insightful-beanie5

your local queer mixed-race South Asian human. I post random stuff. icons courtesy of @theprideful. here's my poetry blog: https://poetryislife494385759.wordpress.com/

[phantomrose96]

job interviewer: would you be willing to destroy and betray yourself for nothing?

[kaijudick]

honestly i think it's so funny when doctors are like. know the RISKS of taking T. you will have MOOD SWINGS and become a VIOLENT and UNCONTROLLABLE creature who HOWLS at the MOON. it will turn you GAY. like i hate to say it guys but youve just invented male hysteria

[emil]

HISteria ♂️💯

[realcarmensandiego]

follow for more tips 🙏🙏

[radicalgraff]

"I feel better when I wear a dress"

Pro-lgbt sticker in Ramallah, Palestine

[queergraffiti]

by alQaws for Sexual & Gender Diversity in Palestinian Society, a civil society organization founded in grassroots activism

[spongebobloveletters]

Happy 250yrs of indigenous american's survival and resilience in spite of the horrors tribes all across the United States ( and Canada ) have faced. Whether youre celebrating or mourning today, do it knowing that the future will be brighter 💛 i love you :) 🍍🫧

[this-is-orientalism]

the fact that naan is often referred to by white people as "naan bread" but they can easily say baguettes, croissants, focaccia, etc without adding an unnecessary word.

like, why is the one from West and South Asia the one they get consistently wrong ?? idk if I'm thinking too deeply about this but it has always bothered me a lot. I feel like it reveals which cultures are actually worth respecting by who gets their food named correctly

(oh also I live in the anglosphere not Europe and I've noticed this here so it's not like they're having an easier time naming the European breads because it's from their own cultures or anything)

this is orientalism.

[realtransfacts]

You are lovable.

Your body is lovable.

Regardless of what your dysphoria tells you.

❤️🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[transmasc-is-life]

'Why does every nonbinary person want top surgery' I dunno maybe because having visible breasts immediately makes everyone assume you're female and only female, and therefore put you into a binary. Also why are you assuming every nonbinary person has breasts.

[catilinussy]

I think people who believe that should also put some thought into whether every nonbinary person with breasts actually wants top surgery, or whether they've just decided that the nonbinary people with breasts who want to keep them don't "count" as nonbinary.

[furbearingbrick]

#i know plenty of nonbinary people who want breasts or like their breasts#but they're viewed as either transtrenders or trans women in denial <- prev tags

[tofutomato]

you gotta read, you gotta write, you gotta draw, you gotta watch films and shows. there is literally NO time to be employed

[ruderubicante]

A Love for Ignorance

[peach-pot]

I think some of you people need to google amatonormativity… and like, think about it.

[peach-pot]

you can actually desire a traditional romantic relationship AND unpack amatonormative ideas within your mind and life. they are not mutually exclusive!

[respectissexy]

Having experienced a lot of it in my 20s, I think some of the worst, pettiest, most straight up this-is-just-bullying-you're-passing-off-as-praxis incidences of Queer Infighting endemic to young people can be best understood as attempts to exercise power by people with very little power.

Like you're 22, you're queer, you've just become a Marxist, the scope of World Suck is overwhelming and you have $30 in your bank account. What can you do to feel like you have any power? Well, you can try to get your frenemy cancelled for cosplaying a character from a problematic show. You can write a public callout post over someone's obviously friendly use of a slur you don't think they technically have the right to reclaim. Doing this stuff can make you feel like you have power and your actions have an impact. Unfortunately the impact in question is a negative impact on other marginalized people. But that often takes some maturity and self-reflection to notice.

[drtanner]

I'm reminded of this post from 2017. To paraphrase, OP took part in community service via their university and part of that was cleaning the bathrooms at the local homeless community centre, which would frequently get trashed, not because the homeless people using them disrespected the work of the people cleaning them but because they had so little control over other things that happened in their lives, and the bathroom was something they could affect.

This, too, is a trashed bathroom; young queer people living through hell and having precious little control over their circumstances or the world in which they exist can affect something by using the language of social justice as a cudgel on their would-be allies, as well as getting a brief feeling of power over someone else by doing it.

It's not worth it. Don't trash your community bathrooms.

[an-ruraiocht]

not gonna lie i increasingly just find myself thinking... what are single disabled people supposed to do? basically everything assumes that either a) you have never been independent and are fully reliant on caregivers, whether this is parents or a paid carer that you are somehow funding, or b) you have a partner who can look after you, drive you to appointments, pick you up after you've had sedation, advocate for you, be your proxy, do the housework when you're sick, push your wheelchair, be your companion when travelling (e.g. handle the luggage if you're using a wheelchair), etc

and like. first of all even for people with partners that's assuming they're abled themselves and can handle all that. you can't assume that. secondly: what about people who are single, who live alone, who will probably always do so

"get someone to keep an eye on you when you start this new medication" who. "don't over exert yourself" nobody else is going to do the tasks. "this can be a walker or a transit wheelchair so your partner can push you when you get tired" my what

like it's not a coincidence that amatonormativity discussions started / developed in care contexts because it is so often the assumption that intimate partners will fill these needs. but I feel like this is often discussed in the context of "and this is too much to ask and puts too much unpaid labour on the unqualified partner" which is not untrue and needs discussing but like. also. what about people are single, independent adults who are neither emotionally nor geographically close to their siblings etc and are not Disabled Enough to have a paid carer (a group that grows as resources shrink). like are they just fucked then. they're on their own. punishment for failing to be enough of an adult to couple up.

[an-ruraiocht]

a few years ago i was having a procedure for which i was going to have partial sedation, so they wouldn't let me leave the hospital alone afterwards. even though i would just be getting a taxi from outside the door back to my house

i had to ask my housemate to come to the hospital in a taxi, leave the taxi waiting outside, come inside to fetch me (they wouldn't even let me go from the ward to the taxi even though i could point to my phone and the texts saying that my housemate was outside), and then go back to our house with me. fortunately it was a weekend, so she didn't have to take time off work to do this, but they went on about how she'd have to keep an eye on me for the next day or so

bear in mind that i barely knew my housemate when we moved in together. we had mutual friends but it was an arrangement of convenience

these days i do have nearby friends who own a car, so would potentially be able to pick me up in a situation like this. but they don't live with me. so they wouldn't be able to keep an eye on me overnight as my housemate was assumed to be willing to do. my flat only has one bed in it. like. i don't know. it just seems to be completely beyond their comprehension that somebody could live solo and not just have someone who will look after them?? and this was for a small routine procedure that lots of non-disabled people have, so not even assuming high care needs! hospitals just can't comprehend that single adults exist!

[aro-disaster]

That reminds me of the time I was giving blood and (in addition to my usual fainting shenanigans) there was a concern that the phlebotomist had given me nerve damage.

Trying to get the blood people to understand that I had driven there and that no, I didn't have a partner to come fetch me and monitor me was a flipping task and a half.

It took me over an hour to get out of the centre and I had to promise to call 111 (the non-emergency medical line) if anything happened.... Not sure what they would have been able to do for a tweaked nerve over the phone, or indeed what having a partner there would have achieved...

[caffedorzo]

[moveslikekeithrichards]

this might be kind of a reach but is there a way for printers to connect to devices so that documents can be printed from them

[beezlebutch]

"Pride month is over"

WRONG! Your pride month is over! Me and all the other disabled queers are having pride month two: disability edition

[jehandant]

Reblogging this again bc people in the notes are asking a lot of "Am I included? Am I disabled if I have x?" and I just wanted to add the flag here to show people who the pride month is for.

This is the new flag, the old one was more vivid and in a z shape, but it's been made more neutral to be inclusive of people with seizures or sensory issues.

Each stripe represents a different aspect of disability:

Red: Physical disabilities

Yellow: Cognitive & intellectual disabilities

White: (And this is the key one I think) Invisible AND undiagnosed disabilities

Blue: Mental illnesses

Green: Sensory disabilities

If you're autistic or have ADHD? this is your pride month. If you have a mental illness, it's your pride month. If you're hard of hearing, this is your pride month. If you have an autoimmune disorder, this is your pride month. If you are not diagnosed with anything but you know something is up with you: THIS IS STILL YOUR PRIDE MONTH.

[drizzles-in-paradise]

I honestly think that nonbinary people should be allowed to be mean* about our genders without getting shit for it more often.

*(Read: Assertive of our boundaries and stood firm on the fact that our identities are deserving of respect)

We should be allowed to make a sour face or take a cold tone with someone when they carelessly misgender us for the fifth time in a row despite multiple corrections. We should be allowed to complain about erasure and ask where our needs and experiences come into play when we hear people reinforcing binary normativity in their discussions of gender related issues. We should be allowed to be visibly/audibly angry with other trans people when they try to forcibly categorize us as fem or masc, or imply that our enbyness is a mere phase that will eventually lead to "real/full" (binary to binary) transition.

Nonbinary people should be allowed to take our identities seriously and expect others to do the same for us, regardless of whether or not we will come off as mean for doing so. Because quite frankly, upon seeing how exorsexist the world has become recently, I think we haven't been mean enough.