Godless Sick Lady

As you can guess by my url, I'm a chronically ill woman who's not a fan of religion.

[saywhat-politics]

[okaydays22]

[laurierrose]

okay i’ll bite. what’s a father

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

It's a concept of a man taking an active roll in providing and caring for the children of the woman he impregnated. Some people think it's real.

[ganondorf]

i think this captures the defining pathology of the collective social media psyche right now. we are in the thrall of people who are wantonly cruel but who also demand to be coddled at all times in every way

[tedcruzisthezodiackiller]

[goatfem]

"Kinky" partner: I like to choke and beat my partner and get off on it.

Abusive partner: I like to choke and beat my partner and get off on it.

Saying that "consent" changes anything when someone is into brutally beating their partner is like praising a cheetah for waiting for the right moment to pounce on prey. Same outcome for the prey.

[pseudonaivete]

Do you realize how many ways women are shamed for not dying? We're shamed for getting older. We're shamed for having c-sections. We're shamed for surviving assault. When our mere existence is a defiance to a system that want our lives missing, we dismantle the patriarchy each time we choose living.

Farida D.

[ceruleanheaven]

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

[knifenymph]

change does not come from a place of comfort

[aquareaper3]

I find pennies and nickels in my couch all the time, so I don’t know what you are talking about

[homofied]

[opalfairy]

[jeunefillerangee-deactivated202]

Men demanding anal sex from their female partners is a great example of their "sex as dominance" mentality. It's a type of sex that the vast majority of women hate, that can be excruciating painful and that anatomically cannot be pleasurable at all for them. And men know all that, and that's why they want it. That's their way of saying "sex is about me, pleasure is only for me." The state of heterosexual relationships is so depressing.

[zevrans]

THE SIMS 2 (2004, dev. by Maxis) 🍂🍁

[porcelain-dollbones]

the "empathy fatigue" stuff is also very revealing because when you examine health professionals' self-reporting on the matter there is a specific type of person they describe losing empathy for- unsurprisingly, it's people with particularly chronic health issues and disability, drug users, people who "refuse to take care of themselves" and especially anyone with a health condition perceived to be "their own fault". very often what they describe as "empathy fatigue" is actually just the mask slipping on the seething contempt they already held

[mooseyondaloosey]

Like if we take the same woman and put her in, I don't know, the late 1800s in the west she probably has no choice but to get married and have as many kids as her husband wants. So probably several. Let's say 10 kids, and she probably starts having them in her early 20s on average. and probably 3-4 of them die in infancy. And this is normal for all the other people she knows too.

That same woman now will likely wait until she's 30 before having her first child, or potentially closer to 40, and probably only has 1 or 2, but they both survive and are well cared for, and she can contribute to the workforce still.

Which of those two conditions is more "natural"? where do we want to set the barometer for "normal"? I would much rather the second scenario because not only is this woman's quality of life better but so is the quality of life of her children. that is the birth rate i want. that's the birth rate i imagine most women want.

birth rates are falling, but they are also STABILIZING to NORMAL, SUSTAINABLE, HUMAN LEVELS. that's my new argument. the drop only looks so severe because women were having too many children before!

[dollhair]

Something about the bastardization of the story time and time again proves that nobody in power really cares about the people who would resonate with King’s Carrie White. A girl so ugly and repulsive she’s been removed from her own story. The societal need for women and girls to be constantly perceived as attractive is what fuels a fair amount of her torment in the book, but that person isn’t even allowed to exist on the screen. We cannot empathize with her; it isn’t allowed. It’s fascinating to me.

[umrna]

"If you are female, expressing hatred for your own body is not just acceptable, it’s practically de rigeur. Failure to indulge in the requisite amount of self-flagellation – my thighs! my skin! my face! – isn’t just negligent, it’s unfeminine. Self-hatred is fundamental to how femininity is constructed, more fundamental than any of the more obvious external symbols (dress, make-up, shoes). What matters is not that you are beautiful, but you know your place in the beauty hierarchy (and since every woman ages, every woman’s place will eventually be somewhere at the bottom).

Young women are encouraged to bond over their dislike of excess body hair, surplus flesh and “uneven” skin. They are meant to do so in a jovial way, egged on by perky adverts informing them what “real women” do: worry about having underarms beautiful enough for a sleeveless top, celebrate curves with apologetic booty shakes and cackle ruefully over miserable Sex-and-the-City-style lunches of Ryvita and Dulcolax. It’s a gendered ritual; men get football and booze, women get control pants and detoxes. We are supposed, of course, to be grateful. Hey, you don’t have to be perfect! Just know you’re not perfect and act accordingly, with the appropriate levels of guilt and shame!

Fairy tale after fairy tale tells us that what matters is being beautiful “on the inside” but what does that really mean? It means submission, obedience and the suppression of one’s own desires. Don’t be haughty and proud. Clean the hearth. Kiss the frog. Love the beast. Suck it up when you’re replaced by a younger model. Sure, you may look fine, but you mustn’t feel fine. You mustn’t be vain. You mustn’t be angry. All fury and pain must be turned back on itself. That way you’ll be a real princess: silent, fragile and never threatening to challenge the status quo."

– Victoria Smith, Almost Famous, real women and the normalisation of self-hate

[fairycosmos]

sooo annoying that my parents didn't provide emotional support growing up now it's a whole fucking thing

[truthscicle]

I think part of this new wave neo-Nazi ideology in teen boys is because of porn. Because of the sexualization of different women of color, and how they’re sectioned off into their own categories, men and boys can search for any group of marginalized woman. The can spend hours looking at the torture of only black women, or Asian women, or Hispanic women, or any other group, and just like with any other porn it invades their mind and makes them feel like it’s okay to do the same thing to these women in real life too.

[sichorean]

About 80% of men claim "touch" is their "love language". And less than 20% of women say touch is their love language.

Men claim they need physical affection to feel appreciated. But they don't hug each other. They don't hold their children, or baby wear. They don't hold their friends hands or rub their backs after a breakup. They don't lean on each other on the train after a long night out.

Women do. Women reach out with their hands and their hearts daily both to friends and family but also to complete strangers. Men do not.

"Touch is my love language" is just shorthand therapy-speak for men to be able to say that they feel entitled to sex. Men complain that women want "acts of service" and men just want "affection" - yet a cuddle isn't what they're after, and providing sex that you do not want no matter how your day has been, no matter how tired or stressed you are, that IS an act of service. It's more than that, it's a chore. It's sexual coercion.