The Trials of a Depressed Optimist

27, Asian/Latine, Biromantic Demisexual (she/her/hers) My hyperfixations come and go but my love for community wellness based politics is forever. F*ck capitalism.

[britneyinventions]

Britney Spears was tired of getting a cold after going out in the rain, so she created umbrellas in 2007. Instead of touring her Blackout album that year, Spears traveled the world to give umbrellas to people at high risk for rain-induced sicknesses. This humanitarian act inspired singer, Rihanna, to write a song titled Umbrella to honor Spears’ philanthropy (2007). Spears is pictured above donating an umbrella to paparazzi.

[theartofmadeline]

cards 0-5 in my muppets major arcana

[ritikajyala]

He asked me when I fell in love with him and I knew it sounded dramatic to say the moment I saw him, so I told him this story of my grandma who had Alzheimer's- she forgot her name and the words for fruit and food, she forgot her address and how to use the washroom, all her life lost to the disease. The only thing she remembered was her son's name and when that began to fade, the one thing she always remembered was that she loved him, even in illness, even in insanity. She saw this 6 foot 2 man with a scrubby beard and she didn't know him but she said she trusted him, she asked him to hold her hand when she died. When does memory end and love begin? All I know is- she loved him before she remembered him.

-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The world is a sphere of ice and our hands are made of fire

[moonachilles]

Jane Austen really said ‘I respect the “I can fix him” movement but that’s just not me. He’ll fix himself if knows what’s good for him’ and that’s why her works are still calling the shots today.

[nitewrighter]

Meanwhile Emily Brönte just said “We can make each other worse.” 

[theonlycabbage]

Mary Shelley said, "I can make him

[filmnoirsbian]

King shit

[notallmensheviks]

catholic pez

[rat-mama]

[mitski-miyawakis]

[shoelace-and-friends]

[spacecrygirl]

[notallmensheviks]

good work everyone

[post-store]

$21.99

[trix-or-treatz]

Miss Piggy's response to misogyny and fatphobia is physical violence and I think we should all take something from that

[tlirsgender]

I have like a lot of very angry thoughts about the glasses industry and the way vision is treated as separate from healthcare but it's also one in the morning and I've taken my melly tonin so you have to wait to hear them

[tlirsgender]

Having to pay for the ability to see is already some bull shit but having to pay MORE the stronger your prescription is should radicalize you. Is there even a fucking reason for it to work like that

[tlirsgender]

"Um um um the lenses are thicker so it takes more materials-" what if I attacked you and bit you and killed you. Anyway goodnight for realsies this time I prommy

[existentialterror]

Sometimes I’m looking for something online - often “how to” articles - and I want to filter for - like - a website that was clearly built in 2010 at the latest, which may or may not have been updated since then, but contains a vast wealth of information on one topic, painstakingly organized by an unknown legend in the field with decades’ worth of experience. I don’t want a listicle with a nice stolen picture in a slideshow format written by a content aggregator that God forgot. I want hand-drawn diagrams by some genius professor who doesn’t understand SEO at all, but understands making stir-fries or raising stick insects better than anyone else on this earth. I don’t know what search settings to put into Google to get this.

[greenjudy]

thank you for articulating this cri de coeur for me

[jumpingjacktrash]

ngl these days i’m just happy when it’s not a video

[averixus]

search.marginalia.nu is the search engine you want!

The search engine calculates a score that aggressively favors text-heavy websites, and punishes those that have too many modern web design features.

This is in a sense the opposite of what most major search engines do, they favor modern websites over old-looking ones. Most links you find here will be nearly impossible to find on a regular search engine, as they aren’t sufficiently search engine optimized.

[ashby-santoso]

“It is a search engine, designed to help you find what you didn’t even know you were looking for. If you search for “Plato”, you might for example end up at the Canterbury Tales. Go looking for the Canterbury Tales, and you may stumble upon Neil Gaiman’s blog.

If you are looking for fact, this is almost certainly the wrong tool. If you are looking for serendipity, you’re on the right track. When was the last time you just stumbled onto something interesting, by the way?

I don’t expect this will be the next “big” search engine. This is and will remain a niche tool for a niche audience.“

[foodffs]

[foodffs]

Steak and Mushroom Pie

Follow for recipes

Is this how you roll?

[tami-taylors-hair]

“Mean girls all grow up to be nurses!”

“Mean girls all go into social work!”

“The mean girl to teacher pipeline!”

Y’all, these are just pink collar jobs. The reason you think there’s so many “mean girls” in these fields is because they’re all like 97% women. Of course some of them are gonna be assholes. There’s assholes everywhere.

We get it. Your job isn’t like other girls’ jobs. It’s a cool job.

[onepunchman]

it’s true that there are some incredibly cruel people in all of these professions.

it’s also true that they all suffer from chronic underpayment, overwork, lack of institutional support, and insane bureaucratic demands that would make them fail the people in their care all the time even if every single one was a saint.

[rotationalsymmetry]

That’s absolutely missing the point.

While those are all “helper” professions and they very much are pink collar (and are underpaid, that’s not an incompatible idea), they’re also ones that involve power over vulnerable people’s lives. (And I’ve only encountered it as a comparison to, say, male bullies becoming cops, it’s not like men aren’t being mentioned here.)

Secretaries/administrative assistants aren’t on that list for a reason. Flight attendants aren’t on that list. Housecleaners aren’t on that list. Receptionists. Customer service representatives. Dental hygienists. The people who style hair or do nails. That’s not a list of pink collar jobs. It’s specifically (pink collar) positions where if you want to abuse people you’re relatively likely to get away with it.

It can both be true that “nurses who care for disabled people need better pay” and “nurses who care for disabled people have a lot of opportunities to abuse their power and that’s something worth talking about.”

Women aren’t immune from treating people badly because they’re women, or because women are underpaid. They’re sure not immune from specifically seeking out jobs that will allow them to be cruel without any consequences to them, if they get personal satisfaction out of being cruel.

You are trying to shut down a conversation about abuse.

[porkbunjuice]

Our islands are not a playground for your little "intrepid soul search". Pull up or fuck off

[dylanobrienisbatman]

This whole ‘we got married and NOW were deciding on kids’ is getting old on TV, like have the damn discussion first

[huntresslittlered13]

Discussions about a couple's future plans for family and children should happen before they even CONSIDER marriage tbfh. If the writers want to introduce *couple drama* they should do that with established couples that are considering marriage but BEFORE they actually get married.

[lgbt-tiktoks]

[whatsallthisnow]

[runcibility]

YES

[catchymemes]

[prof-grace-aspen]

This is the best description I’ve heard for this method, I always thought it was bullshit because I never heard a description that actually explained how to do this other than “tap your head 20 times”.

I have anxiety-induced hissing, which sounds/feels different from sound-induced tinnitus (which I have also experience). Sound-based tinnitus actually sounds like you’re “hearing” something in your ears, whilst the hissing I have feels like it’s “inside my head”, if that makes sense. But this technique still helps!!

[mieaouy]

Here’s a visual I found because I couldn’t understand the instructions well

[sushinfood]

My ringing just went away for the first time in years. What is this blissful quiet.

[roseverdict]

wait wait i gotta try this, i don’t think i’ve had Actual Silence since i was like 5

[roseverdict]

HOW THE FUCK

[sandersstudies]

The more empathetic and kind men I meet, actually, the MORE I hate bad men. It’s like I’ve seen it proven you don’t have to act this way — I know for a fact that it’s not coded into your biology to disrespect women or be aggressive or be emotionally stunted — you’re literally just a shithead.

[sandersstudies]

Every good dad I meet is just another enormous fuck you to bad, absent, and apathetic dads.

[average-monster]

Yes yes yes!! This is a great way to reframe (part of) the harm done by “all men are trash” radfem ideology. Low standards just excuse shitty behavior. You can set high standards, and have those standards met, and hold to account the men who don’t meet those standards.

[1eos]

alright somebody add the ‘you can excuse racism?’ meme

[rubyapologism]

[christopher-bryant]

[blanketfortarchitect]

I can’t believe we get to use this for once without having to edit it