Inks of Black, White, and Gray

19 ¦¦ art, memes, and random ass themes ¦¦ horny reblogging warned!! minors beware.

[sproutfits]

Hey. Minors following me. Internet safety is key!! NEVER include these in your bio/byf:

Medical diagnoses - this is nobody's business but yours. You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you are the way that you are

Trauma - same reason as above

Triggers - people can use these against you! Don't give people tools to hurt you. No one has to know what tags you block. Just block tags to stay safe!

Age - age is okay for adults to include but is iffy when you're a teen. Predators want this information, don't give people more than they need. Just state that you're a minor, that's all that anyone needs to know.

In general: stay safe. If you're not comfortable with every stranger out there having access to this information, you shouldn't post it on the internet.

Play devil's advocate and ask yourself about what would happen if someone searched for your information with intent to hurt you. You do NOT owe anyone an explanation!

[casperscove-deactivated20221016]

adding on to this post, i agree w all of OPs points, but i also highly advise against super young teens posting their face on the internet, its so easy to take peoples selfies + name and find stuff out like your school and then figure out the rough area in which you live. same with your phone number. be super careful about what you put out there. once you post it, it really is here forever.

[mylordshesacactus]

OP already said this so I’m just reiterating to emphasize:

The golden rule of information sharing on the internet is: What would happen if someone saw this who wanted to hurt me?

If the answer is that it would make it easier to harass you, identify you, contact you, or god forbid find you, don’t put it online. You can’t fully control who does and does not see that information--not even with privacy settings.

[habbadax]

Learning about teeth

[itsbansheebitch]

Briana Boston faces terrorism charges and CEOs are getting free therapy

Briana Boston is a 42 year old mother of three from Florida who is under house arrest for expressing her frustration at her insurance (which she PAYS for) who denied her claim. She owns ZERO guns and doesn't have a criminal record.

She was originally held in prison for $100,000 bail. They have not dropped the charges and she is under house arrest even after widespread backlash.

They are trying to charge her with terrorism. They want her to spend 15 years in prison.

They are calling her a Luigi Mangione copycat. As if she killed someone. She made a indirect, not at all credible threat.

Meanwhile...

I want every woman who has ever faced threats online, stalking, etc to bring this Briana Boston up at every opportunity. Every time you were told by police that there was nothing they could do, know that they not only CAN do something, but they WILL do something, just not for you.

[guooey]

Hehe :)

[ochibrochi]

bok bok bok bok baaawk 🐔

[madame-helen]

[kanguin]

You know sometimes I wish I had grown up as a cis lesbian, instead of the confusion and isolation of the complexity of being a non-binary closeted transfem ace who likes girls and anyone who's not a guy. It wouldn't have been any easier, no, definitely much harder. But it would have been better in one aspect: it'd be easier to process earlier on. As someone with such a weak sense of personal identity, figuring out I like the "wrong" gender would have been so much easier than figuring out I am the "wrong" gender.

So sometimes, for a fleeting moment, it really does feel like it'd be a fair trade, to trade confusion, aimlessness, and not knowing where I belong for obviousness, inability to hide, and increased visibility to bigots. I know it's not fair to compare two wholly separate things, but I suppose the burning grass is always brighter on the other side. That's also on fire. If that makes sense? Idk.

[animentality]

[faeriekit]

...I had a guy come in today asking about how to get his kids library cards. I told him. He asked me how hard it would be for them to get them, and I said that all it took was their presence and his government ID.

He told me about how nice the system was here, where it was so easy to get a card; he said that there was a beautiful public library in Beijing that was top of the line and everything, but that the only way to access it was if you were a high ranking government official or a top professor or something. Instead, our library "serves the reader." His kids will be able to take chapter books home at no cost. He'll even be able to get books in Chinese here so that his native language skills don't atrophy.

I didn't even really know what to say, so I told him how to ask us to buy books for him that we don't already have so that he can still read them at no extra cost. I don't know how to shore up what it must feel like to know that there are books out there you can't read; I've always grown up with a good library nearby. It reminded me of working in my old library, though, where families who spoke Spanish were startled to find out we took any government ID with a formal address in town— even foreign IDs— so that their kids could get access to all of our titles in all the languages we offered.

Ah. Anyway, I hope you check out a library book with this thought in mind. I checked out the first volume of YJ98 today with that thought in mind. I didn't have to pay anything. I put it on hold, and there it was.

[lesbian-disaster-tm]

Wait, wait, wait. You're library BUYS books someone wants? Like you just tell them a title...and then they fucking BUY it!?!?

Where has this system been my whole life?

[faeriekit]

Well, it's been at the library, presumably.

[stele3]

That’s always been a thing, babes, even at the rundown library in my childhood hometown. Had no funding but by god they tracked down the book I wanted and bought it for me.

[claudiagray]

And even if your library doesn't have the budget to buy the book you want, it may be possible to set up an interlibrary loan! ALWAYS ASK YOUR LIBRARY.

[fukusuurots]

URGENT HELP SAVE THE LIFE OF MY CHILD

Dear humanity,

Please Help Me – My Son May Die at Any Moment.

I'm Amal, a mother of three children, living under the weight of the genocide taking place in Gaza. 🍉

Here’s my story, and I’m reaching out with a hopeful heart 💔✨, hoping someone will feel what my family and I are going through.

My son is suffering from a severe and life-threatening injury after being shot by Israeli drones. He urgently needs medical treatment outside Gaza.

Time is running out, and we are facing a critical situation. I am asking for your generosity to help us save him either through a donation or by sharing this urgent plea with others

I beg you, i kiss your feet, to help my son. My son may die at any moment

I lost most of my family. I'm afraid to lose my son too 🥺

Mohammed deserves to live a happy and healthy life, just like every other child on this earth.

So I humbly ask you to donate even a little or at least reblog this appeal.

Please Donate now:👇

https://gofund.me/2f20a398

Ddonate Via Paypal 👇

https://www.paypal.com/donate

.

[leolaroot]

"dont smoke around your pets" okay well i dont even smoke im asthmatic. my dog smokes bc she needs to fucking chill sometimes and Yeah i light them for her Obviously bc she cant use a lighter. i dont get anyrhing out of this arrangment and i resent the implication. in fact shes giving ME secondhand smoke. so my question is why are you so hateful and jugemental and acting like an asshole to me making presumptions and shit about my life.

[ivanoyva]

What. What. What. What.

[leolaroot]

im gonna pop some.tag

[catasters]

Emotional Support

[sparrowlucero]

like the most politically neutered movie of all time unironically

[sparrowlucero]

the book this is based on (the true meaning of smekday) is uh. more

[cristalplanetheart]

[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

* * * * *

"We are gods in the body of god, truth and love our destinies. Go then and make of the world something beautiful, set up light in darkness."

Egyptian Book of the Dead, more correctly translated as the Book of Coming into the Light.

[alive on all channels]

[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

+

Walking the beach yesterday late-afternoon-ish I was suprised by a dolphin just 10 ft. from the shore. He/she surfaced and drifted casually along with my walking pace for a few minutes. A gift from the sea. Glorious.

[earlgraytay]

this is your regular, cranky reminder that you are never going to get people to give up something that humans inherently do by guilting and shaming them.

no matter how strongly you feel that people ought to feel bad about doing something, and no matter how correct you are about whether or not they should feel bad.

shaming someone is an emotional attack. and the more vitriolic your attempt at shame is, the more vicious the attack is. most people, by the time they're adults, recognize this, and have built up various defenses against emotional attacks.

the only people that shame 'works' on the way you want it to work are not mentally well. they have moral OCD, or scrupulosity issues, or have been abused so badly that they do not feel like they have the right to have boundaries, or some combination of the three.

most people with healthy boundaries and healthy emotional responses will see your weaponized shame as an attack on them, and will react accordingly. and they are correct to do so. because part of having healthy boundaries is not letting random people emotionally attack you, regardless of how correct they are.

you can convince people that you are right and they are wrong. but the harder you try to make them feel ashamed, the less effective you're going to be. you're just gonna trigger a bunch of people who are mentally ill and make everyone else pissed at you.

[partiallyvoid-mostlystars]

ok but i still think we should shame bigots.

[earlgraytay]

If shame doesn't make bigots stop being bigots- if it makes them into worse bigots- what's the point of shaming them?

Is it to make other people afraid to be openly bigoted? We've seen how that goes, long-term. Look at how people talked about racism in the 90s, and look about how they talk about it today. Shame doesn't make bigotry taboo; it just makes talking about it taboo.

Is it to keep them out of your spaces, or out of the public sphere? You're better off having clear rules and expectations, and applying those rules fairly to everyone. Shame is a tool of social control, and like all tools of social control, it's most likely to be aimed at the most vulnerable members of society.

Is it to make yourself feel better and give yourself an outlet to hurt people who've hurt you? Because... that's not a good idea. It is an understandable thing to want. It is not an evil thing to want. But once you turn your belief system into "hurt the people who've hurt me", you are going to do harm to people who don't deserve it.

If you want to ~kill the cop inside your head~, you have to get rid of the idea that shame is a tool worth using.

[headspace-hotel]

Things that feel justified aren't always effective, and we have to keep that in mind

Stop asking "do they deserve it?" Ask instead "does this help?"

Punishment has no inherent good qualities. It can only result in good if it causes a change. There is nothing inherently good, just, or useful simply in inflicting it on someone who has done wrong.

[kaijuposting]

"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

[m0thmancore]

suck, and i cannot stress this enough, my cock to the fucking base

[m0thmancore]

oh no! i dropped this screenshot that explains how to bypass this with a free adblocker! you shouldn’t reblog this or anything; it’d be terrible if people used this advice to watch ad-free youtube!!