No it really is funny to me when people get so outraged when you suggest it's brainwashing and gaslighting. Cbt is telling you to think new thoughts because your old thoughts are bad and negative, even if your old thoughts are explictly the truth. That is brainwashing and gaslighting. That is purposefully fucking with someone's sense of reality. It assumes that 1) your sense of reality is wrong, 2) that your reality must be tampered with for your benefit and 3) the new version of your reality is good and correct.
If you think "i don't like my living situation, the people in my life are mean" cbt is incapable of affirming that belief as true in anyway, even if it is. Instead, cbt needs to find a reason your thoughts are flawed and need to be changed in some way to improve your situation. The situation can never be outside of your control, and your reaction can never be reasonable to the situation. The only thing cbt is capable of doing is telling you to think something different, because thats what its designed to do.
And when confronted about this, people will lie to you and tell you it does something different, or try to give it a new spin. "No no, cbt is not trying to tell you its YOUR fault you're in a bad situation, its just telling you to focus on what you CAN control!" But the only thing cbt can change is your reality, by framing it more positively.
I was reading a study on the way people use cbt to gaslight help chronic pain patients, and their testimonials are exactly what you describe—people who are talking like they've been brainwashed. Mind over matter, "you just THINK you have problems" but you see, pain is all in your mind and this is giving patients back their autonomy so they can live "normal" lives.
Patient 19
“I was only thinking about getting someone to do something or having something like the hospital or medicine have some effect to get the pain intensity down to zero, but then I was taught CBT, and this showed me how to control the pain mentally, so...I had to do it... yeah. “
Patient 8
“It became easier now that I understand the nature of pain. I always knew that chronic pain was painful, but I was told that this is what causes it and that it would be better to avoid it this way, so even if I could not avoid it 100%, it has become easier. I guess you would say I now know how to deal with it (the pain).”
Patient 15
“I have come to think that I can live a normal life even if I am in some pain... In terms of taking the pain away, I think that having some pain is ok...I can live with that.....”
Patient 3
“It’s troublesome to be alive; they say there’s no way to fix the pain, and it won’t go away.”
Integrated findings show that patients summarized their impressions of therapy as positive, regardless of whether their pain improved or worsened (Fig. 3). There were many patients who claim that CBT is not effective yet maintain high expectations for success in the future and claim CBT to be satisfactory; this disparity is ambiguous and requires further investigation in the future.
This study has a tiny sample size and isnt generally very good for a lot of reasons, but the testimonials and the way cbt is described as "useful" and "sucessful" really stuck out to me. The patients have not been given any real treatment for their pain, they have been put in a brainwashing regiment that tells them they can have autonomy if they only think of the pain in a different way where they take back control and focus on the positive. They all have positive feelings about their pain after cbt even if they don't think it works aka it does shit for them, which is something you'd think would raise ethical concern, but doesn't.
Cbt is the psych darling rght now for everything. Why address an actual problem that might cause or aggravate a mental health issue or disability, like an abusive situation or poverty, or give someone actual treatment at all when you can just convince them they just need to think better thoughts. In fact, its a much better solution because it makes them easier to deal with, more pliable and agreeable and less angry or willing to stand up for themselves. If all of their problems are their own thinking, it can never be someone's else's doing.