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Woman, 24. Random rad stuff

[pomodororagazza]

a lot of women are peaking on tiktok because transwomen dogpiled one black girl for talking about female oppression (what’s new?) and now that other women are jumping to her defense and pointing out that they never felt like transwomen cared about women’s rights and expected unquestioning fealty they’re just dropping the feminist act all together. in what world does someone who is ambivalent about trans people at worst warrant them wishing death and unwanted pregnancies on them? how are women still doing olympic level gymnastics to defend these men???

these people are standing next to you seething because you’re talking about how roe v wade effects you, because you broke up with your bf when you found out he is in the manosphere, because you said you were feeling bad from your period. they’re going to reddit to post cisfoid death or complain that you made him feel excluded. they won’t ever be on your side.

these dudes are the biggest misogynists on the planet i hope every one of them had to put an M on their passport. (report this post too btw and let’s see if we can really ruin these dudes day)

[inqilabi]

Becoming a parent is an ego death for the mother. But not for the father. When a couple has a child, the woman becomes a woman and the man stays a man. In the sense that, the role of being a mother is inescapable. A baby is latched to you 24/7 in a way that isn't the case for the father. Even if you were pumping and so that the father could get up and feed the baby instead, you still are going to have to get up to pump to keep your production. There's nothing that a man can do that the woman doesn't already have to do. Most men continue their extracurricular activities as normal, having days out with the boys meanwhile women find that they can't even take a shower anymore without requiring advanced coordination. I mean heck, the fact that men can have multiple families but a woman never can, speak to this fact.

Prior to this, as just a couple without children - you can have gender equality. So if you don't already have it at that stage, you will definitely never have it when you have children.

But the act of having a child is an inescapable gender inequity. Parenthood can never be 50/50 even with a very involved partner. I think this is a very hard pill to swallow.

[androgynousnightmentality]

So the logical conclusion should be to not have chilldren as a woman and spawn future rapists and victims. Isn't it?

Uh oh....

[inqilabi]

No

[pisceanpharies]

Why would you say all of that and then be a pro-natalist?

It's immoral to have more children when there are so many who need to be adopted and when the nuclear family destroys the lives of women who are literally (justifiably) going insane because they have to do all of the childcare alone, along with housework & emotional labour, while working outside the home too. It does take a community to raise children properly, which most women don't have.

It's an incredibly sick society which encourages people to have more kids when there are already kids who need parents. It's all about egotism, passing on genes, and having kids as status symbols. It has nothing to do with actually wanting to take care of kids, because if it did, people would adopt.

[inqilabi]

I said all that because it's the current reality. I am pronatalist because it won't be a permanent reality.

[pisceanpharies]

That doesn't make sense. Why are you pronatalist when you understand this stuff, and why do you think it won't be a permanent reality?

I think it probably will stay this way, because most people are participating in the nuclear family dynamic, and if they aren't, they're trying to.

That doesn't make it ok.

[inqilabi]

It won't be a permanent reality because when the social structure changes, the family structure will change. And the social structure has already changed several times in history and it will again. The family structure we have didn't always exist and won't always exist

[pisceanpharies]

It's possible, but would have to take hundreds of years at this point.

It's also possible that humans are too stupid to be able to do that again.

We're destroying this planet in many ways, so the human race deserves to die off.

[inqilabi]

Yes it will take about 50-100 years or so, which is literally only one generation away. So it's not hopeless for the people being born right now/their kids. You can figure out short term solutions for yourself but to say it will be a permanent state isn't accurate.

[pisceanpharies]

I think it's more likely to take at least a few hundred years.

And, like I said, there are already so many orphans that it's immoral to be having more kids. People who have kids only because it's a twisted expectation to pass on ones genes or as a status symbol, are terrible at parenting, so they especially shouldn't be doing it.

Just because the world might eventually change (of which we've seen no evidence will be soon), is no reason to be bringing even more people into this horrible place.

[adayinthelesbianlife-deactivate]

[sailor-moon-rest-deactivated202]

*me, answering a girlchild who asked:* yes, that [wild animal] is a girl! Actually, about half the animals you see outside are girls!

*Parents, getting visibly uncomfortable*

*boychildren, continuing to refer to the animal as a he despite my continued emphasized use of she pronoun*

*trans/gendie coworker, getting emotional as he realizes he is just as bad as the rest of the men in calling every animal a he*

*senior staff, annoyed at me for being better at our job than him*

*supervisor, watching me carefully to make sure I am not "rocking the boat" *

*girlchildren, excitedly asking me more questions*: how can you tell she is a girl? Does it taste good when she eats [food]? Is she strong? Does she live in [habitat]? I want to be a marine biologist when I grow up and study only girl animals! Is she a mom? Can I pet her? Does she sleep? Does she dream?

Does she know there is more for her out there? Does she know the world of men can easily be escaped by simply loving wildlife? Does she see herself in nature? Has she killed the mystic man in her mind? Does she know religion, even female-centered religion, was invented to erase the natural world? Does she know she is inherently a part of this world? Does she sleep? Does she dream?

[vegantinatalist]

why must the good blogs deactivate young

[unrepressed-purity]

When are we allowed to say that sex education, therapy, feminist consciousness raising, has failed to reduce sexual abuse?

The language around sexual abuse has changed a lot in my life time, and yet I am still surrounded by traumatized women. I see women a decade plus younger than me telling very similar stories of harrassment and abuse that my aunties would tell me when I was a child. Why is that?

How many different kinds of rape are men going to invent? (Date rape, marital rape, child rape, coercive rape, rape by deception, maintenance sex, sex work etc..) How many slogans and acronyms about consent are women going to invent? (No-means-no, consent-is-sexy, my-body-my-choice, FRIES, CRISP)

For how long are women going watch men create new psychological jargon and refurbish ancient religious dogma to pathologize women for saying no? For how long are women going to sit and watch men use every new advancement in technology to find new ways to prey and abuse women?

How many generations of women are going to ritualistically trauma bond with each other about being sexual abused? Exactly how many Epsteins and Giseles must exist before we're allowed to question the inherent goodness/neutrality of human sexuality?

When will it be socially acceptable to question the utility and morality of human sexuality regardless of it's alleged normalcy and naturalness? Never?

[artemis-melody]

Brown men say it's white men

White men say it's brown men

Left wing men say it's right wing men

Right wing men say it's left wing men

Muslim men say it's Christian men

Christian men say it's muslim men

Poor men say it's billionare men

Billionaire men say it's poor men

Gay men say it's straight men

Straight men say it's gay men

What's the common denominator? Are you noticing a pattern here?

[xxactlyperfect]

THIS !!!

[sichorean]

"Men struggle with empathy" men do just fine with empathy when it comes to rapists who might have their lives or careers slightly derailed by prison time. They understand empathy when it comes to their bros getting dumped. They've got empathy when their mate misses the work target.

They just can't muster up a scrap of it for women.

[genderisareligion]

While Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj are having very public beef and while I really appreciate Megan's talent for what it is I wanna take this time to spotlight my favorite unproblematic female rapper who's been at it 10+ years whose lyrical mastery alone deserves 500% of the fame Megan and Nicki have:

Angel Haze

Who also released new music this week and it's 🔥 as usual

Proudly bisexual but prefers and frequently raps about relationships with women, in a deep and meaningful way. "Back To The Woods" (2015) was written after a public breakup and remains my go to heal from heartbreak album

Proudly GNC and I've seen her up close IRL and can confirm she's hot as sin

Not gonna get too into my issue with dick worship in female rap which Megan though I love her is guilty of but Angel here is the much needed antidote. Zero pandering to sex appeal and constantly shitting on men for being worse than her but more famous (she's right). Like I still don't think I've heard her reference dick even once which is a miracle out here

Proudly Native American (Cherokee) and self taught in Tsalagi language

Took Eminem's "Cleaning Out My Closet" and turned it into a brutally honest manifesto about surviving CSA and religious trauma

Fantastic fine artist and painter (always does the cover art)

Can sing her own hooks and kills them

Chill/normal on social media, minds her own business and great to fans (liked several of the comments I've left her)

I really need more people to get into her music, part of why she won't ever blow up like Megan despite (no disrespect it's just facts) absolutely bodying her lyrically is because she's so GNC

If you have a few minutes check out "Gxmes" 🖤

[veryradgirl]

one of the most gender non conforming things a woman can do is refuse to suffer lol

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

[strangecollectionperson-deactiv]

I pinned this post not only for anyone who visits this blog and also deals with executive dysfunction, but mainly for myself, because I often forget the existence of such posts when I am struggling so I need it somewhere visible. I am going to test these methods and write the results.

[hippiedippieblondie]

Male loneliness this, male loneliness that. Have they tried lobotomies? Tranquilizers? Being fingered by medical professionals? Tearing the yellow wallpaper off the walls of the attic room where your husband keeps you locked up?

[cpagliahater]

OP disabled reblogs but idgaf this is too much of a truth nuke

[tra-archive]

Context: on a picture of a death certificate for a 12 year old girl who died of an illegal abortion.

BIOLOGICAL ESSENTIALISM?? On a post about a LITTLE GIRL who died from an abortion? Where are all the death certificates for boys who died from that? Oh right, only members of the female sex can get pregnant. It’s not biological essentialism to say that. Biological essentialism is saying “all women and girls should/can get pregnant and have children.”

Anyway, our DAUGHTERS’ lives depend on us fighting for abortion rights. Not childrens’, daughters’. You will not take our language away from us at a time when women’s rights are constantly under attack.

[naturerad-blog]

celebrate your vagina. don’t be silent about the experience of being female just because it’s politically correct to pretend that it doesn’t exist.

[radfemme-rage]

the way men view sexual assault is so insane

r*pe legit only registers as so if it’s a leery, violent male physically restraining a woman while she squirms and cries

what the fuck is wrong with them? beyond everything

[evilrosamundpike]

They have to think of it that way because otherwise they’d have to reconcile with the fact that their male family members, their male friends, and they themselves, have raped women. Not that they care about hurting women, they just don’t like the label.

[anjomecanico]

At the moment you make a critique of patriarchy suddenly all men are black brown disabled mentally ill poor immigrant queer refugee polyamorous diabetic toothless from a developing country and all women are white rich warlord 1stworlders

[aspiringxxspinster]

Happy Mother's Day