. The system is designed for it. It is not your fault. If you truly know it was unavoidable in your situation, I believe you.
But also - A lot of these things, especially the app based cash advances, and klarna etc, are counting on people's financial ignorance and desire for convenience. You have to educate yourself and avoid falling for it whenever possible.
Often you're genuinely better off not paying certain bills than going into predatory debt to cover them, for example. You might be able to talk to the company and agree on a long term payment plan - I did this for all my utilities when I absolutely had no money to pay them.
But all the advice in the world does not change the economic realities a lot of people live under. If you're in that position, you already know that. Often PSA style posts inevitably are more geared towards people who might be able to choose to avoid these services. My main hope is that next time the option is presented to you, you understand the initial ease and convenience is part of the trap, and you honestly evaluate whether you truly need it and have no other option.
To expand on one of those middle points a bit, it's worth being able to sit yourself down and say "is this loan/afterpay/etc selling me the chance to avoid the shame, fear, guilt, and frustration of contacting the company I owe about my inability to pay their bill?" Because the emotional elements of spending matter! Predatory services rely on that shame, fear, guilt, and frustration being so overpowering that they seem good in comparison to contacting the company for a long-term payment plan.
Once you know about this element, you can at least make decisions that take it into account. Sometimes you really don't have the bandwidth to deal with how bad you're going to feel, and end up choosing the payday loan -- but you're aware that's why, rather than letting it drive you as an unacknowledged factor. Other times, you can decide that you're going to go for the emotionally painful option, and use whatever distress tolerance strategies you like (e.g. cup of tea, cozy blanket, friend to sit with you).
i am banned from eating my herring inside. they make me eat it on the smoking area by the loading dock, under the theory that it already smells bad there. but it was raining today which was preventing my breakfast, so i was feeling sad and hungry and then i realized that there was a large cardboard box in the dumpster from a previous delivery. like a fridge sized box. so i fished it out of the dumpster, then tipped it on its side and had a nice little cardboard cave to watch the rain and eat my fish in. which was a great experience. very soothing. very zen. at least until the security guard from the day before stepped outside to smoke. then i tried hiding from him by crawling deeper in the box, which unfortunately did not work. instead he saw a sort of damp sniveling pale hairless creature eating fish in a box, and delivered the verbal killshot of "good morning, mr. smeagol." which is how my day was ruined before 8 am.
you're not allowed to bring wireless devices into classified areas and a security guy noticed a square phone-ish shape in my pocket so he asked me to show him what it was and i had to show him my can of pocket herring :/
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The dichotomy of Dungeon Crawler Carl:
Pamela Anderson choosing to wear no makeup (not “natural” makeup, not a “no-makeup makeup” look, but actually no makeup on her skin) to events and letting her wrinkles and age spots be clearly visible is actually groundbreaking and anyone who paints it as not a big deal, or worse, as somehow an attack on some other group, is a moron
It’s especially meaningful that she’s doing it because she was SO sexualised and SO disrespected for it when she was young. This is a very clear condemnation of the objectification of female celebrities, by a female celebrity with extensive personal experience of that objectification, and anyone who feels uncomfortable about it deserves to be uncomfortable. Let that discomfort motivate y’all to stop defending the indefensible demands that women are singled out for.
Some examples of Pamela Anderson wearing no makeup— SAG Awards this year, Pandora ad, and something else I don’t know
I work as a programmer for $35 an hour.
They once forgot to pay me for 8 extra hours that they needed me to work on Thanksgiving weekend. They simply needed me to be present for 8 hours in order to quickly fix any problems that happened during their busiest weekend, and no such problems ended up happening.
When they saw the mistake and paid me for it, the gross pay for that day was $420 (base of $35 x 8 hours x 1.5 for overtime).
The first thing I noticed was how that compared to what I got paid at my warehouse job before I became a programmer. When I started the job at the warehouse, I got paid $10 an hour. For a full time week, I got paid $400.
I got paid more for that one day of doing practically nothing as a programmer than I did busting my ass at the warehouse for a whole week.
So enough about this "I work harder than them so I deserve more pay" bullshit. You're all the working class. In our fucked up system, hard work does not equal more pay. If you want more pay, you need to fight back against the rich assholes who profit off your labor and pay you jack shit, not fight with other people who are underpaid about who deserves to be more underpaid.
