I used to not get lesbians until I realized they aren’t just horny sex freaks, but also feel romantic attraction! 🥺🥺🥺🥺✊🏻✊🏻✊🏻#ally
women aren’t choosing to be lesbians for emotional understanding, it’s technically possible that a man could understand me better emotionally, but that doesn’t matter because I physically am incapable of feeling attraction to a man! the phrasing of this post is so weird, it’s like those people who think lesbians decide to try women after being scorned by men. it doesn’t work like that, it’s an innate immutable thing.
Yeah I do think they see us as women giving women a try after being scorned by men because that’s how they are. Seems like it’s a relatively popular thing for straight women to lament “having” to date men (you don’t. No one does) and “wishing” they were attracted to women instead. But their idea of women dating women is just like. Chastely braiding each other’s hair and going to Sephora together because it’s taboo for women to have any active sexual desires at all in a society that expects us to be passive for men, but especially taboo to desire other women. That is literally the only thing that makes you lesbian or bisexual though. Not some innate “understanding” that all women share because lesbian women are not a monolith and we all have different personalities and life experiences. Plenty of people have been in bad/unsatisfying relationships where they didn’t feel understood by their partner! Regardless of sexual orientation. But, quite frankly, I find the implication that these straight women go into dating expecting to not be understood and to feel zero emotional connection to their partner alarming. If you feel like men and women are from completely different worlds and you could never connect with a man on a deep level, do not date them. Once again, you don’t have to. And giving up on men doesn’t mean you have to “try” women.


















