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happy pride month.
in new zealand, our evil government are trying to legislate definitions of women and men, in ways that are legally incoherent but clearly trying to pave the way for more horrifically transphobic legislation. we have an election in a few months but our main opposition party, and all our mainstream news media, are so spineless and cooked that there's a good chance the ghouls will win reelection.
it took 2 whole months for local terf group 'speak up for women' to get 2,000 signatures on the petition that led to this new bill in our parliament.
it's taken five days for this pro-trans 'they don't speak for us' petition to get 17,000 signatures.
this is a show of support that is really heartening for a lot of trans people in our corner of the world.
cis/ish women, if you're from here but haven't signed yet, please do. and if you're not from here and you know any new zealanders, could you send them this petition? a full fifth of our population lives overseas, and there's a good chance they don't follow the news.
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in conversation about white people who go to Japan and expect their knowledge of anime to culturally carry them, I was once posed with “it’s like if there was a Japanese guy who was obsessed with spongebob and came over here and thought he could get by just communicating in spongebob quotes.” This is a false equivalence because if such a man existed we would crown him king. We’d love him. Americans would fucking love that. sometimes I get sad that this isn’t a real guy I can invite to a party.
Ok the last one got me laughing actually
some of you need to internalize this concept
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i think one of the worst things the left wing internet ever did was push the idea that oppression is basically a virtue, and being oppressed is a sign of your morality. it has made it like…impossible for some of you to hold the idea that most people are privileged in some ways and oppressed in others. AND a lot of you seem to have it in your mind that terrible people cannot be oppressed, and that oppressed people cannot do terrible things, which is a dangerous rhetoric to hold imo.
I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?
Don't become a housewife.
And if you do become a housewife, take steps to protect yourself. Make sure you’re legally married, for starters; stay-at-home girlfriends have very little legal recourse to claim their partner’s assets in a breakup. Make sure your name is on the house deed/rental agreement, and have your car in your name, even if your spouse is paying for it. Have your spouse transfer money every month into an account solely in your name, so you can buy yourself things without needing permission, but also so you can save up to leave if needed.
If your spouse fights you on any of this, then don’t quit your job. The tradwife to poverty pipeline is real, and so is financial abuse.
also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can
Why are you using chatgpt to get through college. Why are you spending so much time and money on something just to be functionally illiterate and have zero new skills at the end of it all. Literally shooting yourself in the foot. If you want to waste thirty grand you can always just buy a sportscar.
I’m really starting to think you people don’t understand what university is for. You’re buying the accreditation that you can do these things. It doesn’t matter how you do them.
I can assure you if you're going to school to be an xray tech or a surgical assistant it does very much matter how you do the stuff your accreditation says you can do. We aren't all business majors.
Yes, but you actually can’t do an X-ray without an X-ray machine and you can’t do surgery without scalpels. We already rely on technology for everything. Offloading cognitive tasks just frees us up to do more. If you can do your job with chatgpt, but can’t without, you can still do your job. I’m sure you would find university much much harder without access to google or the internet too.
Do you think scalpels are magic and do a little song and dance and perform the surgery themselves like Beauty and the Beast characters and the surgeon is there to conduct the background music
What do you think will happen when your employer, who hired you because they saw you have a certificate to say that you have specific skills and knowledge, starts expecting you to have and use those skills and knowledge and you can't because you think a university degree is just a piece of paper that you buy
"Offloading cognitive tasks just frees us up to do more"
When you're in school, the cognitive tasks are there for the explicit purpose of being brain exercises. It's weightlifting. It is FOR building your mental muscles and making you a stronger thinker and planner. "Offloading the cognitive tasks", then, is just Not Doing The Weightlifting. What happens when you pay for your gym membership and just stand around messing around on your phone? Nothing. Nothing happens. Just money leaving your wallet. Nothing else.
Using AI is a short term pleasure that is going to fuck you over in the long term, and by the time you realize that you didn't build the necessary muscles you need for the cognitive tasks required of your ACTUAL JOB (or, like, adult life in general), it's going to be too late to do anything about it... except going back and doing the real work all over again to get you up to speed.
And if your response as a college student is "Ugh i'm already good at this though, i don't need the practice" -- sweetie, you have no idea how good at it you could be though. If you're good at it now but you keep working on it, you're going to ASTONISH yourself in a couple years with how good at it you can get. I was a good writer when I was in college; I am an ASTRONOMICALLY better writer now, because I put in the work. But you have to lift the weights and build your muscles to get there, even when it's tedious. There aren't any shortcuts for this. You can be content with your own mediocrity, or you can believe that you're capable of growing towards brilliance. Which one will you choose, mediocrity or brilliance? You get to pick right now.
I’m a Surgical Assistant and that ChatGPT stan pissed me off so I’ll use my job as an example. 90% of our job as surgical assists comes down to memorizing the names and usages of the thousands of unique instruments and equipment and sutures involved in surgery as well as having the critical thinking skills to anticipate the needs and expectations of the surgeons we work with. That’s a “cognitive load” that cannot be pawned off on a computer. If I relied on ChatGPT to tell me what instruments to have ready for a case, it would create a composite of what the most likely instruments to be used in a given surgery and assuming that it’s even accurate, it would be effectively useless if my surgeon didn’t use any of those because each doctor is different. Surgeons get pissed off if you give them the wrong diameter size suture, so why would I rely on a soulless algorithm to tell me what my surgeon wants? And if I’m not figuring out for myself what they may need based off my own learning and not machine learning then why am I even there? There’s a reason robotic surgery still requires a surgical assistant and a surgeon to operate the robot, technology is an easement not a replacement for human labor and in college learning is the labor you should be doing.
A common thread with ChatGPT simps seems to be that they truly believe all labor is as easy as their cushy middle management jobs in the tech industry. “Buying an accreditation” might work there but can you imagine someone in the medical field not actually knowing the subject they’re licensed or accredited to know? I’ll give you a hint: the word we typically use is malpractice.
a few days late for June, but I had to finish and post these bg3 pride doodles<3
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My main issue with The Other Bennet Sister (both as a book and series) is that it operates on the premise that Mary actually understands and is upset that she is not as brilliant as her sisters, when Pride and Prejudice tells us explicitly that hearing herself described as 'the most accomplished girl in the neighbourhood' at the Meryton assembly is enough for her to have enjoyed a 'pleasant' evening.
I understand that Mary is somewhat of a blank slate (given how little she is in the original novel) and thus that ability to be able to project onto her would be appealing for an author because she is the most infrequently mentioned Bennet sister. But equally, she is seldom in the story because she is not particularly relevant to the plot; it's not an oversight on Austen's part. Her character is clearly defined and we have a good sense of who Mary is (selfish and sanctimonious, rather than neglected and overlooked) even if there are not entire chapters dedicated to her.
Mary Bennet is not heroine material and that is perfectly okay.
Mary is also, by the standards of the day, constantly putting herself forward in a way which was interpreted as a moral failing.
There's a reason we have so many scenes of Austen heroines and other respectable ladies demurring when first asked to play on the piano until the host/hostess insists some more. It isn't modesty, it's morality, and it's why Mary not waiting to be asked to play and not being aware of when she's performed an excessive amount is judged so harshly.
I don't personally agree with a lot of regency lady behavioural standards, but to contemporary readers Mary is attention seeking and vain, not demonstrating any modesty or that demure behaviour which spoke of a woman having good principles. In that way she's way more like Kitty and Lydia then modern audiences can easily see, though their exhibiting takes very different avenues. But it was still an indicator of improper principles.
It's why she's included in the 'that total want of propriety so frequently, so almost uniformly betrayed by [your mother], by your three younger sisters, and occasionally even by your father' (ch35) line that Darcy writes to Elizabeth. She isn't just awkward, unlikeable, or not well rounded - she was often completely lacking propriety. Elizabeth names this judgement on her family a 'mortifying, yet merited reproach ... The justice of the charge struck her too forcibly for denial' (ch36). She doesn't make an excuse for Mary, but includes her equally in the condemnation against the behaviour of Mrs Bennet, Kitty, and Lydia.
Here's the definition of the word propriety, as I believe Austen used it in this context, from the Oxford English Dictionary: 'Conformity to accepted standards of behaviour or morals, esp. with regard to good manners or polite usage; seemliness, decorousness, decency; (observance of) convention.' That is what contemporary audiences, and the sensible characters within Pride and Prejudice itself, thought Mary was lacking. She has a problem with morals, good manners, and decorum. Not awkwardness or being unlikeable, nor shyness or trouble socialising (and in fact, I'd argue that Mary's behaviour is the opposite of shy). Though she's such a minor character it isn't as important a change, many modern interpretations of Mary are very similar to the 'Darcy isn't a snob, he's just socially awkward!' thinking which ignores the book canon.
I'm also a proponent of the idea that, where Kitty and Lydia demonstrate the flaws of seeking experiences and no reflection, Mary demonstrates the flaws of seeking only reflections and disdaining a lot of real world experiences. A situation rectified somewhat at the ending of the book, as with her sisters gone, 'Mary was obliged to mix more with the world, but she could still moralize over every morning visit' (ch61). Hopefully this situation also made her more self-aware, and less inclined to put herself forward indelicately when she didn't feel the need to compete for recognition.
It's so understandable that modern readers project social awkwardness and shy bookish-ness onto Mary, because social standards of behaviour have altered so much in 200+ years and she's a minor character, but Austen did actually write her as confident and forward to the point of vanity and disregarding morals. I have yet to see any novel that focuses on Mary recognise that, and work within that framework for her character arc. And, because it's missed, so too is the nuance of why she's disparaged by the narrator and not praised or particularly liked by Elizabeth and Jane.
This has a flow-on effect of authors needing to find some justification for why Mary is so overlooked, which, since they don't recognise Mary's own flaws, generally means they need to invent or exaggerate flaws in other characters. Which is why you get characters suddenly focusing on likeability, or looks, or social prowess, to a degree that they never did in canon, if at all. I enjoy reimaginings, but you have to be really careful and knowledgeable when making beloved characters shallower or meaner in a way they weren't in canon in order to white-wash a minor character for it to work well, and I'm not convinced they've done that in this instance.
I know I've been very harsh on Mary's character here, so I should add the disclaimer that I actually adore Mary, as I do Kitty and Lydia (yes, even Lydia). They're teenagers whose education (and emotional well being, in the case of at least Mary and Kitty) has been neglected and thrown out into society at a young age to figure it out for themselves, so I'm not at all surprised they've misstepped and gone too far in seeking external validation. Mary sure as hell didn't get enough of it growing up. But Mary isn't judged by the world because she doesn't fit the pretty, sociable, likeable mold her other sisters do, she's judged because of her own actions and the values that demonstrates to respectable society.
I just wish that more works focusing on the younger Bennet sisters recognised the actual (contemporary) errors of their behaviour in a sympathetic way and worked to show how they might improve as they grow, rather than excusing all or most of it and saying that it's everyone else who is acting wrong.
%100, weird how this misinterpretation is so common…Mary is not shy, she’s actually very thick-skinned, to the extent she completely fails to notice the unreasonable amount of time she’s been demanding attention at the piano. She likes to show off: “such an opportunity of exhibiting was delightful to her” - she continues into another song after only “the hint of a hope she might be asked again” despite the fact she is just not good at it. I don’t think it’s just regency decorum that makes this problematic either - their society was certainly less comfortable with young people who didn’t possess much talent demanding attention and applause than ours is - but I think that type of insistent misplaced self-confidence is always quite irritating…. Also, by rewriting Mary as shy and upset by her conception of her own inferiority (basically Fanny Price) you put this weird lens on the other characters treatment of her and (as Jane would say) “make everyone acting unnaturally and wrong!”😂. Yeah, if she was a sensitive Fanny maybe they should have treated her with extreme sensitivity , but it’s a fictional fact that she *isn’t … she’s more like Mr Collins, self-satisfied and oblivious to her own failings . Her problem is her lack of sensitivity , not crippling shyness or low self esteem .
See, I think Mary Bennett could absolutely be hero material, it's just that she couldn't be the hero of Pride and Prejudice. Her story has its own themes to play with.
I think that Mary has fallen victim to the Classic Autism Blunder- if someone tells you "this is what you need to be successful! Here is a list of concrete skills and talents you can acquire! Here's a bunch of frustratingly nebulous social skills you need to cultivate!", and you're on the spectrum, it's really easy to go "cool! I will do the concrete stuff that I know I can learn how to do and ignore all the boring difficult social graces!" Except that, outside some very very rare circumstances, the horrible social bullshit is the part that is going to make or break whether you can be successful.
So Mary is working very very hard to Be Accomplished- the piano! the moralizing! The reading! - and to show off that she's Accomplished. But she's presumably largely self-taught (you think Mr. Bennett is paying for tutors? Hah.), and so is not as good at any of this as she thinks she is. When you factor in that she's lacking in social graces to boot, she's embarrassing herself. But she doesn't have the social skills to even notice that this is what is happening, much less understand why she needs to notice.
If I were going to write her, I'd probably have her be able to realize that people don't really seem to like her or to appreciate her accomplishments... and have no earthly idea why, because no one has been able to get through to her why what she's doing is wrong. She knows that people react really badly to her when she plays the piano without being asked or when she tries to show off her Deep and Profound Learning. But she's under the very mistaken belief that she just isn't trying hard enough, and if she can just impress them enough with her Accomplishments (TM) then maybe, maybe, people will start to like her.
(And, tbh, I don't think anyone has tried particularly hard to explain it to her. Jane is too kind to point out someone else's flaws, Elizabeth finds Mary super grating and interacts with her as little as possible, Mrs. Bennett doesn't care because it doesn't seem to get in the way of her Look How Accomplished My Daughter Is Please Put A Ring On Her quest, and Mr. Bennett encourages her to be Like That because he thinks it's super funny.)
And the problem for Mary is... I've said it before, I'll say it again- most modern fiction set in the Regency* is functionally fantasy, it's just set in a world where social graces are magic. If you're writing A Bridgerton, everyone wants to see the heroine destroy her rival or the local Lady Catherine equivalent with three carefully chosen words and a spockbrow, without being visibly impolite. They want to see the hero and heroine verbally duking it out as a way of carefully testing each other's boundaries. Dances are wizard duels. The drawing room is a battleground.
If you look at it through that lens, Mary Bennett is actually a pretty common hero archetype- she's the kid with no talent for magic who is, functionally, trapped at wizardy death school. If you're a woman in a Regency romance, and you don't get married, you're boned, and everyone knows it. But Mary does not really have the skills to come out of The Season with a man on her arm, and everyone knows that, too. So Mary has to use whatever other skills she has- some of which will still get her a 'good grade in Accomplished Lady', some of which 'wizardy' society has no interest in- to get by.
I think you could get a really good story out of... say, a German princeling coming to town, who happens to be the most neurodivergent man in the three nearest continents, who thinks Mary's flavour of doggedly persistent autism is deeply charming. He appreciates that she can speak his language- in both senses- even if her grammar isn't quite up to snuff. He's well-read in like six different languages, he's interested in science and art and morals and would like a woman who's actually interested in debating all of these things, he's incredibly sick of the petty social-wizardy death game that is the marriage market, and he'd very much like to find a wife this year and be done with it.
Mary has to deal with her mom shoving her at him by any means necessary in ways that even she can realize are profoundly embarrassing. And with the fact that, at first, she kind of hates this guy, because he's willing to do things like 'play devil's advocate for atheism to make you really defend why religion is important', which she sees as Absolutely Heinous and Rascally Behaviour. But because of her mom's clumsy social maneuvering, they're always kind of stuck in the same room together, and he's the only person who isn't constantly reacting to her like she's doing something wrong for reasons she can't ascertain...
...and she's slowly realizing, through arguing with the princeling, that she's neither as well-read nor as deep of a thinker as she thought she was, and forcing herself to grow out of her Tumblrina Your Fave Is Problematic phase into having actual well-reasoned moral convictions of her own and being able to defend them...
...while making a fool of herself, once she's decided that courting him is necessary, by trying desperately to impress him with her other Accomplishments (TM), which would not be particularly impressive to him even if she was as good as she thinks she is, and she is not nearly there....
...and realizing that, no, this man is not a rascal, he's also got strong moral convictions and is also willing to defend them, and they're actually perfectly suited for each other if she can catch up to him intellectually.
It'd be about Mary figuring out how to woo and live with this man in a way that actually works for the both of them, rather than trying to follow her broken-ass social scripts that she can't really pull off. About her finally dropping the idea of Being Accomplished Being The Way To Find Love And Respect. About both of them figuring out how to handle the social obligations that come with being a Goddamn Rich Person without going insane, and having an easier time of it when they've got someone else to lean on.
I think that's an incredibly compelling story and one where Mary is absolutely the heroine, no character assassination needed.
*I don't think this is necessarily true of Austen, but any modern Austen adaptation is probably going to be a Regency Romance (TM) even if its source is not.
an interesting aspect of this hypothetical mary protagonist scenario is that i think it could only be carried off with intensive logistical support from Mr. Bennett and his library.
see. the thing is, i think mary's whole deal reflects a certain attempt to appeal to her father. the man who just wants to read all day.
she was never going to be liked by her mother, she doesn't have it in her. but father liked elizabeth for being clever, so it made sense for mary to try to book-learn her way into his sponsorship. it didn't work. he had a favorite already, and mary has no wit to recommend her.
but elizabeth is gone. she isn't coming back. she has left their household forever.
so for the first time ever, for a few years at least, mary has a real chance of getting her father's attention.
and if coming to him for attention, an annoying behavior I'm sure he discourages as much as possible, turns into coming to his library in order to get materials to try to make an actually good argument to get back at that horrid german boy with next time, he might actually be drawn into engaging with her, and her now more sincerely intellectual ambitions. and like. belatedly actually provide her with some of the education he undoubtedly received as a matter of course.
so she winds up building an actual relationship with her father, as a teenager, as a side effect of the one she's building with A Boy.
and i think that's the only way you could make this romance protagonist mary concept work on anything close to the level of the original book, is if the process of getting to know this guy and herself was both mediated through, and a medium for gaining better understanding of, her family unit and the ways it has defined her.
#p&p is so much a book about how your family dictates you#and what the limits of that fact are and should be
The AI encyclical doesn't yet have a Latin translation, because even though the Latin version is "official", it takes six to twelve months longer to prepare than all the others, an issue exacerbated by the use of terms that don't already have established neolatin translations. Since the timing is important and they don't want to rush the Latinists, they seem to have decided a few years back to move the Latin versions "off the critical path", even though this adds a layer of absurdity to the whole business. Since the encyclicals are still issued simultaneously in like ten other languages, this leaves it uncertain which version should be considered official -- it's likely that it was first written in Italian or perhaps English, then translated, but when the Latin version finally comes out like a year from now, it will retroactively be considered the official copy, and all the others will be considered vernacular translations of it. Which is already a funny story about where pragmatism meets tradition, but in reading about this I found some commentary from someone formerly of the Vatican's Latin office, who mentioned something even better: that one benefit of this process was that the Vatican got to see the public discourse about the document while translating it, which gave them a chance to tailor it to any controversies or confusion that might arise, so that, for instance, if there were competing readings of a passage based on subtle differences between translations, they could pick which one to favour after the fact. This means that this is sort of like Steam Early Access for papal encyclicals.
i think as a writer, the older you get and the more you read, the more you realize there are very few actual truly bad ideas. which is a relief. but! the other thing you learn is that stories live and die on the execution and ha ha. lemme tell you. unfortunately. there are lots and lots of bad ways to execute an otherwise fine idea