hi

heyyyy

[hahawishmeluck]

pinned post xp

-late 20’s ftm

-cripplepunk and antipysch (u been warned)

-love a silly post too

-im always just saying shit

-trying to let myself be more nsfw and emo on here

i tag #flashing but don’t hold me to anything else. second most consistent is #mine

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i don’t have energy or brain capacity to read and retain long pinned posts, apologies if don’t interact with your blog in desired way

desperately want to be closer to tumblr friends, if you are on my dash i consider you friend

my language abilities vary, sometimes can put together eloquent post, sometimes not

i have a lot going on with me, don’t have my disabilities in a list anywhere on here lol, but you might catch on to some of them if you’re around long enough

okay that’s it for now love u all!!! thanks 4 reading!!!

[shirtsthatgohard]

[fionn-o-nassus]

Not gonna lie this makes me a bit irritated. Here's the real version of this photo:

Instead of a cutesie reference to film censorship it was an explicit statement of defiance of Maryland's criminalization gay sex, which was not repealed until 2002. This wasn't a guy saying "Oh they can't put what I do in the movies according to a completely voluntary industry code" he was saying "The State of Maryland wants to put me in jail for being gay and having gay sex."

It wasn't a guy being cheeky about sex in an ambiguous, cute way. It was a man stating, in no uncertain terms, that a whole state of the United States considered him a criminal for being homosexual.

[aromanticsky]

is that thing really true of all humans or have you just forgotten about disabled people

[elierlick]

This energy though

[krongbly]

The amount of transphobes that just don't know anything about swords or fencing is fucking killing me. Firstly, alot of fencing competitions are gender neutral. Secondly even if someone who did have a massive strength advantage entered a fencing competition that still wouldn't help them too much because a duel with swords is very rarely decided on strength. It doesn't matter how strong you are, if your opponent hits you that's a point for them. Fencing is won entirely by fucking knowing how to fence, shockingly.

Also, anybody commenting "Why is her hair greasy. She needs to wash her hair" needs to step outside the house like atleast once in their life. Girl just won a fencing competition and she was wearing one of these 👇 the whole time

SHE WAS FUCKING SWEATY

[pyroy3]

lmaoo

[pyroy3]

this post was brought to my attention today and I checked her twitter and this made me happy

transition timelines are one of the greatest things we have in the world

[the-haiku-bot]

transition timelines

are one of the greatest things

we have in the world

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[molluscappreciator-deactivated2]

[vexx-the-egg]

[dirtbrunch]

[probuccalfat]

there’s a conversation here about how queer people who come from heavily poor, illiterate, traditional ass backgrounds have to put in fucking work to gain any real acceptance from the queer community so we’re not seen as ignorant and backwards but we also like don’t have community with our own families because of our gender and/or sexuality most times. it’s really rich that the progressive movement can acknowledge how poverty, illiteracy, religion, racial identity shape people but fully fail to understand it beyond good vs bad, enlightened vs ignorant, with us vs against us… like some of you fully cannot conceptualize a person that’s with you and on your side if they’re not exactly like you or deeply apologetic about where they came from because you look down on it. but i don’t really want to have that conversation with y’all.

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

wish people remember that like. forget to eat, will sudden remember not eat after whole day, not liking food, struggling w chores like laundry n dishes n house cleaning n grocery shopping hating doing it put it off doing it, finding those supposedly “simple” stuff harder than many so called “advanced / skilled / hard / complicated” stuff… be pretty common lower support needs autistic & adhd experience actually n lots people struggle with that actually

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

thoughts abt this

1. see this so many times, a lower support needs autistic / adhd person who expected live normal among Ableds talk about struggle w day to day n be so exhausted every day n so many (so many!!!!) similar lower support needs autistic / adhd ppl in notes n comments etc talk abt be similar & feel so broken n failure n alone etc bc no one talk abt it. honestly so heartbreaking n frustrating for me knowing it common LrSN experience

it so common!! so many people struggle with it! but despite be so common, ppl not really talk about it abled ppl don’t n many LrSN ppl also don’t bc embarrassed / don’t know to / been shut down n shamed before / don’t realize not everyone like this. no one know how common of experience it be. despite be so common no one rly have good easily accessible solution to it

2.

n bc am higher support needs person n this be higher support needs blog inevitably going talk about how this impact higher support needs people bc it absolutely does

bc ppl not talk abt this experience n so not realize how common this be among LrSN ppl, AND ppl talk even less abt more severely disabled people & ppl w mid n high support needs, the General Nondisabled World (which many LrSN ppl made to exist in) kick us to our own separate lil contained hidden place to point no one realize we exist or should be put in your world view. so some LrSN (autistic/adhd) ppl inevitably think they higher support needs than they actually be

ppl see struggle w these things n auto label it / themselves who struggle / other ppl as mid or often even high support needs,

bc compare to General Nondisabled World it feel very big n the distress feel very big n the struggle feel very big n it is (!), it be higher than what General Nondisabled World demand them to be. but bc that General Nondisabled World on purpose hide the rest of us who cannot even pretend to blend into n fake it until we make it there no comparison to the whole disability spectrum.

so us mid & high support needs ppl get pushed out even further, where words for us no longer recognizable for us, we forgotten even further.

try seek community using our own terms n words n experiences n descriptions n quick shorthands bc don’t want to / too invasive to / too long to / shouldn’t have to list out every single thing we need support on n be essentially told hi now you too much too high too difficult for even high support needs

low support need get push to mid support needs, mid support needs to adapt get push to high support needs, n high support needs people left no where to go once again

it not about compare to nondisabled ppl bc to them we all too much. it about overall disabled people

n it not just abt you yourself. it about wider it about all

have heard many low support needs ppl come to me n say they been listening to me & other ppl w high support needs & advocating with us centering us in their advocacy n believe we deserve support n through that. they recognize & get more okay n comfy with admit & accommodate their own support needs n deserve support too

support the most marginalized n entire community will feel good effect it trickle up

so

tldr like

low support needs not mean no support needs, unfortunately low support needs not mean no struggle it can often mean immense struggle just like mid n high support needs ppl. struggle with clean house laundry cooking shopping n forget to eat until suddenly it end of day n can’t keep job n constant in burn out all the time n severe depression anxiety ocd etc all be really really common lower support needs autistic / adhd experience in current world unfortunately n deserve more recognition n support n be talk abt more than it be getting right now but it cant just be solely from high support needs people.

n advocate abt mid n high support needs ppl not take away support n recognition from low support needs ppl it increases it

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

… while yes, men including autistic men should not weaponize incompetence to force women do chores

but this be be such? bizzare strawman tangent? to add onto my post? that talk nothing of gender (bc it apply to all genders) or even mention word weaponized incompetence?

***do you know what HSN / high support needs mean? do you know what weaponized incompetence mean? do you know what chores mean?***

which to help:

weaponized incompetence talk about manipulation tactic where someone on purpose (!!) pretend (!!) not be able do something they actually can (!!!) do! it describe person weaponizing their position of power in relationship!

& chores mean household chores mean things that maintain house, for example cleaning furniture & clean up & laundry & load unload dishwasher etc - AKA instrumental activities of daily living (iADL)

& high support needs autistic people (of all genders)… generally be people with significant social communication struggles, repetitive restrictive activities & sensory struggles, & adaptive functioning struggles, which mean they need 24/7 supervision & hands on help on most if not all basic ADLs & iADLs - among other things that be long list & different for everyone & have explained many times before by me n other HSN & non HSN autistic people & sat a hour here trying phrase things but not have language explain it right now. if you not know what typical high support needs person can be like maybe should start there instead.

so having said that.

fail to imagine widespread phenomena where HSN autistic man (population who typically be working on basic social, communication, adaptive, & living skills etc like basic ADLs & how to communicate basic needs to get them met), be skilled enough at “chores,” n date (be in romantic relationship with) woman (who presumably not HSN considering it implied she able do these chores), (or be family members with women), n have the **power** in relationship to weaponize n to pretend to not able do what colloquially call “chores” when he actually have ability do so, n to make women do that for him

like we know not being able do something is not weaponized incompetence right?

but not just imagine hypothetical, but actually see & hear about & personally live in (!!) reality otherwise around, an actual widespread ableist phenomena, where people (of all gender) around HSN autistic people (of all gender) actually be PRESUMED incompetent, not believed be able do or learn things, not allowed do things, not give opportunities to do things, to point we seen as forever children who need protecting and/or demonized as aggressive danger n locked away (esp if we talking about HSN autistic people of color, n HSN autistic Black men esp come to mind), to point “presume competence” be one of major slogan in HSN & nonverbal nonspeaking AAC user advocacy.

or other REAL reality of how so many HSN autistic people (including men) actually not have our needs met, instead of opposite!! be locked away be ignored be left in neglect & abuse by people all around us, from family members to professional carers to educators to medical professionals to policy makers to… so many others, who all hold extreme power over us, including our literal life. we be left at whim & charity of everyone around us, depend on others & their mood & availability & niceness & grace & professionalism to stay literal alive. if we not get basic of basic support we need many of us just die!

who weaponizing whose incompetence here?

while yes HSN autistic men do benefit from male privilege n this show up in how they fare compare to other HSN autistic people of other genders in e.g diagnosis rate, how we treated n seen by others, healthcare, influence by other factors like race, n that be whole other VERY nuanced conversation that need lots care n not simple straightforward arrow, but like. this be wild overestimation of what power they have on interpersonal level. & let not forget intersectionality!

why this the **first & only** thing that you have to say when mere “high support needs” be put into conversation?

(not to mention how is this relevant😭)

[bitchautism-deactivated20250906]

dislike how many mental health posts on here are just "you've never done anything wrong in your life ever and they were evil for that"

[bitchautism-deactivated20250906]

maybe you did do something wrong. maybe you hurt someone. maybe you have said awful things. maybe you were just as bad as them. maybe. but what matters is that you move on. you have to try. you have to wake up and be kinder. you have to learn and listen and grow. maybe you did do something wrong but that doesn't mean you have to keep doing that. as long as you are alive, you can change

[bo0zey]

 i tried to be funny and it backfired miserably

[bo0zey]

it’s 2014 it’s time we moved on as a nation and stop reblogging this

[bo0zey]

every person who reblogs this in 2015 is gonna get their ass kicked by yours truly

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[hahawishmeluck]

chances are, your disabled friend is not guilting you by talking about their disability. you are probably just really fucking guilty for how poorly you treat them

[rationalisms]

using a pumice stone isn't very butch of you

i need you to know that this is already a top contender for funniest anon message of the year for me

[jerkstorecalling]

I found this on the public printer yesterday and now it's part of our decor and I'm kind of obsessed

[papayajuan2019]

[hahawishmeluck]

“psych ward patients aren’t prisoners! don’t let them treat you like one!!”

quick, define incarceration for me

[hazyinmyhead]

sometimes i’ll be scrolling on here and almost reblog what a mutual reblogged from me like so true bestie

[withdreamsofhereafter]

Hexagonal growth in a black olive tree

[peppermintsolarpunk]

Let's play: Is it AI or Real?

Red flags: Unbelievable nature you've never seen before!, no external source cited, low image quality could be hiding AI artifacts, lacks scientific name for plant, OP is an aesthetic blog (no offense, I see you credit most of the artists you post, OP <3).

Green flags: Common name of the tree provided (although the leaves don't look like any olive tree I've ever seen).

Reverse image searches and citation trails all seem to lead back to now-deleted Reddit posts. Google Images says it's this one in r/NatureIsFuckingLit, and TinEye says it's this one in r/interestingasfuck. Both were posted back in 2020. This is important because the rise of AI images was in 2022.

People in the comments of places this image is posted throw around botanical terms like "dichotomous branching" [branches split into two at the nodes] and "divaricated" [branches grow far apart from each other], which are cool, but don't tell me what the tree is.

Searching up "Black Olive" on iNaturalist finally got me some answers, and it turns out that YES. This is a real tree! This tree is a Dwarf Black Olive (Terminalia molinetii, Formerly Bucida spinosa). The above photos are some particularly nicely framed shots of a tree with particularly small leaves, which really highlights the branching structure. I really wish we knew the photographer's name. Here are some more photos of the same species:

Terminalia molinetii by jriveracruz50 on iNaturalist, posted under a CC BY-NC 4.0 license.

This tree is native to Southern Mexico, Belize, the southern tip of Florida, and Cuba. Dwarf Black Olives are completely unrelated to Olive trees in the Olea genus that I'm more familiar with (the former is in Order Myrtales [Myrtles, Evening Primroses, and Allies], and the latter is in Order Lamiales [Mints, Plantains, Olives, and Allies]).

Stay critical, and –more importantly– curious, y'all! The world is a beautiful place, we don't need fictional plants passed off as real ones for that to be true.

[klapollo]

if youre in the US (especially the northeast + michigan) i would avoid bagged salads/greens and generally wash your produce very thoroughly unless you want the diarrhea parasite

[klapollo]

Outbreak of diarrhea-causing parasite grows to more than 1,000 cases

Michigan is experiencing its largest outbreak of a parasitic infection that causes severe diarrhea. Nearly 1,000 people have been diagnosed

this is not life-threatening, but also who wants weeks of diarrhea and a fucking parasite in them lol. if you suspect you've already had this and it's passed, i would see a doctor. you might need an antiparasitic anyway. if you're actively sick, see a doctor and they might be able to prescribe medication to help you get over it faster.

try to avoid eating raw vegetables, scrub fruit with a produce brush and rinse thoroughly with water. again, don't bother with premade greens or bagged salads. if you buy lettuce, remove the outer 2-3 layers of leaves.

there are UNVERIFIED rumors that the greens have been linked to a company that sources to taco bell. some locations have been actively pulling fresh ingredients like lettuce, avocado, and pico de gallo to mitigate the threat, so i would avoid any products from them just in case. considering how vast supply chains are, i'd be wary of any fast food greens in general for now.

[lightlyric]

further tips from an immunocompromised person obsessed with food safety:

- wash and then cook your vegetables. air fry, bake, sautee, deep fry, whatever to 165F

- if you really want a salad, get locally farmed veg from the farmers market and wash VERY thoroughly. if the farm has info about their labor practices, even better. workers' safety keeps us safe too

- you can blanch some greens too but this isn't as safe as cooking thoughly

- wash your hands thoroughly before & after prepping raw vegetables

- avoid cross contamination in your kitchen from raw vegetables. act like it's raw chicken