do you think in fantasy settings with long-lived elves where elf-human relationships become common you’d have discourse about whether it’s unethical to pursue a human in your first century because your life with them basically functions as like, training wheels for the rest of your life. like regardless of whether or not it’s true, i bet there’d be a common feeling that elves who do that and then end up with another elf later are basically just using the human’s whole lifespan for character development and then moving on to a longer-term relationship they actually have to take seriously. and then there’d be a reaction that’s like how are those marriages less ethical than a centuries-old elf getting with a human with vastly less life experience, and also obviously in the first example it’s actually the human who’s problematic for being more relatively mature than the elf
the financial implications of people who can consistently expect to vastly outlive their partners are also crazy. [in the voice of your aunt with too many opinions] “you know in a century or two he’ll only remember you because he got the house”
i often get really bored by the old “alas you are a human... i am an elf... we can never be together because our natural lifespans are different...” not because i hate conflict but because i just think realistically people would get used to it and then immediately be doing this conflict in much worse & more irritating and pointless ways
