A Mixed Blessing

I'm a 23 year old from New Zealand. 5ft of fury and bad life choices; plants are the game and trees are my aim. 

[gothhabiba]

a sort of survivor's bias of literature causes a lot of people to believe that novels "used to" be of higher quality, greater originality, greater 'effort', greater literary-ness, greater inspiration, &c., than they are to-day

and it's like, well, that is because you're pitting a book published 200 years ago that people still talk about and read to-day, against your average aeroport written-to-spec romance that probably will not be being discussed 200 years from now. if you read the mass-market hetslop of the Victorian era I promise you would not like it.

[melodiousvoid]

Embroidered this on the back of my jacket for Pride a few months ago, promptly forgot. I used lineart direct from Watership Down to make the rabbit. ID under cut.

Image ID: A rabbit embroidered in white on a the back of a black jacket. There are six stripes in gay pride colors on its left, and five stripes in the trans pride colors on its right. Around the rabbit, stitched in jagged embroidery, are the words “Be cunning, and full of tricks, and your people will never be destroyed.”

[elodieunderglass]

Thank you @sufficientlylargen I love this

[flowerbleedme]

[merry-go-round-jailhouse]

[literaryreference]

The Peel is an offshoot of the Onion but honestly if someone told me this was real slam poetry I wouldn’t even question it

[inthemidstofbuddie]

congratulations! you’re now a pirate. your seventh most recent emoji is the symbol on your flag. mine is ™️

[gender-luster]

[gender-luster]

[cookiekappa]

movie vs book (i adore them both) 

[pigeonsympathiser]

How could you leave this in the notes, excellent addition

[madtumbleson]

Actually, this makes the childification of Michael in the movie when he’s 15 in the book really funny:

Sophie, a 20-ish year old woman from a fantasy land where getting married at 16 or 17 does not seem to be unusual: Yes, this is a young man who is almost an adult.

Howl, a man in his late 20s from our world: This is a BABY and he does BABY things.

[huffylemon]

ok I take back what I’ve said about contemporary art. This is amazing.

[villainous-queer-deactivated202]

THIS is what art is about. I bitch about modern art a lot but the problem I have is that most of it (and I've worked in a museum and been an art student) is bullshitting. It is only sometimes you get shit like this, that is 0% bullshit and 100% raw screaming emotion that is demanding you LISTEN and FEEL and CONFRONT. This is art. This is what art is about. Are you mad? Are you horrified? Are you uncomfortable? GOOD.

[paradoxlemonade]

Allistic people really need to stop phrasing requests as questions because it's fucking with me

"Do you want to help me cook dinner?"

No, I'm still overwhelmed from earlier and want to stay in my room.

"well fine, dinner will be ready when it's done." And now they're upset with me

And I'm just here like ???????

[butterflyinthewell]

Oh God I hate it when they frame it like that because it sounds like a choice, but if you say no they get all offended. It’s an illusion of choice and it’s so annoying.

If I ever ask something, it’s an offer, not a demand. “Hey, wanna watch a movie with me? No? Okay, I’ll go watch it, you chill here and I hope you feel better.”

[dxs4all]

I can't count the times I got in trouble because of that as a kid while never having any idea what exactly I did wrong.

Those requests with only one correct response disguised as questions with multiple answers just made me think I couldn't actually say "no" to anything (because I had no idea which ones were the secret requests), something I still have trouble to this day.

[lesbofujo]

Also when they just make an observation but they expect you to know that they’re asking for something. Like “Oh the trash can is pretty full.” But they really mean “Could you take the trash out?” Just fuckign say what you mean 😒

[madgastronomer]

Here's the thing. They've literally been trained since childhood to do it this way, and probably do not realize that what they're saying can be interpreted another way. It's an Ask vs Guess problem. In particular, a lot of women are taught to phrase things is a Guess way. The way they were taught to speak, they are saying what they mean.

If you want someone in your life to switch from Guess to Ask with you, then you need to have a discussion with them, Ask them to meet you somewhere in the middle on this, possibly explain the difference in cultures, definitely explain, "When you say $THING, it does not mean to me what it means to you", and then understand that it will take them time and work to change, and that you may need to be an active participant in that change. You can do this by remembering that things do not mean the same to them that they do to you, and, when they say, "Do you want to cook dinner with me?" replying with, "Are you asking me to do that, or are you asking me if I'd like it?"

Yes, I understand that this will be hard for you also. You and this person in your life will both need to work on this, together, and be forgiving of one another.

This is not something the other person is intentionally doing to you, or at you. They are speaking as they were taught to speak, that's all. It happens to conflict with your neurodivergence. That happens. It can be dealt with.

[darkpuffin]

I don’t have a problem differentiating, and it still annoys me.

so often, it goes like this,

“do you want to cook dinner tonight”

”No, but I’ll do it anyway.”

[brightlotusmoon]

I'll say that but I will use a very joking, chipper tone so it feels light-hearted. I hope it feels light-hearted. Hahaha. Help.

[magiclilybean]

I do have to say, as a different type of neurodivergent person, it would be difficult to learn not to speak this way (via hints instead of direct requests) for reasons of my own neurodivergency.

I have an anxiety disorder. I am also the adult child of an alcoholic (ACOA). As often happens to AVOAs, I am very, VERY codependent. I have been taught specific ways of interacting, in a context where going outside the "rules" led to emotional abuse. You COULD NOT be direct without facing added trauma.

It took me a very long time to learn that autistic people literally do not know what I'm saying when I speak this way. My son had autism and a nest friend who is much more autistic than he is. They were in middle school before I learned how to talk to her! And interactions went much more smoothly.

So, just to say - we can learn. But for some of us, it's way more than something annoying that we do. It's a trauma reaction.

[cathianemelian]

If Yoriichi’s spirit inhabited his own automaton.

[non-binary-laurie-strode]

You’ve been hit by 🔪

You’ve been struck by 🔪

A Roman Senator 🔪🔪🔪

[iamfuckingweeping]

CAESER ARE YOU OKAY

ARE YOU OKAY CEASER

[1e3no]

[copperbadge]

#2, Brute?

[l-heure-du-the]

I made the ugliest noise.

[periegesisvoid-deactivated]

It’s not even March. It’s literally more than 6 months till the ides of March. Why.

[onemerryjester]

TODAY

[zero1infinity]

[tsukiyamas]

why does this have 32k notes? it’s just a picture of a knife in a ranch bottle, is there some unspoken joke that 32 thousand people share? what is going on here, i dont get it. it’s just a fucking picture of a knife in a ranch bottle. is there some spiritual connection people have to this picture? is there some ominous and mystical reasoning that this has 32 thousand notes? do people reblog this because it makes them look like some indie blogger? or is there just something funny to this? someone please explain

[diggly]

no one tell him

[analyticalsenshi]

Scheduling this to post on March 15 because it needs to happen.

[toomanyfandomstocountcx]

The ides of March have come

[orochislayer]

@banishedquasiroyal

[plasticgarbagecan]

God: let there be light

Moths:

[fuckassmcgee]

I love the implication that moths somehow existed prior to the creation of the universe

[juxtp0se]

did U GUYS KNOW, that the way stores get the balloons off of the ceiling is with ANOTHER balloon, w tape on the top??? and they just dont cut the string so it’s like super long and u gotta aim it right n reel it in. i just found that out today when i DID IT and it’s been the best working day of my life i had a blast blowing up balloons and fetching some off the ceiling. i had so much power? and NO ONE ELSE in my department likes that job so now it’s MY job when need be

[goddamnshinyrock]

omg so I work at a museum and one of our buildings has a) very high ceilings and b) a bizarrely sensitive alarm system that will go off if anything touches the ceiling. Because of this, helium balloons are considered public enemy #1 and are strictly forbidden from entering the museum. But just in case an illicit balloon is successfully smuggled in, the museum has acquired a fucking b.b. gun for the express purpose of shooting down rogue balloons.

[fer8girl]

lawful good vs chaotic good

[nyanguardparty]

chaotic evil

[peachy-bunster]

Visit Original Link

[moist-astronaut]

Send help I’ve been laughing for 15 minutes the internet killed my sense of humor

[mildlydisconcertingsparrowhawk]

I was expecting exactly that and was not disappointed