Set Women Free

[thatsonemorbidcorvid]

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

PLers can't genuinely tell me THAT has a heartbeat

[hellnrage43]

What they call a "heartbeat" is actually cardiac pole activity. It means that someday, if the pregnancy is allowed to continue without disruption, there could be a heart in there that could have a heartbeat.

Which is obviously an OK thing to make a woman lose her bodily autonomy for. This. A clump of cells.

[theradicalbutch]

Can’t believe this ⬆️ fucker has more rights in this country than I do

[ancient-healer]

No matter if you're pro abortion or not the truth is very important. This is a miscarriage at 5 weeks.

[badmiffy]

No, it really isn’t. You are spreading misinformation. Images like that are created by prolifers specifically to appeal to our emotions and encourage us to humanise the tissue, and yes, the internet is rife with these images, but it’s not the truth.

The original post and the commentary from the article that I’ve added below is truth.

The nascent embryo isn’t even visible to the naked eye until around 9 weeks. And this truth makes some people uncomfortable because we have all been conditioned to think that an embryo is a tiny baby, and it’s shocking to see what the tissue actually looks like, but there it is. For women who are excited about their pregnancies it might be disappointing, and that’s also why so many diagrams and info sheets about pregnancy development show the embryo as more humanised, because it appeals to the soon-to-be mothers. But like the article says their purpose here isn’t to please everyone, it’s to spread the truth and combat misinformation, even if some people find it shocking or disappointing.

[flowerlygirls]

not 2 b a h8er against the wonder of making new life or smth, but that looks disgusting lmao like mold or a dead jellyfish........ nah thanks

[magnetictapedatastorage]

[sayruq]

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[tra-archive]

The whole “teach your sons not to rape” thing never made a ton of sense to me. Men and boys know rape is wrong and they know why it’s wrong. They do it anyway. Do people really think a convicted rapist did it because he wasn’t taught that it was wrong??

[evenlesssentimentaltranslator]

I understand what they're trying to say. They're trying to say "hold boys and men accountable instead of just telling girls and women to Be More Savvy". And this is why Tumblr lefties' distortion of black criticism of the prison system into "exonerate all the rapists" was the first major step that led to me peaking, because consequences like prison are the only thing that DOES teach men, and the reason why they keep raping is because they're not put in prison enough.

[tra-archive]

I do get why many leftists are for prison abolition but it’s one of the only “left” values I just can’t get behind😭Like I support rehabilitation for other crimes, but rape has no justification. 5 years in prison (saw an article that claimed 60 months was the average sentence) isn’t going to stop them from reoffending, and that’s if they get any time at all.

The calls to get rid of the sex offender registry trigger me so much because they don’t have any valid argument. “They deserve privacy” and what about their victims’ privacy that they violated?? If that makes them call me not a leftist, so be it.

[officialweatherwax]

I think the thing that bothers me most about “terfs don’t understand biology” is that even if it’s true that sex is more complicated than sperm-producers and egg-producers, that division is still the basis of patriarchy. The ones with the penises decided to oppress and abuse the ones with vaginas and uteruses, whatever you want to call those two categories (though historically they have been called “men” and “women” respectively).Crying when radical feminists say so is just shooting the messenger.

[fretami]

“you cant see chromosomes!” ok so how is it that men oppressed women for thousands of years and continue to oppress us

[gnomebutch]

I hate all these posts moralizing about how it’s not righteous to discuss hurting rapists because you can hypothetically target someone who was labeled a sex offender but didn’t do anything morally reprehensible when most of the time the people saying that are speaking from experience and are discussing their frustrations of wanting the people who personally abused them to die. and yeah sure you can also get into a debate about rehabilitation verses revenge based justice but that’s such a cruel thing to turn the discussion towards when someone said they wish they could have fought back against a pedophile who molested them. or maybe I’m just a sensitive violent freak who knowssss

[uncomfortablecliche]

btw it’s a myth, nobody is on the sex offender registry for public urination. stop letting people repeat that shit

[gloomyrelaxing]

So weird how they try to exaggerate how easy it is to get on the sex offender registry. Like yeah it’s easy if you have a problem taking your clothes off in public. Why do you have a problem taking your clothes off in public?

[aftonfamilyvalues]

I want this person to search through their local registry and see what all of their local sex offenders have actually been convicted of.

[revived-ophelia]

Here, let's see a sampling, New York City sexual offenders registry, scrolling and hitting 10 random names:

That looks like a lot of real sexual violence, about half enacted on children. I wonder why the original poster wants us to approach the idea of convicted sexual offenders with leniency. They say hit dogs will holler, don't they?

[themusicdanceexperience]

Queer theory is so funny to me as African because I'll see all these people in the western countries trying to assign meanings to clothes and to pronouns and to parts of their personalities, they'll believe that changing their clothes or their pronouns or their language or their behavior will exempt them from misogyny. And while I understand that it is a condition of the System to keep us all separated, I can't help but bristle at the racism behind this all.

If any of these liberals had bothered to read, they would know that there exists many many communities indigenous to Africa whose languages don't have gendered pronouns, where clothing rules are different. Where men and women dressed the same, where the rules of nudity are different. Where men are effeminate. And in most, if not all of these communities, misogyny will still be rampant.

My community used to allow female to female marriages but all those women were still circumcised. My language does not have "she" or "he" but that did not save any of us from misogyny. My friend's community doesn't even have gendered slurs and she still had to run away when she was 11 so that she wouldn't be circumcised. There is no solution other than uprooting the whole system. Creating more categories does nothing.

[ifuckinghateshaving]

[pain--pilled]

"getting even with women they can't have"

Why do men hold this anger for women they can't have? Why tho? I genuinely don't understand having such vengeful rage towards someone I can't have. At most I get a little bitter, but I don't have this... huge raging vengeful anger where I want to "get even" with them. Why do men feel this way? The thing is that even if porn was banned, men would still have this anger towards us so it won't like, solve the problem. This thinking or belief system or whatever it is didnt come out of thin air. Why tho. Is it bc of male entitlement? It's not solely just hatred of women bc I can hate someone but not feel I have to get even with them bc they reject me.

[antiporn-activist]

I find this baffling as well.

[immortalremnantriver]

I think anyone looking at the stats on porn and sexual exploitation and just sexual violence and the culture in general and being perplexed as to why men are fucking angry is a child mentally. It's not hard to understand why men are enraged when they lack power considering the kinds of lengths they have gone to historically to gain power. The culture makes them worse. Many of you recognize that men can be perfectly pleasant until you displease them many women ignore how awful they can be because they want to live comfortable heterosexual lives until things go south then they deal with the fallout and then probably rinse and repeat with another male. @pain--pilled

[antiporn-activist]

You're misunderstanding my comment. I'm perfectly capable of recognizing a pattern in behavior. I'm interested in the mechanism behind the behavior. From my point of view, it's so ubiquitous and worldwide that it probably has a biological basis. Arguments like "culture made it so" or "they're just demons" aren't satisfying to me. Cultures are created by humans, and demons aren't real. I want to understand why humans who have XY chromosomes insist on creating hierarchies wherever they go, why they must enforce hierarchies with violence, and why they cannot tolerate any perceived loss of status. And why this happens everywhere. I want to understand it on a cellular level.

[quinntheestallion]

They say its impossible being trans could be influenced by a fetish or peer influence and that trans people should always be taken 100% seriously and yet Exhibit 184848476

They’re changing literal laws that affect women’s day to day safety so that men can do this bullshit btw

[quinntheestallion]

This.

All the "young people are having less sex" panic is similar to the "less babies" panic. When women have more choice and education, they choose to not lay under or spread their legs for dumbass men.

Millennial women had a whole bunch of unsatisfying sex with men who hated their guts because they were groomed into it and didn't know better.

Millennial girls were being roofied at parties and were being told they're a tease or were "asking for it" if they go back to a guy's place alone. So they felt pressured to perform.

Millennial girls were told sex is empowering but there was no support and empowerment to deal with the emptiness after they offered their bodies to men who have zero regard for them.

Millennial girls funded their own abortions and Plan B pills and gyno visits post-sex and undertook all the risk and expense of promiscuous sex on their own- when the guy they did it with disappeared or ghosted.

Millennial girls were given speeches about how: 1.Orgasms are not the point of sex.

2. Love isn't the point of sex.

3.Trust, care and mutual respect is not the point of sex.

4. Intimacy isn't the point of sex.

5. Reproduction isn't the point of sex.

So left GenZ girls are wondering what the fuck is the point of sex with these men. And thank God they are.

Millennial girls were told "fun" is the point of sex.

GenZ girls realized that paying $300 of your own money for an abortion for a fuck you didnt even enjoy with a misogynist who hates you doesn't sound that fun. And, as a millennial myself, theyre right- it isn't.

[marbleguard]

are you guys keeping up with this? did you know, the rioters who, in seeking to overturn the results of the 2020 election, threatened to kill the then vice president, broke into the capital with weapons in order to get to the members of congress who narrowly escaped through a secret tunnel under the building, brutally beat the capitol police officers trying to keep them out, who were then sentenced for their crimes, were not only pardoned by this administration, but now $1.8 BILLION dollars of our hard earned money taken from us as taxes is now set to be used to reward them for these actions, to the tune of payouts of potentially hundreds of thousands to a million plus each? Is anyone grasping what this means?

[marbleguard]

the message being broadcast loudly to the entire nation is:

If you are willing to try to kill and capture government officials, attack capitol police, and form a mob to overturn a democratic election in the name of Trump, you will be rewarded handsomely for your bravery.

Combine this with the last portion of the voting rights act being dismantled by the supreme court,

Combine this with red states, as a result of this, unilaterally redrawing currently blue districts to ensure no district can vote for anyone but them, while the blue state's democratically voted on redistricting plans get tossed out,

Combine this with the pardons for trump-sympathizing election officials found to have given non-authorized individuals access to restricted areas,

Combine this with the administration seizing election records that should be held by the states,

Combine this with Trump's established history of personally calling states after the election to demand they "come up with" the amount of votes he needs to win,

Combine this with Trump announcing his intent to send "election integrity" armies to polling sites across the nation,

Combine this with ICE raids, emboldened by the supreme court's ruling that skin color or occupation is good enough justification for arresting and detaining random non-white people who are not suspects of any crime,

Why is everyone behaving as if "we don't know yet" and "can't be sure" what they are going to do in the midterms and 2028 election until we show up to the polls and see it the day of? They are shouting their plans from the roof of the white house, congress, and supreme court. What they are planning is not a secret, it's out in the open.

[hadesoftheladies]

god fucking dammit i really really wanted to like this blog but then the transmisogyny...for fucks sake its heart breaking you are *so* close to seeing shit properly but then you leave out our trans sisters. Insane. The trans women in my life have grappled with misogyny and the violence of men and discrimination just as much as I have and they are some of the most vulnerable of us, and they fight with us all the time. And yet. Instead of standing together against the real problem (patriarchy, its always patriarchy. Misogyny.) Y'all pull this shit. I promise you being a terf doesn't make your life better. I promise you, you're harming the cause of women and gender equality when you leave trans women out. It creates a strict definition of womanhood that chokes us all. Worse, you're harming yourself.

I really hope that genuinely caring women like you free yourselves from the aesthetics of virtue. What I mean by that, is too many women conflate niceness for actual kindness or goodness. The performance is more important than the ethic and it's practice. I know you think I hate trans people, but I don't. I care more about diagnosing what's actually happening as opposed to what appears to be happening. I know people like you think I'm evil because I say shit like "transphobia/cis privilege doesn't exist" and reblog shit like "i love being a TERF," but it's interesting how angry you are about these posts I've either made or reblogged when the surrounding context of such statements is entirely fair.

For one, I don't call myself a TERF. I am called a TERF by predominantly US/UK white people who don't like that I don't view gender as materially real and are divorced from the reality of my plight as a black woman living in Africa. I do celebrate being called a TERF, though, because it has become, on some level, a euphemism for "feminazi" which is something male supremacists use to shut down feminists. I am proud to be saying things that threaten the status quo enough to provoke such vitriol from men.

Secondly, I say transphobia/transmisogyny is unreal because they are useless political concepts. They are not only insulting to other marginalized and oppressed groups like women and the LGB, but they are also worthless when it comes to articulating the struggles trans people face and why they do. You are angry at me for the appearance of bigotry (and men view noncompliance from women as bigotry, incidentally), but I have not actually been remotely bigoted by saying what I have said.

Your message is evident of how ineffective and divorced from intellectual rigour such words like "transmisogyny" and "transphobia" are. For example, we are both women that know what it's like to be hated for our femaleness, but still, unless you yourself are black, only one of us would experience misogynoir. My skin and my uterus aren't identities. They are facts about me. "Trans" is an identity. It's a "gender expression." Misogyny is the hatred of female people (otherwise, why does it exist at all? on what grounds?), but the fear of gender nonconformity is a direct offshoot off the hatred and oppression of lesbian, gay and bi people. You aren't oppressed for having "a gender expression" if you can just change it. It's like saying you're oppressed for being goth. Just don't where those clothes, then. Me? I can't just bleach my skin and WHOOOSH! No more racism. Majority of people in the world can't just change their genitals or cellular structure and all the other things that sex affects. Gay men also face things women face, i.e. sexual assault and being berated for being feminine--they're still men and the reason trans women experience hate or violence for their identities is because they are gender non-conforming male people. You don't see women getting beat up for being feminine. Why? Because gender is a tool of oppression, not an axis of oppression. Gender is used to keep male and female people "in line" and trans people step out of line, which is why they're socially punished. Yet, that still doesn't make trans women "our sisters" any more than it makes gay men "our sisters" anymore than it makes white women capable of experiencing misogynoir. Their manhood is essential to their experiences as men as our womanhood is essential to our experiences as women. Trans women can't be hated for being something they're not. If they were women, no one would be giving them the stink-eye for wearing a dress. Who are we helping by ignoring these realities? Certainly not the black homosexual trans women that die at the hands of johns in the prostitution industry. Certainly not majority of the poor, working class trans men who still experience rape and harassment from men of all sorts and can't afford hormone treatment or surgery (because majority aren't wealthy enough for that amount of lifelong treatment). Certainly not the gay feminine boys who think there's something wrong with them for being both male, feminine and attracted to men. Who are told real men aren't attracted to men and don't play with dolls. Certainly not the older women who need HRT because they're in menopause but an entitled straight man who got addicted to porn and is turned on by wearing women's clothes got there first.

Trans women, like everyone--even straight men--can be affected by misogyny because misogyny is a prejudice borne of a system that affects how each and every one of us live. But just like straight men, they cannot themselves experience hatred for a sex they don't have. The same way they can't experience racism for a colour they aren't. Female bodies aren't neglected in medicine because we didn't present "masculine enough." Butch/stud lesbians are still treated badly because they're female. Just-born female infants are still killed because the female sex is looked down on. Their "masculine" identity doesn't help them with shit. So if being masculine can't give female people (like trans men) male privilege, why would being feminine give male people (trans women) female oppression? It doesn't and it can't.

To say that women and men can identify in or out of oppression is to say that wherever oppression against women happens, it happens because we're choosing it. It also suggests that real, actual bigots will be careful to ask your pronouns first before oppressing you. It's backwards. But of course, it does make you seem like a nice and loving person to just validate people who ask for it. Even if what they're asking you to validate isn't real or helpful.

But I'm not interested in appearing nice and that's why I'm not scared of being called a "TERF" or a "transphobe." They're just virtue signals at this point, and I'm more interested in knowing the truth and using the truth to actually help people instead of my reputation. I hope, when you have the time to sit with your emotions and think about why you value what you do, that you'll realize there are more productive ways to help the vulnerable of society than "being nice and affirming."

[feministdragon]

”gender is a tool of oppression, not an axis of oppression”

[stephexmachina]

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

[stephexmachina]

AND SO IS BEING SOMEBODY'S MOTHER‼️

[stephexmachina]

it is about being a woman. hope that helps!

[womenstruation]

One of the biggest ways young girls are exploited in the global South is via the “house girl” culture. I’m speaking on how it works in Nigeria as that is my experience but I know it happens all around the world.

“House girls” are domestic servants, usually late teens though I have seen girls as young as six or seven, employed by middle and upper class families. They do everything from cooking and cleaning to caring for the elderly and young children and get very little wages. Most times these girls never see a penny of their wages- it’s all sent to their families. In Nigeria, these girls tend to come from very impoverished families living in border towns and often times do not speak the language before being sent to these families that exploit them.

Due to their young age, lack of any family nearby or money, poor education, and Nigeria’s legal system, these girls are overwhelmingly subject to sexual abuse at the hands of their male employers. In fact there is a common trope in media of the “husband cheating with the house girl and replacing the “madam” of the house. And when these men impregnate these girls, they are sent back to their villages in shame while the cycle continues.

They also face lots of other abuse. One of my mother’s friends was a “house girl” in the 70s when she was just thirteen and she was only given mouldy food and left overs to eat for most of her childhood. she once told me of a time where she was so thirsty, she drank the dirty water her abusers had used to wash their hands. I have also seen “house girls” physically beaten by their abusers and subject to horrific punishments- once as a child I saw a very young girl forced to ride in the boot of a car while all the employers children threw their imported backpacks at her.

There have also been situations in which families immigrate and arrange to bring their house girls with them. They continue to abuse them and when these girls manage to break free, they face deportation and further exploitation.

Of course such experiences are usually less common but the hiring of house girls is not viewed as the exploitation it is. Some people, my parents included, seem to view themselves as saving these girls from their lives in the village where they would get married young and live in poverty with lots of children. But how is it saving them to deprive them of education and enslave them? It is said that it is easy to recognise a house girl: shaven heads, old and dirty clothes and a scarily small stature. They look nothing like girls who have been saved.

[mikasasrippedtoenail]

This is very prevalent in India and other south asian countries as well. They are usually sold off by their fathers or they are child brides trying to make a a living. They are treated worse than cattle and sexually abused by the male "employers". It's sad that the fate of young girls in villages is either get sold to be abused by one man as a wife or multiple men in a brothel.

[snarling-dog]

Reminder that trans men, ESPECIALLY trans men of color, are not your "gotcha" for the trans people in bathrooms debate. A majority of us cannot safely use the men's room without running the risk of assault, mainly those of us who do not pass as cishetero men. If we are in any way "too masculine", we can't safely use the women's room, either. Stop forgetting we exist until it's convenient for you.

[opinionatedlesbian]

and the reason for this is men. Men are the ones who harass you in the bathrooms because you're female. Men are the ones who have made women so on guard that they question anyone masculine in their bathrooms because males keep invading them. And I'm saying this as someone who used to be a trans man and someone who still gets glares whenever I walk into the women's bathroom, it sucks but the fault lies with entitled males, if they hadn't invaded our spaces then women wouldn't HAVE to be cautious.

[partycitywigsale-deactivated202]

“Why are TERFs so obsessed with people’s privates hm?” 🥴

That’s a thoughtlessly callous argument when you consider that women and girls make up 100% of pregnancy by rape victims while 100% of the perpetrators are male. Or the fact that male sexual violence against women and girls is classified as a wartime weapon of terror. And that every single one of us realized before we were grown that males constantly think about what’s under our clothes, and we have to adapt and alter our routines our whole lives hoping for the best. So when a woman expresses discomfort about a male in our spaces, smugly insinuating that she’s the pervert or predator is the wrong fucking move.

[beebeebuzzbuzzz]

JK Rowling is an excellent example of why victims of sexual abuse need to be connected to therapeutic services as soon as humanly possible.

JK Rowling became radicalized directly because of her sexual assault and the fact that she hasn't processed it yet. She is putting all of that unprocessed trauma on trans people because she hasn't been able to process the fact that whaat happened to her was terrible because the person who hurt her was terrible, and now things have spiralled so wildly out of control that she genuinely believes the hatred she's spewing will save others from victimization, all while victimizing an entire group of people because she just has not worked through her trauma.

This is not a defence for her abysmal behaviour, but instead an observation of what can happen when victims are failed by the system.

[joannerowling]

You condescending prat, JK Rowling didn't "become radicalised because of her sexual assault". JK Rowling has never even spoken about being sexually assaulted; she disclosed that her first husband had been physically abusive (which he rather crudely confirmed). Her stance on trans ideology is that sex is real and matters. You don't need Trauma™ to see the kind of problems it can bring to let any male individual into a space reserved for women, just because he's persuaded himself that wearing a dress and getting off from it makes him a girl. All it takes is some logic, common sense, and actual empathy for women – three things that your faux sympathy post obviously lacks.

[beebeebuzzbuzzz]

JK Rowling reveals she is survivor of domestic abuse and sexual assault

Author reveals experiences in essay after facing criticism over her comments on trans issues

Actually she has! Maybe educate yourself before saying dumb shit!

I have empathy for all women, including trans women. I myself am a sexual assault survivor, to the point where my rapist was convicted of raping me, so I think I have a pretty good amount of sympathy to survivors of that as well

There’s room for trans women to exist non punitively AND still have spaces for AFAB individuals. We can accomplish both, and the idea that we can’t is fucking ridiculous.

[joannerowling]

This bozo telling me, tumblr user joannerowling, to educate myself about JK Rowling.

Okay, let's clarify the meaning of my words, since you didn't catch the subtext: JK Rowling has never spoken extensively about the matter of her being sexually assaulted ; unlike the matter of her being a survivor of domestic abuse, which basically everyone knew in the 2000s (she was rather open about having had a messy divorce and having had to literally flee a country to escape him). And in her 2020 essay, which your source is pulling from, JKR is clearly only comfortable with describing the effects of sexual assault when lumped with the domestic abuse. Here are her words:

I’ve been in the public eye now for over twenty years and have never talked publicly about being a domestic abuse and sexual assault survivor. This isn’t because I’m ashamed those things happened to me, but because they’re traumatic to revisit and remember. I also feel protective of my daughter from my first marriage. I didn’t want to claim sole ownership of a story that belongs to her, too. However, a short while ago, I asked her how she’d feel if I were publicly honest about that part of my life, and she encouraged me to go ahead. […] The scars left by violence and sexual assault don’t disappear, no matter how loved you are, and no matter how much money you’ve made. My perennial jumpiness is a family joke – and even I know it’s funny – but I pray my daughters never have the same reasons I do for hating sudden loud noises, or finding people behind me when I haven’t heard them approaching. If you could come inside my head and understand what I feel when I read about a trans woman dying at the hands of a violent man, you’d find solidarity and kinship.

So, you've taken this notoriously private woman's obviously painful and reluctant (forced out by circumstances) disclosure of her past; singled out the sexual aspect of the domestic violence she endured that she won't get into details about; and instead of actually engaging with her words, you're using whatever simplified version the Guardian chewed up to suggest that the event turned her crazy, ie "radicalised" her into having hysterical nonsensical hatred for trans women to better cope or whatever the fuck, and "that is why victims should get helped". 🙏 Bless, what a saintly person you are!

Cut the crap already. Do you honestly think that JK Rowling, a freaking billionaire, doesn't have the means to consult a top notch therapist to "process a trauma"? A trauma that you apparently "processed" (like it's what, a can of food?) perfectly, since you hold the Correct Opinion™.

I don't believe for a second that you have sympathy for JKR, although i'm sure you tell yourself that you do. Otherwise you'd read what she actually has to say, instead of playing armchair therapist on tumblr dot com.

[beebeebuzzbuzzz]

So if you actually read my post you would notice that I said victims need to be connected to services as soon as humanly possible. Absolutely JKR is more than capable of consulting the best practitioners in the world now, but at the time of the events she was not.

This delay often leads the victim to experience retraumatization when they are connected to services later, as they have to go back and dig up these horrible events they have started to move on from, and that is a truly terrible process that is well documented and that I can personally attest to

As for your opinion on whether or not I feel sympathy for JKR, I don't actually give a shit about your opinion, random stranger on the internet who knows me from all of two posts. Your perception does not change my reality, and I do feel immense sympathy for her as someone who has experienced similar events in my own life, which directly informed my original post.

Additionally, "processing" is therapeutic language, which clearly you are not aware I'd assume as a result of not experiencing the events and experiences you're poorly explaining to someone who has. I also have not, in fact, processed these events as of yet, I'm still working on that in therapy, not that that's any of your fucking business.

I am impressed by your audacity in bullying a survivor of the things you claim to be protecting others from by blocking people from simply going to the fucking bathroom, but I guess that's par for the course with you people.

[joannerowling]

Still not willing to address the point, are you?

How the hell would you know that JKR didn't get connected "in time" to not develop the "obviously just a trauma response" Very Bad Opinions (like "women need single sex spaces for when they're vulnerable") she holds now, like some kind of cancer? Answer: you don't.

Your perception does not change my reality […] I do feel immense sympathy for her

As i said, i'm sure you think so. I don't care that you don't care what i think, i'm not doing this for you ; i'm doing this because i think it's a public service to point out the bull contained in your post for the benefit of everyone who will read us.

Additionally, "processing" is therapeutic language

Which is why it's so fun to make fun of, because you are not a therapist. You are a random individual who has gone through shit like many individuals, and are using your experience as a license to diagnose JKR with hysterical woman syndrome because she disagrees with you, and you think the fact that you were a victim yourself absolves you of the inherent misogyny in doing that.

clearly you are not aware I'd assume as a result of not experiencing the events and experiences you're poorly explaining to someone who has

The entire point of this interraction is for me to point that you have a problem with "assuming" what others feel or don't feel, have gone through or have not, and how they experience things. A therapist might call that "projecting". After all, i share JK Rowling's opinions ; how do you know it's not because i'm coping with my trauma?

I am impressed by your audacity in bullying a survivor

I have been bombarded with messages such as "rape is good for you" and "you need a bullet in the head" for two months, as has every slightly known radical feminist on this site. I can assure you that me interracting with your tagged post without treating you with kiddie gloves is not bullying.

[sichorean]

are these theraputic trauma services (that women need to see "as soon as humanly possible" after sexual violence) the same ones that TRAs are arguing males should have access to, thereby making traumatised women self-exclude from them?

Just checking