[talisidekick]

A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.

His response: "No, it's my name now."

I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.

Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.

[cryptotheism]

Tbh I'm kinda surprised at the "cultural Christian" discourse. Like is it that hard to accept that maybe spending your whole life in a Christian nation may have affected your worldview somewhat

[morlock-holmes]

I have never understood what people mean by "cultural Christian" but if spending your whole life in a Christian nation and having that influence your worldview is all it takes does that mean that American Jews are culturally Christian?

[perfectlynormalperson]

Yes, we are, and that's not news to us. Jews regularly have round-table discussions about how to separate the Christian culture we've been raised in with the Jewish culture we won't to connect with.

It's where the term "assimilated Jew" comes from. It describes a Jew like myself, who is particularly assimilated into Christian culture to the point that their disconnect from Jewish culture is noteworthy to other Jews. (For instance: I don't keep kosher or wear a yarmulke. Part of the reason is that doing either would literally put me in danger due to living in the Bible Belt, but being coercively assimilated into a culture doesn't mean I'm not still part of it. Even if that culture still treats me like an outsider in many meaningful ways, there are other ways that I'm marked as an insider to the culture, and that influences both my internal perspective and my external interaction with Christian hegemony.)

[queeranarchism]

I wish white atheists, agnostics and nonreligious people listened to and learned from Jewish people about this. The fact that we are not an oppressed minority in Europe, means we do not feel the pain of coercively assimilation, and so the ways in which Christianity impact us can fly under the radar.

We have the privilege of not really having to examine the ways that growing up in a Christian culture might impact our worldview, our concept of right and wrong, or the way we structure narratives to make sense of the world. But that doesn’t mean we wouldn’t benefit from examining all that stuff. 

Just look at our social justice communities: we keep reinventing original sin, we keep on reproducing purity culture, we keep on falling for the protestant notion of the work ethic. We keep on doing these things that come from Christian culture and they’re not helping us.

(Also, we keep on relating to other religions as some flavor or Christianity, translating the core concepts of their religious practice to christian words to understand them, assuming that they have all these concepts like heaven and hell and sin, etc. Which is very unhelpful is you want to actually understand other religions.)

[dizzociating]

my trauma didn’t make me stronger it made me addicted to escapism and terrified of facing reality

[catchymemes]

[the-sea-my-soul-deactivated2025]

there’s just something about kelp forests… *sigh*

[soracities]

ever so quietly losing my mind courtesy of maria popova

[soracities]

*screams into pillow*

[blackgirlsreverything]

[odinsblog]

🦩

[blumineck]

For all the stealth archers out there...

[elodieunderglass]

For … research…. Purposes

[detailedart]

Two crescent Moon moods. 1. Venus, Mars, Moon. 2. Jupiter, Moon. By Johannes Schedler.

[adobe-outdesign]

thinking about how many kids probably go on their Pokemon journeys only to immediately catch some extraordinarily dangerous Pokemon right off the bat

The parents, when their kid is all excited to show them their new friend and they’re expecting something cute like an Eeevee and then they open the pokeball and it’s a fucking Ultra Beast

[nomadbones]

Pokémon parents when their child who left to catch a Munchlax or a Diglet comes home with a parasitic space jellyfish and says “This is Mr. Hat!”:

[saltwaffle]

full offense but none of you would have ever survived fanfiction.net in 2009

[jetru]

remember when writers had to be all like: “omg omg lemon starts HERE” y’all are lucky that ao3 has tags and filters you can set

[domicileensnared]

Sometimes shit was marked “lemon” and it’d just be them making out, and sometimes they’d just start pissing on each other

No rules, no laws, you took your life into your hands opening fics

[frostyemma]

A/N: this contains SLASH, that means TWO MEN, if that makes you uncomfy, DON’T READ!

A/N: please don’t sue me, o anime overlords, I’m not making any money off of this! I’m just a broke student! I don’t have any money!

A/N: I totally wrote this while high off 10 Red Bulls wheeeeeee!!!!!

A/N: COMMENT if you want me to continue the next chappy!!!

[raimagnolia]

No, no, no

remember when there’d be interactions with the author and the characters?

InuYasha: I don’t get why I have to be here for this

A/N: Because it was in your contract!!1!1 *revs chainsaw*

[janekfan]

god those were lawless times. 

[the-apocryphal-one]

[desrowchoker]

here's to hoping the combined power of new mcr, fob, idkhow, and paramore happenings in 2023 will finally succeed in making brendon urie quit music

[belongsintwentyfandoms-blog]

[nat-20s]

HUGE shout out to purple for being the only color that has like no losers. Deep purple royal purple bluish purple redish purple pastel purple dusty purple lavender periwinkle violet like. Banger after banger after banger!!

[nat-20s]

look at these. there r all absolute fuckin stunners:

[blackbellybella]

This is for the... accountants out there or if you’re like me and people have stolen your photos before and sent several angry perverts to your personal accounts

[legend-of-the-fandoms]

All my artists need this.

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

Image Description:

Hand clasping in solidarity meme. One side it reads "SW". One side it reads "Artists". And in the middle where the hands are clasping it reads "Making sure no one steals their pictures".

End Description

Also you don't have to use "Accountant" on Tumblr. You can say "Sex Workers". General rule of thumb though is to state that your blog is 18+ if you do post mature content and you don't follow minors.

-fae

[eldritchblep]

I’m not entirely sure when or why I decided to slowly work through stylized cities of Exandria in gold but they’re very soothing to create and I’m slowly but surely developing the style for them as I go. 

[mrjinx87]

FUN FACT: I’m actually *further* to the left now than I was in my 20s!

[not-caused-by-those-who-love]

I saw someone write recently (paraphrased), “They said ‘you’ll get more conservative as you get older’ and what they didn’t realize they meant was ‘you’ll get greedier and more paranoid as you get richer’ [which is true, there are psych studies] and what they didn’t count on is that no one gets rich any more”

[healingmachinewithskeletoninside]

ooh, quoting that again for emphasis: “what they didn’t count on is that no one gets rich any more”

[korrasera]

It’s also an example of a popular misconception.

People don’t tend to become more conservative as they get older. Conservatism, which is an authoritarian political stance, is something you’re supposed to grow out of.

When we’re kids our brains are primed to rely on authoritarian power structures. We’re small, we don’t have the ability to control our environment, and we’re still learning how to control our base emotions like fear and anger. As you gain control over your fear and start to mature psychologically, you should naturally drift away from authoritarianism because you don’t need to rely on it and it’s a terrible way to conduct life as an adult.

As people get older, conservatives become more conservative because they never finished growing out of authoritarianism in the first place. Without a way to finish growing to maturity, they’ll cling to conservatism more and more tightly, especially if they are also privileged and wealthy and haven’t had to work that hard for what they have.

Everyone else tends to grow more anti-authoritarian over time. Once you grow to adulthood and have a good handle on your fear, it’s very easy to see how worthless conservative attitudes are when it comes to the organization of society. And since getting older means seeing the horror show that is conservatives constantly screwing up the world, it’s pretty easy to build up a simmering resentment that pushes you even further away from conservatism.

[korrasera]

By the way, this is also the same reason I think that society is growing more anti-authoritarian over time, on a historical scale.

Remember that King quote about how the moral arc of the universe bends towards justice? This is why, imo. Justice is inherently anti-authoritarian and as a result conservatives don’t really grasp it very well. Meanwhile, the rest of us are increasingly of the mind that justice is central to building a healthy society.

The reason for the shift is that we’re doing a better job of helping people grow up to be functional, psychologically mature adults than past generations did. For all kinds of reasons: Psychology as a scientific discipline, the growth of technology allowing us to see the commonality between all people, and the adoption of social programs that care for everyone just to name a few. This means that conservative authoritarians a becoming smaller and smaller minority of the adult population.

In time, I hope to see us leave authoritarianism behind completely.