People fundamentally misunderstanding matriarchy pisses me off so bad, especially when it is self proclaimed anarchists making wild claims about how harmful it would be to make that change. Matriarchy ≠ patriarchy but with women in charge. Matriarchy is primarily a children first society. What’s best for the children will in turn be best for everyone. It is anti- hierarchy at its core with crones/elders leading the charge when appropriate. It’s about looking generations ahead and building a society that will work for the most vulnerable among us for several decades or centuries. The fear of matriarchy stems from male propaganda telling us that if women take the reins it will be just as bad if not worse for everyone, but especially men. They fear having the social status of your average woman. Women don’t want to rule over men or the whole world. We want equitable societies where femicide, FGM, and female slavery are not the norm.
I keep getting posts from gok*sclit on my timeline and holy fuuuck yall she is larping as a radfem and a lesbian but every single post she makes about men not being lesbians or welcome in lesbian spaces is about TRANS MEN. HELP I am losing my goddamn mind 😭
'Invisible Women' by Caroline Criado Perez is an incredible book that everyone should read, first published 2019, about the way society is built around men in literally every aspect of life
'Pimp State' by Kat Banyard, first published 2016, is an amazing takedown of the six main myths that surround the sex trade
'Firebrand Feminism' by Breanne Fahs, first published 2018, interviews and looks into the lives of prominent Radical feminists Ti-Grace Atkinson, Kathie Sarachild, Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz and Dana Densmore, as well as discussing the basics and historic origins of radical feminism as a grass roots movement
'Spinning and Weaving : Radical Feminism for the 21st century' edited by Elizabeth Miller, first published 2021, is an anthology of various essays on topics such as porn, intersectional feminism, lesbian feminism, transgender politics and more (some are better than others, it's 600+ pages so I'm making my way through)
'Trans' by Helen Joyce, published 2021 - not so much radical feminism - moreso gender critical, as Joyce herself claims to be 'fiscally conservative' - and a few takes I don't quiet agree with but overall an excellent comprehensive discussion of the current and historical political climate of trans issues
Why Women Are Blamed For Everything by Dr Jessica Taylor, about the psychology of victim blaming. Grim but straightforward reading. It’s been years since I read it, but also Natasha Walter’s Living Dolls, about the hypersexualisation of young women and return of misogyny as ‘empowerment’. Also Testosterone Rex by Cordelia Fine, about the science of sex differences.
“The Women’s History of the Modern World: How Radicals, Rebels, and Everywomen Revolutionized the Last 200 Years” by Rosalind Miles (2021)
“Policing the Womb: Invisible Women and the Criminalization of Motherhood” by Michelle Goodwin (2020)
“The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society” by Dr. Debra W. Soh (2020)
“Witches, Witch Hunting and Women” by Silvia Federici (2018)
“Butterfly Politics” by Catharine Mackinnon (2017)
“Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality” by Gail Dines (2010)
“The Industrial Vagina: The Political Economy of the Global Sex Trade” (2008), “Beauty and Misogyny” (2005), “Gender Hurts: A Feminist Analysis of the Politics of Transgenderism” (2014), “Unpacking Queer Politics” (2003) by Sheila Jefferys
"The Baby Business: How Money, Science, and Politics Drive the Commerce of Conception" by Debora Spar (2006) is a little older but it's a fascinating critique of surrogacy and the fertility industry as a whole
Came out last Fall. Amazing book because it covers current topics like consent, the rise of sexual kink, prostitution and transgenderism to name a few. I thought I won't read anything new after I read her book "Beauty and misogyny" (which is a must-read) but it's worth the buy. Clear, concise, critical and informative.
Material Girls: Why Reality Matters for Feminism by Kathleen Stock (2021)
Ejaculate Responsibly by Gabrielle Blair (2022)
You Told Me You Were Different: An Anthology of Harm (2021) https://medium.com/@kittyit/you-told-me-you-were-different-an-anthology-of-harm-ab6d43debab5
happy disability pride month to mean cripples, nasty addicts, people with down syndrome who arent nice and talk constant shit, wheelchair users that WILL run you over, autists that dont care and arent about to pretend to, people who lie to their psychiatrists, people that sit on the floor in public places with no benches, amputees that lie profusely about "what happened"; to the "noncompliant", the "drug seeking", the "mean", the "difficult" and the "undeserving", and so on and so forth, i love us all and we deserve the world actually mwah mwah
If misogyny was only just “hatred of the feminine” a supposedly mystic state of being rather than oppressive norms, women could opt out at any time by simply not conforming. This is so clearly and painfully untrue almost as if… Sex-based oppression exists
it’s almost like the thing that makes oppression so horrific is that you cannot opt out of it. because the system of oppression relies on immutable characteristics to effectively oppress people.
bushpropaganda i come as a transformed no-bush-haver who is ready to come to the light. my problem: idk how to deal with bush 😔 never had her before 💔 for someone who must overcome the awful day 4-7 before i begin my journey, do you have any general tips or tricks for the bush lmfao
my beautiful angel, you have come to the right place!!! im gonna cover a lot of bases here cause i know how overwhelming growing your body hair out can be when you're not used to having any.
1. the prickly phase absolutely sucks and is by far the worst part of growing a bush, but there are things you can do to lessen the discomfort:
do not wear panties that have the seam on your bikini line. the friction can cause ingrown hairs, razor bumps, acne, or even cysts.
choose underwear that gives this area room to breathe (do this anyway for vaginal health). boy shorts, boxer briefs, actual boxers, etc. if possible, forgo the underwear entirely, especially at night when you don't have to worry about it. i seriously cannot stress this one enough.
gently exfoliate the area daily to prevent ingrowns. you can use anything textured to do this, but make sure you go in the direction of the hair so you don't irritate the follicles or surrounding skin.
one thing that saved my life when i was growing my bush out was anti-itch cream, like hydrocortisone. you only need a tiny little dollop, and be sure not to apply it too close to the entrance of your vagina.
if you do get irritated skin, a cold washcloth helps with the pain and discomfort.
manspread. i'm not joking. it helps against friction.
2. once you pass the stubble phase, you're good for a while. just let her do her thing, and keep her clean.
3. when your bush gets to an inch and above, you might need to adjust some minor aspects of your routine.
if you have longer/larger inner labia, the surrounding hair will probably get trapped in all your crevices. it's not painful, per se, but can be uncomfortable if the hair gets tugged. if it bothers you, just trim that area down.
pubic hair, like all other hair on your body, needs to be washed. lather your beloved bush up with your soap of choice. be thorough with it, cause a full bush can be dense as hell.
speaking of hygiene, move your bush out of the way when you pee if you're weird about it like i am. you'll still get pee on it probably, but ... less pee. aye, that's what showering is for, right?
she does get unruly sometimes. just brush her out with your fingers and you'll have her lookin beautiful again.
feel free to trim your bush if she gets too long for your liking. aint nothin wrong with a hedge downstairs. i recommend just getting a pair of cheap scissors to keep in your bathroom for maintenance.
welcome to your new fidget toy that is always accessible. there is nothing better than playin with the bush while ur watchin tv or somethin.
okay i think thats it for all my tips! really, a bush isn't that difficult to take care of, and all my tips in the final phase take five seconds to get done. just keep up with your hygiene, trim when needed, wish her goodnight before you go to sleep, and you'll have a very happy bush :')))
I don't know a single disabled radfem who has never felt rejected or unwelcome in the radfem community. This is a pretty big problem, isn't it?
I have absolutely no doubts in my belief in the ideology of radical feminism, but I really think the community needs some serious work in the ableism department. Disabled women are the most vulnerable women, it's important to make sure radical feminism is welcoming and accessible!
Women with autism and other neurodevelopmental disabilities often experience ableism from radfems who use ableist slurs such as "retard", who are harsh against autistic behaviour and communication, who stigmatize not having the ability to work or needing a caretaker, who are harsh against women who need things to be simplified due to lack of understanding of more complex language, who are resistant against women with weird interest or "unfriendly" and "cold" dispositions.
Women with severe mental illnesses often experience ableism from radfems who pathologize all male abusers as having ASPD or NPD, stigmatize severe trauma reactions, stigmatize delusions and hallucinations, stigmatize odd behaviour, stigmatize having intrusive thoughts of violence (including sexual violence), etc.
Women with physical disabilities and chronic illness often experience ableism from radfems who stigmatize not having the ability to work or needing a caretaker, who meet up in non-accessible locations, who do not take effort to include blind or deaf women in communications, who demand participation hinge on physical capabilities (such as requiring long participation hours in events).
Women with all types of disabilities often experience ableism from radfems who place independence as the ultimate virtue and, intentionally or not, shame those who cannot be independent, radfems who speak over disabled women, who do not want to make effort to include all women, who do not want to see the realities faced by disabled women.
We can do better!
If you are a disabled radfem, feel free to share your stories of ableism in the radical feminism community on this post.
If you are an abled radfem, feel free to reblog, and ask questions about how to better include disabled women in your feminism.
i actually don’t actually think i’ve encountered any ableism over here from other radfems aside from seeing a few people using the word “retard” i guess.
i’m not offended by that word personally, though i understand there are a lot of people who are. other than that though everyone’s been pretty chill in my experience so far.
of course, like virtualcremefem said, all of this is still good to keep in mind
I think the worst I’ve personally experienced in radfem communities is women fake claiming a lot. Makes me wary to talk about my slew of physical and mental health issues. It definitely makes me wonder how long it would take until I would be fake claimed if I ever talked about my multiple (diagnosed) conditions. I never asked to be like this. It’s not fun, it’s not glamorous, I don’t get any extra attention for being disabled like a lot of people seem to think is the goal. People do not like me because of my neurodivergencies. Im treated like I’m invisible in most settings and impossibly annoying or stupid in online spaces where it’s harder to ignore me. This is why my allegiances lie primarily with disabled women, feminist or not. Obviously everyone has their flaws but non disabled people just do not get it.
Anyone who thinks a rapist (any rapist) can be rehabilitated is an idiot.
No, I don't care if this is a "slippery slope" and doesn't fit in with your rehabilitative justice fantasies. A rapist should not be allowed to "reintegrate" into society because he went to bed in time and was polite to guards in jail.
Every time amber heard gets brought up as the butt of a joke I am obviously expected to agree with and accept, I face this internal battle. Like it’s often this aside in conversation where I don’t want to derail the larger point, depending on the person. But also. Did you know it was a civil case? Did you know she was sued over the op-Ed about dv that did not mention Depp by name? Did you know about their age gap when they first met? Did you know about his extensive, and expensively suppressed, history of violence and abuse? Did you know about the perfume in the bathroom during the trial? Have you read The Gift of Fear (and thus know that certain abusers prolong abuse within the courts)? Did you ever consider that the inundation of reels and other short form videos during that joke of a trial, was by design? Did you know I don’t much use Facebook, or YouTube, but whether logged out or logged in, all my suggestions were cruelly mocking her?? Did you know about the Saudi money? Did you know we all have a predisposition to savage women? Did you know we are all excited when we have an excuse to direct misogyny towards a rationalized target? Did you know expressing misogyny is conditioned to inherently feel good? Did you ever wonder if you fell for a scheme on a scale beyond the comprehension of the ordinary individual, within scope, expense, and effort? Nah she’s probably just a bitch.
I really wish deconstruction didn’t come with having to give up a majority of my friends and the life I’ve built. But they would disown me if they knew how I felt and what I think so it’s not like I’m actually losing that much. I think more than anything I fear being lonely and without community.
