One of their things is making âLight hearted funâ of features of the women around them. I had this done to me about my breasts, my nose, my ass, my weight and my freckles. Itâs small comments like the one in the tiktok or small âcuteâ âjokesâ like âyour nose looks kinda sad aw lolâ. But over and over and over and over again.
I told all of this to one of my male friends who said that he actually did this intentionally to girls when he was a teenager and into his early 20s. He said that itâs a tactic to keep women small. When a woman is too concerned about how she looks to a guy, she wonât think about how stupid or ugly that guy actually is. When you convince her that she is below you but you love her DESPITE her nose, breasts, body hair etc, you become like a god. She wonât see any flaw in you or your behaviour because all she is focussed on is finally pleasing you with her looks/behaviour. Itâs basically:
âYou are a little bit ugly and I am pointing that out every day so you know that the entire world notices this too. Now that you know that you are ugly and that the entire world knows, you are thankful that I still find your ugly features kinda cute. You are thankful that at least I am honest with you and loving you despite all of your many flaws. You will never question my behaviour or my looks because then you would risk losing the only person who is kind enough to like you like you are. I will also point out sometimes how pretty something or someone else is, so that you will develop a fear of losing me, the only person who is kind enough to like you. This will keep you busy being pretty/perfect to me and, again, keep you from questioning me. You will also do everything I want from you, including sexual things you donât like because, again, you canât risk losing me, the only person who likes you despite of your many flawsâ
If this sounds extreme, it isnât. I donât think that many men are doing this intentionally (like... actually rationally planning this out) but that doesnât make it any better.
And men who donât do this actively are still profitting off of other men doing this. Imagine that guy ditches his girlfriend after doing this to her for a few years. Any mediocre dude who wants a mother substitute will look like a god AND a romantic hero compared to that previous asshole.