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20, loser + freak :D hi

[firem4ge]

It’s so fucking irritating how testosterone will irrevocably destroy your body. Your voice is damaged forever. You grow hair that takes thousands to correct. That’s not even counting the bone changes that you either can’t correct or need surgery to correct. Your life is just harder because of testosterone forever. You’re not even allowed to complain about it.

[the-forest-library]

kill the imposter syndrome in your head because not only is there someone out there doing it worse than you, they’re also using chat gpt to do it

[mousidy]

a lot of my disillusionment with the trans "community" comes down to the fact that too many of you take "gender is different from sex" and go "ah ok, so instead of saying women are fragile and men are strong, I should say afabs are fragile and amabs are strong. to be Inclusive"

then you just treat gender like a surface level aesthetic draped over what someone "actually" is. really is indistinguishable from terf rhetoric

[mousidy]

you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them

[mousidy]

in a feminist context, "gender" has historically referred to externally imposed categorization and the internalization and performance of said categories. in a paper I wrote on this subject, I called this sense of the word "extrinsic gender"

"intrinsic gender," on the other hand, is what I used to refer to the sense of the word "gender" that a lot of trans people are talking about when they discuss social gender dysphoria and euphoria. it's the internal sense of category that's resistant to external impositions

but then we also use the word "gender" to refer to subconscious sex, which is the term Julia Serano coins in Whipping Girl to name the phenomenon we're talking about when we talk about bodily dysphoria. it is the "gender" being "affirmed" by gender affirming healthcare like HRT and bottom surgery

so, "gender" is: a social classing system, a performance, and at least two internal phenomena as well. and I really don't know if it's doing us a service to conflate all of these things!

[mousidy]

a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance

[mousidy]

see also "why can't you just be a femboy/feminine man/etc"

[memorycycle]

i could jumpstart a car with my breasts

[memorycycle]

yeah whatever next time ur stuck out on the road dont expecr me to come bouncing

[ot3]

its awesome that neither mind reading nor god are real and all of the thoughts inside of your head are completely private and consequenceless forever #myprivacy

[donteventry-itdude]

saying God ain’t real is so unnecessary 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[ot3]

its actually pretty necessary for people who grew up being told "all of your thoughts are constantly monitored by an omniscient and omnipotent authority who may doom you to an eternity of torment if you think wrong" to occasionally be reminded that none of it is true at all.

[amemipiacitu]

God's real LMAO! And he won't "doom you if you think wrong," that's a misunderstanding.

[ot3]

look out guys the supernatural rpf writer is coming in hot to talk theology

[mousegirlheart]

um actually there's nothing wrong with letting cats be outdoor pets. your cat is depressed locked inside forever. it's animal abuse. let it outside. more cats should be let outside more often. especially overnight.

[amiguruineapig]

[lycanycteris]

[theoneofwhomisblue]

[blossposs]

[crispylilworm]

[theoneofwhomisblue]

[theoneofwhomisblue]

[pocket-deer-belly]

i really need "villagers from minecraft are antisemetic caricatures" to become a popular enough sentiment for them to finally change their designs somehow

[mousidy]

a pool for just the transfems

[hyenaswine]

i think people are starting to confuse class analysis with bioessentialism. like... no not all men do this, but Men as a constructed social class do do this. that's still okay to say. that is regular material analysis of the world around us.

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

Reminder that "transwoman" without the space is a transmisogynistic dogwhistle as it's used almost exclusively by hate groups like the "gender critical" movement.

The implication of removing the space is that being trans isn't just one way a woman can be, like being tall or being brunette, but that women who are trans require a whole other noun.

Trans women, tall women, brunette women. Leave the space in; trans is an adjective and trans women are women.

[mousidy]

why are you always bitching about cis women having boundaries and not cis men who are the ones who are statistically far more likely to murder you? god forbid women don't spend all their emotional labor on centering you 24/7. go after the transphobic politicians or something, those are the actual fascists who want you dead.

those "boundaries" get us murdered lol. trans women who can't access women's shelters or other forms of housing because of cis women's "boundaries" are left on the streets to be assaulted and murdered

if you want trans women out of women's spaces, and the rationale for those spaces existing is to protect from violence, then you are saying that trans women don't deserve protection from the same violence despite being at an even higher risk of it than you

[mousidy]

terfs have gotten crazy good at framing discrimination through the language of consent. systemic discrimination is not "boundaries"

[mousidy]

the emotional labor of being asked not to discriminate against one of the most vulnerable groups of women

[crescentalice]

you gotta be fucking with me, right?

[folly-of-alexandria]

Why do they always talk about us like we aren't real people?

[tsundereho]

Like what they saying isn't a problem, it's the way they use Amab. Just say men/guys/boys/anything to describe the male gender that's not 'amab'

[mikumiotics]

I'm sorry but no, what they're saying IS a huge problem. It is THE problem.

When they say "genderfuck in that specific amab way" they aren't talking about men, they are talking about trans women. They are pining for the "radical genderfuckery" that trans women experience as discrimination and disgust from other people for being trans women and wearing feminine clothing such as skirts.

These people use ASAB language to obscure their transmisogyny, maybe unintentionally, but that's what's happening all the same.

[autogynophelia]

Something that happens a lot in non-binary spaces is that a new member of the community will ask a tone-deaf transphobic question like "Hi, AFAB here, I was wondering if any other AFAB NBs had advice about swimsuits? My AFAB chest means I can't wear swimsuits for AMABs," and an established community member will have to gently explain that not only are we are a community of people who often change their bodies to a degree that certificated sex becomes a useless way to describe anatomy, but we are also a community of people who often join the community explicitly to get away from our birth sex assignment, and so referring to people that way can be really offensive.

And no matter how gently this is pointed out, the newbie will often initially feel instinctively defensive towards what they perceive as scolding. Which means that when another community member comes along and says "Don't worry about the language police 🙄, many of us think AGAB language is fine, it's a useful way to refer to the kind of formative experiences you had as a child," the newbie will latch on to them like a life raft.

And yes, we live in a transphobic society, a lot of people coming into the trans community will have uninterrogated transphobic views, but that just makes them more vulnerable when there is always someone in the community willing to tell them "no, your transphobic views are fine actually, and in fact here are some more you might not have thought of!"

It means a sizeable chunk of newly-out NBs are swiftly radicalised into increasingly extreme transphobia and transmisogyny simply as a defense mechanism against having their own comments criticised. One day they're just happy to join a community where people supposedly don't judge you on your birth sex, and the next they're talking about the importance of "AGAB socialisation".

It's a really big problem and I don't know what we can do about it.

[boccher]

backrooms pussy had me alienated from the product of my own efforts, alienated from the possibility that a cry for help will lead to assistance. the concept of a representative representing their people made foreign. left without devices as my rights are eroded and the bourgeoisie scramble to recoup their losses from the pockets of my siblings amidst a dying empire. the culture surrounding me turns inward, unable to conceive of a future so it fixes its gaze on the decades lost and past. regurgitating its own faeces trying to return to an imaginary before. marketing this as escapism, and comfort. how am I supposed to be comforted by that? uuntil i cuuuummmm

[crescentalice]

you gotta be fucking with me, right?

[crescentalice]

literally doing the whole "I wish femininity was as impossible for me as it is for you!"

[isawken]

going over to my minimalist girlfriend’s house and she apologizes profusely for the mess and there’s just a single perfect, fresh pea on the floor of her living room

[bluelois]

Blue Lois

[isawken]

can i help you

[redmarge]

Red Marge

[isawken]

jesus christ. I Am Under Fucking Attack

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[isawken]

i deserve a medal for this post. not because i was particularly funny but because i survived an onslaught of nearly one hundred gimmick blogs in the wake of this post popping off, and the fact that i didn’t try to track any of them down and snuff them out with my bare hands is a testament to my immeasurable strength and should be rewarded. at one point i had “the official letter h” add on to this post. you wanna know that blog’s gimmick? the really funny and original and worthwhile gimmick the official letter h blog had? yep you guessed it they just gave me the god damned letter H and then fucked off. only jesus knows the suffering i endured over that harsh winter, and he wept for me